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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/26/2008 8:36:28 AM |
Of course she shouldn't be going out, dancing and flirting with other men if she has a boyfriend, that's unacceptable and disrespectful. If she does go out, why don't they go together?
I didn't realize women had to do everything outside the house with an SO if they had one. No wonder I'm single. I already have one shadow, lol.
When I'm involved I not only go to clubs, I work em. A guy I'm dating is welcome to come in or not, but I don't stop that part of my life for an SO. What happened to having a life?
Maybe...
He was working?
He doesn't like the clubs?
He was out with his friends somewhere else?
He was home and didn't care she was out?
He was there and not in the picture?
Again...more assuming where it doesn't matter and isn't relevant. Since she explained this is an open relationship already, it negates what she does outside the relationship, no matter what you see in pics.
You know, I once heard that a man I worked with spread a rumor that I was a lesbian...turns out he actually figured I HAD to be since I wasn't interested in him; the thought that I had no interest just didn't register. He was a chauvanist, unattractive, cheated on his wife (yes married) and a bunch of other gross stuff. Ironic how he thought something was wrong with me for not worshipping him - he was a legend in his own mind, which I guess sometimes is all it takes. Kinda reminds me of you, OP. | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/26/2008 8:37:11 AM |
The one thing that you must remember is that, she obviouly knew that there was a connection between you too or you would have never found out that she only sees him 3times a month. I guess the point is, yes you can wait, but do you think that she wouldn't do to you like she has done to him and make sure that there is someone there waiting in the wings for when you are gone
Right, lately, friend of mine says he always thinks, "Would I like that done to me" or "what if you were in their shoes, would you like it done to you?"
That kind of thing, but I was telling him, that this could be an Exceptoin to the rule...that you'd actually had to be there, we really did click, maybe not romantically, but I did get the warm fuzzies, she.
She was NEW to the group, so maybe that was it, she found sec urity in me perhaps? She is a doll though, but it's shame that she is taken (but a smoker, lol). | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/26/2008 9:46:33 AM |
Of course she shouldn't be going out, dancing and flirting with other men if she has a boyfriend, that's unacceptable and disrespectful. If she does go out, why don't they go together?
That statement just wreaks of insecurity! I danced with another man right in front of my bf and came off the floor and into his arms. He KNOWS where my heart is! As for flirting, my motto is I don't do anything behind his back that I wouldn't do in front of it and I expect the same. We are both extremely secure in our relationship. He has 2 female roommates for crying out loud! lol Also my bf and I go out separately all the time! He is my boyfriend not my bailiff. Sheesh.
If you have that much distrust for someone then you shouldn't be with them.
I am guessing that promiscuous girl and her bf have a very secure healthy relationship. Whatever works for them. You are evidence that not many men would put up with her behavior. Lucky for her, she found a man that will!! | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/26/2008 10:16:29 AM | Well, I have no quams as long as the boyfriend goes with the woman to a dance club. It's not about trust, it's about respecting the relationship.
<div class="quote">Lucky for her, she found a man that will!!
Yeah, a sucker.
Actually, I guess depending on where I live...most of my married friends, do things together. LOL.
I can't get my guy friends to even hang with me for an evening, because he's "doign something with the wife on Sat night"
Or sometimes they invite me over to their home while their both at home, for a BBQ or something.
Most of my friends, they do things mostly with their SIG others majority of the time | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/26/2008 10:49:47 AM | | Op most of us are secure enough in our relationship. we don't need to be joined at the hips with our SO, we actually believe it's ok for them to have a life outside of us. What is the point of being in a relationship if you don't trust the person you're with?. | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/26/2008 11:12:56 AM | Hmmmm, it goes back to your posting of how you have photographic proof of what a TART she really is...
ODDLY I imagine her BF has seen her profile, so there for SHE isn't doing anything behind HIS back, because the pic was posted on her myspace page. IN FACT he might have been the one taking the pic. What PROOF do you have he wasn't taking the pic.
Most certainly though he has seen her profile, so HELLO...
