| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/9/2008 11:18:05 PM | If she declines another meeting or she spends the entire date staring at other men (or women) then it probably is disinterest. Otherwise, don't give up on her!!! Most women get nervous around men that truly captivate them and I would consider it a compliment. I'm a very confident, outgoing and flirtatious person but on a very rare occasion I meet someone that renders me speachless. If I do break out of my transe it's merely long enough to put my foot in my mouth (sometimes far enough to wiggle my toes outa my nose). Women do not do this on purpose. Usually it's just a dreaded and embarrasing truth. If you like her I would encourage you to be patient and take the driver's seat for a bit. If she's the outgoing person you suspect; once you alleviate the pressure and she gathers her witts it won't take long for her to emerge. It will likely resemble a flash flood so bring your raincoat. Doing this also reveals many qualities about yourself that can only help your position.
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:42:22 AM | Me too...the more I'm attracted to a man, the more of a muted idiot I am! My brain shuts off and my mouth fills up with cotton
This only happened to me once, but I lost my ability to think straight or to open my mouth to say much of anything. He thought I wasn't interested at all. However, the next time I saw him....well, actions speak better than words.... | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 9:05:49 AM | | I know this question was for women but this has been my problem at times as well. Im pretty soft spoken, a good listener and easy to talk to but theres so many players out there that its hard for a guy sometimes to be too persistant without a woman thinking your only after one thing. Just a bald guys opinion lol. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 1:01:54 PM | Some women are outgoing and in your face straight off the bat, some are quiet and seem to just "take it all in".
Me personally - am a little of both.
Of course, when you get to know someone you become more comfortable. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 1:39:38 PM | Initially, I am more reserved than shy  . When I am comfortable that we are mutually attracted to each other then my more playful, open and charming characteristics would emerge  . Give it time and show her that you are equally attracted to her  | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 1:45:16 PM | | I have a lot of guy friends, because i have always gotten along better with guys than girls. And i am usually comfortable and open around them ... until they're someone i like in a romantic way. then i hardly speak, turn red very easily and am definately shy! | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 1:49:16 PM | | And i don't consider it a sign of a lack of confidence. because being shy doesn't mena you won't flirt or anything, or that you are doubting yourself. It just means that you get flustered or tongue-tied, or butterflies in your stomach etc. Nervous - sure, lacking confidence ... no way! In the end you eventually gotta send some signal :) | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 2:49:11 PM | She was petite, awful cute, SHY.
Kept buzzing me, giving me the eye's, stare's...
even chit chat, smile's.
I made the first move......got REBUKED!
Afterward's, she sent emissaries, endeavoring to
push me again......
FOOL me ...once.......
She went on an aggressive quest, out of character,
bar's, bar's .....more bar's......hooked one!
As predicted, she ran in yelling...."looky....looky...."
ENGAGEMENT ring!
As predicted...she ran in....."I GOT MARRIED!"
at the top of her voice! BIZARRE!
SHYNESS! put it in the 'out box'. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 5:11:14 PM | | Gosh, I'm definitely shy sometimes. The shyness usually manifests itself in the form of nervous chatter (just talking talking talking) and extreme clumsiness! It usually goes away after the first date. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:21:55 PM | | yes of course. men can be too. they're afraid they're going to be judged or that their personas will clash. i used to be, but i've gotten to the point that i'd rather our personalities clash early on and not waste time. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:40:43 PM | Hmmmm...shy...is that a word? What does it mean? I don't think I've ever heard of it. I've certainly never been called that word before. Hang on...I'm going to look it up (keeping up on your vocabulary is a good thing).
Nope. I am not shy around men I like; or men I don't like...that word just doesn't apply to me no matter which way I turn it   | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 7:34:13 PM | Yes... If I really like a guy...I become quieter(usually talkative).. I wont touch him.... (a good friend of mine used to say to guys we sat with... "shes not interested in you buddy give up.". .......
"how do you know he would ask"
"because shes touched your wrist... etc..if she likes you shes shy/wont touch...
he was absoulutely spot on.......
(so after reading this thread ...seeing other usaully talkative/friendly woman also can react this way...and experience... the whole body language/signs things says in alot of cases the opposite...)
not much different from alot of guys either ......
the trick in real communication is the eyes/smile..(in knowing how someone feels).
and as a friend of mine tells me.. I know you like me because you spend time with me.. but that dosent =love.. just enjoyment.
The eyes dilate if they are interested.... but then the eyes dilate if they hate you... so....
the smile/eyes lets you know either way..
and a normally confident outgoing woman , imo becomes shy because she feels vulnerable about how she feels around the guy...
smiles/peace | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 7:45:31 PM | | I can be extreamly shy around a guy that I like. It has gotten easier to carry on a conversation now that I am older. But now I just tend to forget about it and automatically realize that yeah I like him but hes out of my league so I can talk to anyone why not talk and be comfortable rather than not talk and feel like an idiot for not being able to talk to a guy because your attracted to him. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 7:49:32 PM | I know this sounds funny and stupid but here goes....I can flirt and say the most innapropriate things to a random waiter or a sales clerk that I am not attracted to, but I can't seem to flirt with someone I am interested in, I just get nervous. Even when I am out it is hard because I can't even make eye contact with the guy I would love to talk to so I wast my time talking to guys I am not intersted in!!! So here's my advice: I would say that I need a guy who makes it clear that they are interested in me, If I feel that they might not be I loose interest. So YES be persistent but not creepy or psycho and ASK QUESTIONS, if someone can't be honest with you they are not worth your time. Use your best judgement, you don't want a girl that is too shy do you? | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 8:21:17 PM | I went out with this incredibly nice, gorgeous guy and he dumped me after two dates because he said that we didn't have any chemistry. I liked him so much that I was so nervous being around him. It was really strange because I am an actress and I can talk to perfect strangers and make them laugh so I thought that shyness was a thing of the past. I tried to be myself but this "lobotomized" me kept creeping out. Well, that was about 8 months ago and I haven't met anyone as decent as him. He never looked at me like I was the "flavor of the month" but a real person and he treated me with respect. It was a total shock because he seemed attracted to me and told me so. Lobotomy, I guess, makes a person boring
He's dating someone now - I know that because he put it in his profile. I told myself, "Self, he didn't reject you, how could he? He never really met the real you."
Yeah, that's right. Believe it or not, I felt a little better
Definitely, be more persistent. If you get a good feeling about her, give it a chance. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/10/2008 9:39:01 PM | im a blabber mouth. not to the extreme, just enuff to keep a convo going plus a little more lol....
when i first meet a guy or start hanging out more with someone im starting to crush on, im a total dork. its like im an instant air head.
once he starts the ball and talks a bit, i open up more. if he gets me laughing, even better. but still, if the flirtingis blatant and catches me off guard, its back to the perma smile and im speechless again. 
i've learned to push myself more tho, there've been a lot of obvious wasted opportunities due to my shyness as well as your problem....lol... | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/11/2008 7:44:28 PM | I've had an occasion where a girl liked me, but i didn't find out until months later because her friends got tired of her pining.
If you're interested in a girl you think is potentially really shy you could ask her friend's advice on whether or not to approach her, if you're acquainted. You probably won't learn anything from the exchange, but the friend could be a nice intermediary. | |
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| Are women sometimes shy around men that they like?
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:29:21 PM | | Often! I can get tongue-tied, forgetful of what I'm saying, or just sometimes just blurt out the wrong thing...the whole time feeling like I'm acting like an idiot or about 14 years old! | |
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