| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/6/2008 8:51:38 PM | he's there
*messages this short may not be posted* so, that just about sums it up in two words even if I have to type it twice or three times to meet the word minimum. He's there when he cares and even when he gets mad or has other things or better things to be doing than you.
My Dad's way of putting that was "if he has something other, better, or more important than you, he is doing just that." Being there says it all really. Even if or when he doesn't have anything or much to say. Ok, now I hope that made the minimum. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:49:36 PM | HA, a man can say he's in love, but that doesn't mean he is happy.
First, time brings an average girl about a 5 all the way up to a ten.
Second, even though opposites attract, same for a guy, do something he likes.
(example) I play a favorite game, if you play just a bit, even if you suck, you become a keeper.
If it fades, less talkative.
Rather spend time with friends more than you, its real.
Don't become an obligation.
Girls don't only need to keep a spark going, guy need it too, just not as much. | |
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m8rcus
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/7/2008 2:42:51 AM | I agree totally with back to newcastle! I have been out of a 4 year relationship with the love of my life " Jo " for 6 months. I caused us to break up but have only now realised what she really meant to me! She has completely re-defined my thinking on what it is like to be in love. Jo made me feel whole and loved for the real me but my personal issues " insecurities etc.. " stopped me giving her what she truly deserved.
I miss her everyday now,her sweetness,tenderness how caring and supportive she was to me! I missed her when I was at work or away from her for any reason. Being close to her was the most amazing experience I have ever known,to hold her,caress her,talk to her,look into her eyes and see her love for me smiling back. Jo wanted me to be a better man but not in any sort of negative way,it was amazing,it made my heart leap just to be with her!
Now she wants to be mates,but when she tells me about her new guy,it just rips me up inside and feels like the pain will never stop! But I cannot not have her in my life, because she means to much to me and will always have a very special place in my heart!!
To truly love someone is to give yourself 1000% and trust them not to hurt you. You think about them constantly,your heart aches when they are away and roars when they are close! Jo has left me with the most wonderful legacy. I now know what it is like to be Loved for ME and I thank her for that. Saying I LOVE YOU are the 3 easiest words to say and the hardest to mean! But to go through life and never be loved by someone,no thanks,the pleasure of really loving someone and them loving you is worth the pain of a break up ten fold! | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:07:10 AM | | The saying, you never know what your missing till they are gone, couldn't be said any better. The week I sensed my ex could be cheating on me, I lost interest in other things and wanted to talk and be around her, but this time she didn't want to talk. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:50:30 PM | I've learned that a man is never "in love"....he is only in love with the way a woman makes him feel.
Men do not love and feel the way women do.
Is it true? I don't know. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:57:04 PM | "wanting to be with that person all the time"...
I personally believe THAT is verging on obsession and/or codependence, and what ultimately causes all these great "loves" to FIZZLE!!! | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:01:54 PM | This might be a little "co-dependant" of me, but for me, it was when every moment with the lady was a spectacular feeling. I showed it in many ways, chiefly, by accepting her petite flaws such as using canned beef for stew, making soup out of V8 juice and cabbage, and only let me giver her cat 1tsp of moist food for a treat (I was gonna give him 1/2 the can!).
And finally, after having sex, I still wanted to sleep with her. Isn't that deep? | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:13:12 PM | | That my friend is true love. And I have to tell you are a real man to be able to talk about your true feelings. Hope you find true love again. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:20:17 PM | Someone sent this to me in a email......I actually saved it...I know not all applies to this question, but when I read your post I thought of this....
Guy Facts:
When a guy calls you,
he wants to be with you.
When a guy is quiet,
He's listening to you...
When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he's wrong.
When a guy says, "I'm fine." after a few
minutes
he means it.
When a guy stares at you,
he wishes you would care about him and
wonders if you do.
When your laying your head on a guy's
chest,
he has the world.
When a guy calls/texts/comments you everyday,
he is in love.
When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
he means it.
When a guy says he can't live without you,
he's with you til your done.
