| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 10:10:23 AM | Well Scars are a normal thing for guy that are more manuel so you should consider looking for guy that have scars and they are marked so why should they not accept you as you are.
Take a look at me I have burns from hot metal shards spraid on me and many little oops even have 2 facial scars that I have to live with try shaving a scar and you will know how bad they can be. I think that if they got a problem with your scars then they don't love you they may care for you or sex but not you.
Love will make them blind to your scars.
PS: to top it all I got back hair. LOL
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w82b
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Joined: 5/9/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 1:46:45 PM | It's my belief and if I am wrong please correct me but... I would think that by kissing and touching around the scarred area may help a woman feel less inhibited and more accepting to open up and not worry about minor things such as scars.
It may not be true for every woman but I would think the majority would agree that to be a good way to get her to relax. | |
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ticky
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Joined: 5/28/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 1:52:59 PM | | island to me i would not like the add attention to the area i ..i would feel as though you were bothered by it and trying to go out of your way to make me feel comfortable..i would rather have you say how did that happen and move on | |
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w82b
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Joined: 5/9/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 2:13:46 PM | I understand what you mean Ticky, and I agree.
Maybe I should have stated that I meant it in a way that the scarred area was previously spoke about. I didn't mean to go out of the way and create attention to it.
I guess what I should have said was, not to avoid an area that I would normally go over as part of the arousal and lovemaking pleasure.
When exposed to scars on a woman before, I continued doing what I enjoyed doing and never said a word either way. I was asked "Didn't you see them?" and my response was "I was too aroused by you to care." | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 5:03:42 PM | Yes Ticky I have too agree with you about that .
Yes I might ask how my mate got the scar but I wouldn't go on about it as I would know my lady would feel uncomfortable even showing them let alone talking about them .
And yes if you truely love your mate you wouldn't let any scars make you feel any differently towards them .
As for me this has no basis for anything other then the fact yes maybe my mate does have a few scars and that is okay .
Nope my mate can feel comfortable around me as I fell in love with her no matter what and yes she can take pride in me also as I will always let her know just how lovely she looks to me !! Yes my mate I fell in love with was because of who she is and nothing else will change that for sure !
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 5:18:25 PM | Wow, this is something I have never even thought of. I have a scar down my back from spinal surgery and I am damn proud of it! There are people that have scars that are there because of operations and these show how the person's life was saved. People that don't accept them to me are superficial, they probably wouldn't accept a person that is overweight or wear glasses or are too skinny etc, sad but true. To each their own but if someone cringed at my scar to heck with them!
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 5:47:33 PM | Ive got some great scars. All come with a story too. There not so hard for a man to live with I guess. they don't bother me.
I hit a bridge right here in Ingersoll as a kid. I was on the back of a friends bike. We were talking to a few girls and he said duck. I thought he said truck. Then darted under a gurder, I got it in the head. ripped it open to the skull. Took 18 stiches to close it up. Damned if a week to the day. Damn near to the hour, I fell 30 feet out of a tree. I hit the ground face down and flat. Never even broke a bone. I did however hit so hard the flesh at the top of my thigh burst open. Severed the artery and damn near died from blood loss. Never seen blood squirt so far. I walked the two hundred yards to the house and when I walked in the door the stepfather hit the floor.
I was in the same operating room, samn doctors and nurses. The put in a plastic artery and sewed me back up. Then removed the ones in my head before sending me home. How sweet of 'em.
I smacked myself in the center of my forehead last year with a 22oz Eswing framing hammer. You know the one with the checker faced head. It left a nasty mark for the rest of summer. Thought I was East Indian
I had a hernia repaired, That was a nasty ouch. What a place to get cut open. Slowed me right down. I was hoping for some happy pills but all I got was T3s. Like a T3 is gonna help.
