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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/12/2008 8:05:03 PM | | Since my post went at the end of the other posts, i will repeat (((Please allow me to shout it out, I WOULD LEAVE DATING SITES IN LESS THAN A HEARTBEAT IF I FOUND SOMEONE. There is no way in heck I would need this place, even for the forums, if I were with someone. This has been a problem with everyone I have met, they just couldn't let go of their dating sites. I would much rather be alone than spend my time with someone who thinks he has to live on his computer even when we are together. I have spent way to much time behind this computer screen and for some time now have not been looking but believe me when I say the dating sites would be history if I found my special someone BUT if that special someone kept on with his dating sites he would definitely be history.)) | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/12/2008 8:17:48 PM | I wouldn't leave this one I don't think. I enjoy the forums. I'd change my status and still use the forums. Likely nowhere near as much though.
I don't view the forum area of this site much differently than Facebook or MySpace. And I wouldn't delete my accounts on there. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/12/2008 9:44:11 PM | If you hadn't noticed -- POF has communities of people interested in other things than dating. I might quit, but if I stayed, it would not mean I was up to anything sneaky.
I'd probably want to still peep in on the forums time to time, as they have led me to enriching (or at least interesting) conversations with people (male and female) I'd've never otherwise met in a lifetime.
I like Post # 18's idea, of if the SO had a problem with it, I'd give him my password.
Agree too with # 107 -- if you're a cheater, you'll find a way to cheat, with/without a computer.
So sorry for people who got so burned and I hope you find better next time. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/12/2008 11:53:32 PM | | I think if it looks like a relationship is getting started with everything that entails, then both people should at least hide their profiles to explore the potential. This is a dating site after all, personally I can't totally explore a relationship and open up, if I think the other person is still looking. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/13/2008 2:51:53 AM | | I wouldnt come on here no more...I would change my page to taken and just not come on.. I did that before when I had someone then when I became single and came back my page was gone soo I had to make a new one. Soo yea I wouldnt go back on there if I had someone | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/13/2008 5:08:48 AM | I was on this and another dating site before she found me. I no longer have a profile on the other site (which is straightly a dating site) but I am still here. My status has been changed to 'not single/not looking' and I clearly state that on the first line of my profile.
I enjoy reading and occasionally posting to the forum. My profile, though originally put up for fishing purpose, will now serve as a general intro only. I am often curious about the posters themselves, especially if they have something interesting to say. This is an international site and it's fascinating to see the difference in opinions due to age, location or even profession.
My SO is well aware that I am on this site, and I frequently comment to her the crazy things I've read off the forums. I have no intention whatsoever to date anyone else at this time so if I ever receive any mail from others expressing interest, they will be deleted. It's a matter of trust imo. I would give my SO the password to my account if she wishes. I would also kill my profile here in a heartbeat if it ever becomes the slightest of an issue between us. But most importantly, I have made a commitment to her (and to myself) to remain loyal and faithful to each other as we explore our possibilities. That alone should really be enough. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/14/2008 5:25:34 AM | | I saw something cool on the site awhile back. A couple who had met each other here changed their profiles & explained that they were here for the forums now, but they also posted pics of themselves together. But then, I'm a sucker for romance&romantic gestures..... | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/14/2008 12:39:39 PM | I've Deleted from Many sites, already {profiteering B@$%@&ds} . . but . .
I don't think I'd *Delete* , here . . altogether . .
What I *Plan* . . :
To let my new partner write my 'Last Profile Update', and have her thank all the others
for NOT hooking the best catch She's ever found . . !!! | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:05:15 PM | I have to say that I truly appreciate everyone's opinions to the question I posed. Thanks to all who posted their views. Interesting to say the least I must say. While I may not agree with some, it is not my place to judge. Different strokes for different folks! But that is why I posted it in the first place. I wanted to hear what others had to say. I'm a curious sort.
After reading ALL the posts, (there is a lot of them) I see that most would leave, which to me is admirable. Why would one want to chance a "potential" problem by continuing on a "dating" site? Not to say say others are wrong, as I do understand the opinions put forth. To each their own. The ones who get snarky about others opinions show a bit of immaturity IMO. Everyone is entitled to their own personal opinions and shouldn't get ragged on or attacked for such. Just something I noticed, so don't flame me for the statement.