When a guy says, "I miss you,"
when he sees you he will hold you like you
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:01:41 PM | When a man looks you straight into your eyes and says "I love you" without twitching. And that's not all, because some men (and women of course, but I don't date women) think that wonderful rush of emotion is love (and are quick to say it), but I think he really loves you if he tells you that, AND he does things that show that he cares about you and your well-being as a person (even if it puts him out). Maybe you need a little support for something, and ask for his help - he'll do it even if it's inconvenient for him. He makes an effort to change something if he knows it hurts you. He makes sure that you know he loves you. And when he tells you, you believe him (there shouldn't be any doubt).
I believed someone once, and now I see that he didn't know what love really was. I wonder if he's capable of real love. Maybe selfish people can't truly love. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:45:54 PM | I knew my ex loved me, when he held me and sang in my ear, and drove across state to be with me, when something ruined the life I had.
But the things I do to show someone I love them...I imagine are considered childish. But I do them anyways... I draw them pictures, write them poems, make them CDs, and buy them books. I am fortunate that all the guys I dated read....ALOT. So a book is a great (cheap) get well soon gift, when they are sick. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:27:29 AM | | you can easily fall in love.loving the relationship is the hard part. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:34:39 AM | cinciniceguy on 3/18/2008 12:35:41 PM Are you saying a man is only in love with a woman, when he is getting presents and attention? Sounds a bit one sided there, or did I read it wrong ??
Shouldn't it be something like: A man is in love (possibly) when he turns up for dates, speaks to you when you are out together, does not turn the TV on as soon as he gets in the room, asks your opinion (rather than tells you what is going to happen). When he cuddles the woman, and leaves notes on her car.
But then both sides are going to want the attention - mmmm thinks isn't love about giving and taking and making someone else's' life better for having you in it? | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:49:15 AM | a man is obviously in love when he lets a lady get away with drawing a big smiling face on the windshield of his HD with a dry erase marker and will still wrap her in his jacket when she's cold for the next two years even tho it hasn't worn off yet. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:59:17 AM | | A man is in love when he has gotten you into bed, That is the only time a man is in love | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:07:10 AM | msg 26....697989
Wow...tuff luck about your girlfriend. That breaks my heart.
Its so hard to find someone like that....that you connect with so well with..
I know what you are saying about it being a merging of the minds...not about sex...best friend...could tell each other anything....I have that now...8 months....Its the best communication I have ever had my whole life. If we dont make it....I know what I will look for...so afraid to never find that again should we go our seperate ways.
Hard to find men that can communicate well....especially without yelling. I found a king. Hes great that way...Never yells or calls me names. Unlike my ex. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:08:51 AM | A man is in love when he has gotten you into bed, That is the only time a man is in love
actually when a man falls in love sex becomes less important to him. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:12:21 AM | | Knowing when a man is in love is difficult to define. Men are not all the same. They show love differently. There are different stages of love. Falling in love doesn't last......it moves on to become love.....grows.....when you feel you are comfortable at being yourself. Love is not to be mistaken with infatuation and lust........they don't last. LOVE being able to be vulnerable and not afraid of the person seeing into you......the real you. | |
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Joined: 3/4/2008
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:16:10 AM | | Beats the heck out of me! Seems like men in our age bracket are not satisfied with being with one woman. He starts out being in attraction with a woman. Then, it goes to being in lust and in my opinion that is it. Men think about sex every 3 seconds and not necessarily with the same woman. Any man who is in a committed relationship isn't necessarily in love. I would say they are in a comfort zone and if any woman would offer sex they would go for it. I don't think men are capable of LOVE. | |
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eyedee
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Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 170 | |
| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:52:05 AM | When a guy calls you....he want to take you out and then have sex.
When a guy is quiet...he's thinking about how he can get you to have sex with him.
When a guy is not arguing...he's thinking about sex.
When a guy says he's fine...that's after he has sex.
When a guy stares at you....he's wanting to get you to have sex.
When you're laying your head on his chest...he's thinking of moving your head down further to his pleasure area.....that's a given!