Just seems like you are fishing for some reason to hit on her, and disrespect her TELLING YOU she HAS a boyfriend.
They have a relationship that is theirs, and you are not a part of it. Maybe she sees him more than three times a month, and just threw out a figure. What ever the case, if she decides she wants more, and is not happy, I am sure she'll let someone know. | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/27/2008 9:39:22 PM | LOLOLOLOL...I can't believe this post has come to this hahahahaha
As for being in a relationship, and dancing with others of the opposite sex? Wrong, in my opinion. Why tempt fate???
You folks are indeed strange  | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/28/2008 12:01:03 AM | I agree 100% with sanderick. Who are you to say they have a non existent relationship.
There are alot of couples out there that have long distance realtionships that are working out perfectly fine for them. If that's what she wants than leave it alone. There's no point in chasing someone you can't have. Be a friend only. Nothing more. | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/28/2008 9:38:07 PM | Timewarp!!!
OP, You are feeling drowsy... you are drifting back in time... you feel ever more... stupid... stupid... stupid... now you are fully moronic... Do you have anything to say?
Of course she shouldn't be going out, dancing and flirting with other men if she has a boyfriend, that's unacceptable and disrespectful.
Huh?
What's this guy up to? Dribbling out bits of information, changing the scenario as he goes along...
Sounds like he's writing a script for a D-Grade comedy and he's stuck, so he's getting opinions from real, genuine, honest people to see what they would do.
Smart move really... considering he doesn't seem to have any personal insight into how real, genuine, honest people conduct themselves. | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 3/28/2008 11:05:58 PM | | Maintaining a friendship is fine if there's a basis for an actual FRIENDSHIP, not just "waiting in the wings until she breaks up with her boyfriend, and then I move in!" Other than that...back off. Pursuing someone who is already taken = bad idea. | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 5/2/2008 9:48:54 AM | | Well taken does not mean married. If I met a man I liked and he had a girfriend I would not be deterred from flirting with him and such. If you get a better offer go for it............ | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:59:52 PM |
If I met a man I liked and he had a girfriend I would not be deterred from flirting with him and such. If you get a better offer go for it............
A lot of people operate this way. They are always "taken" although who they are take by changes from time to time. If you want to get with them, waiting until they are "free" is going to be a long wait. A guy I know has been waiting about 15 years....  | |
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| Pursuing somoene tha'ts taken, but....
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:24:18 PM |
A lot of people operate this way. They are always "taken" although who they are take by changes from time to time. If you want to get with them, waiting until they are "free" is going to be a long wait. A guy I know has been waiting about 15 years....
Yeah, its like THESE days, people know that some people just shouldn't be in current relationships, and the "people" I am referring to are the people "holding out"...well not ENTIRELY holding their breaths, but they know the relationship is faltering, like a failing marraige, except....they aren't married.
Like the boyfriend has been ignoring her or treating her like crap.....the guy longing or girl longing for this person feels any second they COULD break up very soon...but they never do. lol.
And YOU want to b e the next one for some reason....in my area, EVERYONE is taken, guess that's small towns for ya...but like 90% of the relationships are so "Wishy-washy", you might as well get your "Flirt" on with the supposedly "taken" ones.
I know this one woman, not that I'm condoning this, is showing up to speed-dating events and "singles galas", even though she shamelessly admits to having a current boyfriend, but she says the REASON she's going to these "black-tie" singles affairs is because ....he won't propose marriage to her, but she keeps him around for the sex, aned the fact he mows her lawn (she's a girly girl and doesn't like to get dirty)
I know this OTHER woman that has this crappy on and off again relationship, her and "in-the-middle-of-a-divorce" friend who has a boyfriend, pretty much go out all the time (without the boyfriend) and you see pics of her on her "theirspace" acct....flirting with other guys, pictures taken with other guys, captions "oh, this scottish guy is HOT!"
Or the famous, "Police photo with the drunken club girl (her) taken with a bike cop" with a caption say ing, "Me and my new cute cop man!" or something, lol
It's a case of have your cake and eat it too, but some hope that eventually someone will settle on just the cake....eventually. | |
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