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 Iced1071
Joined: 7/2/2011
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"Whore in the bedroom, Martha Stewart in the kitchen". From my experience most men would welcome the fun and excitement of a sexually aggressive female, but this is not the woman they want as their GF, wife or SO.

Aggressive, dominant, or independent women usually get a negative reputation from men.


I think you misinterpretted that.

Nothing wrong with having an awesome wife thats sweet,kind, caring, and an absolutely dynamite in the bedroom.

Thats probably every guys ideal woman right there. "Woman in the street but a freak in the sheets"

Already been the submissive wife route..didn't like it.. maybes it because i like someone whose just as sexually adventurous as me
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
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Posted: 7/22/2011 5:27:00 PM
Iced...whatever made you think that subs aren't sexually adventurous? If you based that on a sample of one or two sub women, I can tell you that you're very much mistaken.
 Iced1071
Joined: 7/2/2011
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Posted: 7/23/2011 11:58:34 AM


Iced...whatever made you think that subs aren't sexually adventurous? If you based that on a sample of one or two sub women, I can tell you that you're very much mistaken.


Yea its not really fair to generalize, I realize that now.... but I also can only go off of my experiences,which is why i said it.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 7/24/2011 6:02:22 AM
I had a big response to this typed out earlier and lost it, so I'll try this again.

There's a difference between dominating and domineering.

I don't micromanage or induldge in humiliation/degredation. There's no abuse. There's no punishment... only reward. We laugh a lot. We talk a lot. There's lots of sex. He is not emasculated and feminized. His role is to be the man, and he does it rather well.

From the outside it probably looks a lot like any other relationship... and it is. There are just a few subtle differences. He pushed the carts when we go out shopping, carries the groceries into the house and puts them away, cooks dinner, mows my lawn, makes my coffee, draws me a bath and offers a massage. He lets me tie him up and torment him, ok.. so that part might not be like any other relationship. *weg*

So yes... I can say there are men who like dominant women.
 Santababy70
Joined: 7/20/2011
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Posted: 7/24/2011 11:07:00 AM
I wouldn't have handcuffs and restraints if some men didn't love it!
 4gr8tfun
Joined: 7/5/2011
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Posted: 7/28/2011 6:20:54 AM
Well said and I ll go with that. I would consider myself as an Alpha male. However I still would love a woman that wants to take charge from time to time. Funny enough I only attract very submissive women.
 Thewos
Joined: 9/6/2011
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Posted: 4/19/2012 11:08:07 PM
Dominant women are so hot I love how they take control and make me do what they want me too
 Thewos
Joined: 9/6/2011
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Posted: 4/19/2012 11:10:17 PM
Wow handcuffs that's hot you can restrain me anytime lol
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Posted: 4/24/2012 3:25:09 PM
NO. I don't but if I'm dating a white woman I like to tole play she is a Nazi officer and I am being held POW and I have to escape. The escape involves tieing her up after she tries to beat me (spanks me and stomps with her heels lol) after I tie her up I teach her a lesson she will never forget.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 4/27/2012 7:21:39 AM
I don't know any dominant women, and I've heard that women who like to be dominant in real life, often still prefer to have the guy take the lead sexually anyway. Sexually, I'd really prefer to have someone who would share the 'lead' about half the time at least.
 Mp_seeksPASSIONATE1
Joined: 3/2/2012
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Posted: 5/23/2012 4:41:35 PM
Not all, but a lot of men LOVE a Dominant woman. So yes, to answer your question. I make a pretty good living at it being a Dominant woman. I do it full time and have a great life being a Dominatrix. A lot of men crave it in their marriages. I try to tell them just talk to the Mrs and you would be surprised at what she says....
But this is just work for me. I like the 50/50 split in My relationships.
 sooperguy
Joined: 6/11/2010
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Posted: 5/23/2012 5:06:07 PM
I was brought up to respect women as equals, but in the bedroom I prefer a slightly more submissive woman. I can't stand a woman wo is looking for a "real man" which my personal experience has shown they want to act as ****y as they want, with no respect and if you don't like it you're not
Man enough.
 CJinCentralPa
Joined: 2/14/2012
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Posted: 5/23/2012 5:24:25 PM
I don't know if I want a dominant woman as much as an assertive woman. LOL I screw around (joke...I joke a lot) but I don't think I can be subservient.

