| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/19/2008 11:12:52 AM |
bucsgirl wrote: Been there done that. Both changed our profiles, and then gave each other our passwords here. I'd already made a lot of friends, and yes we could contact each other through other avenues, but it's just easier to find all of them here. I'd get an occasional stray email, but most were respectful when I directed them to my status (not single/not looking)......Not all relationships end because of someone cheating
I've noted that many profiles opt for (not single/not looking) AND add "only here for the forums" --- after all, it is not necessary to look into the section where one can peruse other profiles in order to read or post to the forums.
Personally, I don't have a problem with the concept of keeping a profile on POF as the forums often render me laughing uproariously.
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/19/2008 11:52:09 AM | Is there really a need to leave the site if you like the forum's? I think as long as you are honest and faithful to your SO there should be no need to give up the site. I think that is rediculous . . . if they stay on the site and keep fishing, that is another case. It really depends on the person and the security of the relationship I guess.  | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/19/2008 3:49:02 PM | Absolutely. In fact, I have recently met someone that I might start dating very soon, and I have updated my profile to "friends" just to reflect this. There is no reason whatsoever to keep a profile on here if you have met someone that you believe might be "the one".
The time that you would spend on here talking to other people, spend it making him/her happy instead. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:37:31 PM | ABSOLUTELY!!! In a heart beat, he need not even ask!! I mean what's the big deal?? IF you are happy with whom you've found, than you'd want to spend your free time learning all about them... not coming here to debate, or make more "friends"??
Keeping a profile up, hidden or otherwise just says you're not that into them and want to keep ur options open and not risk missing the next best thing that comes along. But this is just my 2 cents!! On the other hand, if you've really developed a rapport here in the forums why not edit ur profile and at least post either no pic. or a recent one of you and new #1 interest!?  | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:06:28 PM | If looking for a long-term companion or spouse: A definite YES. That's the reason why most of us are here, right? I would expect the other person to think like that, too.
It's okay if you're just looking for flings or casual dating, but I see no reason why I should keep my profile up if I've made a solid connection with someone. As for the forums, unless I've made some real good friends, I'm sure there are other places to post about the various subjects covered here.
That's my two cents right there.  | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/20/2008 4:05:47 AM | I have found my fish....but most of my friends are here....everyone knows I am taken, it states it in the profile. So you are in a group...all your friends are here...and just because you hook up with someone you have to leave? leave your friends...hmmm...I find that very strange.
Add to the fact that my house is a safe haven for the group....and we host a lot of events...I think I would be hung if I actually left lol
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/20/2008 7:22:02 AM | | yah...put on a chasity belt and blinders.....no socializing as an individual after becoming a couple....comeon~it's called trust. i love being here and chitchattin with ppl tho i've been caught. thank goodness for a self confident partner that knows my heart and respects my decisions. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/20/2008 9:28:07 AM | No, I enjoy the forums and the events happening can be worthwhile to attend together. I would change my profile to reflect I have someone in my life and am not looking for anyone else. In my mind I would think if things don't work out I can always come back and not have to re register, sort of like a pre nup agreement with myself I am covered. However if I was married I would be out of here faster then a Laker fast break bucket.
If we both met on POF we would discuss our continuing relationship with POF and mutually agree to redo our profiles or delete them all together, why ask for temptation to kick the door in, and no Charlotte the grass is not greener. If your warm and happy in your pile of dodo keep your mouth shut and focus on your lovers needs. The big one is trust and that can be lost in a moment, why risk it? | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 5/20/2008 10:01:32 AM |  I would leave............delete my profile.
My search would be over.
My friends would have my email addy and phone numbers.
I would hope to spend the time I spend here with him......
making our life together.
If we stayed for the forums then we could do it on one profile/together.
Other than that, I'd be all into my man.
Where is that man!  
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:33:18 PM | Absolutely!! I would miss the forums, but unless we agreed then I would definitely leave. If we stayed for the forums and were in agreement then I'd have no problem hiding my profile and not emailing or iming at all. What would be the point of that?
It's important to know that there must be communication on this and both agree to whatever not just have unspoken expectations. Unless I spoke and asked him not to be here then I am wrong to get angry if he does and visa versa.
Me, I would think that if I were to find that special someone and we were serious then there really wouldn't be a need to be one here, I am sure we'd find better things to do with our time!! | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:48:02 PM | I just have to ask. If you found your "someone", would you continue to send emails, IM, etc. with others of the opposite sex?
Huh? just in general you mean? ...I talk to as many men on here as women. Am I supposed to stop talking to them too?
Would you stop fishing?
Aaah...now I get it...talking to people is apparently synonymous with "still looking"
Wouldnt even remotely occur to me to *keep* fishing.
If I was on the site with a partner and we both partipated in forums...I wouldnt think anything of it.
If my partner was concerned about my participation in forums...Id show them the product of that and hope to allay any fears they had about it.
But would I jeopardise my relationship for this place? Not a fricken chance in hell.
100, 000 strangers on the internet VS the man of my dreams.
You guys dont get a lookin. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:53:49 PM | of course i would i am not into sharing..lol
i hid my profile the min. that i met him 2 years ago..
still read the forms... love you guys...
funny!!! hmmmmmmmmmmm he did not do the same ...and has changed his over a few times..
it's been a bit of an issue for me  treating pof as a free for all... meat market.... what ever..
pof is a site to find friends that may turn out to be that 'one' or for others another way to meet people who share common interests...
i have great vaule of who i am as you can see from my profile..
sue
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:00:00 PM | | I am not sure. I have not been using this site to meet women, I spend most of my time here in the Forums. I amuse myself with the current topics while editing on my other computer. It is really bad when I am typing on one computer and using the mouse or the other. Actually I am getting pretty good at it. | |
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