| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/16/2008 4:43:56 AM | | Hard to have sympathy for people like her. I reckon if the roles were reversed and she was the one getting cheated on, suddenly she'd go on the "All Men are Dogs/Cheat" tirade. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/18/2008 9:45:59 PM | I agree Ciao. Personally, I think cheating is the most disrespectful thing one human being can do to another. As for all you right fighters who like to dump on those of us who value fidelity, commitment, and personal accountability, "judging" is also human nature. Without it, we would have no moral compass to differentiate right from wrong.
And you know what else? I don't think it's particularly bright to come to an online forum and announce to the entire worldwide web that you've cheated on your husband. Seems a little attention seeking to me.... | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/18/2008 9:57:56 PM |
What I wouldn't give to read her initial posting....lol Man, take responsibility for your actions!
Mz8, the original posting is on page one.... | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/18/2008 10:04:19 PM | POF didnt do it, your dishonesty, lack of character and morals did it, but after looking at the site for last few months your not alone with those lack of qualities.........
Can't believe your blaming the site and not taking responsibility, another bad quality you suffer from........
Got what you deserved didnt you, I have a feeling your husband and children deserve better.........
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/18/2008 10:06:53 PM | | My 12 yr marraige ended because he cheated... You are lucky your husband still wants to talk to you. I said C' Ya!!! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/18/2008 10:08:19 PM | I agree some of the posters go overboard attacking other people for placing their opinons that differ from their own on a personal level, I did swear to avoiding the forums, and a few familiar faces have reminded me why I decided to stay off them, and not associate the POF forum circle.
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/19/2008 2:19:32 AM | | Unfortunately, sometimes people feel they are being attacked when all the other person has done is express a difference of opinion. | |
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| The journer for love is bitter sweet
Posted: 4/19/2008 3:17:43 AM | ilove80, im not going to say anything neg,, becuse u needed to something for a reason.
im sure u didnt just get up one day and say , hey i want to ruin my marriage, for what ever reason u where driven to it. If u can lay your head down on your pillow and say i gace my marriage a 100 percent then your just in the wrong relationship, and tommorrow is another day.
Im in the same sit my partner has change the opposite way, and we have spoken and are just spinning our wheels, so we do what we have to do.
Always remember when driving your car whats behind u doesnt matter,, its whts at front,
summer is starting turn this into a positive, dont take all the negative feed back valid im sure all those individuals would def cast the first stone without looking at there own negative lives,
ps how did he find out ?? | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:39:22 AM |
I started out just wanting to chat and make friends, I found interesting people with stories and lives just like mine. I thought I needed someone to tell me they loved me and show interest in me , and I found plenty of that. What I had forgotten was the 15 years with my husband and that I had 2 loving children that I was willing to cheat on. Instead of taking the time and talking to my husband I found love no, not love , sex with another man. He said everything I wanted to hear but in the end it was all about sex. Neither of us planned to leave our families and my husband found out and now I live with it day after day....Plentyofish was here for me but it will never replace taking the time to sit down and chat with your spouse...
What you described is my worst nightmare.
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/28/2008 11:40:47 PM | | well the person that i had met on this site and in person decided to break it off with me and that and dumped me.so im single again..when we first started messaging and that back and forth and had been for little while and then he wanted to meet.well we met and i thought that i had finally found my special someone and i thought he felt the same or that is what he told me anyways after telling me he loved me and all that.now tells me when he dumped me that we were nothing more than just friends and that and he blocked me.so tell me whats up with that? i need some friendly advice. can u help me? | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:04:46 AM | Ok, don't everyone act like there aren't others out there just like ths woman. There is ABSOLUTELY no excuse for what she has done, but at the same time, she was obviously missing something at home, which happens more often then ya think. I have been searching for someone special for a few years now, and when I hear stories like this, it makes me want to NEVER get married again! I've left POF, because I do believe I have found someone very special, and untill the day she proves me wrong, I will keep the faith that there ARE sincere people out there, and that I have finally found one !
I've been on the cheated end of the stick, and when ya really love someone, that shit really hurts! I did try to forgive her, but that hurt never goes away. If your husband forgives you, you're lucky! Although, in his heart, I doupt he never will. That kinda hurt goes deep, and is the BIGGEST deception of all. And in MY eyes, is unforgivable....
I continue to read these little posts, because I have the kind of spirit that likes to help others.EVERYONE who s thinking about cheating, should take a lesson from this woman. Take a look at your family, and then at the one you love, and why you loved them in the first place, and if you find that you don't love them anymore, let them go FIRST, because once the damage is done, it will be HARD AS HELL to reverse those damages.... I just don't think that kinda hurt never goes away... :{ | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:11:41 AM | | I wish this woman luck n reversing the damages , never cheated on anyone, so I really don't know what to tell her. ..maybe, Good luck ? ? ? | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:21:58 AM | We all lose sight sometimes, and it's really easy to condemn. You've made a mistake, and learned one of the biggest lessons you'll ever learn.
Now...if you want your family to be re-united, stop feeling sorry, decide your going to pull your family through this, dedicate yourself to them like never before and pull everyone through. It will never be the same, but if you don't give up, it might be better. Be smart, and strong, and loving. You may have to let your husband rub your nose in it, but show him you still love him with gentle patients. It's going to be hard, but you can do it if you really want to!!!
There is ALWAYS strength in adversity, if you have the courage to get through it!!!!!
