| Men in diapers Posted: 8/17/2009 6:09:59 PM | ^^^^^^^^^
Exactly...............finally someone with a bit of common sense.
Message 74 - if you choose to wear diapers and actually like it that's up to you - I seriously couldn't care less.
My statement was that I would prefer to date a man, not a baby. Take it personally if you must. It wasn't aimed specifically at you.
This thread is for people to voice their opinions. Perhaps remember that next time you join one. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/17/2009 6:23:06 PM | Well you have my apologies, as stated previously.
And that still does not condone laughing at others lifestyles, regardless of your dating standards. So while the "man" comment may not have been directed at me, the laughter was.
This thread IS for opinions, not insults (Like laughing at others lifestyles), perhaps remember that next time you decide to be judgemental. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 6:55:27 AM | A real sicko for sure
check this out !! A Craig list special, lol ...........on this BS
http://kdka.com/watercooler/janet.schulte.diapers.2.1121254.html | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 11:36:54 AM | Adults who wear diapers have got some serious issues.
I bet a lot of those same folks have developmental issues and a good percentage of them are probably into "scat play" as well. Scat is the use of feces as part of sex play.
To each his own...but I think anyone who is involved with someone with a diaper fetish has got to be aware that it's probably just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 11:52:38 AM | I watched a show on the Secret Lives of Women and one of the topics had to do with this subject.The woman was into being treated like a baby.Her boyfriend would dress her and diaper her and change her put her to bed in her CRIB...and have sex with her while she was in this frame of mind.
Now....I'm no professional,but to me that sounds a bit too close to both of them having some issues. If he get's off on treating her like a child...and she get's off on treating him like a 'Daddy"....what does that say about unresolved childhood sexual abuse issues?
To me...it says RED FLAG!
What people do with thier own bodies and minds is none of my business,I just find it all so interesting how far away from the middle people get,and wonder how they got there and how they are going to COME BACK WABBIT!
I've done some sexually experimental things in my lifetime that some would find OUT THERE.....so who am I to judge?
But...this 'mommy' ain't changin' no grown man's poopie diapers! Maybe I'd apply little Desitin though. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 11:56:21 AM | In fact, despite my post to the contrary, I have hung out with guys who wear diapers and I can see myself wearing one at some future time.
You see, I'm a scuba diver, and when you wear a "dry suit", and are underwater for long periods of time..and you experience a strong need to pee (which happens as a result of being immersed in a body of water), you need to "go", and unlike a wetsuit you can't just let it fly or you'll get soaked in your own piss...so some of these guys wear diapers under their dry suit to catch the urine.
In fact some divers who go for depth records are down for days at a time and they actually crap into the diaper inside their dry suit.
I am not that dedicated to the sport. At the moment I'm a wetsuit only diver, and that's one huge advantage. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:17:19 PM | Boy, here is another ignorant comment:
A real sicko for sure
What is sick is that you lie so much on your profile. Compassionate (HA!) "Great sence of humor" (HA!) Hell you even admit to lying in there!
Least I know why I can't get a date, it's the diapers...
Idioc Steve:
How do I have issues? And how are you so sure that it is only the tip of the iceberg. By your own admission you know little of the lifestyle.
Lastly, you really show your ignorance calling this a Fetish. Lastly, you really show your ignorance calling this a Fetish. Lastly, you really show your ignorance calling this a Fetish. Lastly, you really show your ignorance calling this a Fetish.
I put this up 4 times, so you people could read it finally. It is not a fetish, so please remove the "ignorance blinders". Scroll up and read if you want to see the first time I posted what this really is (a lifestyle.)
So think of that when you are up on your perches, it is no different than being gay or lesbian. Of course bigots pick on them too, so I suppose it won't change a thing.
EDIT** And infantilists do not all "poop/pee" themselves. And infantilists do not all "poop/pee" themselves. And infantilists do not all "poop/pee" themselves. And infantilists do not all "poop/pee" themselves.
There is another one people are having a hard time reading. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:22:36 PM | Jeez...someone has a diaper rash. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:24:34 PM | This was typed as a premonition of the comment "Someone needs their diaper changed."
As you can see already, the comment was far from original. But, just for sh*ts and giggles...
I obviously have typed something that conveys an emotional response. Was it in response to a rude comment? A snide remark? Generall ass-hattery? I already know the answer, and it hasn't even happened yet! (As I typed this.)
