| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/2/2008 5:04:16 PM |
The mystery for him is gone. You should hold out on sex, in exchange for a committment. Not the other way around.
ROFL 
So, tell us how well this has worked out for you.
I am sure you are in a happy loving relationship that you feel will last you the rest of your life.
This is why I said:
And the usual answers from people preaching what hasn't worked for them but insisting they know the right answers.
*sigh*
Coming to the PoF forums for advice on romance is like going to a crack house for advice on quitting drugs.
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/2/2008 9:16:20 PM | | Oh yes but I have yet to meet anyone available who actually knows what it means to truly love someone. Yet you can't stereotype guys or anyone like that if you never even met the person. I've felt plenty used myself as many have so your story is not that uncommon. Just follow your heart... | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:04:04 PM | | i think all men want that but it is hard to find someone with same interests and someone that isn't afraid to try new things in the relationship.because no one person is the same it takes time to build a solid relationship.also honesty and trust and keep it for all time.maybe start out being friends and getting to know the real person before you commit to the relationship.thanks | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:44:03 PM | Yes there are. I am one. And the search is truly exhausting. I try to be as up-front and honest as possible. But as a shy person that is tough. In order to have any hope of finding a partner on the internet or anywhere requires a certain assertiveness and self promotion that is difficult at best.
Seems like you are maybe confusing those who are truly looking to find the love of their lives, and those who thrive on the hunt and the seduction of women looking for true love. Wish I could help you. I run into the same duplicity. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:57:36 PM | | I am looking for a lifetime partner. But being recently divorced and hearing all this horror stories from frnds some have been married 2-3 times. I feel I must take my time in getting to know someone. Some not all go for the looks. I wana decide on someone after long talks on phone in person. And in a social setting. Very important for me to see how one is in a social setting. But listening to someone is most important. Asking questions n just hearing what they say bout their every day lives. How one handle problems situations etc.. This was my first divorce and I have every intention of it being the last. IN time I will find the right partner to talk walk listen hug n love n share above all. But to those of u take ur time dont get into a rush. Strike up a frndship first. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/24/2008 10:19:18 AM | | The definition of a true love for a lifetime probably varies and changes like the weather. I think it's funny to read a person's profile, meet him, and see just how much bullcrap he's full of. His idea of love of a lifetime is most likely one sided, and revolving around himself. As far as finding his love of a lifetime, and being her love of a lifetime simultaneously is like hitting the lottery. Good luck. ....But I have digressed.... | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:15:33 AM | | Of course there are men looking for a lifelong relationship. Problem is the guys that do best in dating are the ones that tell women everything they want to hear and not the truth (liars). Women seem to love these types because they seem (perfect) as soon as they finally act like themselves the women call them liars. Look relationships do take work, you can click initially with someone but there has to be core values and beliefs in common (not only looks and hobbies). You also need to slowly get to know each other. No real answer its different for everyone, but all the relationships I know have lasted have all taken work and patience. I guess if u or the other person lack the will or desire for both u will end up dating forever. (NO the grass is not greener). | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:17:33 AM | | I for one am looking for a lasting true love... I do believe in soulmates... there are more than one out there but finding one is rare... I know it can happen because I see it in couples whose relationships have lasted and are still fresh.. you can see it in how they look at each other... I want that... but im also going to enjoy life as it is and accept I may never find it....... as to the old saying "Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish...... and he sits in a boat all day drinking beer..." is more accurate | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:21:25 AM | iz706 - although I agree with alot of woman loving the "perfect" worded man - I believe that woman who are no longer thinking in the jr. high mentality will see right through that (not always). A real woman or man for that matter, will seek past the outter surface, comes with growing up.
That being said, there are some m/w that just get better at conning and look for the bigger challenge (both sexes) and will go after the ones who aren't quite as niave.
It's good to see the responses from men on this thread. It's good to know that they experience the same frustrations. Too often we really stereotype and throw the bad out with the good. Not all men are alike and neither are all women alike.
As for the op, what is the common denominator? You need to do a little selfevaluating and try to see why you're attracted to this type. (Went throught the same thing, told the same thing. I realized that there were certain things within myself that "attracted or sought out" these types, and started working in that area. I also found a clearer picture of what I want and don't want, I no longer look for a man to make me feel whole and complete, or for someone else to make me feel happy, I learned I need to do that for myself). | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:25:56 AM | It is the same cycle when you are writing, the same questions come time after time, and you have to remind yourself that this is a new person who is chatting in type for the first time.
But you can tell the keen ones, they want the phone chat right away, and that is good, cos you can chat away to them in person and arrange a date, or switch the phone off for a couple of days and use another one
But what I hate is when you are pushed into telling them how and why you split up with your ex, I tend to relate to the last ex boyfriend, but men want to hear about the end of my marriage and I dont want to talk about it (not nice) but they feel I am hiding something. GEESH.............. cant win
Edit: and I just love these forums, they keep me howling with laughter most of the time, until one really annoys me and I Grrrrr at people, | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:49:00 AM | | I agree with ... ( LordofArachnids ) answer..but you never know what things might turn into in time....I really dont expect things from this site but as I mentioned you never know...know matter what you end up with a few friends then thats cool. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:03:19 AM |
I keep running into the same scenarios, and how I can avoid them? I'm tired of ending up feeling used. I deserve a good man! No offense intended, but I think most of the men here could say the same thing.
