| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/21/2008 4:45:11 PM | Plenty of Fish didn't do a thing to OP.
Some need to reconsider their approach to and the type of therapy they are going to seek out for their mental problems. Yes, mental problem. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/21/2008 5:12:29 PM | How indicative of times.. If someone scalds themselves with hot coffee - it's Mc Donalds fault...If a kid gets poor grades at school - it's the teacher's fault...Someone cheats on their spouse - it's POF fault...Yeah the OP was drugged and manipulated into it and forced to do it.. hehe.. And sorry I personally don't believe into coming on the DATING sites looking for friends, chat etc. So by the mere fact coming here there was already something brewing, POF just presented an opportunity that she was seeking. There are various clubs, meetup and church groups for meeting friends.. But who know those may make OP cheat no her husband too  | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:18:24 PM | | thats ashame, just because you've had bad experiences thus far, doesnt mean that all women are like that, maybe they just didnt know a good guy when they seen him. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:43:49 PM | Well apparently POF has given you JUST what you needed - someone other than yourself to blame for your own stupidity. You really should be thanking POF - without them, you might have to face responsibility for your own behavior.
WHAT A FOREIGN CONCEPT THAT WOULD BE? (Doh.)
Christian, Pagan, Buddhist or those who subscribe to the power of the Flying Spaghetti Monster...when do adults become liable for their own choices? The blame game is totally lame.
Gwendolen....pretty please.....would you post just a TAD bit of your novel anyway? The frontispiece....? A teasing little trailer? Just for little old weasel? :D
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/21/2008 8:01:56 PM | What the heck is: "OP"???
Original poster - I'm guessing...
Thanks!
Oh - and what P.O.F. has done for me
has been wonderful!!!
I have met many WONDERFUL and ZANY
men and women fish-friends.
This is a site for SINGLES!
If you are married, go to the cheaters site! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/21/2008 9:34:52 PM | Pof in the past i have meet nutty women. I find most women you look at the favorites at the bottom and they talk to other men.
It has costed me plenty of money from dating some real rejects from this site. From women who were married didnt last one date to women fresh out of a relationship and it went so great i thought a few meetings and then an email sorry still in love with the ex.
I am on two paid dating sites and its positive more over than this site but i have meet people on there that are still involved or the never show up for a date happens.
With anything women at a free site its easy to join. I blame pof not for all i have went through but after meeting these people i complain about they wont get ride of them and keep all there contact info on record like some paid sites will do.
I wont reply to this what i post i go on from time to time .
It makes a person want to be single and look over seas.
After seeing what friends have gone through after marriage and with local women its a good idea friend that married a thai woman and no issues. They are older she has kids he doesnt but he moved there cheaper to live and when he built a house for a fraction of the price as here no permits and he got the shop he always wanted and good weather year round.
bobby | |
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| Why the sky is purple...
Posted: 3/21/2008 10:21:48 PM | You know tha arguement is lost when people start bringing in uncomparable and irrelevant examples. You must not have read my clarification or chose to ignore it because it doesn't allow you to continue down this path.
Who 'lost' this argument? Her husband and her children, that's who. Those are the ones I feel sympathy and compassion for. Does it really matter WHY she chose to do what she did? Not a bit. What matters is that she chose what she did and should be held accountable for those actions. Once she freely takes that accountability, the compassion will be given.
And if her words she used in her TITLE are so irrelevant, wouldn't the words in her post be just as irrelevant? Sorry, the title is just as relevant as her post. And if you can sit and discern what her intentions are from her post regardless of the words she uses, the same can be said from her title. They are both her words. It's called a Freudian slip. Regardless of what you may think, she chose those words for a reason (whatever it may be), and it was something she felt. So, which one is a lie, or at least not the whole truth? The title or the post?
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From Wikipedia, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Freudian_slip
A Freudian slip, or parapraxis, is an error in speech, memory, or physical action that is believed to be caused by the unconscious mind.
