| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:34:23 PM | MMM MMM(shaking head in absolute hesterics)
Sounds like some of ya have serious TRUST issues, with yourself and with potentials or SO's......WOW!!! The SO and I are past that stage in life I guess?!!
Since we made our commitment to each other and combined our profiles and changed the status, there has not been ONE contact of suggestion or approach.....hmmmm Guess the updated words on My "OLD" profile makes it clear why we are here?!
HONESTY DOES HAVE ITS REWARDS
AND
TRUST (FULL TRUST IN SELF AND OTHERS) GOES A LOOOOONG WAY!!!
Sorry if that sounds a little sarcastic............JUST my opinion and facts!!.......  | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:36:24 PM | | If I had agreed to be in an exclusive relationsip with someone, I would think that backing off all dating sites would be part of that agreement. I also enjoy the forums, but I would rather have the company of one great guy than all the people on here. Sorry, didn't mean it to be an insult, but a message on my computer screen does not compare to a hug and a kiss from a real live human. He would have to agree to the same thing. | |
|
| |
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:47:30 PM | Only YOU can prevent forest fires and OR decide when the time has come to leave our beloved pond.
Never leave here suddenly or in an emotional outburst No no noooo!.Or do the Testimonials thing...I am leaving... this place sucks ...nobody likes me..women read and delete blah blah blah!
You may regret it later.No REALLY YOU WILL REGRET IT LATER!
Some reasons people choose to give up on pof include getting their feelers hurt,they have bragged up their new honey "I am sooo lucky I am getting some and yoooou are well...not! neener neener" and then poof it's over and they lose face and hide! Whiners!
Health concerns (carpal tunnel)
Family commitments (such as wife finds about your profile and you get that well deserved spankin')
Being taken advantage of (he used me waaaaa!)
Looking for more of a challenge (tried dating on the outside)
A better offer elsewhere (you over fished the pond)
Unexpected absence (You got the free trip to banned camp)
And always remember and never forget...Think carefully through all the implications before submitting your "I found my perfect prince " testimonial.(it is the kiss of death to any budding relationship..ask me I know)
I have said it before and I am saying it again..I won't leave under my own steam...nopers they will have to pry my cold dead fingers from the keyboard!
Leaving these boards cold turkey can leave a significant impact on your life and you should not make the decision lightly!!! | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:47:51 PM | I'm in a relationship with someone I met here on PoF. We still have our profiles, I post to the forums, he cyber-stalks my posts and threatens every once in a while to start posting (bring it on sweetie, lol... I still say you'll get banned within a week!).
I'm completely open about who I email and who my friends are. As much as I enjoy the Forums and greatly value my friendships here, I'd be gone from PoF in a nanno-second if he had a moment's hesitation about my involvement. It's that simple. | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:48:20 PM | i was in a relationship for a few months and i did not delete my profile because i have met many good friends on this site (which is the only dating site i am on) and love the forums i changed my profile from dating to friends at the time i had a boyfriend.
good luck and happy  to all 
Sandbug | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:57:25 PM | | I am actually meeting another pof er next week for the first time, hopefully the start of something special. We both enjoy the forums. I don't see anything wrong with putting your 2c worth in once in a while as long as your profile indicates you are not "looking" for anyone else. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:40:25 PM | No I havent and wouldnt. Im quite prepared to put single/not looking even a pic of us both and make sure other half gets a mention but no i have no need to leave if in a relationship. I have real life friends on here and spend alot of time just lookin at forums.
I wouldnt expect a partner to not come on either, my relationships always run on trust and i dont think its ever caused me a problem (that i know of).
If a partner had issues with it and it bugged them, thats open for debate cos i wouldnt want to jeapardise a relationship over comin on here just for the sake of it.
I certainly wouldnt be fishing and for me i dont meet many people or give my number out or anythin so im hardly likely to drop me drawers for someone on here and start cheatin me ass off lolx | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:43:48 PM | I met my SO on here and we have both put on our profiles that we are here for friends and forums only. I've had one email since then and I politely said thank you for the email but I'm not looking. We both like attending occassional events and its alot easier to know what's going on if you keep up with the forums.
Guess you just have to trust each other. And if you don't trust them them, then why are you with them?? Just my opinion. | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:50:19 PM | | Recently I met someone I was very very interested in here on POF. We both agreed that we would hide our profiles while we explored our interest in one another. Since I enjoy the forums, I would always simply hide my profile if I met someone I wanted to get to know. That's what works for me... | |
|
| |
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:55:05 PM | I suppose I would if he wants me to but there is really no point because I probably won't be be here anyway. But I may still come here if it is fine with him. I will consider her feelings all the time once I am committed to him.
Right now it is an issue with some because I did come here for friendship and I am enjoying stimulating, intellectual communications with a few guys who have become my friends. It is a kiss of death right now to show me any territorial tendency at this point. Afterall, I had been very specific that I am not looking unless something develops in any friendship. | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:55:40 PM | | I don't have a profile up right now, but if I did and I then got involved, I would take it down again. I'd also spend less time on the forums too if it made my guy uncomfortable. I have no problems with making sure my number 1 knows they're number 1. I would also expect the same in return. | |
|
| |
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:05:49 PM | | In a serious relationship? I wouldn't have time to be on this site...or email, either, for that matter. One way to discern the seriousness of a relationship would be the number of days since I last visited POF. One way to discern the seriousness of a relationship problem would be how often (and what) I posted on POF forums. | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:07:11 PM | {quote]HONESTY DOES HAVE ITS REWARDS
Hammazing I applaud your profile. I feel the same way about life, trust and loving. I enjoy the forums and a relationship might cause me to be onlne less as I add the relationship to my lifestyle ... but I enjoy these discussions. So, I would change my profile as clearly as Hamazing has.
Gandi | |
|
| |
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:07:31 PM | | I'm in a serious relationship. I am definately not fishing (and if you read my profile, I spell it out pretty clearly.) I did get an email from a woman who looked at my SO's profile, then read mine and she said it made her cry, but at the same time, gave her hope that there might be someone out there for her. Mine is up and so is his. | |
|
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:09:04 PM | | Definitely...I would much rather spend time with a real person than sit in front of a computer. There is nothing to keep me on dating sites once a relationship shows real potential. Some people are addicted to dating sites and continue to log in regularly regardless of their relationship status as if they were unattached. I would not stay in a relationship with someone who did that. People can give all the excuses they want for staying on dating sites when they are in a relationship, but in my opinion, that's all they are...excuses. If I have a fulfilling relationship, I would have no need to hang out on dating sites...would have much better things to do. I would not have the time to sit in front of a computer, much less on a dating site...and would not want to...would be spending quality time with my SO. | |
|
| |
| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:19:07 PM | Definately.. I just came back to touch base with some friends and I'm gone again.
As for the forums one can still read them with out being a member and it is like anything else, you don't miss what you don't have.
Being in Love and in a relationship is much better than fishing in a dry pond... | |
|
| |
Home
login 