Making dinner and making coffee for a girlfriend is simply because I do it better and I never get complaints.

I think a little roleplay and fighting for dominant position during sex might be fun...the ripping each others cloths in a mock fight might be a real turn on.
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
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Posted: 5/23/2012 8:11:01 PM
Mp_, please message me - I need to ask you something and cannot do so because of your filters. Thank you.
 BrendanA89
Joined: 5/10/2012
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Posted: 5/24/2012 12:03:56 AM
I'm not sure if dominant is the right word. I don't like "dominance or submission" in the bedroom. Confident, fun, cheeky, sure. But not dominant for me. I think it's a kind of sick, twisted desire if you want to dominate someone or be dominated in general, let-alone in the bedroom. But hey, apparently some people love it. My two-cents.
 LipstickJunkee
Joined: 5/6/2012
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Posted: 5/24/2012 10:04:15 AM
I think being able to share roles/ taking turns of being sub or dom (in a sexual situation) is the funnest idea haha. However in general day to day life I think most couples are a bit of both in certain areas.
 techguy
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Posted: 5/25/2012 12:54:40 PM
Do dominant women actually exist? Not ones looking for a man anyway.
 Answerman711
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Posted: 5/25/2012 3:10:10 PM
How about sexually confident women? Not afraid to express what they want. Those are a rarity it seems.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 5/25/2012 3:13:59 PM

Do dominant women actually exist? Not ones looking for a man anyway.

Really? My issue is finding a submissive man that isn't older than me, isn't married (and cheating on his wife), lives close enough, is masochistic, isn't a sissy/crossdresser (not that there's anything wrong with that, just not my thing)... and above all, isn't a do-me.
 Snowwhite0001
Joined: 4/29/2012
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Posted: 5/25/2012 6:50:53 PM
I think at first in a relationship I'm more submisive. But, I have been dominant at times when the mood strikes. Some of the men I've talked too about it usually like submisive.
 onewayoranuther
Joined: 3/21/2011
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Posted: 5/25/2012 9:33:12 PM
I seem to scare the hell out of every man who I am assertive with. But they rarely are assertive with me so what choice do I have? if I don't step up to the plate then I sit alone at home with not a damn thing to do like I am right now on a Friday night.

I know you are talking about sex but there is the before sex...you've got to get there first.

I am not into leather and whips but I do like to take control in the bedroom...on the sofa...in the shower etc....but too often I am told I should wait for him to go after me...even in a relationship....If I did I would be lucky to have sex once a week. WTH is that? I am greatly vanilla with a bit of adventure here and there...why is that so bad?

If a guy would step up to the plate and be aggressive with me I would love it...if I am their woman. Come home from work, see me in the kitchen and take me...right there...I would love that...but they don't. They want to get into the bedroom, smooch here and there and screw...that is it. Sure, I can handle a 5 minute shag too but I like to have fun with sex not make it so mellow all the time.

Men frustrate the hell out of me.

The only thing I am not willing to do is have sex with a stranger everything else is up for at least a discussion..the men around here, want what they want, when they want it and it "aint" that often.
 mjb02
Joined: 3/4/2011
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Posted: 5/25/2012 10:00:36 PM
I love dominant women - I just haven't been anywhere close to where I can date one of my specific types in the past year or so.
 VeilofPapaya
Joined: 1/19/2012
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Posted: 5/26/2012 10:13:54 PM
I've worked in jobs for industries that have an international clientele, and by far the most aggressive and dominant women are Scandinavian women.

I've had Swedish and Norwegian couples as customers at my previous retail jobs, and I can say for certain that the women in those relationships were by far the most assertive. They talked, questioned, demanded, laughed, joked, and handled finances way more than their male counterparts. I never got a peep from the males, and when they spoke it had an air of feebleness. Either that or they had no need to exert any sort of testosterone fueled dominance in public. Granted they were terrific people (I have nothing but love for Nordic people) but the way their relationships were structured would be considered abnormal here in the States.

Even looking at interviews (Watch an interview by Craig Ferguson with Malin Akerman on the Late Late Show) or understanding the sociopolitical structure of those countries you can definitely see a female dominance.

While books such as the Millennium Series definitely paint a darker aspect of Scandinavian society, fear not. Swedish and Norwegian women are Amazonian in character (i like that word).

