| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 10:52:49 AM | The reason it is mentioned is because a) Its true (no matter how much women protest it isn't) and b) The point is as valid as women who go on about men not dating them because they are Fat,Gingers,Mingers or whatever.
Should we start labeling such people as having "Fat Bird Syndrome" or "Ugly Cow syndrome"?
No of course not,people are fully within their right to voice an opinion on something such as this which is a FACT of life.This is different to some kind of "Complex". I have no problem with my height or the height of anyone else. What I do have a problem with is other peoples "Narrow mindedness" in realtion to other peoples superficial/visual aspects of who they are.
I mean people on here are complaining about many things to do with what is on a persons profile, but have none of you ever heard the saying "Never judge a book by its cover". Judging by some of the posts on here, I don't think some of you have.
"The above actually wasnt coined by a woman... i studied psychology, and it was actually a male professor who determined that men are visually driven and women emotionally.....
I don't think i "stole" it, its just a known fact in psychology.
shot down in flames......sorry"
For your information I never said it was coined by anyone. What I did say is that it is something that women trot out on a regular basis, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
Just because someone conducted a study into something which cannot be proved using a limited/flawed process means nothing. This is especially true in something like this which relies on not only people to be truthful (Which would show said people in a bad light) but on the "Opinion" of one man.
In the REAL world I'm sure that the majority of men would say that for the most part women are just as shallow as their male conterparts.I know you think you know it all because you studied psycholgy but I hate to tell you this but psychology is NOT an EXACT science, which is why there are so many branches to said field.
Of course you are going to stick up for you gender (Most women often support other women even if they know they are wrong) but I fortunately can open my mind up to the failings of both men and women. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:01:09 AM |
"Looking for soulmate" has to be the worst thing to put on them though
Oh im with you on that one Cranky Amy, but its so much more amusing for me when they state they are looking for their SOLEmate | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:20:55 AM |
No of course not,people are fully within their right to voice an opinion on something such as this which is a FACT of life.This is different to some kind of "Complex". I have no problem with my height or the height of anyone else. What I do have a problem with is other peoples "Narrow mindedness" in realtion to other peoples superficial/visual aspects of who they are
How can such a generalization of the female population be made, is it only little men that have this perception ??
How is it known that women do not like to date Little men ??
Do women actually say that they will not date someone because they are to little ??
In the REAL world I'm sure that the majority of men would say that for the most part women are just as shallow as their male conterparts.
In the real world most women quite often to admit to being shallow as in they will only see men that they feel fit their criteria of a future partner, and will not date ones that do not fill that criteria, for whatever reason..
I know you think you know it all because you studied psycholgy but I hate to tell you this but psychology is NOT an EXACT science, which is why there are so many branches to said field.
How does anyone know what another thinks they know ??
Of course you are going to stick up for you gender (Most women often support other women even if they know they are wrong)
As do men..
but I fortunately can open my mind up to the failings of both men and women
Fortunately so can the majority of forumites, it does not however mean that it will change their personal opinion.. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:28:16 AM |
The above actually wasnt coined by a woman... i studied psychology, and it was actually a male professor who determined that men are visually driven and women emotionally.....
So it doesn't matter if I look like a bag of nails as long as I'm there to listen?
I am quite a good listener, now, actually, so if any ladies need to get anything off their chest then I'd happily participate in, ..., removing whatever it is that needs removing. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:35:08 AM | How can such a generalization of the female population be made, is it only little men that have this perception ??
How is it known that women do not like to date Little men ??
Do women actually say that they will not date someone because they are to little
It is known because a) Women make it clear on a regular basis, the majority of women say they want someone who is tall/dark/handsome. When was the last time you heard a women say she would like to date a man who is short/light/ugly? The vast majority of "Height deficient" men will tell you that they have had severe problems in terms of dating women because women have made it perfectly clear that it is a big issue.
In the real world most women quite often to admit to being shallow as in they will only see men that they feel fit their criteria of a future partner, and will not date ones that do not fill that criteria, for whatever reason..
In the real world most women will NOT admit to being shallow simply because it puts them in a bad light, much better to say one thing and do something entirely different.
How does anyone know what another thinks they know ??
By showing what they know by expressing it through what they say/do/write.
As do men..
I have not said they don't as I know that most would.
Fortunately so can the majority of forumites, it does not however mean that it will change their personal opinion..