Some errors, such as a man accidentally calling his wife by the name of another woman, seem to represent relatively clear cases of Freudian slips. In other cases, the error might appear to be trivial or bizarre, but may show some deeper meaning on analysis. As a common pun goes, "A Freudian slip is like saying one thing, but meaning your mother." A Freudian slip is not limited to a slip of the tongue, or to sexual desires. It can extend to our word perception where we might read a word incorrectly because of our fixations. It is important to note that these slips are semi-conscious. This is to say that these thoughts are consciously repressed and then unconsciously released. This is unlike true Freudian repression, which is the unconscious act of making something unconscious. | |
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| Why the sky is purple...
Posted: 3/21/2008 11:41:41 PM | | If the husband hadnt of cought her this time - we wouldnt be seeing this thread of sposed regret. Once a cheat always a cheat. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:29:27 AM |
What PoF has done for me? Assisted me in developing the appropriate bad attitude. I am and always have been one cussed b*tch,but when I started getting a look at the amount of DAMAGE out there, being single is beginning to seem downright pleasant.
I've made some good friends here, and I stand in awe of some of the wisdom I've seen in the fora.
this is pretty much what i wanted to get around to saying. i dont know what a whambulance is but it sounds cool.
better than a dumbulance, eh ricky....
yes, pof has made me mean and more difficult. i like the word "apropriate" tho, in refrence to the bad attitude.
because my 'bad' attitude, holier than thou attitude is what makes me who i am instead of some dude. you know, every girl you meet is sweet and special and not like other girls. but thats crap they say and then try and get a hold of you and mess with you and yes.. they have a list of guys names and numbers they visit between your visits...
its all damaged and thats what pof has done to me.
when i first signed up here i believed in things like dinosaurs, and merry christmas and marriage and stuff like that you never really hear about anymore. well, i heard about a mumified dinosaur the other day but thats off topic.
i cant blame the web site.
i can only blame all the jerks who are here when they should be with their husband or wife or partner they already got. or at least telling the truth that if a guy is hot they will not keep their pants on on the first date, sorry girls. i know its suposed to be a secret. guys are suposed to continue thinking you are hard to get and be on their best behaviour to get some action.
 but to be fair, i have met jsut as many liek minded gals from the 'real' world too.
so its more or less modern contemporary society that has done this to me.
you people/ well, most of you. a few of you im sure must be legit. but the rest are evil, shame on you.
and i dont like the way anyone is raising their children that i see these days either.... everyone is whyney and selfish. even me. and no one cares abotu cool things like, the planet is dying and we are all going to mutate. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:42:36 AM | ^^^^^^ ohh shrek...... there are people on pof and in the world who do care about the planet and others feelings... and marriages and kids.. and the next generation having less emotional problems then the last etc... its not all doom and gloom..
maybe your not meeting alot of them.. but they do exist..
theres a few trying to help the planet.. and raise conciousness..
I feel sad reading your post...
I wish you well. and a clear pond for you to meet people you can trust/rely on and expect integrity from..
smiles/peace
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| Why the sky is purple...
Posted: 3/22/2008 2:18:27 AM | People in glass houses eh? It must be great that you all lead such blameless lives, are models of purity and chasteness, and are therefore in a position to give the OP such a hard time.
Non-refundable, thank you, for speaking so eloquently and clearly.
Look in your own back yards before you decide to label another person trash. I presume the other person involved knows how to spell the word "No"? But hey, lets all give somebody a bashing because she is a wife and mother? She is also a living, feeling person, and doesnt merit all the harsh words. Give it a rest you guys, and let those amongst you cast the first stone eh?
Whats done is done, and no amount of whining and finger pointing will change that.