That being said I'm looking for Nordic women so check my profile. :)
 Pomose
Joined: 5/21/2011
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Posted: 5/27/2012 12:20:34 AM
As most said I feel it should be give and take.
 verygreeneyez
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Posted: 5/27/2012 1:15:27 AM
I'm not sure if dominant is the right word. I don't like "dominance or submission" in the bedroom. Confident, fun, cheeky, sure. But not dominant for me. I think it's a kind of sick, twisted desire if you want to dominate someone or be dominated in general, let-alone in the bedroom. But hey, apparently some people love it. My two-cents.

Ah, there it is again. The whole "sick/twisted" assumption. I so wonder what some are seeing/reading/imagining that makes them think that a simple label (i.e.: Dominant/submission) equals sick/twisted, but it sure is common (and more than erroneous.) We aren't talking about abusers/victims here. We're talking about (for the most part) sexually dominating women. Not a thing sick or twisted about that. Some men like to be sexually dominated. Kudos to them for knowing that's what works for them personally.

Do dominant women actually exist? Not ones looking for a man anyway.

Not quite certain where you've found the info to jump to this particular conclusion, but they not only exist, there are many hetero Dommes out there seeking men.

Really? My issue is finding a submissive man that isn't older than me, isn't married (and cheating on his wife), lives close enough, is masochistic, isn't a sissy/crossdresser (not that there's anything wrong with that, just not my thing)... and above all, isn't a do-me.

It's not an easy find, that's for sure. Like you, I've got no issue with anyone's personal preferences but the CDs/sissies weren't my thing either. Oh, and I don't know what you've experienced/noted ~ but I was absolutely astounded when I was single at how many police officers are subs in their private lives. Sociologically? I found/find that incredibly interesting.

I seem to scare the hell out of every man who I am assertive with. But they rarely are assertive with me so what choice do I have? if I don't step up to the plate then I sit alone at home with not a damn thing to do like I am right now on a Friday night.

Weird how that works isn't it?

I am not into leather and whips but I do like to take control in the bedroom...on the sofa...in the shower etc....but too often I am told I should wait for him to go after me...even in a relationship....If I did I would be lucky to have sex once a week. WTH is that? I am greatly vanilla with a bit of adventure here and there...why is that so bad?

I don't believe it's bad at all. You're likely a walking/talking/breathing dream for many men. Just not likely those on this particular site.

If a guy would step up to the plate and be aggressive with me I would love it...if I am their woman. Come home from work, see me in the kitchen and take me...right there...I would love that...but they don't. They want to get into the bedroom, smooch here and there and screw...that is it. Sure, I can handle a 5 minute shag too but I like to have fun with sex not make it so mellow all the time.

I'm in total agreement with you. Wine, roses, candles, hot bubble baths, etc., etc., as a prelude to sex is fine with me.......about once a year. I don't get all of this "romance" stuff that so many women feel is vital. That stuff is fine/dandy once in a while ~ but for me personally? I find that type of "foreplay" insanely boring/dull and actually cliche-ish. To each their own, but I require more pizazz than that to capture my sexual attention and a LOT more than that to keep my sexual attention.

The only thing I am not willing to do is have sex with a stranger everything else is up for at least a discussion..the men around here, want what they want, when they want it and it "aint" that often.

Interesting thing I learned about many vanilla men? They hear the words "dominant" or "submissive" and think control freak/abuser and doormat/victim/damaged. On the other hand? They hear the word "kink" and turn into knots fiends who hang out at the local adult store trying to find the newest gadget which will make them feel like they're "kinky." They begin to talk non-stop about threesomes and anal sex. Again ~ Rope and duct tape is bought by the case and midgets/jello suddenly become a raised eyebrow and a wink (unless in the company of vanilla women of course.) Simple reality is? All the toys on the market today, a fully stocked dungeon and watching a few "raw" porn DVDs doesn't make one kinky or into kink or dominant or submissive or even adventurous. Those things are props ~ to get the real deal one either is or is not into kink. One is either Dominant or submissive or they aren't. The only way to be compatible sexually with someone is to be completely honest about wants/needs/desires/wills and wonts. No shortage of men or women into more than vanilla sex, but there's a serious shortage of those who choose to be honest about such things. JMO
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