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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:00:36 PM | What re you looking for - an invitation?
OK, here it is.
You are cordially invited to dump his ass. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:15:59 PM |
It seems to me that we should be a bit smarter by now. .
Seems like one of you may be a bit smarter... The Phishy poll is unanimous; by now I'm sure you've made up your mind to kick his attractive, sexy, not so smart a** to the curb without looking back.
The Bible teaches to turn the other cheek... let him see that one as you're sashaying away.
Best to you,
Jack
"And be these juggling fiends no more believ'd,
That patter with us in a double sense;
That keep the word of promise to our ear,
And break it to our hope." --Shakespeare, Macbeth, V, 8
Edit... Eddie must be coming out of the midwinter slump... ROFLMFAO ;-)
Take a quarter. Place it against the inside of your right knee. Then clamp it with the inside of your left knee. And stay that way. See how long he hangs around the casino after the buffet closes... .
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:29:28 PM | sorry to hear what occurred.........
one of the most important things in a relationship is Trust.........he lost yours.......plus he's lying for the example you gave re:timing he said he was on
I think, you know the answer...let him go....you deserve to be treated so much better.........
looks like he is still looking as others have mention to you
good luck and pay attention to those "gut" feelings
my best
"A" | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 9:39:22 PM | He's addicted to "Online Dating Sites". Just possibly he's on others, too.
These men will lie, put their marriage, relationship or whatever on risk to do this. It is obsessive behaviour. There are many reasons why they do this. The adage of "maybe" the perfect one is around the corner? The thrill of the chase? An ego pick me up? There are lots of excuses.
The main thing you have to look at is that your guy lies.
Lying brings trust issues into the relationship which will make or break it.
You have to address this as very important and deal with it. The longer you allow this to go on the more you will ignore his lies just to hang on to him. Is this what you want?
Give him the straight goods of what you will accept as decent behaviour from him in this relationship and then toss him out if he whines and snivels about the parameters.
If you are the woman for him, he will work at building your trust again. Don't make it too easy on him. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 7:58:05 AM | I would have dropped him the first time. Nobody should have to be asked to get rid of their profile when you get serious. It's just common sense to delete it.
It's time to leave him. It's not acceptable. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 8:55:30 AM | The real question is what do you want to do? It appears he is a romance addict (yep, there really is such a thing), and he can't give up the rush of infatuation.
If you can accept there will always be other women in his life, enjoy him during the periods of time he is with you. If you can't accept that, then you will only make yourself miserable by "trying to work it out". He won't change! | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:00:58 AM | | Why did you even talk about it the second time? Obviously he does not value your feelings enough to change behavior that could easily be altered so you are not hurt. He has proven himself a liar and untrustworthy and you would want this man in your life because he is suddenly at 55 going to change behaviors that he has likely been doing for years? Most people do not "love" their SO enough to do that. What you know now is as good as it is going to get. Stay or go, he won't change. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:02:17 AM | wow
im new here but is this serious?
adults meet and nd more right away?
yikes.
im big on waiting and watching...
that way this stuff shakes out pretty quick
and ive got no 'blinders' on...
holy cow. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:30:28 AM | | hi. this happened to me also.hes on here. . .flashn69,and i was with him on and off 9 mths. i finished cos i didnt trust him, and he asked me back and said he loved me. i didnt see him very much, he blamed that on work . . bouncer! then one day, after a suspicion, i found him on here, and he was 14 peoples faves! hurt like hell, but you have to get over it. hes a lying, cheating charmer!!! kim.x | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:32:36 AM | | Yeah, I had one like this too. I met him on True.com and we deleted our profiles upon becoming exclusive. After a few more months, I found he had been on Match again, and then few months later had been actively on Myspace. He was not worthy of my trust. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:39:24 AM | He was messaging women from your house and from your computer??
He either WANTS to get caught and have you dump him,
isn't the brightest bulb in the box,
has no regard for your relationship,
or any/all of the above. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:44:11 AM | | Get rid of him. I did not live with my man .. but he swore he was true and that he was not looking for anymore. Yeah ! I am married . But planned on in May to live with him. I walked in to his house and found him on the pc on a sex site . He tried explaining that . But then next time i found a used condom .Again he saids it wasn't what i think. Next i found a picture on his dresser as i was getting dressed to leave. He noticed and thought i hadn't seen it. I knew then he was a big liar and i was leaving my hubby for this ? Plus this man has cancer ..If your man is doing this ! Don't fall for any excuse. He will NOT stop. Mine sent me a Dear John Letter yesterday saying he found another . So look somewhere else. Kick his ass to the curb | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:50:10 AM | I read your thread and had to look at your profile to see where your from cause it sounded like we were dating the same guy!! Not that it would matter now because we are no longer together..For many reasons, but one of them being the exact same thing you are going through. I felt the same way you do, got the same answers from him that you are getting.. and was made to feel like I was just being paranoid!!