Happy fishing all. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 2:20:43 AM | | Hey hun how would you feel if your husband done it to you? did you really ever love him if you really really love someone you would not have cheated i would not i dont think its nice a person cheats no matter how long two people have been together its called respect if you dont want to be with a person then you tell them you know there always ways of spiceing up your love and sex life . | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 2:30:26 AM | | I would have just chucked you out and divorce you,and left you with nothing,no money and no kids,you dont deserve kids and a loving husband.how you can live with yourself and the pain you have put your family through. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 4:20:15 AM | oh my god ! ... you guys are harsh .... maybe some of you should read her message properly
but then again your all too busy being whiter than white ... perfect , no mistakes
which makes me wonder if your all that perfect why you on plenty of fish ?! like the rest of us lesser mortals | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 6:27:30 AM | IN REGARDS TO THE LADY WHO CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND......
SERVES YRSELF RIGHT...U SHOULDNT BE ON A SITE LIKE THIS IF YR MARRIED
YOU HAVE NO-ONE ELSE TO BLAME BUT YRSELF
I HAVE NO TIME FOR CHEATERS
YOUR LEGS SHOULD BE OPEN TO ONE MAN ONLY...YOUR HUSBAND
I FEEL SORRY FOR HIM NOT YOU | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 6:31:17 AM | | Go through the profiles sometime..it may amaze you to know how many people have married, separated, or prefer not to say on their profile...............I guess they are all just here to pass the time. ................... | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:01:14 AM | | For a start she is saying whatPOF has done for her,last line to sit down and talk to her spouse whould have acheived more,ok she has made a mistake so stone her,god u are all so judgemental,why are we all here ?some of us are cheeters some have been cheated on some are widowed some just plain single,but we all look for the one common denominator,love of some kind,in friendship,dating ,sex , or long term its all the same ,we have a need to be filled,sometimes we dont always here the right words from our spouses and we long for affimation of ourselves,it takes years of practice and hard work to get it all together and if two parties are not in sink its a pretty hard battle.Walk in the other persons shoes before u judge,men and women alike, when u sit at this pc and u are typing away, tell me u dont get lost in this game for that is what it is,u dont always see the rules if the candy is sweet. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:28:34 AM | | Reason2Hope.....those are pretty strong words and everyone makes mistakes....don't you think it is bad enough the woman has to live with it every day? I am against all cheaters also....cheat once and you will cheat again....for sure | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:53:01 AM | Funny how you say "What POF did to me" when the truth is you did it to yourself. No one told you to join this site or communicate with other men while you were married... let alone start and adulterous relationship with one of them.
When I was married it NEVER even crossed my mind to look at any online dating site let alone join one and actively participate. Doesn't matter how unhappy you are in the marriage or lonely. You're right. You should have tried to talk to your husband and work it out. You are in it for better or for worse and if it is for worse then you find a way to leave the marriage. THEN you move on to possibly pursuing other people.
I really think it is sad when someone tries to place blame elsewhere for their own mistakes. Like they say... You made your bed... lie in it! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:14:23 AM | I think it is sad that WE (me included) have written five pages of comments to and about a woman who bailed after her original post. Of course, she could come back as a different "person" to read the comments, but is she really going to pay attention?
But since I am here, I feel compelled to say at least one thing.
Like they say... You made your bed... lie in it!
She is lying in it, even if she isn't taking responsibility for her actions.
Maybe you should have tried to talk to your husband and work it out.
Talking doesn't always do any good. I tried to talk to my ex for over two years before I left him, and when I was walking out the door, he wanted to talk.
Too little, too late.
Even though the OP now claims her husband wasn't the bad guy in all this, she is speaking from the point of view of facing the loss of him--what would she have said before that? There are two sides to every story, and people rarely stray when they are in a truly good marriage.
That's my last rock. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:18:16 AM | Well please do instruct us on how to properly read Ms. whiter than white ... perfect , no mistakes. Please enlighten us so that we may also rationalize sins against our own families.
Excuses are like asses, eveyone's got one and they all stink. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:33:10 AM | | no thats opinions are like asses......not everyone makes excuses....some people own up!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:49:51 AM | MSG 93 "At least the OP is an honest cheater"
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HUH? (scratchin' m'head) | |
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