eazk
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Posted: 3/18/2008 1:38:57 AM | Maybe she was just tired of the comments from friends, family, etc., and realized that...while you were great, she is approaching an age where retirement, health issues, etc., are on the horizon and neither wanted to be held down by you nor burden you with taking care of her in her old age.
Your ages create different perspectives on the purpose and value of relationships...and she probably thinks you need to start a family, something she can not give to you.
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Posted: 3/18/2008 1:43:32 AM | | The Sage there is no motive and it has nothing to do with sex but more the point that guys my age group do not want someone the same age and are looking for someone a lot younger.Also experience has shown me that even guys in my age group and older can still behave with complete disrespect and no integrity when i would have thought that they would have outgrown some of this behaviour.I,m not man bashing becos i know not all guys behave this way but just going from personal experience.Misty | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 5:36:43 AM | Maybe she found someone else who could give her more at an emotional/physical/financial level...Maybe she felt she had to act more her own age...Maybe the planets weren't in alignment...Maybe this...Maybe that...Yada...Yada...Yada...Who knows?
Moving right along... | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 7:40:52 AM | | but she was my family,i was very happy with just her | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 7:41:50 AM | | i guess,but i was happy just the way things were....thanks | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 7:44:37 AM | | i hear you some men are pricks but i was and always will be very much a gentleman with any and every lady,i have even met afew cool guy freinds here that say some foul things about woman that i dont agree with | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 8:03:18 AM | Hell man you probably wore the poor lady out | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 8:19:01 AM | whatyourlooking4, in every relationship conflict or event there are three sides to every story, his, hers and the truth. I've got to believe you are leaving something out Here are some questions that need answering:
1. Did you ask her why she was breaking up with you?
2. If yes, how did she respond?
3. If no, why didn't you ask?
4. Have you kept the lines of communications open with her?
5 You said in 6 years you never had a problem, no arguments, everything was hunky dorry. To what do you attribute this remarkable ability to never have a disagreement?
6. Did she say or do you know if there is another man she is interested in? | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 8:21:13 AM | | At some point you just need to stop asking the why question and get on with life. Take comfort in knowing that most relationships(even marriage) don't work out for one reason or another. In the long run, she has her reasons and whether you agree with them, "it don't matter" one person wants out thats all that does matter. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 8:33:44 AM | They are her reason's !
Did you ask her ? or her friend's ?
Sometimes thing's happen in this life that you will never ever find out the real reason why ? If you cannot go back to the way thing's were then you have no choice but to move on with your life !
But you do have those memories of the two of you to-geather and that is a posative. | |
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Snohma
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Joined: 9/10/2007
Msg: 36 | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 3:56:38 PM |
to let the other person have that freedom to explore those possibilities no matter how much it may hurt to let go.Its about caring enough to set them free and let them continue to experience what life has to offer.
It's also depriving them of what YOU have to offer, which may be better to them than anything else they could find out there. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 4:53:17 PM | | Did you run out of money....... | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 9:10:57 PM | Mistyknoll"
The Sage there is no motive and it has nothing to do with sex but more the point that guys my age group do not want someone the same age and are looking for someone a lot younger.Also experience has shown me that even guys in my age group and older can still behave with complete disrespect and no integrity when i would have thought that they would have outgrown some of this behaviour.I,m not man bashing becos i know not all guys behave this way but just going from personal experience.Misty
I don't understand the reason for your critique! I was talking about an older woman throwing over a younger guy. Not about older men wanting younger women. I just mentioned older women wanting younger men. Not older men wanting younger women. That wasn't part of my message.
Are we on the same page? And how did male behavior and disrespect come into the picture?
If you are upset with men wanting younger women, then research the threads and if there isn't one addressing the issue, start one.
