| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:09:10 AM | | Well I appreciate the responses. The bottom line is, I'm a responsible ADULT, and the other guy isn't. Also, all you people talking about my profile is wonderful, but you're detracting from the discussion. I am not married, and if I want to drop my current lady and go for someone better, it is my prerogative. I asked for judgment on why the girl would pick someone who clearly never grew up over someone like me who has a previous entire marriage under my experience belt, I didn't ask to be judged. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:15:46 AM |
I asked for judgment on why the girl would pick someone who clearly never grew up over someone like me who has a previous entire marriage under my experience belt, I didn't ask to be judged.
The absurdity of that statement is probably lost on you. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:27:19 AM |
I asked for judgment on why the girl would pick someone who clearly never grew up over someone like me who has a previous entire marriage under my experience belt, I didn't ask to be judged.
Perhaps you should re read the answers and you will get your answer. Not a single person sees it as you do. Everyone else seems to see it in a similar way. If the big thing that you have to offer is a previous marriage experience then you have not much to offer. That is the judgement. One reason that she may not be interested is the fact that you can't respect her desicion to not be interested in you. Judgement on why she would not pick you. You sound like a complete loser.
Perhaps you should look into your bucket and see what it is that he brings to the table that you do not. Perhaps you should ask yourself why the best thing that you have to bring to the table is that you have been married. This does not make you a catch. Perhaps you should ask yourself why you feel it is acceptable to try and get a woman that is in a relationship to leave it, or cheat. It says alot about your character! | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:56:22 AM | You could be writing about one of my good friends.
You can't convince her to leave a loser even if you had a power point presentation and the testimony of psychologists on your side. The sex could be bad, he could be mean to her, and it still wouldn't matter. She has to make her own decisions and bear the consequences of them. I suggest you find someone who appreciates what YOU have. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:59:41 AM | Having a previous marriage does not in any way make you have more to offer. I would say that it is something that counts against you.You have a failed marriage in your past so it's not like that is a good thing.You currently have a girlfriend who in all likelihood has no idea that she could be dumped at a moments notice for someone better.I wonder if she knows she is just being used for convenient sex?
You are not a catch and your grass is not greener then this other guy.Oh yeah you sound like a real gem of a guy.If you even were to get this other girl i wonder how long it would be until you wanted to trade her in for something better? | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:11:17 AM |
I asked for judgment on why the girl would pick someone who clearly never grew up over someone like me who has a previous entire marriage under my experience belt, I didn't ask to be judged.
Ohhhhh, now I get it....oh ho, dopey me...you want all of us to JUDGE HER, but not JUDGE YOU. Well, that changes everything. I'll try again...
I JUDGE her to be a brilliant lady, who obviously knows and appreciates what she has or wants in life. I JUDGE her to be a devoteful human being, who has stamina and integrity when in a relationship. I JUDGE her to have a sincere knack of knowing who is and who isn't a loser.
OK, judgement time is over...
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:19:50 AM | | could be alot of things as pointed out earlier..it could be something simple such as..she's not interested in you period..she could just love the guy and dont really care if he has no job etc..maybe she has absolutely no problem supporting him and paying for stuff for him..different women like differnet things.. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:22:29 AM | Just to clarify...
Why would you date a guy like this?
Doesn't mean:
1) Why am I wanting to see a girl already in a relationship?
2) Why am I putting this and that on my profile?
3) Am I a loser?
And a note to the other poster on absurdity... I asked for forum-feedback on her actions, not my own. Otherwise, I wouldn't have posted this in "Ask a Girl". Either way it seems I should move on, whether that be because I am a "loser" for going after a girl in another relationship, or because she is just a loser herself for having bad taste in men. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:41:49 AM | You got feed back on her actions. Repeatedly. You simply refuse to hear (read ) it. You simply want to hear what you want to hear,that she is a loser for not wanting you.
You are a joke.
Just to confirm, you have just called this woman a loser because she declined your offer to break up with here boyfriend and take up with you. Oh please!! | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 11:01:53 AM |
Why would you date a guy like this?
Because he might have things you lack?
Such as a great personality, wit, smarts?
Believe it or not, not all women are after a man's money, and this girl is obviously one of them. Move on and find yourself the materialistic b*tch you're apparently longing for. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 11:07:39 AM | canam miles:
Whether or not I have or haven't read and/or heard anything isn't something you can judge based on my scant responses. I have absorbed everything that everyone has said and decided to move on with things, or did you not read what I recently wrote?
As far as the feedback, it all amounts to:
1) He's good in bed.
2) She truly loves him.
Also, as far as me being a joke, if I had come on here whining because I was jobless and living at home and nobody wanted to date me, exactly how many people do you think would be scrambling to feed me and do what couples do? | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 2:33:52 PM |
The bottom line is, I'm a responsible ADULT, and the other guy isn't.
This is one of your scant responses. You have not absorbed everything that has beensaid because you still think that YOU a responsible adult and he is not so she should run into your waiting arms. Obviously you still do not understand that she must see more in him than you do.
As far as the feedback, it all amounts to:
1) He's good in bed.
2) She truly loves him.
Yet another example of you not getting it. He is good in bed. Something that she feels he has over you. More importantly she truly loves him. She TRULY loves him. WTF else do you need to hear. The reasons are unimportant beyond that.
Also, as far as me being a joke, if I had come on here whining because I was jobless and living at home and nobody wanted to date me, exactly how many people do you think would be scrambling to feed me and do what couples do?
