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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/17/2008 3:07:29 PM | | Too funny - I love being approached first..I do love the chase, but confidence and independence are very attractive characteristics... | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/19/2008 11:47:12 AM |
mcbobly wrote: Also saves me from the devastation
of being rejected by approaching her first, as I have
been in the past a few times.
I've seen many times after a man or woman has been
harshly rejected they upgrade their approach technique
and go on to amazing success, so it may not be you that's
being rejected, but the way you're doing it.
Maybe, but I always try to do it tactfully and try not to come across as an arrogant a$$ or rudely, possibly I have been out of the "loop" too long to remember exactly how it's done...LOL. Either way, I will continue from time to time and maybe try to brush up on the ol skills. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:12:01 PM | Most guys by nature don't hadle rejection very well, so a guy might wait for some kind of sign that a woman is interested before he will make his interest known to her.
So you confident ladies , if you are interested in a guy...let him know., he most likely already noticed you and just trying to get some kind of "sign' that you are interested, and what can be more to the point then you approaching him straight on. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:55:35 PM | Knowing how hard it is to approach a stranger you find attractive, I very much appreciate and respect a woman who has the wherewithall to come up and say hello. Shows spunk and a healthy dose of self respect. Of course tho, when its a drunken 300 lb woman  who sees me in a bar and wants to rub my bald head, I think Id prefer her to be a wallflower...lol | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:18:19 PM | i always say: "give em a chance to say no" its better than wondering (coulda woulda shoulda). there are some congenially talented women out there with some great pick up/approach lines. sometimes im left standing there wondering,
-just who's doing the hittin on?  | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 6:34:26 PM | I love it. It takes some of the guesswork out for the man. I'd never turn down a lady who asked for a dance, either. I've been on the other foot over the years, and I'd find it a compliment. Thanks...nakde  | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/23/2008 4:57:06 AM | Yes, they do. Some don't for whatever reason but I think a lot of guys wouldn't mind it. It takes a lot of pressure off of the guy.
Unless he's not into her and he has to be the one to give out the fake phone number or pray his buddies come rescue him. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/27/2008 12:45:13 PM | | I love it. It takes the edge off the situation. I think more woman should try this. they may even find there lifetime mate in the process | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/27/2008 1:11:34 PM | | Hmmmm... I must say I just don't do that anymore. Did when I was younger yes but now I would never approach a man. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/27/2008 2:03:21 PM | | I wouldn't mind having a woman approach me first. Some men are a little shy and I think that would help take the edge off of them. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 2:28:30 PM | | It has happened to me on two different times if am not mistaken and believe me I like it. It shouldnt be Guys alone, If a girl like or fancy a guy she should standup and go for him. Gone are the days where guys alone make the first move. (we're in a western world). | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 2:54:01 PM | | Most men I've met like a confident woman who is comfortable with initiating contact. Note: That means eye contact, a smile, a hello I'm Kat, ect..... It does not mean hands on any part of their anatomy. There is contact and then there is drunken assault. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:22:36 PM | | I have to say it doesnt really happen much, esp with the attitudes of most of the girls in the northern NJ area. Problem is when a girl goes out she gets hit on by about 20 guys as it is, so not likely she is going to make a move on some guy. But yeah, it is flattering sometimes.....;-) | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 3:23:29 PM | Oh my God, OP, do not approach men first if you want anything other than a one night stand. I don't care how much men tell you they like a woman to approach them, really they are leaving out what comes after that. After that they take her for granted and assume they've already got her interest so why try very hard to get her to like them.
The great thing about being pursued by men is that they try to put their best foot forward. You have to make them wonder if they are succeeding with you long enough for the relationship to be on that footing, where they are valuing you enough to bother being their best self around you. After that you can be free with your affection towards them, but first they have to feel like they need to achieve your approval if you want to really be valued in that relationship EVER.
So of course they will say they prefer you approach them. That just means they prefer a sure thing, which is what they will assume you are. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 3:27:46 PM | | Im going to disagree with the above post, I dont think a girl coming up to me signals a one way ticket to sex town. Maybe if a girl walked up to you and said something like, "hey, you are really cute, wanna make out in the bathroom?" would I assume that. Any general question my way I would take as a sign to continue conversation, nothing more then if I said something to you first and you smiled. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:33:23 PM | Yes. I like to be approched first.
If you try to manipulate my feelings by holding back, I'll see through that tactic pretty quickly. I'm too old for such nonsense!
It's refreshing when a woman is confident enough to express her honest interest in me. That immediately earns my respect. I approach women with the same intention. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2008 6:41:36 PM |
Oh my God, OP, do not approach men first if you want anything other than a one night stand. I don't care how much men tell you they like a woman to approach them, really they are leaving out what comes after that ... of course they will say they prefer you approach them. That just means they prefer a sure thing
Can you say "bitter and sexist" boys and girls? I knew you could.
Really, as most of the posts have indicated, making the first approach just shows confidence, which is a very attractive trait. Besides, who doesn't appreciate it when somebody else decides they're worth approaching?
There is another factor, too: if a man is extremely shy, as some of us are, a woman making the first approach is the only way any approach will ever be made. | |
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