So, it could be said that I was 'fussy' because another baby was crying. Perhaps it is the original comment that should have its diaper changed.
Now if you would like to continue a proper discussion, by all means. But if you continue to act the child, it will be nap time. (Typed on Sunday 8/16/2009 5:31PM) | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:26:47 PM | OP: Not for me. I would not find anything appealing having a man in diapers and me being his "Momma".  | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:41:13 PM | Me OOg....I didn't read this whole thread...sorry if my post wasn't "original"....the point was....WHY are you so defensive? I don't even know if you get off wearing diapers.
nor do I care.....I DO know.....it's a tad bit OUT OF MY LEAGUE.
GO FOR IT THOUGH....HUGGIES TO YOU! | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:44:55 PM |
Me Oog :Idioc Steve:
How do I have issues? And how are you so sure that it is only the tip of the iceberg. By your own admission you know little of the lifestyle.
You have issues because you wear diapers and you do it for fun and sexual gratification not because you are a scuba diver wearing a dry suit. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:47:34 PM | It is obvious to me now that your comment above "diaper rash" was a joke. So I apologize profusly.
Please understand, I have been dealing with bigots for the last 2 pages. So humor is hard to get through MY "ignorance blinders".
Again super sorry, and thank you for the hug.
This is my lifestyle, it started because I was mentally abused as a child. (Same reasons as transvestites, more or less) This has caused the desire to 'revert back to babyhood'. There are no nasty gross sick reasons, other than abuse, that I do this. And this IS the case with almost EVERY infantilist.
This is why I defend it to the teeth (gums?) now. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:49:37 PM | So my underwear choice decides whether or not I have issues. Got it.
What about people who wear no underwear?
You are serious aren't you, I really am dumbfounded.
"Yeah, this guys a freak cause he wears different underwear than us!"
You get enjoyment out of submersing yourself in fish piss and poop, is that an issue too? | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 12:52:58 PM |
This is my lifestyle, it started because I was mentally abused as a child. (Same reasons as transvestites, more or less) This has caused the desire to 'revert back to babyhood'. There are no nasty gross sick reasons, other than abuse, that I do this. And this IS the case with almost EVERY infantilist.
Interesting. So if someone is abused mentally as a child - they revert into this lifestyle vs. going for some sort of therapy? | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 1:03:16 PM | Well this is a difficult question to answer, I will answer it how my life turned out. I do not know if this is average for infantilists, but I have talked to a few others who had similar circumstances:
My 'lifestyle' started at (or around) the ripe old age of 3. I remember beaing spanked (father again) for wearing diapers. We still had 'left-overs' due to I was in potty training. My memory of childhood is not strong at all, so that is a story from mom/dad.
After that school began, and I remember a couple instances of stealing diapers from the 'pre-school' area. This was around 2nd/3rd grade, this is also when the 'therapy' started.
Long story short, I have never been to a therapist that said "Infantilism is a mental disorder". It best can be described as a lack of development in a humans neural network. So, while my brain fires properly. I do not have the 'average' pathways when it comes to certain aspects of my life, which is the same for every person on the planet. (Hence why there is no 'normal'.)
So there you have it, I have been to therapists (In all fairness, not since I was a freshman in HS.) None ever said the nasty comments I have seen in here, nor did they compare them to those comments. (Hence my comments on ignorance.)
Lastly, thank you so much for a 'real' question/comment! You have no idea how much that was welcomed, against the tide of bigotry. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 1:14:34 PM |
Me Oog -You get enjoyment out of submersing yourself in fish piss and poop, is that an issue too?
I NEVER thought of it that way!
You might be onto something there. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 1:17:24 PM |
Well this is a difficult question to answer, I will answer it how my life turned out. I do not know if this is average for infantilists, but I have talked to a few others who had similar circumstances:
My 'lifestyle' started at (or around) the ripe old age of 3. I remember beaing spanked (father again) for wearing diapers. We still had 'left-overs' due to I was in potty training. My memory of childhood is not strong at all, so that is a story from mom/dad.
After that school began, and I remember a couple instances of stealing diapers from the 'pre-school' area. This was around 2nd/3rd grade, this is also when the 'therapy' started.