First of all I don't hear him whining. Nor do I hear her whining. The only whining about the issue that I hear is you. But to answer your question about who would feed you and do what couples do? Apparently her.
Absorb this, You have displayed no positive qualities that would persuade her to leave her boyfriend. As evidenced by her not leaving. Instead of walking away like an adult you have chosen to whine about it and bash her on this forum. What she sees in this guy is not your business. Instead of trashing him, you would be better served trying to improve yourself. You are correct. You did not ask to be judged. You asked us to judge her. The universal judgement upto this point has been that she has the right to her perogative, just like you defended yours about leaving your current woman for another. You are a fool to believe that you can just announce some outlandish behaviour and that no one will comment on it. What you asked for is what you got. The judgement is that you were wrong and out of line. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 3:00:36 PM | Maybe she won't leave her partner because you are so arrogant and up your own a$$..? Why on earth would she find that attractive in a man..?
Maybe she sees what we all see and is just too polite to tell you..?
Maybe she does'nt want you, because if you are prepared to cheat on your current gf.. then you will cheat on her ( you know - when that grass gets greener on the other side..)
Maybe because she is feeding one guy with food.. she is'nt prepared to feed another one his ego food..
All these points to consider.. but the main one is you are here looking for people to tell you how wrong she is and what a great catch you sound, because you have been rejected by someone and you can't bear it...!!!! BOO HOO poor you - I wish i knew her.. cos i would shake her by the hand...!! SHE ROCKS  | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 5:22:58 PM |
I have this girl I'm attracted to, but I have a bit of a problem. The man she currently sees has no steady job, no money, and still lives with his parents. She told me she even pays for his dinner when she picks him up, but she won't go out with me, a reasonably successful customer service rep who was married once before because in her words she is "into him".
You answered your own question.. she's SEEING someone. OFF LIMITS. If she is involved and is "into him" then she won't even see you that way and you will end up just irritating her. She isn't going out with you because she just isn't that "into you", and she basically spelled it out for ya.
There is no way in hell to change her mind, about him, about you... nor should you. Find an unattached woman and try again
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 5:51:31 PM | | well to some women money doesn't matter....hes not a loser for this....its the connection she shares with him...is it that hard to understand.??..or if it baffles you that much just ask her why in details she likes him so much | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 6:38:52 PM |
Because he might have things you lack?
Such as a great personality, wit, smarts? Or be finishing up a degree that will pan out decent wages later. Or maybe he takes care of his parents depending on how old they are. Or maybe he just went through a terrible breakup and he's in a transition period where he'll re-establish himself.
One of my bestest friends ever has no job, doesn't drive, but is a student. He amazes me with how intelligent he is and creative. Despite his situation, he will get to where he needs to be soon and be a catch. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:24:05 PM |
Also, all you people talking about my profile is wonderful, but you're detracting from the discussion I am not married, and if I want to drop my current lady and go for someone better, it is my prerogative.
Oh boy! LOL ... OP, If I were a guy, I would be trying to find your girlfriend right now, so that I could pursue her, show her what greener grass is out there, like a person who will either commit or break up before he goes to look for someone else. Karma is a b1tch! Hopefully your girl will realize you're looking for greener grass and will dump you. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:33:00 PM | Perhaps I needs a translator...............if she has a man in her life...annnnnnnd...you want to be with her......annnnnnnnnnnd.......she is spending some time with you.....annnnnnnnnnnd...... you are trying to get her away from the POS she is with.........isn't that cheating?
Am I confused or do I have this figured out? | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:51:15 PM | No one can force another to do anything they do not wish to do.....then it becomes CONTROL...and Lord knows there's enough of that goin' on in this world.
She has given you her answer....now show R-E-S-P-E-C-T please. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:03:03 PM | well I'm a dude and of course I won't date a guy like that. Duh. But if it was me and I was in love with a that was like the "bad guy" w/o a job etc, I'd probably still date her.
#1-I'm in love no one is going to change that
#2- So what no job sooner or later she will then again if I make enough who cares
#3-I'm in love
What part of love don't you get. Money isn't everything. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:12:33 PM |
A smart man who brags that he knows all this shit...would not be single. Bottom line.
"The path of intelligence and wisdom is often a lonely path" All because your smart doe snot mean young girls come flocking to you. I'm what many girls call an intelligent guy despite the factthat my typing sucks from time to time. But because i'm intelligent i mostly get along with and see eye to eye with woman who are older then me. Women my age and younger have told me they cannot have a conversation with me because they feel stupid, or scare dto say something and feel stupid, or just plain intimidated. | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/16/2008 2:23:25 AM |
Well I appreciate the responses. The bottom line is, I'm a responsible ADULT, and the other guy isn't. Also, all you people talking about my profile is wonderful, but you're detracting from the discussion. I am not married, and if I want to drop my current lady and go for someone better, it is my prerogative. I asked for judgment on why the girl would pick someone who clearly never grew up over someone like me who has a previous entire marriage under my experience belt, I didn't ask to be judged.
wow..... | |
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| Why would you date a guy like this?
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:27:17 AM | | OK, so you are not married, but you are involved and looking over the fence. You say you have a previous entire marriage under your experience belt. NO YOU DON'T! Because if you have an ENTIRE marriage under your belt and knew what to do.............you would still be in it............an entire marriage is start to death , a failed marriage is what you have..........as it is, you are about to have two failed relationships under your belt. Did the marriage end for the same reason this relationship is about to fold?!?!?!?!? The guy she is with may be broke but at least he is trying to cheat. | |
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