Well I have been here for a long long time and I don't see that myself. Most people have a closed mind and will not change their opinion simply because their views are too deep rooted or because they don't want to admit that they may be wrong/at fault in some way. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:52:21 AM |
When was the last time you heard a women say she would like to date a man who is short/light/ugly?
When was the last time one heard a man say he wanted to date a fat/old/miserable women..
In the real world most women will NOT admit to being shallow simply because it puts them in a bad light, much better to say one thing and do something entirely different.
I'm shallow, and I love a bad light as it hides the fact that I am a fat/old/miserable women..
Most people have a closed mind and will not change their opinion simply because their views are too deep rooted or because they don't want to admit that they may be wrong/at fault in some way
If its their opinion of course they are not going to change it, and whether you like it or not peoples opinions are personal to them for whatever reason they so choose..
Getting angry and cross about it will not alter that particular Fact
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 12:02:56 PM |
When was the last time one heard a man say he wanted to date a fat/old/miserable women..
Thats is not an issue here because I have already said that the majority of men are also shallow. The issue is that men are usually upfront about not wanting to date women with certain characteristics, however women are infrequently upfront and prefer to "Cover up" their shallowness.
If its their opinion of course they are not going to change it, and whether you like it or not peoples opinions are personal to them for whatever reason they so choose..
Thats exactly what I'm saying. They are not going to change it because they are are not open minded. The personal nature of the opinions is not in question its the refusal to question those opinions when overwhelming evidence suggests that heaven forbid their opinion may need to me re-evaluated. If I have an opinion and someone presents me with evidence to the contrary I have no problem with re-evaluating how I think and admiting that I was wrong. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 1:58:07 PM | ugh...one I noticed this arvo: pics of half-dressed women sitting alongside pics of their children. Just something not good about it atall!!  | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 2:13:02 PM | | Listing 'trainspotting' among your interests would probably be ill advised as would 'collecting video nasties', 'putting ferrets down trousers' would appeal to only a niche market, 'watersports' could be misconstrued and 'going for colonic irrigation' is perhaps not the greatest suggestion for a first date.... | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 2:37:41 PM | | if i see " cant be bothered to fill this in " jut tells me cant be bothered full stop | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 2:58:15 PM | | You may want to write a few more posts NeverByth..........because that's exactly what is gonna show up on your profile! | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:12:43 PM | Why would you push a door that's labelled pull? Surely that just means you can't read?
And why is she not on my matches page? She's clearly the perfect embodiment of woman. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:24:48 PM |
Why would you push a door that's labelled pull? Surely that just means you can't read?
Does it mean you can't read ....or that you have a lot of other things going on in your mind at the same time and you're possibly not that hot at multi-tasking?
Never done anything daft in your life? Never had the opportunity to laugh at yourself? If not ....such a serious soul?? | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/24/2008 4:44:47 PM | "Do women actually say that they will not date someone because they are to little ??"
Yes, it has happened to me three times so far..and it sucks! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 2:47:28 AM | Ha ha ha ha... A genre!? You call that mish mash of text speak and cliches a genre? Thanks for patronising me by telling me what I still have time to learn, but if words are a tool she has got the wrong tools for the job.
I bet you think the other one I posted a couple of messages down is Post Modernist Stream of Consciousness too? | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/25/2008 12:50:10 PM | this lass (not someone known to me) may just be writing in a genre that you :
1.don't understand or
2. have no experience of
or
has put a little more thought into their writing than you can be bothered to do when reading it
I don't know, having the read the profile in question I would be interested to what particular genre(s) you might be referring...
Could it be:-
1) Someone keen on inter-species dating?
Or
2) Wishing to meet someone also recently released under the 'Care in the Community' (a title that shows someone in Government enjoys oxymorons...) scheme...
Or
3)The genre who believe that Tracey Emins 'Unmade Bed' is a masterwork of transcendental genius that makes the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel look like the daubing of an untalented amateur.. And not a pile of talent-free mediocre dross fawned over by pretentious morons who thought ‘Armitage Shanks’ was an artist’s signature when they found themselves in the bogs at the Tate Modern....
If, as you speculate the writer has indeed put a lot of thought into composing said profile I think it only serves to illuminate that should she wish to apply for membership to 'Densa' (the Sister Organisation to Mensa for those with an IQ lower than their shoe size when using Continental sizing) her application would almost certainly be fast-tracked...... (Once translated into English). | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/25/2008 1:34:43 PM |
(Once translated into English).
ahhh! ...and there in lies the problem ... the inability to read 'youth culture script' .... a lot of people mock what they don't understand, they alwas have done, its one of the uglier characteristics of human nature!
