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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 1/25/2012 7:45:58 AM | | Dating in your 30's is a lot harder than it was for us when we were in our 20's but rest assured there are still lots of options out there for us. You are not going to find that 100% perfect woman, but you should not settle for someone that you are not crazy for. There are plenty of 85% perfect women out there for you, you just have to be patient. There is an advantage to dating in our 30's and that is that we are more aware of who we are and have a better idea of the type of person that would best compliment our characteristics and make our lives happier sharing with them. Don't settle for someone who has dealbreaker qualities because in the long run you would have been happier on your own than sharing your life with someone you felt you had to settle for. Be patient, it may take some time; but it WILL happen. | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 1/30/2012 9:52:25 AM | Wow. That is the $64,000 question, isn't it?
The problem may be your "Searching" for the "one true mate".
I believe as we get older it's even more important to be happy with one's self. To pursue a variety of interests and surround yourself with good friends. The more active, busy and confident you appear, the more interesting you will be to someone of the opposite sex. You do not need to spouse or be in a committed relationship to be viewed as a "whole" or "complete" person these days and making a mistake of settling can prove very costly.
The other problem is that those of us over 30 have been to the Kingdom of Oz and we've pulled back the curtain only to be horrible disappointed. We've experienced the highs and the lows of romance and relationships. Most have definite ideas of what they are willing to accept in a partner and sometimes the list of what we don't want is much longer of the list of what we do want.
GET HAPPY WITH YOU.......... | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 1/31/2012 11:03:27 AM | if you settle for someone your not completely happy and in love with your'll stop looking for the "one "
i've dated outside of my normal "type" before and went on the date thinking this wont work, but i've been proved wrong and had a great evening, so keep an open mind and never give up you will find it in the end  | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 1/31/2012 11:26:59 AM | | Yeah I've noticed that too. I don't know if they just feel they have to prove they are still top dog in their circle or what. It was old when I was 21 and its even older now I'm in my 30s. For the most part it serves the purpose they are trying to accomplish but they never have lasting relationships because its rinse and repeat on their behavior and nobody in their right mind would put up with it for an extended period of time. | |
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cinsav
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 1/31/2012 7:00:05 PM |
Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Who the hell do you think you are? Bradly Cooper? You're not Johnny Depp dude. You're an average guy, with average looks, with an average life.
Get over yourself - you're not awesome, you're average like the rest of us.
Get over this "perfect woman" ideal and find someone who you match with... Hell I thought it was only 30 something women who were complete screwed up in the head.... men too? | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 2/1/2012 6:32:34 AM | | I settled in my first marriage...huge mistake. There is no such thing as a soulmate (please do a search), but finding someone much more compatible in the areas most important...is essential and wise, don't you think? Make a list of deal-breakers, then be tolerant of the other things (we're all flawed)...that's my plan at least. | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 2/3/2012 9:51:37 PM | | Girls have the same issue. I was in a marriage that I settled. Don't get me wrong. The guy was a great person. However, he wasn't the one that I was head over heels in love with. Relationships are difficult. However, if the other person is "the one" for you, it won't feel like you're sacrificing the world for nothing. When you're in love (not lust), you'll be happy that you didn't settle. I still believe in the one and I'm willing to wait. No need to waste my energy on a relationship that I think is mediocre. | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 2/4/2012 8:25:13 AM | I know I am not settling. I deserve better! If I die a lonely hermit then so be it! I won't compromise just to make a woman happy while I am in a relationship doing things that make me unhappy or comfortable. That is why I am still single, never married or engaged and never had a relationship last more than 3 dates.
Yes I am picky!
Qualities I want include
Thin, Slendar, Model, or Athletic type of body
Must be rural/country woman. I won't live in the city.
No smoking, drinking, or drugs!
No tattoos or piercings!
No kids!
No STD's!
I will not go to clubs,bars, or parties!
I don't do out of state vacations or travel!
Women must fit those qualities or I won't get married. I tried dating women that didn't fit those qualities. Never worked! | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 2/4/2012 8:52:03 AM | | Wild I feel you. I usually date white military men who are tall with little bit of dark hair lol. Try not to have kids if they do one that doesnt live with them is preferable to me. Not one with more than one divorce even one is like eeeeeeeeh. I prefer men 27-30 and I will not date older because of lack of physical attraction. Everyone likes what they like and I hate people who try to make others feel bad about who they are attracted to | |
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| Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 2/4/2012 8:52:44 AM | | Firstly Im sorry to hear about ur break up but, it has only been 2 years and you say you have been dating for the last year. I think you need some space on your own for a while, think its been too soon, get out and have some you time, spend time doing things you enjoy and concentrate on other things. You may be comparing women to what you had . You are still young and Rome wasnt built in a day, you know what they say about all good comes to those who waits, and there is someone out there for everyone, just takes time , and dont settle for second best. Dont rush into anything for the sake of it, take some time out for the moment :-) | |
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