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| So Freakin' Fugly...
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:49:05 AM | | I'm so hideously ugly that when I walked past the Elephant Man at his sideshow at the circus, I heard him audibly gasp in horror. | |
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| So Freakin' Fugly...What's a person to do?
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:02:14 AM | LMAO...Aren't we a pitiful bunch? We have bulges and pooches in the wrong places, we have wrinkles, we have grey hair, thinning hair, or sometimes no hair at all, we have aches and pains, we don't seem to know how to dress, we are dysfuntional daters, and on top of it all, we (who are communicating via computer) are told we are technophobic.
Jeepers! Isn't it nice that age has given us the confidence to roll with the flow and just keep on keepin' on? | |
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| So Freakin' Fugly...What's a person to do?
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:24:07 AM |
and on top of it all, we (who are communicating via computer) are told we are technophobic. 
Now them are fightin' words, Pazoozoo [absolutely adore that moniker]. [Head spins, pea soup vomits...] | |
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| So Freakin' Fugly...What's a person to do?
Posted: 3/17/2008 12:36:55 PM | | If it bothers you that much check out some plastic surgeons. You can always charge it ..I've seen women look 15 years younger with a little pull and tuck. | |
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| So Freakin' Fugly...What's a person to do?
Posted: 3/17/2008 4:57:43 PM | | Sure, more lines, bigger pores, little jowls starting. But I'm still happier with my looks now than when I was younger! I guess I just learned to like myself. I attract more men too! Go Figure!!! | |
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| So Freakin' Fugly...What's a person to do?
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:18:15 PM | OP, yeah, I think most of us do worry. I learned at a later age that men were visual--well thank you very much! If that's not added pressure! So now we KNOW the guys really do see when we need to DO--our hair, our nails, our skin--whatever that means!
Such as that could make every last one of us so self conscious that we never come out from our blankies! BUT
THE BEST THING I've learned with being older IS: People don't care what you look like on the most part since they're egoscentric--worried only about what they look like. And here's the good part: Older people don't give a flying hoot. Something SWEET and WONDERFUL happens when you get a little older and wiser. After realizing that no once cares we finally stop worrying--at least that is what I'm hoping for you.
I looked at your profile but forgot to check your age. I suppose by your worries and looks that you're probably not 35 yet  | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:35:34 PM |
I used to look in the mirror and think, not too bad, not a model but ok.
Now I see the wrinkles and grey hair and the pores in my skin are getting bigger
and I realize that I'm starting to get old. I wonder if when people tell me I look
better than my picture if they're lieing or if maybe I'm just too hard on myself.
Is anyone else going through this?
How do you get to the point where you can accept yourself and how you're
ageing at any age? It almost seems like I went from very few lines to hundreds
overnight. I wasn't ready for this to happen and I'm basically freaking out. LOL
Long story short: Yes, you are beautiful, adorable, lovable, still enchanting, and not despite your age but because of it, for each day of each year you have lived added to who you are, to the depth to which your heart can love. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:26:42 PM | I love my miror. I see a nice guy everymoring in it and see experiance and a kind heart in who I see. I have my greys and love em. The smle lines are an addition of caractor and my scares are proof that I have lived. I'd hate to be young now and wondering what life was about and know that I'm in my best years.
K;)
PS: I have a hidden profile............needed a break from all the 18 yr olds wanting me. Pune intended | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 7:35:23 PM | I definately went through this stage, OP, and it got even worse when all these guys said they couldn't be turned on by older women because they were "visual"..... But then I look at the way my 80 year old neighbor looks at his new wife of 81 and sees her as beautiful and passionately kisses her in their hall way..........and the way my other friend in his mid 70's looks at his new wife in her early 70's with such love in his eyes and holds her hand and I realize that there are men who are dependant on women turning them on visually and then there are men who are turned on by the women they fall in love with and guess which relationships LAST? The ones who truly fall in love with their women and see them as beautiful and loveable even though they may look old to others.