Theres plenty more, I get new ones all the time. Hell some I don't even know where they came from. Yeah I got lots, so I don't look at them on a woman as a turned off. Just like to know where you got that one from. Its a nasty **stard | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 6:28:28 PM | Carefull I got a scar there too. I drove a coffeetable through it as a kid. I hated the taste of teak.
I even spent three consecutive christmas in the Hospital. Ther first one I was playing with a friend. Took a dive into a chair, Got a concussion and can't to this day remember that morning. I when out into the living room and asked Mom where all the toys came from. I didn't even know what day it was.
The second year I was playing with a drill. I got a peice of metal behind my eyeball, Had to go to the hospital again to get them to dig it out. That was a very painfull I'll have you know.
Then the third christmas I built a rope swing in the basement. I got up on a steamer trunk to get a good ride. I jumped of the trunk swung across the room, till I was horizontal, when the rope broke. I came down on my head. I don't remember much of that christmas either.
I kept my family pretty busy as a kid. Mom was well known at the local hospital. LMAO | |
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w82b
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Joined: 5/9/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 7:21:47 PM | I would like to add an afterthought to my post.
I responded to this thread as a male. There are some things that I can say as a male without feeling guilty because my intentions were good. However, there is a female aspect to this subject that I was not considering because it had not crossed my mind until I was enlightened in a very kind way.
There exists emotional scars that are more painful than the physical scars. As a male, I was incorrect in thinking that this emotional scar can be turned on/off like a light switch in order to enjoy the moment.
That was very selfish thinking.
After thoughtful reconsideration, I will be more conscientious of the fact that the physical scarring is not what the focus should be. Rather, it should be the emotional scarring that needs attention and care.
<---- For that special someone who opened up to me. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 8:43:29 PM | My Island
Everything you have said in response to this thread is great. I have looked at this from all angles and you have really opened my eyes. Thanks for that.
Someone had better fish you out of this pond soon.
Ive met the man I want to be with but I need to ask this...
Why are you still single and where the heck have you been all my life?
Hehehehe, ok ladies, grab ahold of this man and hold on tight....
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Joined: 5/10/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 8:54:57 PM | | M_I.. thank you for understanding ... emotional scarring is the hardest to over come and I will only speak for me because I don't know what it is like to have outward scars that are so visible - but emotional scarring is the hardest to overcome. Try as I might... every time I think I am moving past, healing.. someone/something comes along and reminds me of what happened and occasionally, the wounds reopen.. and the healing process has to happen all over again. Each time, I learn something new and I get stronger.. but it hurts nonetheless. A good bottle of wine is often needed in moments like that.. and great friends. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 9:59:16 PM | I have had 2 back surgeries and 2 knee surgerys and my gall bladder removed, i have tons of scars. If the person cant look past them, then thats thier problem not mine, and I tell everyone that I'm going to be intimate about them as well, so if they have a problem with it, its theirs not mine :D . I think scars are great anyways, it means your human.  | |
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w82b
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Joined: 5/9/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/30/2005 11:51:29 PM | samthebritgirl
This thread reminds me of a situation that occurred between the man I was dating and myself. I was embarrassed of stretch marks (dieting gone wrong) and some acne scars I had.
At the time I was afraid of what he may think of them and would he still find me attractive, when our relationship moved into the next step. I really cared about him, heck I was falling in love with him, and was afraid of his response, so I decided to talk to him about it. With the straightest face he could muster, (yes he wanted to laugh) he told me he cared about me and that these "superficial" scars would not bother him... after all, if I could see past the fact he was in wheelchair, then he could certainly see past my scars.
It was then I realized although some scars are bigger and more obvious than others, we all have things that make us uneasy about ourselves. However, open communication and honesty will help make those uneasy moments a bit easier.
I do hope this and all the other pieces of advice posted so far helps..
