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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:57:38 PM | I'm still waiting for that "one" to take all of my time so I have none left for POF ! 
Seriously though, I have made some really sincere friends here on POF that I would have to keep in contact with via other avenues if necessary, despite a significant other being in my life. And forums ~ well ..... I'd miss them, but thinking finding the love of my life would be so much more important and time consuming, that I wouldn't "really" miss them. 
I didn't come here looking for love, but for friendship and forums, and I'm thinking if I still had free time, what's the problem with still hanging here anyway? There's several "unavailable" folks here ~ otherwise there wouldn't be the options of friends, or not single/not looking (won't say married, cause some of those "are" looking).
I will say, if I were to meet someone, and they had a 'problem' with me hanging out here, and it was a relationship that I thought had the potential of being the one? I'd give it up and get personal email addresses.
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/24/2008 4:25:35 PM | i would be soooooooooo outta here - in all honesty i did have a relationship for a year with a man that i met on this site...we were both off of here for the duration.
If a man i was serious with decided to continue on here...then he continues without me. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/25/2008 7:16:11 AM |
i would be soooooooooo outta here - in all honesty i did have a relationship for a year with a man that i met on this site...we were both off of here for the duration.
If a man i was serious with decided to continue on here...then he continues without me. So I take it you only read forums when you are not involved in committed dating? What if you and your partner shared a profile, state specifically both of you are not available, and keep it hidden except for forum use? Then you would still be able to participate in threads like this. Personally, I enjoy reading the PoF posts from people who are in good, healthy relationships. It's good to have a balanced viewpoint from someone like that--you get so many negative posts from lots of burned people in these forums. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/25/2008 2:51:35 PM | when i meet the right woman and i know we are fully committed .......both of us will leave the dating sites....i will gladly let her delete me as part of our commitment process...... and she will have to leave also..... even if you are just curious and happy with your relationship, staying on a dating site will sooner or later cause doubt and problems with your love relationship and any roaming will be perceived as searching for a better catch........ curiosity killed this cat once and no matter how innocent my actions were from my perspective.... in hindsight i broke a trust in our relationship
i think most of us are here to find that one perfect match more than a bunch of meaningless hot dates.....and tho i have met many fine ladies i can't wait to say sayonara to this great dating site | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/25/2008 3:17:46 PM | I'd leave .. in the sense that I wouldn't have the need to look for a partner, anymore ..
But...I'd leave my Profile up and showing that I was *Off-The-Market*
I suppose I'd visit, on occasion .. to peruse the Forums and add my advice / opinions
on certain topics . . but ..
First things First . . !!
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/25/2008 3:30:46 PM | This is a great question to ask someone you are considering for dating..
Wow this is very insightful..... I had a man from this site want to date me... He said thats he had been dating someone the month or two before but I noticed his frequency on POF never did dwindle which I thought was strange. So I asked him about it..
He got kinda ticked off and said that this site was irrelevant (hmmm if it is so irrelevent then why do it).. then he told me that when he dated he just dated one woman at a time.. I said "well that doesn't make sense when you were dating that other woman you were on this site all the time".. buahahah.. He said he would not delete his profile till he remarried.. hmmmm.. oh well. Oh and he said that he wouldn't alter his profile either to reflect that he was dating someone.. hahahah buahh roflmbo.. he said he had too many things to do to alter his profile.. hmmm but he can go and search profiles for an hour at a time..????
Anyway I consented to see him.. but I stayed on the site and continued to see others.. I don't consider it dating someone unless there is at least some kind of committment ...I have no idea if he was meeting others or not and I didn't try to go there either..now that I think about it .. that was a good character development test for me.
I think that it would be helpful at first to have clarity what people mean by dating..
I really liked the guy too.. oh well too bad ... his loss... hehehe.
I honestly don't think you can start to get emotional about someone and continue to see others.. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/28/2008 1:20:56 PM | | Maybe I'm old-fashioned, as I noted many of you are also, but when one is in a committed relationship that is long term then I cannot understand the need to be on the numerous Profile sites looking around. It rather gives one the uneasy feeling they are just 'second choice' until a better one comes along. One, in my mind at least, cannot be 'hedging their bets' by keeping the door open looking around. When your heart is filled with love for another there is no room for someone else. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/28/2008 3:23:42 PM | | Ive met some really nice poeple on here. my tag line says it all plus i mention in the blurbs. And of course , "not single not looking" Appears on the profile. Pretty hard to mis read me there. I am looking for friends, and it says just that :D im a a relationship with a man i met on here its been a year and going strong - and i still got e-mails and i still check around once every couple of weeks and so is he. Neither of us are loooking for anything other then to perhaps meet some friends. Nothing wrong with that. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/28/2008 3:28:04 PM |
Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Yes I would leave dating sites if I were to get into a serious relationship,,(the one)
I don't think I would leave POF though,, I would change my profile to friends and rewrite my profile.. I enjoy the forums,,
It's like reading Pent House,,, Day of Our Lives,,, Current Events,,,, Funny Papers,,,
Sex Education (or not)... The best part is we get to voice an opinion/view, with very little monitoring,, Keeps my mind active, more open to other views,,
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/30/2008 3:29:51 AM | I pull my profile once I have met someone a couple of times, sometimes if we are just talking. So far, not worth the time and effort to do that. They are all still looking. I felt stupid the first couple of times I realised that, I was in denial for a while.
If I got into any sort of relationship though, yes, I would pull everything. If they did not and could not justify it, I could see that as being a good reason to end. I am here looking for company and a partner- not looking to keep shopping around or be someones back up plan. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:48:21 AM | i found my other half ,and a lot of close freinds so i stay hear,
it says not single not looking and i have a photo of the two of us posted
a week later i was invited to a car club from my car pick .
and i love to read the forums .
pof is a comunity kinda like facebook but without al the bs | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/30/2008 8:00:36 AM | | I was in a short term relationship, and was never on here. I first thought no way, because I like the forums and reading profiles, but thought about what it was like in my relationship. So I guess I would. But it will be awhile until I get in a relationship again. AHHHHHHHHHH the freedom of being single is so nice. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/30/2008 11:59:14 AM | | The majority on here seem to feel one should remove their Profile and the others say change it to show one is in a relationship, both are fair needless to say. This may not belong on this link but I wonder what are your thoughts if a person in a committed relationship does not want to remove the profile and takes offense that you ask them too. Further, it is wrong to search other sites to check which other ones they are posted on? I know it could be considered an invasion of privacy and show lack of trust. But would you look at other sites if you had concern? | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/30/2008 12:56:53 PM | No, I am with someone that I met on here and so is he...we both have met friends on this site and are not going to cut-off the ties because we are a couple. Trust is important in any relationship and if you cannot have this, then what is the point...Yes, it does get annoying when guys type and want to 'connect' and they are seeking more than friends..but for the most part I have met decent people are here of both sexes and we remain friends today :)
POF is not just a place for singles but anyone who want to share their thoughts, feelings or wisdom...
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:46:57 AM | Smile-Hello wrote: I wonder what are your thoughts
if a person in a committed relationship does not want to remove
the profile and takes offense that you ask them to?
Taking offense to your BF/GF expressing their preference is
rude and innappropriate. If you demand I take my profile off
any site, I'd calmly and happily say you aren't the right woman
for me. | |
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