Long story short, I have never been to a therapist that said "Infantilism is a mental disorder". It best can be described as a lack of development in a humans neural network. So, while my brain fires properly. I do not have the 'average' pathways when it comes to certain aspects of my life, which is the same for every person on the planet. (Hence why there is no 'normal'.)
So there you have it, I have been to therapists (In all fairness, not since I was a freshman in HS.) None ever said the nasty comments I have seen in here, nor did they compare them to those comments. (Hence my comments on ignorance.)
Lastly, thank you so much for a 'real' question/comment! You have no idea how much that was welcomed, against the tide of bigotry.
So is this choice of lifestyle and the therapy a process to help you develop to the stage where you should be in terms of the "norm" adult male? Or since professionals claim that this lifestyle is not a mental disorder it's your choice to remain for more pleasurable reasons as they reason that it DOES NOT cause any harm per se?
You have to keep in mind that this site is NOT geared towards the lifestyle and/or fetishes that exist. People will have their opinions/comments as they see "fit".
RE: Your last comments; You have to take things with a grain of salt here, and move along to the beat of your own drum!
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 1:28:36 PM | This is an interesting topic! I have been pondering it considerably the last few months myself, here is my specific thought:
Since the 'lifestyle' is only a collection of "thoughts" in my brain, I should be able to re-program my brain to "bypass those circuts".
Which brings us to the post:
Or since professionals claim that this lifestyle is not a mental disorder it's your choice to remain for more pleasurable reasons as they reason that it DOES NOT cause any harm per se?
When I 'change' something about myself, it generally has to be doing something that I dislike. Or at least dislike enough to want to change. Causing harm, that would be a big reason to change. If only I could figure out just what 'harm' is.
If I want a date, and I can't get one because of my lifestyle, is the lifestyle causing harm?
Let me ask it this way:
If I want a date, and can't get one because of my personality, is the personality causing harm?
(If you can answer that without more specifics, you get a cookie.) By the same rule, I need more specifics before I can say my lifestyle is causing me harm. Of course, that is what we are on the planet to do, live and learn.
In the end, it IS a choice. So is being gay, lesbian, breathing, eating, and living in general. That is all life is, a string of choices. It is hard to remember that neither are the choices wrong, nor are they right. They are just choices.
Lastly:
So is this choice of lifestyle and the therapy a process to help you develop to the stage where you should be in terms of the "norm" adult male?
I am sorry, but there is no "norm". It would be the most stress inducing futile thing for me to attempt, because it does not exist. Now if by normal you mean "average" well I pride myself for not being like everyone else. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 2:54:25 PM | There is a perfect site for these kinksters as they like to call themselves, as apparently we are called Vanilla in their world, the site is fetlife.com ( unbelievable) !!!!!!!! I m sure they will find exactly what they are looking for.
definitely not my cup of tea either !!
my days of changing diapers are over !!  | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 3:19:33 PM | | I think man in diapers is okay,that's a woman's name right? | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/18/2009 7:17:18 PM | In response to the post regarding a fetish site:
This lifestyle is not a fetish, and since I knew this would happen (again) here is another pre-typed response!
Another 'pre-typed' response. I love talking to normies...
Since people seem to have their 'stupidity blinders' on let me help to make this easier to understand.
A fetish is:
1- an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2- any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.
3- Psychology. any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation. I do not think diapers have a spirit, nor do I think they are magical. Neither do I have unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion to diapers. Ahh, so that brings us to number 3. Well number 3 is pretty general isn't it? To figure out if this fits into #3 one has to do something called research. Research is what is needed when one wants to make claims about something or another. Well it is needed, if you don't want to look like an idiot. Anyways, is infantilism a fetish? I know it is not, as do the infantilists. But you normies, jeez you just can't get it through those thick skulls. Here, maybe this will help:
From Wiki:
Paraphilic infantilism is a paraphilia characterized by the desire to wear diapers, due to reasons other than medical necessity, and/or be treated as an infant[1] or toddler. It is also characterized by the carrying out of these desires on a regular basis. Within the community of such diaper wearers, one who engages only in the erotic or sexual aspect of diaper wearing without experiencing any accompanying regression fantasies is known as a diaper lover (or DL).
An infantilist does NOT engage only in the erotic/sexual aspects of diaper wearing. An infantilist does NOT engage only in the erotic/sexual aspects of diaper wearing. An infantilist does NOT engage only in the erotic/sexual aspects of diaper wearing.
