| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 8:08:13 PM | ^^^^ You noticed that too, huh!lol
Well, I'll tell ya what it did for me. After reading so many wacky posts in here, I've realized I'm more normal than I thought! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/21/2008 8:13:18 PM | | I think OP is to be commended for her honesty..sorry,but you guys really are piranhas the way you talk about what she wrote....How many men would confess to this eh?...or feel ashamed or regretful,??eh?...none,that's how many..instead,because a woman wrote this,they call her names and say she deserves it...well,she's being very honest about how sorry she is and yes, she is saying that she strayed because the people who are on here have stories like hers...bored with their spouse and life and seeking some excitement,somebody to make her feel like she's wanted,desired,and important..she says that..."I needed someone to tell me they loved me and show interest in me"...so what she is saying is,that her man didn't pay attention to her,didn't show he loved her...well,frankly,I hope she doesn't take him back without some sort of promise and effort on his part...what happened to her should be a wake up call to her ex,don't you think?...and maybe all of us and I do hope that she does find someone to love her and show it...the Seven Year Itch and every seven years or thereabouts is true...only with me it happened several times and I still stayed until the 28th yr...finally sunk in that I was just a doormat for everybody....and so she must have felt the same way...and she's still alive and breathing....and she can't go back... | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:34:18 PM | | Wow. You are to be commended for your honesty. Nobody in here or anywhere has a right to judge you. I am sure that with the self-awareness that you exhibit you can find a way to forgive yourself and move on. Your husband will follow suit. Your children will be grateful if you stick it out with him. People make mistakes. Forgive yourself and then move on allthewhile trying to be a better communicator with your husband and family. Bless you. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/23/2008 7:09:04 PM | good gawd....gotta love the ones who blame others for their own wrong doings. I dont feel for anyone who cant take responsibility for their own actions.  | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:30:28 AM | You can not blame this on Plenty of Fish, only yourself.
Marriage is just a piece of paper really, you can get a divorce and go your separate ways (sorry to offend you religious types). However once you even think of having a child you need to be absolutely certain you want to be with your partner for life, otherwise it is just completely unfair on the child. At the same time though, I don't believe in unhappy marriages, which will also affect a child's upbringing. If your marriage really isn't working out then don't cheat, try and part peacefully in a way that doesn't hurt the children.
I do wish you the best in sorting things out, although you have to accept that you have no one else to blame than yourself for getting into this mess. If you meet someone on here that you like then wait for sex. The rats will soon get bored and move on, the people who really like you will stick around no matter how long they have to wait. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:43:37 AM | Okay, so you're married, but you sign up on a dating site.....and it's the dating site's fault that you cheated on your husband.  | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 2:13:24 AM | | wow..reason..While I dont condone her behavior, your post is full of cruelty and hate and venom and anger.....Im more concerned about that than what she did...At least she admitted her affair .....Be careful of what you wish for before heaping violence and misfortune on others....You dont know her situation of her husband or his behavior....Its a lack of compassion in our society that leads to our downfall...Let he who has been without sin cast the first stone here....No wonder we get in wars with Iraq and Afghanistan when we cant even deal properly with our own family stuff here....Calling her names like whore when men do it all the time and you look the other way in silence ..What a woman hater....Sheesh | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:03:55 AM | Hi ilove,
I couldn't agree with you more. When a marriage is going wrong both parties have to talk to one another,and decide whether it is worth saving or both of you moving on.
Unfortunately,many people want their bit on the side to enjoy themselves with,and their partner still to be there for them if the affair doesn't work out. It is ultimate selfishness. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:04:11 AM | Im sorry that happened to you ... I know POF has taught me that ppl play games , they lie , they hurt others , they cheat and have cold storage shed where their hearts should be. I was even stalked for awhile ... Its weird cause I never thought 1 meeting (not at my place) would get a person to call you all day for days ... It was scary ... I was begining to think I needed to move and quick so there's no way he could find me at all ... Sad but true
Some ppl are good and have been good to me and I appriciate everyone of them so much ... infact I could call them my good friends after I get to know them better ... Thats the good of POF ...
Sounds like you appriciate the good POF did but you got lost in the bad ... You should of used self control ... The temptations are there to cheat even tho you are in a good marriage you care about ... its a shame that some how you got lost in it all and went the wrong way ... I just hope you know to not let temptations mess up your life ...
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:16:54 AM | | I find all of this very interesting. When I got divorced, I realized that I did not even know what men my age looked like.. It never would have occured to me to have an affair. How does it happen? I am by no means a prude but I cannot imagine getting that close to someone when I was married. Now is a different story. However, i would not have been playing on this site when I was married. I have never seen any thing but pain come from marital affairs. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:48:45 AM | Eight pages later and we're still on the same subject? Isn't this woman gone by now?
