| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/18/2008 4:31:52 PM | cabnsyrah,
Well then don't go picking fights if you don't want them. I guess I could go into your profile and make it a personal issue too if you have no problem with it. Would you like me to do that ? Probably not, so maybe that's something for you to remember the next time you want to start an argument by attacking another forum poster using his/her profile content.
Anyway, yes, it's always possible he could be lying about his income. He could be lying about any number of things. Same with her for all we know. Of course, the whole point is that we don't know.
Simply put, if she wants to go and meet him, then she should make arrangements herself and assume any costs. If he's a gentleman than he'll cover at least half the expenses. Personally, I figure if she feels that strongly about meeting him then she should. Frankly, I'd think if things are as the OP describes then he should get busy making plans to meet as well. | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/18/2008 4:46:26 PM | Actually, you started "attacking" (if you want to be sensitive about it) with this:
I can't believe some of the silly responses I see here.
God, I hate that "trust your gut" nonsense. Why don't people ever suggest that others trust their brains instead of the organ in charge of creating shit ?
I thought it was a little harsh and made reference to that opinion. Sorry your feelings got hurt. At least we agree about some aspects of the ACTUAL TOPIC OF THIS THREAD, one of which that the OP's guy might be hiding something. | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/19/2008 1:43:46 AM | | You made a excellent point, when you reference hidden agendas. So many of people who try to be real in these forums are often taken as deceitful con-artist. Now, on the other the hand there are those of us like myself are bring straight. I guess what my point is that it takes two for the relationship to flourish. I don't think anyones opinion should be attacked. | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:35:00 AM | | I think he is UNAVAILABLE for anything outside of e-mailing at night. I do not think the ingredients are right for a long-term relationship, however, if you want a pen pal, keep writing! | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/19/2008 11:40:08 AM | i say push to meet and don't be ok with it unless it happens, you want more than an online romance..... don't we all. it sounds like he isn't ready...... who knows why, wife won't let him, money, job, whatever, all excuses. if it is not OK with you move on or stop complaining. you decide what you get out of this online romance and if it's not enough, time to move on.
good luck | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/19/2008 11:49:02 AM | | My input would be... You have your own mind, be safe and careful, if it feels good for you then go with it, any worries then you dont meet. Go with your instincts, your a grown up, if it goes wrong.... you have tried, if it goes just fine, then its great for you. Hope my input helps a little. xxx | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 3/19/2008 10:00:31 PM | Just wanted to thank everyone for all of your input , and the banter on this . Yes, Luck, I guess I AM a glutton for punishment. !!! I dont seem to EVER do things the easy way!!...... and it probably IS rather crazy to be developing relationship so far away. For some reason, I simply have not met many men that live closer that I am that interested in, and I dont tend to meet men in my everyday life offline. Now, before you think that sounds absurd , do check out the population of Montana and how close more populated areas are from one another!!!
I dont really know where to begin to respond to all of the comments here............ To those that warn of the dangers and the pitfalls of long distance relationships...... I DO understand those. This isnt the first time I have found myself communicating across the miles....though this time it IS much further. And yes , I have done some traveling to spend time with someone. ( I would certainly do that again if it were the only way to meet)
All in all, I guess that I am probably going to have to be patient with this one and am appreciative of the encouragement from some of you in doing that.... Thank you! | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 4/9/2008 3:17:57 PM | UPDATE: I recently posted on this thread about my situation which is similar to yours. I have been talking with someone on the other side of the planet for a year now, and have been making plans, then changing them and trying to meet her. I wanted to let you all know that it finally happened, and I flew for 36 hours and we finally got to meet in person. We had a wonderful time, and got each other promise rings, and are now talking about a finace visa. You think 1400 miles is hard ? try 14,000 miles !! If you really like each other, why let distance be a problem, just keep in mind one of you has to relocate if it works out.
Our divorce rate is 50-70% depending n what state you live in. Why settle for "good enough" just because someone lives close to you, then become part of that statistic ? If you found someone who you are truly compatible with, and one of you is willing to relocate, then why not give it a shot ? you only live once !! make the best of it !!  | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:29:00 PM | | I'm thinking 35 miles to meet someone is about the reasonable limit. 1,400 is just incomprehensible. There are a million people one could get involved with in one's own area (execpt around here where women don't respond) and you're looking for someone that far away? Yow. | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 4/12/2008 7:33:08 PM | | who decided may or june? if he is saying it may be then than I would wait till May gets here then try to get a definate answer. he may have good reasons for putting it off till then, if he said may or june he must have areason for thinking thats when he can make it. if may or june gets here and he decides to say well, how about july or august then I would start pushing | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 4/12/2008 7:52:17 PM | | first, I'm not trying to be rude or mean to anyone in here but what the hell are you telling this women? go there? by herself? are you people nuts? I don't care how much you talk to anyone online you still don't know what kind of guy he is. You all talk about him being married like that could be the worst thing possible. Hey, this guy could be a rapist, murderer, psyco, anything or he could be a decent guy. Never would I tell a woman to go see a guy. I don't care how long they've talked. I would suggest she take a friend with her and try to meet at a motel half way between him and her or him coming to her where she would feel safer and would have friends or someone come by once in awhile to check on her. | |
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| push to meet or be ok with it??
Posted: 4/13/2008 3:21:13 AM | | My mother and her husband have been happily married for more than 15 yrs. The first year or so they were on separate continents. (Her in Canada - Him in UK) Long distance relationships are possible, but they present difficulties. | |
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