| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/14/2008 9:29:10 AM | If the woman does it subtly, of course. The best way is to have a girlfriend ask you to approach her. That shows tact and does not change the roles. It's an "invitation to ask". The woman simply has her girlfriend mention to you, discreetly, that her friend would like to meet you. Then you just stroll over knowing that your attempt will be received warmly.
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:22:00 AM | A lot of guys shy away when there are approached .......Have noticed that in clubs...It's like if they were interested in you and then you approached them that's ok ..... | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 10:35:44 AM | Sure guys do. Look at most of the women on POF profiles, alot say they want a confident man. Why wouldn't the same be for men. Women worked for so long to be viewed as equals to man so take the initiative sometimes. I don't want a doormat in a relationship just as you women don't want one either. Just don't take it overboard. I have had a woman that was just "smoking" hot that came up to me and grabbed my "member" and said that I was going home with her, (I think she drank me sexy ) I just told her to keep walking, not in that nice of words though. Now if we had talked and gotten to comfortable around each other, I most likely would have. But alas that was years ago, now I'm just trying to find that one. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/14/2008 11:02:35 AM | It's extremely flattering and shows that the women has confidence which I find very sexy.
However, after the initial opening line (or compliment) the women gives, the man should be able to return with the same show of confidence. You know, have the wit, charm or personality to keep a steady stream of interesting conversations going and see where it leads.......... | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/14/2008 11:04:38 AM | | Its been done but it bears repeating... men, at least those who have a mind set beyond that of 1901, would very much enjoy the woman making the first move. Takes all the pressure of of us. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 11:28:14 AM | | I have to agree with nost of the posts. It's no different than a woman being approached by a man. Everyone loves to think they are attractive to the opposite sex! It's just human to want to be wanted! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:10:47 PM | sinmage82z wrote: Just don't take it overboard.
I have had a woman that was just "smoking" hot that
(who) came up to me and grabbed my "member" and
said that I was going home with her, (I think she drank
me sexy) I just told her to keep walking, not in that
nice of words though.
Good point. A woman who might have an excellent shot
can mess things up if she doesn't hit on the man smoothly,
skillfully and in harmony with instinctive femininity.
The natural female role in courtship is more passive
(enticing and baiting the male into taking action, and
following his lead) than deciding for him what he wants
and then trying to muscle him into it. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/15/2008 3:41:47 PM | ^^^^ You're so right and I try to have something
about me that gives her something to say.
The person who approaches bears the risk of rejection
or looking dumb. Make it easy for her. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 4:06:35 PM | | I'm a very outgoing individual and find myself, more times than not, doing the approaching. I would be absolutlely flattered if I was approached. I think people take it for granted. It's quite a compliment when done properly. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2008 11:14:03 PM | | yeah I mean it's kinda a turn on if a girl just comes up and starts hitting on you, I mean it makes things easier for this, but I don't rely on that. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/16/2008 1:52:22 AM | | I know I sure do, that is a good indication that there is or might be mutual interest. Also saves me from the devastation of being rejected by approaching her first, as I have been in the past a few times. So, sure, we love to be approached first, go for it ladies. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 2:32:58 AM | A lot of guys shy away when there are approached .......Have noticed that in clubs...It's like if they were interested in you and then you approached them that's ok .....
Probably because you're smoking hot and they had no clue how to react. :)
Ladies, men LOVE it when you approach them. It's a no-brainer. What men don't like is when it's presented in a format that states you've made your choice, their desires are mute/irrelevant, and they should thank the Angels in Heaven that you showed fit to notice them.
The last one that tried that with me was out with her daughter and I made a fairly good production of giving the daughter my attention, and not her. I'm not overly proud of it - but it made the night entertaining. ;) | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/16/2008 7:07:42 AM |
mcbobly wrote: Also saves me from the devastation
of being rejected by approaching her first, as I have
been in the past a few times.
I've seen many times after a man or woman has been
harshly rejected they upgrade their approach technique
and go on to amazing success, so it may not be you that's
being rejected, but the way you're doing it. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 9:52:00 AM | | sometimes i like when women approach me in person because its basically telling me their interested in geting busy. sometimes i get a little shy when they approach me. i really like getting e-mail from women on this site first, especially when they compliment you or your profile, thats like an online booty call....lol | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/16/2008 10:03:38 AM | | I like it if a woman inititates contact, if your interested in someone you should express it and let them know | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/16/2008 10:23:54 AM | It depends on what level of person you're approaching.
If the man is a catch and is used to attractive women hitting on him,
then doing the same thing the last 30 ladies did may not work to your
best advantage in that situation.
But if you act like you're not quite sure about him yet, you'll stand out
from the crowd and create a question in his mind (about you) that
he must have the answer to but you don't completely give him. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 10:29:03 AM |
Not sure if this has been done yet, new to the site, but thought I'd ask: do men (when out in a social atmosphere) like it when confident women come hit on them? Is it a turn-on or do they like the chase?
Agressive women = Confident. Knows what she wants.
Overly aggressive women = Desperate.
Thats how I see it.
In other words, nothing wrong with initiating a conversation. Just be subtle about it. Let him know you're interested, but leave it at that. Put the ball in his court. Don't throw yourself at a guy. Odds are if you do, he'll lose respect for you, or worse yet, be turned off(Unless he's desperate, then he'll be all over you).
In a social setting to me, though, it's a turnoff. Especially if it's overly aggressive. I'll give you the cold shoulder instantly, and want to get away from you ASAP. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2008 10:43:39 AM | the zipp does, the zipp loves it, especially sex when some bird just wants the zipp doooonage. going to knock one out now.. laterz
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/17/2008 2:50:05 PM | It has happened to me on more than one occasion, but I was married and it was always for the wrong reasons, it's flattering to a certain degree, but when your wearing a wedding band it's not something that I respect under that circumstance.
Now that I'm not married, I wouldn't have an issue as long as it's not done aggressively with only 1 thing in mind. If she can initiate a conversation, I wouldn't refuse, that would be unkind and unsocial. | |
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