When a guy constantly is calling/texting/comments...he's NEEDY! and wants to make sure he's gonna get sex.
When a guy tells you he loves you....HUH....he's securing sex from you.
When he can't live without you...means he can't get another woman to screw him.
When a guy says I Miss You.....he's still securing sex.
Men do not know the meaning of LOVE.
Sorry to ruin the fantasy of what someone sent you...but it's not reality with men. | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 9:13:49 AM | Re: Purple Tang.
You got it all in a nutshell. Those were all the things my late husband did, and I met him when I was 15. However, I was in a 6 year relationship, where he loved me as well, just wasn't demonstrative as much as my husband, but I knew he loved me. Would call me at any time just to talk, was attentive when we were together, was proud to have me by his side, and I felt the same. He openly communicated his feelings, and listened to mine. Unfortunately, there were other issues that he couldn't resolve, however, I knew in spite of all that, he loved me.
When I meet my next mate, and he does all those and more, I will know he loves me.
Won't have to ponder and wonder.
Ps. My husband and I were together for 18 years, and the passion grew, did not dissapate. One thing I will say to all the women out there, kiss him goodbye, like it's the l;ast time, greet him like you haven't seen him in weeks, and you will reap what you sow. Remember back when you first met, and all the tingles you felt, bring those tingles to the surface, Don't take him for granted, but this could probably be another thresd! LOL!
His actions will speak louder than words!
Lm Seth | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 9:25:29 AM |
how do you know when a man is in love
When a man loves a woman
Cant keep his mind on nothin else
Hed trade the world
For a good thing hes found
If she is bad, he cant see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
Hed give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said thats the way
It ought to be
When a man loves a woman
I give you everything I got (yeah)
Trying to hold on
To your precious love
Baby please dont treat me bad
When a man loves a woman
Deep down in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she is playing him for a fool
Hes the last one to know
Loving eyes can never see
Yes when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
cause baby, baby, baby
I am a (wo)man (I am a very woman)
When a man loves a woman
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 9:33:26 AM | | Do you mean,when does a woman know that he loves her?...or,when does a man fall in love?...gosh,I don't think men know what the word means sometimes. And as far as a woman knowing,for sure?...forget it...Some guys say,I love you, all the time,some never say it,some only say it after having sex or before,some say it teasing,..who knows?...who knows anything for certain?...Love grows thru the years...what people think is love,may not be...and yet, some people talk themselves into being in love because the moment is right, the time is right,they need someone and as soon as they find someone who seems to like or love them,they hang around....to me,love is caring....if you don't feel cared for in your heart,soul,body and mind,then you aren't loved....empathy,honesty,kindness,thoughtfulness,wanting to be with someone and thinking of them fondly,consideration above all else....that is love.....we mistake love because we read too much into it and we often can't see the forest for the trees and even then,when we think we have total devoted love from someone,they turn around and do something to hurt us...some of us only really love once in our lives and anything after that is just going thru the motions.... | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:02:15 AM | Everyone has stated very good points on here about Being in love.
This what I have learned after many times of failing in relationships. Listening, Communication, Patience, Empathy, Understanding, Swallowing my pride and putting the other first are the 1st steps towards creating the relationship that you have dreamed about.
A man is in love when you have connected with him first on the (mental) mind stimulation which is conversation. You have to communicate with him clear and direct on things. Learning to listen and understanding where's he's coming from. That you put his feelings and needs a priority in the converstaion and in life before yourself. You are thinking about what he wants and you are trying to help him get it. In doing these things is how I show my love and what I call being in love with my Paul. That is putting the other first. Just being near him I am complete. This is the first time in my life that I have been this happy and content in a relationship with a man.
I am not trying to brag or be a know it all. This is just my thoughts and the school of hard knocks on being in love.
Wedding in 3 months. Katz | |
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| when is a man in love?
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:12:59 AM | What about a man who you know loves you in every look and act, BUT cant say the 3 words" I love You" Why is that? is that a sign of being a macho man who cant express his true feelings? Men drives me crazy at times, dont know whats going on in their brain lol.  | |
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