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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/16/2008 7:48:50 PM | | Very interesting. I am same issue only in reverse role. I too am thinking of breaking up with her as a result. I know that she has had some bad relationships that ended three marriages. I know It may not be me but her own mental instability. even that said - how long should I wait? I am no spring chicken. At 45, 6 months is a long time. She feels that by saying she loves me it means marriage is imminent. Not so. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:08:55 PM | "SuperMum" there is a thread from a guy going on right now with almost the same question as your's... maybe you'll get some insight from it as well.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts9545004.aspx
Best ~Wishes~ to you both! | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:11:14 PM | What women don't know is that when men fall in love, they do it very quickly.
If your man doesn't care for you and doesn't treat you well when you are with him, you cannot expect any better from that point onward.
Same goes for women. If you are in a relationship with a woman, and she doesn't love you after a certain point of time, pick up your ball and bat, and go home. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/17/2008 12:55:14 PM | move along.
lol, i am a fairly spontaneous gemini and i fall in love real easy. i cannot even imagine how you can have a relationship with someone for that long and not know if you are in love. but no matter what i have a feeling if you stay and keep pressing you'll be just fighting a losing battle, which in itself might be kinda fun if you're into drama and may get some good sex out of it still, but otherwise, move on, seriously.
one more thing, even if i dont fall in love right away and i do get in a relationship, i can pretty much tell with 100% accuracy if "I WILL" or "WILL NOT" fall in love with this person in the future after a relatively short time because i know myself well enough to predict that.
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 2:53:29 PM | Hahahaha...well, then, bobafett777, since I'm a Scorpio, I guess it's not always "love" I'm feeling. But I fall almost as easily.
Yes, it's easy to be hopeful and fool yourself into thinking it's "love," but take a step back and perhaps you'll see, as bobafett777 pointed out, that you can figure out whether there's a chance of the relationship surviving longer than the first blush of crush.
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 4:53:19 PM | | Good point, I agree. Some people are slower than others, but heck, 6 months is a long time. But you can't make somebody feel what they don't feel, moving on may be the best move, although pretty hard to make if you really care. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 5:05:46 PM | | he could fall in love at first sight, he could takes a few days, or weeks or whatever..... it's up to him on how he really feels. One told me he was falling for me, next thing I knew a week later ....... where'd he go??? oh well I gave up and said "oh time will tell on his own time when he's really ready!" | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:50:59 AM | i was told a man knows within the first 2 months how he feels, my stepfather fell in love with my mother after 2 months and vise versa,15 years on and still together.
Me on the other hand,very unlucky in love, im a cancerian and wear my heart on my sleave, i know within a few weeks how i feel about a person and if i can see the relashionship developing, ive been with my boyfriend 9 months now, i fell for him pretty quick but ive never told him 'i love him',ive said that 'i love the bones off you' and ive had 'i think the world of you' but no'i love you',are we supposed to wait for the man or should we step up first?when hes with me he acts like he loves me, gazing adoringly,cuddling so tight it cuts off my blood supply,but when were not together its like out of sight out of mind and i get so paranoid,not sure if i should wait another 9 months or just end it like you supermum,if he does love me then he will fight for me.
All the best to all those genuine people out there looking for something special,hope you find it,or it finds you. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:59:16 AM | | I have had men fall in love with me right away and the have had a few that it took a while. Love is a big thing and I dont take it lightly. So many times you can think you are in love and come to find out it was just infatuation or something | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 3/21/2008 8:18:23 AM | | In my own experience, men fall pretty quickly, but I am just preparing to be the bridesmaid for my friend who is getting married this summer, and she said it took them about 6 months before they were committed, and they didn't really see each other that much in the beginning, but it all worked out, so I guess it can happen. He was very cautious. She is very patient. I'm not sure that this means he didn't fall for her sooner. But certainly the relationship didn't progress very quickly at first. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/21/2008 9:19:13 PM | I agree that love doesn't have a timetable. But there has to be a spark to light the fire early on in the relationship. And if he hadn't started to "burn" before 6 months, you did the right thing and moved on before you became to emotionally involved and you would have gotten hurt. Neither do I think that it takes a man longer to fall in love the feeling is just there or it isn't and that goes for women as well as men.  | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/21/2008 9:35:09 PM | Infatuation lasts from 18 months to 3 years. Love comes after that, if at all.
But, yeah, if you're not feeling crazy about someone you're with for 6 months, I wouldn't think it's ever going to happen. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:26:25 PM | -What is a realisic length of time for a man to decide if you might be the one?-
I guess its just part of my condition, but I can love someone and not be "In love" with them. I have found that some times it can take a few hours to fall for a lady, but those relationships were usualy very short and bad.
On the other hand it once took me 6months before I even tried to kiss a girl I was with. How long did that one last? let me put it this way. we are still good friends after 13 years and I lover her as much as I did the day we broke up. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:40:33 PM | ~OT~ Hmmm. I don't think my exhusband truly ever fell in love with me, or anyone else for that matter. I'm certain today that I wasn't in-love enough to be married to him for as long as we were, but that is ancient history now. Since him? I fell in love the very same moment "he" did, maybe moment number 5, or close to that. It was magical.  I don't expect that to happen again, but you never know.  | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:50:01 PM | Well, I guess that throws out the whole "not what I say, but what I do" philosophy eh?
Sad that people still insist on that validation, and end up tossing what coulda been a perfect match just 'cause they didn't hear those "magic words".
I guess showing someone that you care just ain't enough for people with this hangup of having to hear it huh?
So sad. Their loss I suppose. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:33:05 AM | | It's happened to me twice in my life. I'm good for that about every 15 years or so......................and it happened the moment I laid eyes on her. At the rate I'm going, it should happen again when I'm 59. Damn.......................I gotta do another 13 years. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:55:24 AM | | 6 months is a fairly long time to get to know someone. I don't see how he can still be undecided after 6 months. Worst case scenario could be that he is still undecided even though you've been together for over a year... If I were in your position I would've considered leaving him 3 months ago but thats my personal opinion. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/23/2008 3:34:53 AM | | Sorry OP but are you saying that every guy you've dated has fallen in love with you? OMG I didn't think that was possible. I have only fallen in love "once" in my lifetime and that was with the man I married. And now you're worried because this guy hasn't said he's in love with you. So maybe he isn't and that shouldn't be a problem. Why can't he just love you for now? You seem really needy like you need the guy to be "in love with you" otherwise you think something is wrong. | |
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| How long does it take men to fall in love?
Posted: 8/23/2008 3:40:39 AM | | well if a guy said tht he loved me after a month i wd think it was a bit wierd six minths is ok i shd think about a year, but why bother with omg does he love me some people dont like saying the l word | |
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