You have to do what you feel is right in your heart... | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:56:07 AM | | Wow, I'm not at all uppity but farting is just to comfy but thats another thread sorry | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 9:59:00 AM | | I started a thread recently that got voted off, and it was the same thing but hypethetical, just here for the forums is about as believeable as reading playboy just for the articles | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:03:33 AM | GIRLFRIEND , YOUR BOY IS A CHEATER AND A LIER. PEOPLE LIKE THAT NEVER CHANGE. KICK THE BUM TO THE CURB. BE WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE YOU,AND YOU ALONE........................ | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:05:38 AM | Darling,
He is a snake in the grass. Get rid of him and then deal with your wounded heart and ego. Once you have healed go out again and find someone who will only have eyes, thoughts and feelings for you.
If he thinks that looking and communicating to other woman on line is OK what do you think he is doing at the grocery store.
As a woman hold your self up high and let others judge him....move on, you deserve all the wonderful things that a man has to offer....only to you.
Good Luck. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:05:53 AM | Maria you know it's time to leave him. Don't make the same mistake I did. This happened to me too. Not only had he joined several sites, but a woman called him at his home once while I was there. I knew by his reaction. You know the reaction I'm speaking of here.
I stayed way too long in that relationship. I repeat DO NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:06:10 AM | GIRLFRIEND , YOUR BOY IS A CHEATER AND A LIER. PEOPLE LIKE THAT NEVER CHANGE. KICK THE BUM TO THE CURB.  BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN LOVE YOU,AND LOVE YOU ALONE .......................... | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:13:45 AM | Maria -
Sorry for your pain...but Sweetie, you KNEW the answer to your own post before you wrote it.
My second marriage ended partially because he couldn't stop playing around on the net. When I would catch him, I was the a$$hole for "snooping"....the fact that he printed out some of the conversations and left them laying around must have been my fault as well.
Some people so need that continual reassurance that they are desired and get so caught up in the thrill of the hunt that they can't let it go.
As stated above, trust is the cornerstone of a good relationship....he's blown that. While everyone may deserve a second chance, he threw it away.
Do you hear that??? It's the sound of his butt bouncing off the curb. You deserve much better than that.
Rose Mary | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:22:26 AM |
Do you hear that??? It's the sound of his butt bouncing off the curb. You deserve much better than that.
Yep...man's keeping his options open at a minimum. Obviously you two are "singing different songs". | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:36:40 AM | First off, I am sorry to hear that this happened to you.
Second, I would agree with the vast majority of the posters about your situation.
Third, since I really can't add much on what might want to do with this relationship the only other bit I can think of is what to tell him as a parting thought:
Tell him you just came back from the Dr.'s office...Amazingly, it turns out that you are pregnant.
...With twins
...and he is the father. 
OK, OK. You really can't say that, but you can certainly think it (at least till you get over the guy) and visualize the look on his face. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:44:11 AM | Hummm....... How would you like to put your profile back on POF, send your Roses to some gorgeous man and go for some dates. Don't worry about him, he is just another one of those common blocks that uses women as soft landing or back ups, while they live in their genitals... kick him out your bed and keep him at arms length... Too bad, His lost...you gain!  | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:45:59 AM | David there is a huge difference between openly keeping your profile hidden to participate in the forums and keep up with friends and someone that is sending inappropriate e-mails. And you notice that I said inappropriate. I e-mail and others e-mail me when either or both of us are in a relationship because it is a friendly hello from a forum post or maybe we know that person has a child that is going through things similar to our own or whatever. We are not sending roses to each other, although the occasional virtual gift does show up in my inbox.
This man has been deceitful, and as previously noted, either wants to get caught or is totally dumb as a fence post, and while he claims forums and or whatever is obviously sending e-mails that are outside the bounds of platonic friendship. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2008 10:47:55 AM | | I am an avid believer in the dump him theory. I was dating a guy that I knew from "the real world" and he told me he had a profile here- and he never blocked it and continued to email etc etc. It's my opinion that you take down a profile if you are seeing someone exclusivly. I don't even just hide mine if I am exclusive with someone. The thing I hate about internet dating is that you don't know if the other one is still looking or not, you never know who might just come along. I have been burned that way before- and have no intention of doing so again. It's not a jealousy issue in my book- it's a trust issue- and if your guy is conversing online with other women- then he is not all that committed to you. words are just that, Words- and I love you can flow just way too easily from most peoples mouths. Good luck | |
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