| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:35:43 PM |
Good social skills are not about attaining things.
I never said that was the goal, but if the goal is to meet a woman, good social skills are going to help. Kind of like skates will help you play ice hockey.
Guys who score a lot usuall brag about their conquests, proving they have self esteem issues.
Guys who brag a lot have self-esteem issues sure. It's not the scoring, it's the bragging.
Given the OP's age, I would think he needs professional help in gaining confidence and learning to look at himself differently. POF is not the place for that. Amen to that. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/10/2008 9:26:00 AM |
As even me at 52 could come to toronto and have a date in less then 24 hrs !
^^^^ oh how i miss whobanned. 
@firmbear, instead of doubting his story, why not try to help, instead of being an opinionated ass.
OT: (=on topic, for the OP) i believe it was nascarfan, that said it best, get out and do what he suggested, it will work wonders.
hamilton has a patio night, every tuesday, why not start there ?? | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/10/2008 1:18:36 PM | As even me at 52 could come to toronto and have a date in less then 24 hrs !
me too, but may i suggest you might wanna try near the corner of Gloucester and Yonge when you get here | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/10/2008 5:34:41 PM | ^^^^ oh how i miss whobanned. 
Well now I am sure whobanned would have had more of a comment then what I said to the O.P. of this forum !LOL
But I did tell the O.P. that going out or hanging out with women buddies is not a way to find single women interested in dating him !
Oh I know most of you didn't read my entire post !
And it sounded like he has a thing for one of his female buddies but they don't feel the same way about him.
But like I will say to all on pof if your gonna just sit there and pout about not dating anyone then suck it up and do something about it ! Now time for me to get back to planing my summer vacation for 2008 . Get moving and do something about your dateless ness ! Or don't bother thats entirely up to you ! | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:24:51 PM | In social events or gatherings - Its usually with guy friends or by myself most of the time.
Female friends - I never ask them to hang out with me because I don't have a car. (I fear getting behind the wheel especially these days) lol. & besides, Its always a group gathering in which someone else initiates the gathering. Im just a tag-a-long or paired up.
& what does OP mean ? | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:42:27 AM | OP = Original Post or Original Poster referring to Post #1 or the person who initiated the thread.
You really should get counseling. Living in fear isn't necessary. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:59:14 PM | | I don't think men who are too scared of rejection to make a move are wussies, but I do think they are likely to not date much. Women like subtle signs from a man that they find her attractive. I emphasize subtle, welcoming, appreciative and polite comments. Gross, overly sexual and too familar comments will scare women. But telling a woman that you think she is pretty will almost always result in a warm feeling on the part of the woman. If you don't ask her out, you won't ever know if she might have gone on a date with you. If at 35 you are still plagued with strong fears of rejection, I think you should get into therapy and resolve whatever issues are holding you back. Everyone deserves some to love and be close to. Don't miss out! | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/20/2008 7:41:56 PM |
Women like subtle signs from a man that they find her attractive. I emphasize subtle, welcoming, appreciative and polite comments. Gross, overly sexual and too familar comments will scare women. But telling a woman that you think she is pretty will almost always result in a warm feeling on the part of the woman.
^^^^ My thoughts exactly! | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/21/2008 6:32:47 PM | I agree.
Manliness is not about how you break or not break the ice. When you're on an equal playing field you can't use you testosterone attitude which is what differentiates the dawg from the 'good man' that is said to be rear.
That would make the dog and the player the only manly men. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 5:50:14 AM | Well ladies you should be flocking to this guy ....he has got to be loaded given that he has never had a car,insurance,gas to pay for,repairs...etc Lives with his parents,never dated and works!Holy crap I would have retired by now
On a more serious note though OP its never too late to get your licence ...go to "young drivers"they will teach anyone...hell they taught my mother at the ripe old age of 68 and she was horrified of driving...she still get behind the wheel at 81...so it's never too late...and btw I noticed that once she got her licence her confidence level steppd up a notch or 2...it will just give a little more independance and more confidence in yourself.
I think you just have to get over your shyness start messaging the ladies 
Why not start by putting a picture of yourself up also...just a thought and yes as many of the other posters have indicated maybe some sort of therapy is in order...