I also enjoy the forums and the vast differences of opinion that are put forth. I would be in a bit of a conundrum if I found the gal I am truly looking for. I too would miss the forums and friendly debates. Of course it would be something to discuss with her. If it was a point of contention, it would be adios in the blink of an eye. Sayonara with a quick goodbye. The relationship would always take priority, as it should. Plus, I get far more enjoyment in real human contact. Electronic yabber is fine, but there is nothing better than face to face communication. I like the info that can be gleaned from these forums, but I take all with a grain of salt. Anyone who takes forums as the "God's honest truth" need electric shock therapy! hahaha I can be somewhat opinionated as some here may have noticed, but that's just me. Strong heartfelt beliefs that need to be expressed at times.
I find that some people use the anonymity of the internet for purposes that are not quite honourable shall I say. They tend to make themselves out to be someone they are not. Shame, shame, shame! What is the point? When they do meet the person they are BS'ing, the truth will come to the forefront and all trust will be lost. Is it worth it? This is something that I can never understand.
Again, thanks to all you peeps that put in their two cents. Verified what I did believe to be true.  I Still have faith in the human race.
Happy  to all. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/16/2008 3:23:28 PM | Once I start seeing someone and we both know and understand that it's just "us," then my account is hidden/closed/turned off or whatever. I hope I would be occupied spending time with him that I wouldn't even feel the need to visit the forums either.  I can only hope he would feel the same and would probably feel a bit (okay - a LOT) hurt if he was still chatting with females online.
As for me emailing/IMing people that I've met online: males would have to understand that the guy IN my life is the one IN my life so all communication with others would stop. The females I've met are friends and know how to contact me off-site if they need to so that wouldn't be a problem. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:43:43 PM | Yes I would leave. I would probably want to discuss it with him and make it a mutual decision for us both to delete our profiles when we both decide that we're going to be exclusive.
If he didn't want to delete his profile, I wouldn't press him on it, but at the same time I might be a little suspicious of his motives if he was too hesitant to do that. I would expect him to be as ready to get out of the fishing pond as I am. It's hard to concentrate on one relationship when you're getting emails from other people you've been with and I wouldn't want to keep them on the line either. I would contact them and let them know that I'm no longer available for anything but friendship. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:10:08 PM | Why in the world would anyone want to keep fishing if they found someone they wanted to be with? What would the point be of being in the relationship in the first place if you wanted to keep fishing?
exactly ..but so many stay and so many make a life out of it ,,so its not a good bet that if you did find someone ,,you will not be back to find another ..it would be very naive thinking indeed if you thought that the first little brake up wouldn't put you back on line looking yourself ..i am thinking once an attractive single women finds a good singles site she will be forever and ever looking..its an easy fix for some attention needs..and a never ending supply of eager and willing ..
I have left this site while in a relationship and will not hesitate to leave it again. There is no question.
and your back again arent you .. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:37:22 PM | Yes, one must always believe that the other is "up to something" while in the forums or emailing others of the opposite gender, always make sure you TRUST in the one you love and not be insecure of possibilities of just opposite genders conversating and sharing experiences and thoughts...........Yup, that is a way to enrich ones life!!!!
I know sir op you said no condesending remarks needed, however, it is disturbing to me and um, some others, I am not alone...........that just because you are in a relationship whether it came from a dating site or not that you feel the need to cut yourself off from other kinds of relationships that you have possibily made along the way..........for me I see everyone that has posted that they would definitely leave and not look back is lying to themselves!!!!! If you do not TRUST yourself, your right how can you trust someone who you have a relationship with????????
I am here for the poetry section for the most part and have a wonderful relationship with the man............he works, I don't, I love to write, he doesn't but we share in the laughter and some insightful writes that we find here. But most of all this is where we met and it is like the cherry on top to see that others we became close to in our process are finding love too...........for some this is an easier site to get through and share in the relationship of life.........................Thanks I really do hope you all find what your looking for!!!!!!!! It is possible!!!! | |
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