Now I embrace getting old..............because I want the kind of guy who is going to love me even when we are in our 70's and 80's! If a guy truly wants a loving caring fun woman, my looking "old" won't keep him from seeing me as beautiful to him. He will still be laughing and having fun with me 20 years from now | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:34:32 PM | am almost 53 and love mirrors more than ever...guess it's just a matter of perspective...
rose.
i posted this on another thread...but it sums it up for me...
age~
let me do it
if not with grace
then with a
smile
no botox injections
nor rearranging my body
making me look
fake
let me honor
who i have
become
gratefully
the wrinkles
are badges
of a life
lived
and the saggy
parts of
my body
makes me chuckle
oh, the babes
that did nurse
and then blossom
into beings
to reach the
pinnacle of life
after the tough
journey up
smiling at
the landscape
the beauty that was
and will be
oh, there are
many years left
to be lived, honored
and loved
let me do it
if not with grace
then with a
smile
r. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:46:42 PM | I agree with a rose. My body is simply a map of where I've been in my life. So far, life has been pretty good! Each scar, and wrinkle is a turning point I wouldn't trade for anything.
Live and Learn | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:12:13 PM | OP - Not to worry. It happens magically. One morning you'll wake up and the mirror's reflection of yourself as a 50-year-old is wonderful. Of course, by the time this occurs, you are over sixty, pining for the face, etc. of a decade past. And trust me, you will. Pine for your appearance at 50, that is. Go find a picture of yourself at 40, when you thought you were really over the hill, if you doubt.
Find a focus and a passion outside yourself, act on it, and you will be considered beautiful by the worthwhile people you meet. It's a waste of your time to worry about how shallow people judge you, if it's only by counting crow's feet. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/18/2008 1:25:08 AM | It's easy for me to look in a mirror when I shave without my glasses on. First, I couldn't see a lion chasing me at ten paces, so when I look in a mirror it makes my face look wrinkle free and brush stroked. Second, I lather up my face so that the only areas of my face that are showing are from my nose up, and sometimes I even lather my nose because it seems too broad to me. Well, that portion that shows, as I said, with my poor eyesight looks wrinkle free and brush stroked.
After the shaving ritual is over, I put my glasses back on, but during the next 24 hours I don't look at myself in any mirror. So the illusion for me is wonderful. What you can't see can't hurt you. lol
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:05:40 AM | I don't call them wrinkles - I call them crinkles. They grew on my face from laughter and smiles, so they make me smile again when I see them. The grey hair is my badge of honour, courage, and humour, that I have lived this long and still enjoy life - as for the pores, try Neutrogena's Pore Refining Toner - it works wonders. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/18/2008 8:45:25 AM | I love those distortion mirrors normally fiound at amusement parks. Depending on the mirror I can shape myself to many configurations... I love being in denial.
Maybre I am strange but, I've always been attracted to mature women who show some sign of aging. As of right now I am totally infactuted with actress Diane Lane. There are a few POF profiles that caught my eye as well.
On the other hand I do not seem to be attracted to women who sunbathe excessively... their appearance as they age doesn't look natural. I have a friend who is 45 yet looks 145 years old (sarcasm but you get my point) because of her years in the sun.
Natural aging can make women look very sensual and very desirable... especially when dressed well. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/18/2008 9:38:54 AM | Most of this thread is about mirrors from the neck up. wrinkles, grey hair, ...
But mirrors provide the really crushing horror stories ... from the neck down!
Is modern medicine really doing us a favor by increasing longevity only to end of with this visual mess? | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/18/2008 11:45:16 AM | There is not much you can do about aging. Having said that there are lots of things you can do to age gracefully.
1. A healthful diet and regular exercise. Helps with wrinkles, sagging buts and arms.
2. Color your hair or have it highlighted. Go to a hair dressing school it is cheaper and they are well supervised.
3. Get regular facials. Go to an aesthetics school it is a lot cheaper and they do a good job.
4. Update your wardrobe. Just because we are aging does not mean we have to be dowdy. try thrift shops and second time around shops.
5. Adopt a different attitude. Age holds wisdom and compassion for others and should hold compassion for yourself. There are many fabulous babes in the media who are over fifty. Opera, Cher, Meral Streep and Barbra Strisand to name a few. Yes the have had a little help
( a few lifts and personal trainers etc.) but it is their attitude that has gotten them to the fabulous babe stage of their lives. All it takes is commitment and faith in yourself.
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/18/2008 1:43:35 PM | | well gold we all gotta age or die, thats the only two choices out there. as to whether people are lying about the pic thats hard to say and is pretty much case by case. some folks lie to you to take advantage or just to being "nice". thing is you were comfortable in your own skin for a while and you can be again. your name pretty much says it all its the heart that counts not the looks. the old parrothead, (ps i have many a gray hair in this old head and many a laugh line under the eyes but its all good. i earned em all) | |
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