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 7:16:17 AM | Just depends on the person them self . Most of the time it works both ways . Even at our age group we tend to shy away from those , that have no interest with ourself . We find true friends and I think thats the best part of life itself , it might not be chemistry , but when ask thy Question , but foursome reason woman just can't give us those answers . Cause their not willing too pursue it further then just friends .. Each of us have our own life , taking charge on matters which mostly revolves around our every day Life .We all are adventurous including woman , search for those key things in life that we need . when it comes down to it ...... Knowing your answers for what u search for , we can dig a very big Hole in topics , but at the same time it's harder too understand if a person is not willing to go on a date or simple meet .Doesn't matter how you word it to a person they reject your thoughts or they delete it totally ... Men simply look for one not thousands of people who put them self out to be greater then they actually appear , Think mostly it's the respecting the thoughts of others . Doesn't matter on looks , disappointments or rejections life does have a way of finding it , and besides some find it's best being alone with no commitment , and waiting for the right one to come across . We can either sink in the pond , by being a wussie just goes to show you that opportunities our waiting in the tide... AKA bluenight
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 5:55:13 PM | | Well based on some replies, me being ONE of those guys with no more experience than ONE date, women who think men who have no relationship experience was RED FLAG is truly insulting. I'm glad I read this thread and feel like being a proudly "different" kind of guy who is cautious around women isn't good enough for you women. Thanks for the heads up. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/24/2008 8:27:50 PM | Actually, I'd rather not drive. At 21 I went to driving school & dropped days before the road test just so I can get the picture I.D to get into strip joints.lmao. What a stupid idea that was....Haven't been to a strip joint in years !
I wouldn't want my family or friends finding out about my sistuation. So a face pic would not be a good idea at this time.
& what about the corner of Gloucester and Yonge ? Is that some kind of adult hangout ? | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 3/29/2008 9:51:27 PM | | I can't even imagine an argument that denies the wussiness of a man who is afraid to make a move. If the definition of a weak person does not include "incapable of taking action to get something they want, due to fear"... then the word wuss has no particular meaning. Anyone who would argue against the wussiness of a man who can't talk to a woman is probably a wuss himself, someone in denial, or just someone who feels like arguing a useless point just in a vain attempt to refuse to be labelled in any way, even if the description is true. People don't want to be judged in general. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:46:28 AM | Using your definition randomaccount, that would mean everyone is a wuss. Since women don't ask men out, and increasing number of men dont ask women out.
Face it people, the entire reason why the sexes aren't mingling as much as they used to post school years is because our social lives have taken separate paths. In the past as in now, most people meet their mates via their wide circle of friends or family. Which is becoming smaller and smaller as we become more isolated from each other via technology. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/18/2009 6:21:23 PM | | It's too bad tripping into the perfect person isn't more common, that actually you have to work at opening the door of communication in order for 'her' to see you for who you are. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:54:35 AM | The irony is... when most of us men say "Hi" even in the right way... we either get completely ignored or scoffed at, as though no man should ever approach them. In some cases, the ones who have chosen to ignore us men didn't intend to be impolite... but are rather shy... maybe even quite fearful that person might be a creep no matter how attractive he appears to be... so... never take it personally if you do get rejected.
Why should it matter if anybody thinks you're a wuss? I can understand that perhaps your friends believe that you are lifelong commitment worthy... but don't be ashamed of yourself as apparently the number one fear most people seem to have... is public speaking strangely enough.
Sometimes making a move will even jeopardize what was a fantastic friendship which has lasted for over 5 years... despite all the personal flirting.
Anyhow... there are lots of women very understanding of this who will come forth to introduce themselves and that I will always be respectful towards... perhaps quite a bit distant all depending... but I would never be rude... especially after I found... in my own opinion... that the best relationships are usually with those who show such the initiative... they can see far beyond the norm because they're so comprehensive.
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/27/2009 7:02:39 PM | Generally yes the ball is in the court of the man to make the steps that get a relationship moving. The first date, the first kiss, making it official, that sort of stuff.
It is great however to be caught off guard once and a while by a woman that doesn't feel she needs to wait for the man to get what she wants.
I guess in that case it goes both ways, it's all about confidence. It's safe to say it's what drives people to be and stay interested in others. Although, in most cases, it is ultimately the man that needs to do the move making.
So yes, men are wussies for not making the moves. :P | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/28/2009 9:20:57 AM | | the last 3 exes that i met online, i made the first move... i think women should initiate more but since i have been doing online dating, i get more rejections from the men who i contact. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:38:08 PM | | there are so many 'serial daters' on here, women that just want to go out, with as many men as possible, have dinner paid for and be entertained.... i have stopped making the first move | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:15:11 PM |
there are so many 'serial daters' on here, women that just want to go out, with as many men as possible, have dinner paid for and be entertained.... i have stopped making the first move :P Men are guilty of it as well... I wish people just be honest and be upfront of what they're looking for. | |
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| Are men wussies for not making a move ?
Posted: 10/29/2009 12:03:50 PM | | I don't think men are wussies for not making the first move. What if the guy wants to ask you for your number, msn or something along those lines. Its fine if he doesn't ask you because he is usually getting a feel for you to see if you are a good catch. I know for my personal self, I wouldn't hesitate to ask because I just want to know. If they say no, then fine they are in the friends zone for the time being. Don't stop talking to the women when they reject you. Keep on trucking. Heads up guys | |
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