Why worry about someones profile if it's not 'you' it's aimed at?
Why make out this lady is dense because she doesn't fit into the 'criteria' for your 'perfect partner'?
So you don't like her profile .... move on ... there's no need to try and humiliate the lady. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/25/2008 2:15:38 PM | All i have to say is it would be boring if we were clones! each to their own, and i must agree, just because this ladys profile is not to your liking it may be to others who can relate to her writing.
Live and let live, without pulling others who are different to pieces, no matter wot sex they are, wot age they are.
Angie x | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:11:39 PM | Lists - Retentive
Text Speak - Fick!!!
Well What Can I Say.... = Clearly bugger all!!
Bad Spelling - Ficker
LOL - You are just so funny -NOT!!
Pictures of ,or with your pets - Which one is the dog?
Pictures wearing a hat that you would only be seen in on a drunken night out..oh how appealing!!! - Yeah baby ,bring that look on!!
Half naked photos - Leave a little to the imagination
Don't know what to put here - Nothing to say? Must have a date with you then.
Listing activities as a hobby that you did once on a holiday in 1985 - Loser!!!
Looking For A Knight In Shining Armour - Good Luck with that one Rapunzel!!!
My friends say..... - What ? That you can't think for yourself?
Cut and pasting drivel - Try to be original please?
Stupid icons with no relevance..  | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 3/25/2008 7:04:52 PM |
Do women actually say that they will not date someone because they are too little ?
Yes, they do, and what's worse they don't even consider what they're saying. There's the matter of whether someone is tall enough, which of course is vaguely socially acceptable, whilst 'you're too fat' isn't.
On the other hand, there's the slightly deceptive 'you need to put more weight on'. In actual fact, this is rarely to do about weight, and actually to do about how broad your shoulders are. Your shoulders are limited by your skeleton, so you can't change them. Put on weight and the only thing you'll be told is that your beer belly is too big.. People either rarely think about what actually attracts and drives them, or just enjoy screwing with their heads - your choice.
I'd submit that the average straight woman is rarely forthright; it was unusual to find out that the daughters of a friend wanted taller and broader men 'so that they could have a good hard fscking'.
Still, this is getting off the subject, so I'll open another can of worms. What not to put in a profile is : saying you don't want children. This will get up the nose of a non trivial number of people.
I would also put on the list of things never to include : bisexuality, unless you're a woman (it's only idiots like me that are upfront about their sexuality), any variety of kinkyness, any suggestion you have ever had an STD (even a curable one, or ones that 70%+ of the population have, but don't generally show up in the STD tests most people fail to take anyway) and definitely not, under any circumstances, cross dressing or any variety of being genderqueer/transgender. One day people will be sensible enough to talk about sexuality, gender and sex without having unalterable preconceptions.
For the hard of thinking, no, all the above does not apply to me. If any of the above paragraph does apply to you, I would strongly recommend not using POF, and trying a different dating site. | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:14:39 AM | What i have noticed a lot of is men quite clearly fibbing about their age , then in their list of requirements stating they wont date women who are at least 10 years younger than this.....come on get real !!!..sucked in tummies, photos taken from a distance and tight jeans dont fool anybody old man
Oh and i love the 40 something men who everybody tells they look and act much younger, who love clubbin wiv their mates ..... generally have shaved heads, football shirts..and stag night photos on their profile ....sigh
Im sure some women must be as bad...just put them under the deluded section
ps after reading these messages...im going to have to make a few adjustments to my profile too
oh and pps...still dislike photos of children on here....not the right place | |
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Joined: 5/29/2007
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:18:06 AM | I probably break all the rules when it comes what not to put on a profile, but that's because I am completely out of touch with what the average woman finds appealing. As for what I find irksome? or rather cringe worthy on profiles is when I read :
1) txt talk
2)"Want a man who can handle himself"
3)"I hate these things"
4)"I don't know why I am here"
But at the end of the day it's how we all express ourselves and what might not appeal to ourselves will hopefully appeal to other people....or fish  
John | |
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| what not to put in a profile
Posted: 5/4/2008 11:11:53 AM |
the "I have had my heart broken by the love of my life and am looking for someone to heal me and make me trust again..."
total red flag to stay far far away!
Yeah- that is REALLY REALLY off putting! | |
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