An adult who only engages in the infantilistic play aspect is known as an adult baby (or AB).[2] An adult who may experience both of these things is referred to as an AB/DL.[3][4] In 2004, an informal online survey of 80 adult diaper wearers showed that approximately 40% considered themselves strictly DL's, approximately 40% were mixed, and 20% considered themselves strictly AB's. The survey also indicated that there is a significant number of teenagers who engage in this practice. [5][6] Findings of the American Psychiatric Association indicate that a majority of infantilists are heterosexual males.
Here are some catagories, so others can better understand what is going on. Hopefully it will curb the ignorant/stupid comments. But that requires those posters to read, and well that doesn't look to be too promising. Also, be prepared. Claims require evidence, I have provided mine. If a claim is made, I will expect the same. Doesn't mean you have to give it, but I will make sure it is the only thing I ask for in any further responses. Looks like I am not the only one that needs to 'grow up.'. You learn this crap in high school debate.
Of course I know what is going on in those brains. They see keywords like "Grown Men" and "Diapers" and immediatly associate feces and urine. That is what happens when you are not in control of your thoughts, it is okay I understand. It takes years to be able to fully comprehend things, some people never get the ability. Like I said before, at least I know why I have to resort to dating sites, it's the diapers. ;)
The most ironic thing about this? I am acting more like an adult than some of these posters, and I admit I like acting like a baby. What is their excuse?(Typed on Sunday 8/16/2009 5:31PM)
EDIT** Remember, this was pre-typed it is not a tailored response. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/19/2009 5:06:49 AM | It is obvious to me now that your comment above "diaper rash" was a joke. So I apologize profusly.
Please understand, I have been dealing with bigots for the last 2 pages. So humor is hard to get through MY "ignorance blinders".
Again super sorry, and thank you for the hug.
This is my lifestyle, it started because I was mentally abused as a child. (Same reasons as transvestites, more or less) This has caused the desire to 'revert back to babyhood'. There are no nasty gross sick reasons, other than abuse, that I do this. And this IS the case with almost EVERY infantilist.
This is why I defend it to the teeth (gums?) now.
NEVER feel the need to justify yourself to ANYONE.Stand secure in your choices,actions and behaviors and OWN THEM without SHAME! People may NEVER get it,but WHO CARES! Validate yourself and don't allow others to get under your skin.WE ALL have sexual desires,preferances,proclivities and kinks that stem, to a certain degree, from our childhoods,some just don't put two and two together. I was sexually abused as a child myself and it manifested itself in many ways throughout the years.So many long term effects that actually came to pass....it's a wonder I survived with my head on straight.So I get what you are saying.I also know why you are being defensive.People tend to gang up on people who do things that they don't understand.You might already know it's different than most but damn if it really MATTERS.This is a pubic forum with alot of closed minded judgemental people and if you don't know them or respect them,why would what they think have any bearing on your choices or feelings?
I am all about defending the underdoggie.....and trying to validate people's choices I don't always fully comprehend.But only you can block out the fodder and leave them wondering who what where when and why you do this.
The ONLY person you have to answer to is yourself. You know where this stems from.You feel no need to seek therapy to come to terms with your past and it gives you a sense of nurturing you must never have had as a child.I GET THAT.
Apology accepted.No hard feelings here.Just know....people will ALWAYS question something like this because they can't understand it.....I'm sure even you sometimes question it yourself.
You're OK......just living outside the "BOX".
I hope at least after all this judgement,you realize that EVERYONE here has done something that they themselves Deem odd....and it's alot easier to point fingers at others...than ourselves.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
Maybe....all that needed to be said was...."It's cathartic and helping me heal from my past." Period.
If you give people half a chance to judge you....they will NEVER disappoint you. | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/19/2009 8:19:10 AM | The only men in diapers I have seen is when I visit the nursing home...and would like to keep it that way.  | |
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| Men in diapers Posted: 8/19/2009 8:32:06 AM | Me oog wrote: "It really is amazing to see how closed minded people really are. Especially when we supposedly live in an open-minded time."
I'm not seeing that people are close-minded. They are simply not into it. If they find it gross then that is their opinion. If this is something you engage in that is up to you. Doesn't mean others have to like it. | |
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