Anyway, I appreciate your input even though I feel it is off center. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 1:08:01 AM | | The Sage, my critique was in response to your comment about mature women on the site who set age limits for someone 10-15 years younger and stating that the motive for this must be because sex is better with someone younger rather than someone their own age.Therefore i think my response was still on the 'same page' so to speak.I am not upset by older men wanting younger women.I was just commenting on that fact in regards to your comments.I hope that clarifies my earlier response.Misty | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 1:14:17 AM | | Snohma, i can kind of see where you are coming from.Maybe we just think that we dont have anything to offer in the future with someone younger, so therefore we feel its kinder to set them free to find someone who can offer more.For me when i was in the same situation it was the fact that the guys family would have not accepted me.He was very close to his family and i could not cause a family rift and other people hurt.Difficult call. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 1:31:31 AM |
It's also depriving them of what YOU have to offer, which may be better to them than anything else they could find out there.
Depriving them of what YOU have to offer... ?
WOW... You have some kinda hook dude. Thats like the guy that walks up to the girl at the bar, insisting she be with him that night just so she can experience how amazing he is. Lame.
The OP doesnt even have a legit account on here any more, and Im sure we all agree that there is no way to figure out his crisis. It cant be done with the info given. How can you wrap up and figure out 6 years of a relationship, in 4 sentences? | |
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Snohma
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Joined: 9/10/2007
Msg: 42 | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 6:00:57 PM | Mistyknoll, I see where you're coming from. I just feel that in a partnership, decisions like these should be made by both people instead of one just deciding they know what's best for the other, and what the other 'really' would want.
I understand the family situation, that is a very tough call.
And Crossfade, I'm pretty sure you're reading it from the wrong perspective. I was referring to "you" as in "her", Mistyknoll for example. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 11:51:21 PM | | Snohma yes your right that decisions should be made by both people and i hope i,m not contradicting myself by saying that but it does depend on the circumstances.For me the other person concerned could not go against his family so there was no where for the relationship to go no matter how we both felt.I wasn,t getting any younger and he had his whole life ahead of him still.Kinder to let him go?I dont know but just did what i thought was right for both of us at the time.Misty | |
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Posted: 3/20/2008 1:09:58 AM | Been there done that I dated a friend that was 49 and I was 32 at the time. She couldn't decide if she wanted to be with me or not. She was thinking it would only last a year or so tops yet she asked me to be her boyfriend. I told her no since she was talking about her ex boyfriend way too often. You would think a 49 year old would be mature but this lady would call me at work, call at my cell phone while I was going to her place, it was driving me nuts I had to turn off the cell phone and ask her not to call me at work. I wasn't allowed free space, I couldn't do something alone I always had to go to her place. Worst of all the sex was bad also I don't know why I keep on trying.
Anyways find someone younger or your age don't go for older women it is highly unlikely you will have a last relationship out of it unless you're after the sex or sugar moma  | |
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Posted: 3/20/2008 9:20:02 AM |
let me ask you guys something,i was recently in a 6 year relationship with a 52 yr old beautiful woman,we met she 46 and i was 27...and after 6yrs she just wanted to end it.we never had a argument or anything..we visited some places we have never been before all at my expense,i never not once let her pay for anything because i wanted her to know i was with her for her...then one day she wanted to walk away....why?
Don't you just hate it when someone makes decisions, won't tell you why they made the decision, except to say "it was for your own good?"
Hey, the last time I looked, I was an adult. If you want to make a unilateral decision that effects my life, at least have the courage and common decency to tell me why.
I have a friend with benefits who arbitrarily decided to withhold benefits because, "she didn't want to hurt me." She felt that if she found Mr. Right and became a friend without benefits, I would be devastated. Well honey, let me be the judge of that. Would I rather be without benefits or would I rather be hurt in the event she finds Mr. Right? It seems the results are the same, so if two people enjoy each other's intimate company, why not let it continue until it can't anymore? | |
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Posted: 5/1/2008 9:21:05 AM | | age differance alot of men and women who are older want to cut it off after a while because of age.the funny thing is she problaby loves you but nkows that the older she gets the more eyes will wonder but you will say no i nkow but thats just life. | |
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