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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:48:00 AM | | a lot of us are still on the forums for friendship, info and networking. if someone starts coming on to me, thats' the end of it. for me, pof is the local community center. if i think i can match people, i'll try. i do have to say that the comradery fills an empty space for me. one of my self promises is to get out more and go to the community center in my geographic area and drink "real" coffee with new friends. moving a lot makes it harder. if i were back in new jersey and within the nyc areas where born, raised and worked--i'd probably have no time for the forums. although, i always do my best to keep up with friends i have met along the way. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:58:24 AM | | I'm here, and in a serious relationship. So's he. He can access my account anytime he wants, and I his but we don't. I like the community in some of the forums and enjoy my friendships there, so see no reason to leave. My profile is clear that I am not looking for romance, and most here respect that. If not, well, thats why there are delete buttons. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:58:28 AM | | If I *did* found someone online, I would hate to leave the forums though but I would change my profile into "NOT LOOKING/FORUMS ONLY" and I would *make sure* to let my boyfriend know that I am only here for the forums and NOT to cheat on him for sure. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 11:12:54 AM | My Lord people...Do these Forums really mean that much to you that you'd continue to poston a dating site while involved in a serious relationship??? Do you not realize there are plenty of other sites(non dating) that have like forums...
Sometimes I believe some get what they deserve....I'll see you all posting in the "broken hearts" section eventually.... | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 11:30:05 AM | | Honestly, I haven't been on many sites with forums but none of them have been anything like these ones. These ones are organized, have lots of activity, and are much easier to use than the ones I've seen. If my job didn't have lots of downtime and I spent a lot of time in the evenings and weekends with the girl I'm seeing I wouldn't be on here at all unless I was REALLY bored. I'd definitely be cutting back heavily in the times when I could be spending it with her that's for sure. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:06:30 PM | | I am already here only for the forums and that would remain the same if I wound up getting serious with one of the guys I'm dating. I don't use the forums to try to meet someone. It just so happens that with the nature of the work I do (lots of down time waiting for the next task in my project to be ready for me) it works out well to use my waiting time conversing online. I bounce around between this site and the NY Times blogs and a few others, just killing time while staying on the computer. I don't see why a boyfriend would have a problem with that, but if he did, I would probably be fine with letting this one go and just focusing on the less relationship focused sites. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:17:54 PM | If people have the time and the energy to continue to use a dating site after they have met someone special then (in my opinion) they are not giving all they can in nurturing and developing their relationship with that one person.
In addition, removing oneself from all dating sites in order to concentrate on the person you have met and formed that tentative relationship with surely tells them that you are serious in making every effort to develop things with them..............doesn`t that say a lot about committment?
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:22:34 PM | | Someone once asked me "If a woman offered you 10 million to sleep with her would you?" The problem with the question is that its' not real. It's easy to say what you would do "IF". When you are in the situation that's when one can say this is want I did, which is much better. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:29:11 PM | I'm in a serious relationship with someone I met on PoF. I haven't taken down my profile because I still love hanging out in the forums, BUT it says very clearly in several places that I'm not looking, and that I'm with someone. More importantly she knows I'm still here (as is she) and we TRUST each other. Problem solved. | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:16:15 PM |
My Lord people...Do these Forums really mean that much to you that you'd continue to post on a dating site while involved in a serious relationship??? Do you not realize there are plenty of other sites(non dating) that have like forums...
Sometimes I believe some get what they deserve....I'll see you all posting in the "broken hearts" section eventually....
ciaobaby71 - I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!! Just joking hon. But this is an excellent question.
While I do agree that PoF is one of the better sites as far as forums go....it is still a DATING site. No ifs, ands, buts or maybes on that one. It is unfortunate that there isn't a suitable replacement for those that are in a relationship. Maybe it should be brought to the attention of the folk who operate this site. I'm no computer whiz, otherwise I would do it myself if I had the time. There is definitely a demand from what I am seeing.
I also understand that, if one is so inclined as to cheat, the venue that is used makes no difference. But isn't continuing on a dating site like leaving the cookie on the table, telling a child not to touch it, and then leaving the room for a long period? Coming back and seeing the cookie is gone and being surprised! Yeah, yeah, I know....the trust thing. But then why do so many people cheat???? I'm a realist! I've been around the block more than a few times. I see what our world has become. Temptation has far more power than love in a lot of cases. I think it would raise one of me eyebrows if the gal I happened to be with in a serious relationship spent a considerable amount of time on a "dating" site. I would have the same problem if she were to want to go out with her male friends often without myself being there. One must watch the hen house because of all the foxes ya know!
We all know why most of us are here, and it isn't for the forums! | |
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| Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship?
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:22:23 PM |
Someone once asked me "If a woman offered you 10 million to sleep with her would you?"
With a bit of a different spin.....A guy walks up to a woman and asks her if she would sleep with him for a million dollars.....gal says yes....guy says come on, I've got five bucks....gal says What????......guy says, we've already determined you're a slut, we're just haggling price!
And yes ladies, you can interchange genders. | |
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