Good Luck, be patient, and use your instincts to guide you!! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:39:27 PM | | POF has done absolutely nothing for me! The women here in Phoenix are shallow, brutal, and just plain rude! I have yet to meet any with depth of good character. I still look and hope! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 10:58:52 AM | | yeah you did meet a wonderful woman and all that and then you dumped her and broke her heart but not before you made fun of her and her house saying something about how you couldnt come back there because there was this smell that made you sick and all that and telling her that she needed to get out more and all that.she cant help it cause she was told by doctor not to get out in the sun too much and that and if she did she had to wear protection and that like a ha t cause she has had two scares of skin cancer and all that and has asthma plus other health issues. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 11:06:07 AM | Can't say that I have an ounce of sympathy for the OP. I'm actually glad to see another filthy cheater pay for what they've done. Just too bad she had to ruin so many other innocent lives in the process.
There is ABSOLUTELY no excuse for what she has done, but at the same time, she was obviously missing something at home, which happens more often then ya think.
Sure it happens. But you don't cheat, period. You go to counseling, you try to work it out, or you get a divorce. It's not like you walk down the road, and trip and fall in bed with someone. You make a conscious decision when you cheat, knowing it's wrong, knowing ahead of time what the consequences are, and knowing that it could destroy your family, your children's lives, and possibly the entire family of the person you are cheating with. She knew this when she met the man, when she went to meet him, and five minutes before climbing into bed with him. She KNEW it could destroy her life, destroy her marriage, and affect her kids' futures, and she STILL did it.
And on top of it, to have the AUDACITY to title the thread "Look what POF has done to me...". Sorry, but POF didn't do a d@mned thing to her. That's like saying "look what such-and-such hotel did to me", simply because that's where she bedded him down at. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 12:10:02 PM | Even if you commit adultery and think you have kept it a secret from your spouse you will still find it to haunt your conscience eventually and there is an old southern saying
"If you're gonna dance, then you must pay the fiddler). If you have any morals at all and eventually calm down from such escapades, YOU will always remember. I know no one wants to hear this but my researching of the bible really hit home when I read that 1. A drunkard can not enter into the kingdom of heaven (so party goers beware).
2. A fornicator can not enter either and that hits a bunch of us who have sexual desires.
3. An adulterer is also forbidden to enter. You certainly can seek forgiveness IF you live long enough but don't count on doing it later because you have no guarantee of even the next minute of life. When the two become one flesh there is more involved than just sex, in my opinion. Sex as you know can become so mechanical, but it takes love, devotion, and companionship and a whole lot of caring for each other to make a marriage. I was fortunate enough to have a marriage that lasted for 38 years before death separated us. So think seriously about it; not to please others, but to please your own conscience. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 5:47:20 PM |
yeah you did meet a wonderful woman and all that and then you dumped her and broke her heart but not before you made fun of her and her house saying something about how you couldnt come back there because there was this smell that made you sick and all that and telling her that she needed to get out more and all that.she cant help it cause she was told by doctor not to get out in the sun too much and that and if she did she had to wear protection and that like a ha t cause she has had two scares of skin cancer and all that and has asthma plus other health issues
Who are you talking to?
My children, they are now adults, did not know the whole story of why their dad and I broke up, until they were old enough to understand my point of what he did. He told them other bull crap, and of course he blamed me for the divorce. Well, when they were older, I told them just a couple of things, and both involved him cheating, just didn't find it necessary to tell them everything he did. But they both know, their lives were disrupted because of a cheater. The divorce hurt them way more, than the adults. And both totally understand why I divorced him. But they always kind of look down on him, because of what he done. They love him. I want them to love him. I forgave him a long time ago, and we get along okay now. But it took him a lot of years to accept the fact that he was the cause of our divorce. And he does have to live with those fact. My point being, not only is this person a cheater, but she has damaged her children also, her husband also, if he is still around. Hell, if the truth is known she's probably still on here trolling around. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:06:09 PM | You took it upon YOURSELF to sign up to this site to CHEAT! Don't blame on the site, blame yourself......and be prepared to lose most (if not all) that you had! No sympathies here! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:12:39 PM | How does this have ANYTHING to do with POF?
POF didnt do SH!T to you sweetie...you did it to yourself... | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:17:48 PM | why do people come on a singles site looking for friends?
surely there are other sites to meet people on.
hobbies forums, irc, chat rooms.
nothings ferpect but not many people goto vegas just for the shows.
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:26:31 PM | | This is a very weird thread. This is one of the reasons I haven't remarried in 24 years. I have heard so many stories like this and it's just scary.....I was married once and my husband didn't cheat on me...we were just young and jumped into it too quickly. I hope things work out for you but I don't think I could forgive so easily....might take awhile and lots of counseling. I'm sure it can be done though but not without some serious counseling for all of you....trust is a major part of any relationship and when it's broken, look out!! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:19:05 PM |
I started out just wanting to chat and make friends,
CRAP.
You knew this was a dating site, the same as all of us. You were looking for a bit of excitement and you got it! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:28:45 PM | add a chick next time with your husband, hell you can do it now and it might make the pain from your cheating hurt less, that is unless your the (well i can but he cant type of lady) then your just silly.
I find the attention from ladies just as good well better then that from a man and most husbands dont mind well from what I hear and its not like a all the time thing but it keeps it spicy like bam
o ya ya im sure a lot a ladies might give me the how dare you thing but its done behind closed doors and its better then doin it with out your man | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:45:39 PM | here we go again... yadda yadda yadda blah blah blah...
the OP wrote this message and then closed her account the same date MARCH 19, 2008!!!!
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