Couple of things that I DON'T do...is proclaim my "difference". It's a subjective term; best left up to the opinion of other person. 2nd, drop the "but I'm a nice girl" routine. Once again, it's over used, it's subjective....not everyone has the SAME idea of what constitutes "niceness"; or in my case.....even gives a hoot about someone else's definition of it.
Reality Check Time! Yes, most people ARE looking for a deep and lasting connection....well, except for those who just use the site as a vehicle to spew venom. It's like this; it's MUCH easier to just say ...."I'm not looking for a serious relationship" than it is to say...."I don't want a relationship.....with YOU!" That invites questions like...why....what's wrong with ME??? I'm NICE! This is the politically correct era. We can't say, "look, this ain't gonna work...cause you're too fat, too ugly, too broke, to nasty, I don't like your kids, you don't like my cat, you spend too much time playing golf, your mother gives me the creeps...blah, blah, blah" So, people just say....."I don't want a relationship". It's a lie....otherwise....why would they be here?
Many years ago, I met a man that I'd talked to online.....totally nice guy...not a thing wrong with him....when I returned home, I had an email thanking me for lunch...but that he was not interested in persuing anything futher. LOL!!! OMG! What a blow to my ego! DAMN him...did he NOT realize what I catch I was??? I could name 500 men just dieing to get a lunch date with me...and this JERK had the audacity to say HE wasn't interested!!! LOL! My ego was bruised for all of 5 minutes, as I realized....I did NOT want to peruse anything with him EITHER! I would have accepted a 2nd "date"....simply because, it was true....I couldn't find a darned thing wrong with the guy....he just was NOT my type. The entire drive home, I was trying to think of an excuse to turn down a 2nd date with this totally charming...but very shy and quite conservative man, who would have been absolutely mortified by my outgoing, outspoken nature. LOL! Thank you Bob....whatever your name was....for showing me not only how simple it is, but that SOMETIMES the other person is RELIEVED when they're "rejected"!!! LOL! Nowadays, I don't hesitate to honestly state when I don't see enough compatibility to warrant a meeting. There are and always will be those who are so desperately searching for a "relationship", that they give little (if any) thought to the QUALITY of that relationship. Indeed, good looks is not enough, nor is maturity, or a sense of humor, or any other "single" quality...it's the WHOLE PACKAGE. It's a lot like ordering lunch at a place that simply refused to put together the right Combo Platter....and when you find yourself thinking you'll have to order 3 or more items A La Cart....time to pick a new place to eat! | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:04:36 AM | | seriously though.....love happens...and you can't go looking for it....it's just something that happens...it overcomes you...you fall...if you go out looking for something in detail...you miss the adventure of "discovery"....that is to say...discovering all the wonderful talents and charm the other person has to offer....let it happen....let it go..and it (like a boomerang)....comes to you...in special ways | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:34:45 AM | | well just so you know--i am one of the men you are looking for--i would really love to have true love for a lifetime then there would be no worries and both people can enjoy each other along with other events etc and have a few laughs along the way---to me their isnt a better feeling than to feel wanted and loved and for a lifetime would be awesome-- | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:52:47 AM | The answer is back on page one
Johnathanpaul said it:
Find someone who's life reeks of commitment first... love will follow if you are right for each other.
Thanks JP ~~ fancy way of saying Look before you leap. Just see what the rest of the person's life looks like because that is how his/her life is going to look with you in it. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:45:19 PM | YES there is. I would like to think that I am very qualified for that position. Iv run into the same with a woman so I know how you feel. I gave everything and got the shaft. It sucks!
Keep searching and the right MAN will come along. At least thats what Im hoping tis that the right woman will come into my life. JUST believe! | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:32:12 AM | Yes!..There Are..!
The recurring problems are : ..[silly as some Are...]
'Distance'...
'$$$'..
'Religion'..
'Hair'..
'Smoking'..
'Employment'..
...etc...
* I've smoked for Years...but would Quit..in a Minute..for a Loving Lady..!!
* I used to be very self-conscious about my hair... till I learned that many women don't
view it as a liability... in fact, an Attraction..!!
If I don't have a 'belief' in a 'Supreme Being', it doesn't mean that I worship The Devil,
or that I'm a serial Rapist....
* I'm no 'Mr. Moneybags', but do enjoy spending on a Lady..!!
I _AM_ very wary, though, of the terms 'Sugar-daddy' and 'Generous'..
* I place No Distance Restrictions on who I find Attractive.....
One never knows where and when Love will show itself..!!.. ...
*Suprises Happen!!*
If I write to someone ..with Romantic Intent... it should be understood
that *IF* the Chemistry, personalities and 'Likes and Dislikes' match up ..
I wouldn't Dare imply that She move to be with Me...
I would have No problem at all .. relocating TO her..!
..  !! .. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:33:56 AM | Not this cliche again!
I repeat, yeat again, that its the wives who instigate a full 805 of all divorces. Another 10% solely by the husbands and another 10% my mutual agreement.
It's the WOMEN who arent looking for lifetime love. | |
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