| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:39:19 AM | bad bad men,,can we beat this guy anymore? could it be a problem maybe she is causing? If she disagrees with how their personal life is going and continues, is she not as guilty as he? attitude, personal hygene, convenience and many other reasons may play a factor here..
We have not heard from the male so I guess, She who speaks first is without sin?
Sure is easy to gather up the crowd and find a rope for the lynching.
I love you ladies, I truly do and your comments, so many female experts on ED.
My daughter is a MD who deals with ED issues daily and she says to monday morning armchair quarterback this issue is amazing to her.
This is between this man and the OP, not a community issue.
Not happy? simple.. just move on.
problem solved.
Dusty
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| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:50:20 AM | ^^^ Don't you just love these one-sided conversations? There are always two sides to every story.
Plus... you can't always believe everything you see on a forum!! | |
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| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/11/2008 6:37:58 AM | LOL, Dusty your reply made me smile.. really, if this woman (forgot her name) brings all her newfound "knowledge" to this guy,, what then? talk about feeling just a bit intimidated ---doesn't seem like it would bring the desired "results"  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 4:23:33 PM | It sounds to me like a circulation problem which could be cause by diabetes or high blood pressure .the suction action with oral sex assist with blood flow to the penis.
If you may want to have your friend get a full check up. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 6:14:37 AM | All I see here is yet another excuse for a gripe session
- She getting enough sex ,, She gripes about boys who only want ONE thing
- She's not getting any ,, She gripes about being neglected and man shortages
- She's getting some ,, From a 71 year old man,, she still gripes about it being second rate sex.
She doesn't want better sex. She just wants an excuse for a gripe session. | |
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| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:40:28 AM | | It could be he has found her a bit dry. If so, it can feel like sandpaper in there. She should check it out. Maybe her vagina is a bit too atrophied. Perhaps he has some degree of ED, or maybe he just likes oral sex and not intercourse. Perhaps he is simply lazy. Intercourse requires some effort while with oral he just lies there (or whatever) and lets it happen to him. It could be a combination of any of the above. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 9:49:21 PM | Your question: What could the problem be with a 71 year old male who can have an orgasm and ejaculate with oral sex, but not with vaginal sex? The man has difficulty getting an erection; however, with oral stimulation he can get one and maintain it
My answer: Doesn't matter if they're 19 or 90, guys just love to be sucked. Period. Your lips and tongue are the best presents under the Christmas tree. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 10:14:05 PM | Wow, Sunstar, you definitely got things stirred up on this one. Folks are really responding. . . . . which is a good thing!
My observation is fairly simple. Intercourse (regardless of position) required physical effort. The stress of this exertion, no matter how minimal, may be preventing your lover from ejaculating. I am 20 years younger and can tell you that, even in my 30s, I would sometimes be unable to climax during intercourse because of the physical exertion involved. I just plain wore out (and, yes, I do have some physical conditions that contributed to this). I would think this would be very likely in a man of 71, regardless of his desire or general health. Whereas, in the case of oral sex, all he has to do is lay there and allow you to pleasure him.
This makes sense to me. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2008 11:55:30 AM | Maybe the man just isn't attracted to her body..sheesh ask the man not a whole forum what's wrong with him.. I sure wish the man would see her post and respond to it..I bet it would open a few eyes..
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Posted: 6/21/2008 9:20:28 PM | Not having read the entire thread:
IF he returns the BJ (as opposed to saying thank you, and going t sleep)
AND (if it is your preference) learning to be handy with some toys....
What is the problem, exactly? | |
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| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:34:35 PM |
sometimes be unable to climax during intercourse because of the physical exertion involved. I just plain wore out (and, yes, I do have some physical conditions that contributed to this). I would think this would be very likely in a man of 71, regardless of his desire or general health. Whereas, in the case of oral sex, all he has to do is lay there and allow you to pleasure him.
This makes sense to me
If he returns the favor, and she's OK with that, fine. But at various points in the thread the OP added comments that make me think this "relationship" is all about him.
Maybe the man just isn't attracted to her body.. If he is so "unattracted" that he can't perform sexually, except for an act that is about HIS gratification, then why is he even with her?
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shimbo
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Msg: 88 | |
| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:00:48 PM |
If he is so "unattracted" that he can't perform sexually, except for an act that is about HIS gratification, then why is he even with her?
