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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 3/22/2008 9:02:23 PM | I think this no fault divorce is horrible. It is a lie, there are those men and women who just move in and out of people's lives since they can, and they turn the partner's life upside down, and the law says it is ok. You count on retirement, and next thing you know 1/2 of it is going to some who decided the grass is greener on the other side, and you have no choice. I would love to sue the State of Az, the supreme court, and who ever allowed the protection of alienation of affections to be squashed. YES I would be more than glad to find an atty who would help put the fault divorce back in place. The if a partner decided to leave bye, you take your clothes! Unless it is an abuse thing. BUT the person needs to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the abuse is happening, it is easy to prove, and with the motion cameras it is easier than ever! Let's put divorce where it belongs. For abuse. People will marry more for the right reasons, than I can marry, then leave, you owe me, and the person has been actually defrauded! I have heard some real horror stories about this activity in Az. Someone needs to stop this defrauding for money, and property, and retirements. There should be jail time, and replacement for those who have lost their asses due to con men, and women, who are aided by the states that have no fault divorce.
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 3/22/2008 9:19:15 PM | Shouldnt of all that been done be fore you joined a dating site?
Its unfinished bussiness.
If people cant move on, why be here?
Seems Most people want to do is talk about exes.
The Past has gone, The future is ours if we want it bad enough.
I walked out on the lot years ago didnt want a thing as my inner self was more important, finished bringing up my then teens by myself, We did ok.
Be True To Ones Self. | |
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Jemue
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 3/22/2008 9:29:44 PM |
If people cant move on, why be here?
Because a lot of people have no idea how to deal with their issues, so as soon as they break a relationship with one person they instantly look to take the blame and finger pointing option (i.e. suing the ex) to exonerate them from the consensuses of their own actions.
Then they rush to here/dating to find the next pasty for their behavioural patterns, owing to the fact that if they had to sit around and think about it they might figure out that the issues in their life are their problems.
Seeing as a lot of north american society (and a few others, though it's shrinking) encourages people to relinquish their responsibility; in so much that if anything goes wrong you can sue someone and "prove" that it wasn't your fault, or that you "weren't told what to do" ...... not only is it inhumanly sad, but also very disempowering as people never have to step up and face anything or take responsibility.
Grow a spine people, take risks accept the outcome and move on, it's called living and growing.
Be True To Ones Self.
If the majority of people were able to do that, these forums and this site, probably wouldn't exist.
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 3/22/2008 9:46:58 PM | no, suing is not the answer, unless there was property damage enough to bother with
it. I am a woman who had to pay since I am the bread winner. I am now worried if a passing relationship I am getting out of will be a lawsuit. I have decided ill never live with anyone agian. I am at a age that making friends is all I want who needs the
drama , and the bs that goes along with a relationship? I like not having anyone to answer too, I come and go as I please. | |
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:35:13 PM | | When i catch Judge Judy on TV this is what I am thinking..................GAWD THAT WOMEN IS SUCH A *****.......... Back to the original issue........just do what your heart tells you to do......analyze the situation that you would go thru and the pain..........let it go.........let it go........you gotta live and learn how........ | |
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:10:42 PM | No. First I wouldn't allow a situation to get to the point where I was suffering from PTSD or depression. However, if someone defrauded me or stole money from me because they turned out to be a con man, I would look into legal remedies in that type of situation . Other than that I can deal with all the other emotional stuff, put it in it's proper perspective, and move on.
Relationships often have a shelf life and people should be realistic about when it is time to move on before too much damage is done to one's emotional, psychological, spiritual, physical ,and possibly financial well-being. Having said that I know that everyone isn't always strong enough to walk away from a bad situation for a variety of reasons and if you add children into the mix things can really get complicated.
Mareena
(How Mareena got the dogs during the divorce...with convoluted psychology of course!)
Mareena~ I want the dogs .
Him~No I want the dogs.
Mareena~Forget it you take the dogs. I'll also throw in the pooper scooper .
Him~No you take the POOPER SCOOPER. I hate picking up dog poop.
Mareena~ Okay I'll take the pooper scooper.
Him ~Well what good is the pooper scooper without the dogs ????
Mareena~ You are right .
Him~ Okay so you better take the dogs too then. Who the hell wants the dogs without the pooper scooper what sense does that make??!!
Mareena~ Okay you win I'll take the dogs and the pooper scooper but I'll also need the house because the yard goes with the house and the pooper scooper goes with the yard and the yard is probably full of dog poop and you hate picking up dog poop.
Him~Fine...I bet you thought you were going to walk away with everything didn't you?
Mareena~ No...why would you assume that?
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 6/30/2008 1:59:58 PM | | Yes,I have seriously contemplated this,the ex b/f in a drunken stupor smashed his truck into the front end of my pretty red mustang,at time,said he would pay 4 repairs,never did,and now we are broke up,but Iam thinking of filing a small claims to try to get compensated for damages and also for items in his home he refuses to turn over to me.. | |
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| Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you?
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:11:37 PM |
Have you ever considered suing an ex for compensation for damages you've incurred because they were were abusive, damaging to your belongings, damaging to your reputation or credit rating or perhaps, left you suffering with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or depression? If you have, tell us about what happened. If you haven't, would you actually consider doing so? Why or why not?
First of all the only way someone can constantly hurt a person is if they are constantly given a chance. People are not total victims if they dont take the blame for staying with this type of guy, even when they get hurt time after time. What bothers me in the U.S. is if someone goes through anything emotional, they have multiple mental disorders. IMHO I'm not getting that. I dont know you or your situation but just in general.
So many women stay with absolute jerks until the train totally wrecks, then they throw up their hands and say poor me, he hurt me. People keep getting hurt because they allow it. Things like this dont happen overnight.
You can try to sue him but it will cost you a ton of money, and in the end will be harder than you think to prove. Also you stayed with him. You can put in psycho jargon into the court room but again, you stayed for whatever reason. Judge Judy says it best; if he hurts you thats one thing; if you stay thats another.
Please tell me you weren't living together. I still in my right mind dont know how people can live together; 99% of the time it never works out. If you were married battle it over in court.
Good luck; sounds like a terrible experience and hopefully you learned a lot from it. I think its best to get counseling and only look for friends on this site.
If you have been harmed so much then how selfish it is to unload that on another person. | |
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