vro312
| | Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 26 | |
| | Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IMPage 2 of 2 (1, 2) | ^^^^^
This is a mind-boggling phenomenon.
People come onto the forums, read them, respond to them, then make the point that they are a stupid waste of time. You think we don't all know that!? If there really were a "need for a list of rules to stick by," people would be e-mailing their senators, not debating the issue with semi-literate international singles.
The entire purpose of the forums is to "discuss" essentially inconsequential crap, and in some cases, pretend it's consequential. This, however, would not be one of those cases. Posters on this thread don't seem to be all that serious, do they?
But where would we be if someone didn't come on the thread once in a while and set us all straight? Thank God the ONE person who seems to get it took the time to enlighten us.
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timj82
| | Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 27 | |
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Malley
| | Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 28 | |
| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/17/2008 12:57:24 PM |
Isn't exactly hard; why there's a need for a list of rules to stick by when common sense is the only one that really needs to be listed in the first place.
Perhaps because common sense is NOT all that common and also because rudeness knows no bounds.
All it does is lead to contempt.
In some cases YES, but NOT all. | |
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:05:14 PM |
So enlighten me as to the ideal polite way to end an annoying IM without lying. Please
This conversation is annoying me. Goodbye | |
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:04:33 AM | What's your point vro312?
Any kind of 'ruleset' is going to be limited to one person at a time. You can't make up some kind of global set and assume everyone is going to abide by them. If you want to have specific topics of conversation 'off-limits' or restricted till you know a person better, good for you.
But don't assume that everyone is going to enter a chat knowing exactly what those limits are. It's something you find out over time the more you communicate and anyone with common sense is going to know that. Inaction when something you don't feel comfortable talknig about comes up isn't going to do you any good either. Make it known and if it repeats then emphasise the point or end it with a block if you have to.
You might as well try to argue moral values with someone else, you're going to disagree with things and it's going to mean a comprimise on both sides if you ever want to come to any kind of agreement. I would've assumed that sort of conclusion was obvious enough. | |
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vro312
| | Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 31 | |
| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/18/2008 9:41:01 PM | ^^^^
Did you even read my post before responding to it?
My point was that this is just another random forum topic that nobody, besides apparently you, is taking all that seriously. But I have no clue what you're talking about now.
Regarding your post . . . I did read it, but there are a number of words I do not recognize, which I find erects a barrier to comprehension. Whatever your point is, I'm quite certain it's in response to something I wasn't saying.
I honestly don't give a rat's ass about IM rules, I just take exception to the people who come onto threads telling everyone that the thread topic is stupid (or useless or unanswerable or whatever). Because we know it's stupid. They're pretty much all stupid. That's what it's all about around here. | |
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/23/2008 4:58:16 PM | These are some cool responses to my original mail. I feel so flattered. I have to point out just a few that really caught my attention (although they are all appreciated)
Thank you VR310 (did I get that right) lady for saying I took the time to set out some sensible rules. I thought they were sensible too....but not everyone thinks so.
Thank you to the other Virgo lady who said I did a great job.
That poor man with the drunk IM lady friend: hey I almost wish some of my IM incoming were drunk - they would make more sense that way (jk)
UglyBetty who isn't ugly - that killed me when u said its weird when people IM you then say nothing and want you to continue the conversation....I've been there - but then again maybe that just goes back to #2 - he's actually watching TV at the time and keeps forgetting to reply 
Rickau - you crack me up...I loved you saying "don't write like a spaz" man I haven't heard that word in years....incidentally thanks for adding another rule to those rules that you think are unnecessary - tee tee - and interesting point you mentioned that there isn't a global set of rules - hey we're in the dawn of globalization now - hopefully etiquette will soon become an international concept.....
Random: I like questioning and asserting about "normal" and what is a normal person with a normal response....its all in the perspective I guess....I think some of these rude and strangely behaving people really do think they are the normal ones and we are the ones that don't get it...... | |
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/24/2008 9:33:30 AM |
UglyBetty who isn't ugly - that killed me when u said its weird when people IM you then say nothing and want you to continue the conversation....I've been there - but then again maybe that just goes back to #2 - he's actually watching TV at the time and keeps forgetting to reply.
Maybe - but all I know is you come to me, you need to bring me something. To approach me (especially thru IM) and then want me to entertain you is extremely presumptuous and, well...kind of a turn off.
I always ask whats up, and when they say not much, I ask why the IM - they say they wanted to say hello. So I say "hello" and wait. After 5 minutes of nothing, I ask them if that's it. Either that or they start asking stuff that's posted in my profile, which tells me they're lazy for not checking.
But maybe that's because in my case most men who IM me (approach me, e-mail me) wouldn't be my type anyway - or I would have messaged (approached, e-mailed) them first.
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 3/31/2008 12:56:41 PM | OP, I would like to add a few more "rules" from my own experiences:
8) Don't use the IM as a replacement for social behavior -- it is NOT. It is to set up social contacts briefly and quickly. To touch base. If I ask you out for a frozen yogurt and seeing the Macy's christmas show and you tell me you don't have time but you persist in wanting to IM me for 3 more hours it only shows you are not grown up enough to face your own social needs.
9) Don't assume the other person has all the time in the world -- shit or get off the pot.
10) Showing me a BJ icon will not buy you more IM time with me.
11) NEVER EVER IM while on large doses of cough medicine -- it's like talking to a crackhead!
12) She would put out 3-10 lines to my one. Tuck the manic side back into bed until it feels better.
13) DO NOT IM some one each and every time you see them log/sign on. This should be the cardinal rule.
So enlighten me as to the ideal polite way to end an annoying IM without lying. Please This conversation is annoying me. Goodbye.
Been there done that. Remember we ARE talking women here. It usually ends up with more afterdrama than its worth! That is why I specified ideal & polite way plus keep in mind the ideal way is you want to talk to the person again later. | |
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 1/21/2009 7:43:23 PM | | 2) I can watch tv IM cook and fold laundry all at the same time if all i did was stare at the screen waiting for responses id get really bored | |
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| Some Etiquette Tips for Chatting on IM
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:39:24 AM |
1) Don't talk endlessly and continuously. Make a comment. Shut up. Allow the other person to respond. Otherwise you are not having a dialogue you are having a monologue.
2) Don't watch t.v. at the same time you accept or send out an IM then become distracted by the t.v. program. Do one or the other but don't be so rude!
2) IM is usual not deep conversation that need absolute attention. I am not stare at my computer, he should not either.
1) If he is stareing and waiting for my next word, is better I type several small sentence instead of one large paragraph. Especialy if I follow rule 6 and must use dictionary a lot. | |
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