I suspect it's for sex.
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Posted: 6/22/2008 1:28:48 PM | But according to former President Bill Clinton, what they are doing ISN'T SEX
What I've gathered from the OP's posts is that this is some sort of "relationship"(to distinguish it from booty call, FWB,dating or ice dancing) that she and this man are considering themselves as a couple. It's been my experience that a GOOD meaningful romantic relationship has a pretty strong component of the participants finding each other sexually attractive. That means they like each other enough to have regular penile/vaginal contact sex. If this guy finds the OP so unappealing that he can't even HAVE regular sex, why is he with her.
Or are you saying that men with sexual function issues will get involved in a relationship with a woman he detests otherwise, based totally on her willingness to blow him? IMHO a man like that has TRULY "lost his manhood."
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Posted: 6/22/2008 2:03:29 PM |
What could the problem be with a 71 year old male who can have an orgasm and ejaculate with oral sex, but not with vaginal sex? The man has difficulty getting an erection; however, with oral stimulation he can get one and maintain it.
If he can cum from recieving head then it could be he has a bukkake fantasy.
Could the problem with vaginal sex indicate some underlying psychological or sexual problem other than erectyle dysfunction (ED)? It just doesn't make sense to me that it's all due to ED. If it was just that, then it stands to reason that he wouldn't be able to get and maintain an erection orally either. This is very dumbfounding.
Intercourse is probably too boring for him, in other words it's too much work and doesn't have that hot nasty factor that it once had when he was younger. | |
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shimbo
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Msg: 92 | |
| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:22:53 PM | Or are you saying that men with sexual function issues will get involved in a relationship with a woman he detests otherwise, based totally on her willingness to blow him?
Hmm.
Yes?
I'm known men that thought "detesting her" was the best part of it.
IMHO a man like that has TRULY "lost his manhood
That's pretty judgemental considering that he's got a working relationship and many people on PoF don't.  | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 11:16:02 PM | It could be that the guy has a shrunken penis from age, and her uterus has opened a bit from children and age..
he might not get enough friction from penetration to come but can from oral sex because its a tighter grip.
You both might have to get used to differences as you age. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 11:24:56 AM |
That's pretty judgemental considering that he's got a working relationship and many people on PoF don't.
Maybe the "relationship" is "working" for HIM, but it doesn't sound like it's "working " for the OP.
Or is that what YOU think relationships are supposed to be like? All good for one person and the other one is supposed to be grateful for the opportunity to be used?
Get a clue, man.
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 95 | |
| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:38:33 PM | My biggest sexual issue is that as I've aged, it takes longer for me to orgasm. Often I'll be rock-hard for thirty or forty minutes at a time while the woman with me is frantically humping and sucking me while experiencing numerous orgasms. We've tried various techniques like flogging, hot wax, sex toys and the occasional three-some but these only seem to worsen matters, exciting me to even greater size and hardness but prolonging my final orgasm.
I'm open to suggestions (as well as the occasional anal probe!). | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 96 | |
| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:39:18 PM | My biggest sexual issue is that as I've aged, it takes longer for me to orgasm. Often I'll be rock-hard for thirty or forty minutes at a time while the woman with me is frantically humping and sucking me while experiencing numerous orgasms. We've tried various techniques like flogging, hot wax, sex toys and the occasional three-some but these only seem to worsen matters, exciting me to even greater size and hardness but prolonging my final orgasm.
I'm open to suggestions (as well as the occasional anal probe!). | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 2:45:45 PM |
I'm open to suggestions (as well as the occasional anal probe!).
Dude, lay off the weed and the 'shrooms, man. The delusions will subside.
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shimbo
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Msg: 98 | |
| Sexual issues in the older male population
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:14:47 PM |
been my experience that a GOOD meaningful romantic relationship has a pretty strong component of the participants finding each other sexually attractive
Let those among us with a "good relationship" be the first to cast a stone. I'm almost embarrassed to reply to a degradation of someone else's relationship. Although it may seem that this man is simply pumping a hot load of cum into his mate's mouth, I'm sure that throughout the years, he's also pumped the occasional load into other areas. And with the constant re-inforcement of sexual pleasure to her proximity, it's likely that he's developed feelings from what, on the surface, appears to be a simple face-hump.
I'm surely not comfortable berating this relationship because it seems very likely that at least one of the members is enjoying a good time. | |
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