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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:32:20 PM | Hey i have a question not sure if i can post this here or not.
I have fallen for this guy and have spent quite a bit of time with him. I just got back from a vacation and so far have not heard from him. Hes met my son and before i left he said he was interested and now nothing. Am i waiting for nothing? | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:45:46 AM | There are plenty of us out there. I have discovered that being real, honest and upfront with my feelings does tend to scare some women away. I'm not on here for a fling, that is more destructive to me than I care to suffer. What I know is to find the wheat you have to winnow the chaff, and you keep fishing until you catch the keeper. I have meet several people from this site, dated one for several months, none worked out yet. I will keep trying because each time I learn more about how I pick matches, and I become better at communicating myself to those who email me.
When you meet someone and they are not "quite" what you want, you either: accept them as they are, and the relationship grows; You you accept them as they are and tell them it was nice meeting you, I wish you well, or !! you try to change them into what you want them to be and that is a prescription for disaster!! | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/2/2008 8:04:43 PM | I must believe that there is a good man out there or I wouldnt be on a single's site?or is it me just being a creature of habit or wishful thinking??? I am not sure if the magic will ever come about again as it did way back when or not...after all, my 20's are long gone???? I dont know how to be single. Im scared to be honest and intimidated.... I'm way to accepting of how things used to be... yet I've learned alot in my solitude.... Im stronger but no less vunerable to true love...   | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:33:13 AM | | i would like to think that i am a good man,,,iam always a gentleman,,,not perfect,,,i treat a lady with respect and admiration...but iam also----like most of the guys----tired of trying to prove myself a gentleman.manners are cheap....a person has to get respect to give respect..it takes 2....in everything thats good........... | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:47:04 AM | YES THERE ARE. THE MEN YOU HAVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH HAVE BEEN
CARRYING TO MUCH BAGGAGE FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS. IT NOT ONLY
MEN WHO DO THIS IT IS WOMEN TO. PEOPLE HAVE TO FORGET WHAT HAS
HAPPENED TO THEM. YESTERDAY IS THE PAST. TODAY IS THE FUTURE. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/4/2008 5:24:30 PM | | well i know i am trulely looking for a long lasting til i die partner to love and chirsh.spend as much time me, as i with her.but i seems i try on here for nothing cause 98% of the females here don't talk to me. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/5/2008 1:57:25 PM | That is rough, and please do not lump all men into the same category. Women are just as bad at wanting a long term relationship.
I think I found the one, one or the other of us keep on screwing it up. Maybe just fear of getting hurt. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/11/2008 1:59:22 AM | Men certainly do, but it doesnt mean they will settle for anyone or anything, your talking about true l;ove, and if its not you they are moving on in search it aren't they.
What it is to one person is different to another and you wont find it by setteling for jsut anyone who is their......
Sounds liek your prepared to jsut settel for who eve is their at the time and these guys are prepared to keep looking for their ms right.
Thank them, you can keep looking for the mr right or you can give up, your choice and no wonder they keep moving on | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/11/2008 2:20:53 AM | yes there are lots of genuine people,its just bad luck. do hang on in there
we all get upset at times ..ive had just the same experiences.. many woman of my age just want friendship/a night out/a quickie one night stand.. but i do believe if you kiss enough frogs one day .one wil turn into a princess..or prince,as you prefer!
i do believe most people are good, and most people want love, for life.. yes some men are ruled by their libidos..as are some women.
there isnt really an alternative.we have to keep going, or we turn sour, or go crazy and end up some mad old singleton talking to the cat and collecting coupons, or making models of the eiffel tower out of matchsticks!..good luck. if u need a pal, youve got one. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 2:48:44 AM | | Unlike women who have no problem attracting men like flys, men looking for great relationships have an incredibly tough time finding the quality women. I personally am on a several dating sites, looking for 1 special woman. It's tough wading thru the women looking for big bank accts. and or big.....egos. The simple, uncomplicated women are generally just tough to find and in great demand. I guess from your prospective the search for the needle in the haystack is just about as daunting. But I just have faith she'll happen along some day, probably at the grocery store and all this time and effort will be laughable. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/11/2008 4:31:41 AM |
Find someone who's life reeks of commitment first... love will follow if you are right for each other.
Thank God someone said this!
I have friends that I've had for 20 years. In fact, the people I consider my very best friends have been friends of mine for 7, 9, 17, and 20 years.
I've been a member of a volunteer fire department practically since birth - my dad's been in it for over 35 years.
The things that I love and adore today are the things I've loved and adored my whole life.
And the last guy I was with thought it was "weird" that I was so close with my friends. He'd accept the rationalization that since I'm an only child, my friends are like siblings to me, but he wouldn't accept that for very long. How many friends did he have? ZERO. I'm not kidding. ZERO. All being with me taught him was that maybe it was time he made some friends - just so happened he wanted female ones. Yeah, I thought THAT was "weird". LOL
I'm here not because I'm a "serial dater" or a "hook up" kind of girl, but because I'm not going to sit at home and hope that Mr. Right comes knocking on my door - how's that going to happen if he doesn't know where I live? It's even more difficult to weed through people online I think, because when you're out at a bar or something, the schmoozer guys that are looking to just get laid are usually pretty damn obvious.
I also agree with the "mask" theory to a point, but the fact is that no matter how or where you meet someone, they're going to put their best foot forward regardless if they're interested in just sex or in really getting to know you. You can't really find out the real deal without spending time with them and learning about them. If you don't put out on the first few dates and they never call you again - the mask is off. LOL Those are the easy ones to figure out!
All one can do is be themselves, and without believing that "all men are..." or "all women are...", move through life hoping that eventually this one might be "the one" and if they're not, maybe the next one will. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/11/2008 5:00:11 AM | | THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT HERE BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK GOD TO SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE. James chap.1 says IF ANY OF YOU LACK WISDOM LET HIM ASK OF GOD WHO GIVETH TO ALL MEN LIBERALLY AND UPBRAIDED NOT. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/11/2008 2:24:32 PM | | I couldn't help, but to put my two cents in here on this. There is no point in giving up except to live the life of loneliness and dispair. I am experiencing the same thing with women as well when it comes to the meat of the relationship. There are good men out there that are just as weary of being used and taken advantage of too. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 4/26/2008 12:41:19 PM | Hey there Hawk....how sweet that answer was to that question. I take back what I said in my note. You sound VERY sincere and I'm very proud of you. I found this quite by mistake, but recognized you. You sound real. Maybe MY prayers will be answered too. Only time will tell. I think that's what we are ALL afraid of....both men and women....that we will be lied to, get broken hearts, go through days of doubting ourselves for even trying something like this....and so on. So, male or female, I guess we're all in the same boat. We want to love someone....REALLY love somone and be loved back. Life's tough at times and we just have to hang in there and know that there really IS Someone up there looking out for us IF we only ask Him. Thanks for sending this answer....it was a great one.  | |
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