| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2008 11:36:23 AM | I am sure a lot of people must have a hard time leaving the sites once they find someone. But if all you want from here once you're in a relationship is conversation you can get that elsewhere on line and shouldn't be looking for it on a dating site or it's fair to say you are still fishing!!
If I met the right guy, I'd probably give it a month or so before deleting my profile. Once you're in a great relationship, between work, family, that relationship, and all the other demands of life and fun things there are to do, I can't see anyone actually having the time or interest to be on here reaching out to strangers in cyber-space!!
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2008 11:50:05 AM | snorkland
You are wrong....POF is a place for singles, the name refers to a saying when your relationship has ended, the saying goes .........NEVER MIND...THERE ARE PLENTY OF MORE FISH IN THE SEA....meaning go and get someone else, and get over your last one. If anyone and their partner wish to converse with other people whom they have met through this site then that is up to them, But it is a dating site. Like i said in my earlier post in this forum, and on my profile, im here to find love and happiness, and when i do, that will be me gone, and i would expect my partner to come off here also, what chance has any relationship got of surviving, when people constantly chat to people who they have flirted with for months...none i would say, however that is my opinion, and thats what forums are all about, peoples opinions, others may beg to differ... | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:15:15 PM | | Guess I will put my two cents worth in too lol.....If I found "the one", then I would definately stop going on dating sites. You have to give the relationship a chance to grow, and if you still go online, then your partner will probably wonder if you really want the relationship to begin with. Yes I would miss the forums, and chats, but sometimes you have to compromise to have what you want. Debbie | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:55:00 PM | There are only one or two extreme circumstances that would ever make me quit the dating Site. Man would be a darn fool to leave all of this. Which oddly enough suggests I may be leaving.
Put the lime in the coconut, you drink 'em both together. Put the lime in the coconut, then you feel better. Put the lime in the coconut, drink 'em both up. Put the lime in the coconut, and call me in the morning. Yes, you call me in the morning. If you call me in the morning I'll tell you what to do. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:01:07 PM | | I dont think you have to leave here if you found that special someone...just put on your profile.."I'm no longer available,I'm seeing a very special man/woman,just here for the forums and friends" and be sure to change your status to not single/not looking | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/3/2008 4:50:19 AM | Within the first week of POF, it became clear that I no longer needed to be on any other dating site. (I was not paying money to places like Match and eharmony, but still had profiles up, and they were bookmarked for occasional viewing.) It saves a lot of time being on just here.
My profile here is still up, but I changed it to "friends." The left hand is still nekkid so that status is unchanged. Was sharing the good news with friends who are not yet on here, and referred them to my (apparently successful!) profile. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:16:56 PM | Serious, as in mutually monagamous? Well yeah, then...why fish, when you've caught what you're looking for? Some folks stay online all day long, and they'll find it very difficult to hang up the pole, but fishing (not participating in the forums), while hooked up, is like cruising the bars without your SO...temptation.
I do agree with some of the posts that say they'd change their profile to reflect their changed personal status, just makes sense, and it's helpful for all the other anglers to know the real status of the fish on here.
If you trust each other, then you'll probably discuss this together, and come up with whatever works for YOU ...   | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:33:39 PM | | i agree . with you . if i found someone i would leave this site . i think most people like to stay on because they dont like to commit . ihonestly think if you have to stay on here after you find somene its a red flag your setting yourself up . and not only that its a excue to not stay with one person | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/4/2008 12:41:08 PM | | Hi Op,i think i am with the majority on this one,i would leave the site simply because of the time it takes up,i would much prefer spending it with someone special and enjoying the time together.Its all about commitment and this is the reason the majority of us are on the site,to find someone special to commit to.Lets hope it happens for everyone. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/4/2008 2:15:40 PM | I'm with martinigal313. I see two separate purposes for this site (for me) at this time. I've just decided to join the forums to take a break from "fishing" so to speak. The forums are a place to just have some ideas to toss around and experience different points of view - I don't necessarily see this part of the site as a place to find a potential date - although I suppose it could happen (probably does a lot I guess). Anyway, if I were in a relationship, my SO would have to be aware and a part of (if he wanted). If it bothered him, I'd stop - I've met some nice people on POF though - it would be a little hard to say good by to them - I guess my answer would be YES! ok! I'll delete if he's that special 
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:42:45 PM | | I always looked at the dating site closure as this...If you find the person on line and start being exclusive thats the hope for on them....And if you showing your new partner a good time and spending time with them then you should'nt have any time on the sites anymore.....Too busy talking to each other and enjoying time to not need date site for stimulating conversation....Its right in front of you in person and the best friend you could ask for......Plus is so much easier talking then typing anyway...LOL...I found if you creative you can have some fun with the person and never a dull moment to fill your time with the sites anymore.....If not a guy needs to crack some books and read up on how to entertain self and the one you with (No Batteries or Keyboards included or needed!)..Think its says it on the box which the dateing instructions came in......LOL | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:45:04 PM | "Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship".
A resounding YES! Why anyone would continue to stay on a DATING site once in a serious relationship, is beyond me. All one needs to do, is ask themselves WHY they signed up on a dating site, to begin with! Plain and simple.
If you've made good friends, there would be no reason to keep staying in the forums or anywhere else, to keep in touch. There are other ways of commuicating such as the phone or email.
If you STAY on a dating site, that tells me you are definitely STILL checking out the 'merchandize' and wondering if there isn't someone out there that's better then the person you are currently involved with.
If you ONLY go into dating sitess for the forums, be VERY clear about that also. It will eliminate any misunderstandings others may have as to why you are here.
Maintaining a GOOD and SOLID relationship is hard enough and requires work, honesty, trust and dedication. If you muddle it up with continued visits to dating sites, regardless of the reasons, you'll never succeed in having a serious relationship with any one other then your own PC. Is that what you really want????????? | |
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