| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 4/11/2008 5:44:07 AM | I think I have blocked people on here without them contacting me by opening the Im window and hitting block. Why have I done this.....simple....there profile is so out there that I do not want them to contact me with their nonsense.
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:01:13 AM | | If you block someone before even hearing them, we know how your relationship goes, you better not be so picky! | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:09:10 PM | Well, without a HUGE glitch, you can not block someone without contact. If you have never messaged someone they can't block you without some cyber-screw-up.
She can email you and then block you, but I think someone already mentioned the psycho possibility.
So, basically, you have contacted her. If you don't remember, it was over a month ago and it was so bad even you blocked it out. It may come up during hypnotherapy, or something. Or, you'll remember you dumped her before, long before either of you tried online dating.
But, as to blocking people in, general. Pfft, the only reason I would do it is spamming, or more than 10 harrassing messages a day.
I was sent an autopsy photo from a rather violent rape/murder, with the phrase, "wanna try this," from a guy as a first contact and didn't block him. I didn't respond, either.
Some people are like that, though. They don't want to hear about the bad stuff. They want to believe it doesn't exist...maybe that's why they'd block someone after one contact. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 3:26:28 PM | well I just had a woman block me because I wrote to her..
no reply, no deleting the message.. Right out BLOCKING!??!?!?
like what the hell? I don't deserve this kind of treatment just for writng to you!
the amazement of some women on this site! | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:57:34 PM |
Would you ever block someone from contacting you before they've even done so?
I got my first big BLOCK yesterday it was the mother of all fishies, She didn't agree with what I posted in a thread so She jumped on her broom and sent me an email,
My Spidey senses were tingling when I went to open Her email, Long story short
I laid the smack down and blocked her. So to answer your question yes I would. | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:39:23 AM | | I would only preemptively block someone if I suspected they are up to something dishonest. And I've seen a few of them too. When I'm considering contacting someone, I'll first select a sentence from their profile and paste it into Google - often this will turn up the exact same profile text under different fake identities on other sites. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 4:00:40 PM | | I had the exact same thing happen to me last night. I felt I matches what she said she was looking for, so all I did was message her and tell her she had the beauty, brains, and goals I want to find in a lady. I didn't realize she had blocked me until I didn't see the message in my sent messages and tried to resend it. Like you, I was immediately offended. It's like filing a restraining order against someone who simply asked for your phone number. If I send you a message, you delete it or ignore me, and then I pester you again THEN block me... | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:09:02 PM |
If I send you a message, you delete it or ignore me, and then I pester you again THEN block me...
So the woman has to wait for you to be REALLY annoying, before she blocks you?
I'm sure she'll consider that a kind offer.
Your rules.
Not hers.
If she chooses to block you, those are her terms.
Deal with it and move on.
Further, you cannot block someone prior to them contacting you whether it's via email or IM. There is no preemptive blocking.
Instead, the odds are you fit one of the following:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5571514.aspx
I'm betting on which Mail Filter I think it is... | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 4:46:25 PM | | I don't see how the message could be considered as even REMOTELY annoying. You're in the wrong place if you have a problem with someone telling you ONE time that they're interested. Again, she can just delete the message, I'll see she deleted it, common sense will tell me she isn't interested, and I'll leave her alone. | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:55:07 PM |
I don't see how the message could be considered as even REMOTELY annoying. You're in the wrong place if you have a problem with someone telling you ONE time that they're interested. Again, she can just delete the message, I'll see she deleted it, common sense will tell me she isn't interested, and I'll leave her alone.
If you take a few moments of your time to read through some of the "Why don't women respond" threads, you'll notice why they don't always respond even with a "thanks, but no thanks"....and further, why they block. (Which was your question)
Most of the blame is with the guys who continue to send a second email, third email, fourth email...etc. filled with expletive-laced sentences for that. I can't blame any woman who reads an email, doesn't reply to an email, deletes the email and blocks a guy.
Like you said a non-response, is a response.
However, if you're saying that you see an email you sent has been deleted and yet you write her again (How else would you know she's blocked you?) you're not leaving her alone.
If she doesn't respond one time? That's life. No need to write again.
I would never find out a woman blocked me, because I'd never write a second time.
There are Plenty more f...
...uh.
Plenty of...
$#@!