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/31/2005 3:16:54 AM | scars or no scars... beauty is more than skin deep .... even the hottest dude in the world could get hit by a train, looking like frankenstien with teeth like he chewed a mouthfull of rocks..... why care what any man thinks ladies we must love ourselves before we can love others ... thats is whats wrong with society.. frankly if my man don't like my scars he know where he can go!!!!! my mom told me to be nice on here | |
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Joined: 1/11/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/31/2005 4:14:56 AM | | Doesnt both me at all, I dated one girl for about 7 months or so she had her liver replaced from cancer when she was younger not a small scar went from her waist to her rib cage It's just a scar, bringing that up what about disabilities would you date anyone with a disability? she also had what they called severe to profound hearing loss 80% in one ear and 90 in the other she managed alright with the hearing aids but it was still something that took a bit of time to adjust too but for me its not the scars or disabilities its how you make each other feel but I know some people would not got out with anyone thats less than perfect either. ok so scars or disabilities who would go out with someone with either or both? | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/31/2005 4:19:01 AM | | curls i 100% agree with that emotional scarring is the hardest thing to get over. I've had a lot of those in the past. What you can learn and overcome by those are what makes you into a stronger and better person. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/31/2005 12:11:28 PM | curls...
Yes the emotional scarring can be much worse than the physical scarring. They kinda go hand in hand huh? I have a large scar on my right arm. I used to hide it but dont anymore. Although I am 'ok' with it I still find myself covering it when someone looks at it or makes a comment. No matter how or why you got the scar there will always be that reminder...
My Island...
Ok I promise to give you 5 mins at the next Bonfire
Actually I will be the one glued to the lounge chair all night. Not gonna be running around like the last time. 
Roseyred77...
OMG dont even mention that 'diet' word. Ive recently lost over 30 pounds (thank you, Im very proud of myself) Forget about the scars, holy cow now I have to think about all that extra baggy skin hanging off my bones. Yukkies. Not a pretty sight, hehehehehe 
registerdnurse...
Ahhh yes, beauty is skin deep. Although in this day and age most men want that beauty to be on the outside. Oh, such is life.
BTW....Behave yourself girl (NOT)
DNT38...
If you will play Mel I wont tell mommy that your here 
eagle0100...
Your a doll
Smile yall
It's a beautiful day
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/31/2005 1:35:20 PM | Oh hell I just took a shower and noticed I have a scar on my Butt !
Oh thats right I know what that is its the crack in my butt !LMAO
Now if your gonna worry about scars then hey we all have one even if you don't think you do ! Your belly button is a scar people !! I bet you never even thought about your belly button being a scar did you !!
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SANDE1
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Joined: 2/11/2005
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 5/31/2005 10:40:27 PM | OMG. Never really thought about my scars much. I have scars on my chest from
being injured during work but Man oh Man never ever even thought about telling someone I was seeing or warning him to beware of the bad bumpy road ahead.
During intamacy, if he feels the ridges of them and asks, I just say, thats the map of Texas lover, now go south. LMAO.
Now Im afraid to meet Creater ever. With his humour he would be paying for admission to the Alamo or something. Buck fifty.....and remind me never to sit beside you for long during any socializing. LOL man you can be trouble.
Listen. Unless the scars are sensivetive to the touch, who the hell cares. Its all good. Emotional scars can heal as well if your willing to face the truth, accept the truth then want to move forward knowing that the truth has made you stronger and your charactor not a victim anymore. What counts is what you think. Not what they think. If it bothers him that much, just make sure the leg shakes before you kick him out of bed. After that, who cares what he thinks. Your too sleepy to care after that.
A toast to all the people with scars and another toast to sharing it. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 6/1/2005 5:43:34 PM | | I knew a girl that had her kidneys replaced. She had very large scars...yet she still looked good. Last I talked to her...she was talking about getting the scar's tattoo'd into a rose vine or something...think of a 3D tattoo. Call me shallow...but I get grossed out by burn victims...I mean like...70% of their body was 3rd degree burns and scar tissue. The texture...the look...everything just bugs me too much. | |
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