And to put my two cents in, we are ALL human. When the human genome were created we were NOT meant to be perfect. True, you've made a terrible mistake. With actions there are reactions and, in some cases, consquences. Learn from the mistakes you've made and start back from square one. Regardless what anyone says (including me), you are the only one who sees yourself in the mirror.  | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 5:16:01 PM |
...bored with their spouse and life and seeking some excitement,somebody to make her feel like she's wanted,desired,and important..she says that..."I needed someone to tell me they loved me and show interest in me"...so what she is saying is,that her man didn't pay attention to her,didn't show he loved her...
All she had to do was get a divorce FIRST, and no one would be saying anything about what an awful person, that she does happen to be. I believe she said something like she didn't take the time to talk to her husband about it, another mistake on her part. AND she blames it on POF.
You just don't go around hurting others that don't deserve it, husband, kids. And then whine about being hurt by your lover. How is her husband suppose to know how she feels, if she didn't tell him? But, that's just okay to hurt her family. This kind of stuff does so much damage to people. And people are just so flippant about it, oh well, she made a mistake. And now she's on here looking for pity. Pffft! The only pity she is feeling is for herself, because some dude bedded her, and dumped her. Awwww... too bad! Got what she deserved. And I can guarantee you, it doesn't make a difference to me if it is man, or woman, who cheats, they all deserve what they get when caught. She's lucky her husband would even "think" about keeping her, let alone actually doing it, and for him doing that, she will probably turn around and do it to him again. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 6:45:12 PM | | This made me think of a friend of mine,he was telling me how his brothers wife is always talking to him about her marital problems. I told him I think she is talking to the wrong person. If she devoted her energy to working on her marriage instead of crying on your shoulder there might be fewer problems. I don't know what to say to you.Momma said if you can't say anything nice.well..... Guess I'll hush. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2008 7:34:25 PM | | Oh can we see the screen name of the cheating wife? IMO All married people -- cheaters should be turned in and then banned from the site. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/23/2009 7:39:20 PM | | im still here,,but having trouble finding the special woman of my life..dated from here but seems NOone can stop the lies and cheating thats on going here...honesty is asked for but not given. trust no one here... dating here is a waste of time and i wont be here much longer...i think there is a moral problem with temp tation the idea of sneeking around is making everone crazy...it is the new era for people to do, be something other than them selves. hard to find a good person here. | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/23/2009 8:05:06 PM | Once I was a man...then I met POF...and  please, this is hard for me...now I'm just a fish Ok shark perhaps...but in the water still...I'm so confused...do I "swim with the fishes" or bite with the sharks?
Am I an Army of one...or a fish going to my destiny? | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:56:45 AM |
seems NOone can stop the lies and cheating thats on going here...honesty is asked for but not given. trust no one here.
Um....
Bernie Madoff (lying/fraud)
Gov. Mark Sanford (cheating)
Peter Cook (cheating on Christie Brinkley)
Hugh Grant (cheating)
Eliot Spitzer (cheating)
John Edwards (cheating)
Gee, think it might not only be going on "here"? | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 7/24/2009 6:31:31 PM |
You can not blame this on Plenty of Fish, only yourself
Anyone that "blames" an internet dating site--which, when you think about it is only a very, very large collection of zeros and ones--needs to work on getting back in touch with reality.
Good grief, peeps! It's the INTERNET!! It is NOT to blame for anything, anymore than it is to be thanked for any good in your life.
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 8/3/2009 7:24:43 AM | | i found a friend and came to relize that we were just seeing each other more and more. then we decided to start dating and thats when the truth came out..the friends she had met were still trying to have their fun and some did. this site is for dating no encounters. these should me removed from this site. but whom ever goes on this site is is loooking for sometype of pleasure encounter..to bad people are getting hurt..i feel sad for this. so i looked deep into soul and found the person that use to be and pulled her from this grip of stranger saying their ur friends and then taking advantage of u..she can see now what a terriable road she was walking and is now recovering for this terriable ordeal..just the two of us | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 8/3/2009 5:03:45 PM |
Once I was a man...then I met POF...and please, this is hard for me...now I'm just a fish Ok shark perhaps...but in the water still...I'm so confused...do I "swim with the fishes" or bite with the sharks? Am I an Army of one...or a fish going to my destiny?
QUICK! Someone slap that Wyatt! He's gone earpy! | |
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| What PlentyOfish has done to me?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:54:41 AM | | Wow..finally someone who has something good to say....`I applaude` how dare any of us judge....we have all done something in our lives we are not proud of, or has affected others. And yet what makes us better then OP...nothing. I hope that we all learn from her and if your married dont go on dating sites; find something that`ll build you up instead of bring you down. Too many people out there just want a booty call, despite what is said. Good luck to you all... | |
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