What's that saying????? | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/10/2008 5:18:54 PM | | When I checked my outbox to see if she had read the message, the message was not even listed. I naturally assumed there was a glitch in the system and that initial message didn't get through. That is the only reason I attempted to resend the message, and that's how I found out she blocked me. Having just been blocked for the first time, now I'm aware that if you are blocked by a user then messages you have sent to that user are immediately removed from your outbox. I have absolutely nothing against a non-response. I also agree with blocking if someone won't leave you alone. But I find it hard to believe that the percetage of persistent jerks on POF is high enough to require immediately blocking the sender of a plain message... | |
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Posted: 6/10/2008 8:55:04 PM | Adam,
They block ~ hiell we move on! They obviously have issues to deal with. Its actually a blessing for us that they prevented us from wasting time while they seek much needed psychoanalysis. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 11:35:19 AM | I don't know how but I have been blocked even though I never once contacted the person, and I was not a part of any of her restrictions. I admit I looked at her profile several times (3 or 4 maybe) and possibly me just looking at her profile sent her into some paranoid tizzy. Oh well no biggie I was going to contact her with a nice email but was blocked. Plenty of other fish!  | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:48:56 PM | well, i cant wrap my head around this. maybe it simply is that some people are more paranoid about their boundaries. for example, i have no restrictions on who can email me, i learned that fast when seeing some great forums posts and wanted to drop a line of support and appreciation to the person, but i couldn't because i was not the right gender, or location etc. i wouldnt have set restrictions anyways, but that was an eye opener
maybe there r people out there that r too new to the internet thing, and feel safer by controlling the input and output best they can, and strict control on who u 'might hear from' can fall in that category. i personally dont care if someone emails me 30 times, unless they r belligerent.
one thing i know to be true, adam: whatever people do is NOT about you, esp if you didnt even have contact, it's a choice they make according to what's going on w them and their life at that point. IT'S NOT PERSONAL, adam, no need to take it that way. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 5:06:47 PM | Read the help/suggestions thread. This has been asked and answered.
Now, things change, the "preemptive" block has been discarded. I will venture to say that I've been here long enough to know when you could (not that I DID...) and possibly the OP was too.
I use the block/delete when there's good reason to in my mind. It's an option for me to exercise, same as every other member. I've never blocked anyone in the middle of a conversation or interaction, whether I'm getting a little impatient or annoyed. And it does happen, but if I'm talking to someone, then I do tell them.
Yes, I am one of those "freaks" who does answer all reasonably polite emails not inquiring about my sex life, or the size of my body parts that aren't viewable. Ehh...I'm so "nice" (as much as it gags me to say so) that I will still talk to someone if it's not blatantly offensive. Not interested, don't want to meet them, but will try to help at least a little understand how to approach or talk to other women. Other than me. (Yes, I'm proud of my Brownie points...gold stars...haha)
***Disclaimer*** anyone else who calls me a nice woman/person...ehh...don't go there! I can, you...not I have a reputation to protect.  | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:14:37 PM |
Not interested, don't want to meet them, but will try to help at least a little understand how to approach or talk to other women. Other than me.
you are right on with this one. mental note to do more of that. i try, but not always. i shall make a change, it's a good point | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:39:17 PM | I have never blocked anyone, but probably would if given a reason. And report them if they were being jerks or rude.
I would never block someone thats never written me.  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 6:11:26 PM |
I have never blocked anyone, but probably would if given a reason. And report them if they were being jerks or rude.
I would never block someone thats never written me.
You should try it some time... It's a nice little rush of adrenaline and power coursing through your body. | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:01:07 PM |
Would you ever block someone from contacting you before they've even done so?
I must be one of the lucky ones here...I've never had to block anyone...ever...
It would seem silly to me to block someone that I've never had contact with...
the rest are "repeated offenders" - guys who repeatedly send "wanna get drunk and fcuk"-type emails.
Oh...that's why you blocked me......you thought I was a guy... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 8:24:20 PM | | Ok Scruffy..............I´ll go ahead and block you........I need a bit of an adrenaline rush right now............. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 7:54:21 AM | I have blocked PLENTY. But, I think my case is 'different'. It's not meant to be offensive to the blocked (but, I'm sure they think it that way - naturally)...but it's more for my own alleviation of annoyance.
I'm here for the forums, and I love getting mails re: issues or topics that were brought up in forums. Thus, I initially didn't have ANY restrictions on who could contact me....but, was innundated by 'intimate encounters' emails, and, deleting the messages didn't do anything, as they'd try contact again...or IM. So, I started individually blocking, and still had the problem. So, restriction, no intimate encounters. Then....the married/prefer not to say started to happen, same thing as before, initially I would look at the profile (before opening the mail) and if I see married/prefer not to say....I just delete email. Persistent buggers they are...so blocking starts. And, now finally, I've added the restriction of no married/prefer not to say. Kinda sad cuz one time a person did contact me who was married but it was completely re: a point brought up in a forum thread (which is what was my aim is in the first place). Oh well.
I mean, how lack of interest can my profile be, there's 'prefer not to say' in most categories, with a two line blurb, with EXPLICIT mention of 'here for the forums'. I don't think most even attune themselves to the vibe of a profile. Ah well. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 9:00:41 AM | I was blocked by a guy for simply not having a picture posted in my profile. He sent me a message and all he asked was "So do you get many emails with not having a picture up?" So I replied and told him they were few and far between and at the time I was here only for the forums anyways and did not think it mattered what I looked like to post.
He sent back another email ticked off that it says I have private photos but did not send one to him. I went to reply to him to tell him that he did not ask for a picture just asked how the email think was without one, hit send message and poof Blocked LOL
Oh well his loss I think I am pretty so  LMAO | |
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| Blocking someone without contact?
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:15:34 AM | | Blocking someone without contacts seems rude and pointless to me. How important do we really think we are? Sheesh | |
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