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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 6/7/2006 1:37:51 PM | I have scaring covering part of my back & right shoulder. I'm a very pale in colour, so it shows. I never worried/thought about it until I met my new b/f. I got the scaring 7yrs ago with my ex, so it never bothered us. Now I was a little worried when I met my mew b/f. He said it didn't bother him. He didn't know it was scaring, he just noticed my colour was darker there & my skin was slightly different in texture.
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 6/7/2006 2:41:51 PM | I once burned my inner ankel on a motorcycle muffler.....man, did that hurt!! I ended up with a blister the size of a chickens egg. And it left a scar the same size that lasted for years, weird though it's now gone. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 6/7/2006 11:18:32 PM | I have a regulal train track suture scar on my knee..they have been in it 3 times...shoulda installed a zipper...shaved my head a couple times...wow all those lil bumps on the head sure left a road map.....it's the whole person..always has been....scars are part of the whole.....wouldn't look twice...and yes have dated women and more ..one in particular....precious woman...serious car accident, still see her socially...more than 20 ops to her facial features...have seen men scowl...what fools...the person is all that and more...and no she doesn't look "normal" yet...if we accept that imperfect is not the norm...shame on those who look so shallowly
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 6/8/2006 11:44:15 AM | I had surgery on my wrist just this past September. I ended up with a nasty scar that is dimple like on my wrist, aswell as bright purple! I absolutely hate it!!
My one friend said it was no big deal that he liked it.
I asked him if he liked it so much then would he tounge it!?!
...He did!
Now I kind of like it!
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 6/8/2006 4:55:58 PM | Merely judging based solely on the superficial aspect of a woman with noticeable physical scars or burns seems fairly shallow, frankly. I certainly wouldn't put up too much of a fight if she suddenly felt the urge to tear off all of her clothes in front of me, though, and I'd likely remember to go back to that laundromat more often...
Seriously though, I suppose that her not having glamour magazine perfect skin would really only be of concern if that was an overriding negative influence on her personality and self esteem, to the point where I'd be expected to coddle and carry that burden with her. People are more than the skin they're in anyway, if vanity doesn't consume their every thought and action. It pretty well falls into the same category as weight gain, baldness and normal aging that everyone goes through, and doesn't particularly matter if there's more to her as a whole person than just what meets the eye.
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/19/2007 3:28:41 PM | i miss old threads so i'm floating them back up dammit!
LMFAO @ creter!
anyhooo, i have a few scars.
one just below my knee he kissed when i pointed it out to him (what's not to love?)
i have hippy marks (god damn curves!) i'm sure i'll get the much-loved belly ones too, god-willing.
i gots some from chicken pox (little fackers!) and he's kissed over top of those too. he may point to them, but it doesn't make me wanna do myself in or anything!
i poked one of his scars the other day. the old flu/booster shot one on his arm. i missed that age bracket where they administered those shots so i don't have one, but i don't love his skin any less because he has one either.
it's just skin, but ya, i'm superficial about my own some days and other days i don't even notice them in the mirror. what it all comes down to is showering fully clothed people!
LOL jokin'
i think i'd be more concerned if i were to have a large facial scar of my own.
he could get mauled by a bear and require skin-grafting tomorrow and i'd still see the same set of eyes (assuming the bear left them of course) i fell in love with ;) | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/19/2007 8:09:14 PM | well i have a few scars that i used to be self concious about, but now i'm not....i had 2 open heart surgeries last year, and that left a scar down the middle of my chest, and several others from tubes that they used, i have a big scar on my left knee i got when my brother's dog accidently knocked me down the stairs with a bag of garbage that had some nasty pieces of glass in and of course i had to land on a big one.lol..
i have had several laproscopic surgeries as well, but those are very very small and not really that noticeable, i have a small one on my neck from my heart surgeries from a tube that was there as well..........i also have scars from hives that just don't seem to want to go away......
so i guess i have a few, and would i tell someone about the signifigant ones? well yes i would.........you don't want to pop any surprises on the guy if the clothes happen to come off..............lol
i also have a scar on my forehead from falling and hitting my head on the corner of the tv when i was a very small child...........geez i didn't realize how many scars i really had until i started writing them down here..............lol
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like i said the signifigant ones i would tell about but the little ones...ah who cares, you probably won't even notice them.................
it's all skin so who cares, if someone judges you in a negative way because you have a scar or some scars, then would you really want to be with that person anyway?
of course n ot...............
so i guess if you love someone they will accept you with your scars and all......that is my theory anyway.............. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/20/2007 7:24:06 AM | | Scars are just scars...minor details of a whole person. Anyone that can't get past minor details should perhaps take a close look at their own imperfections (and everyone has them) before judging someone else. Scars are no big deal. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/22/2007 12:51:16 PM | Scars?? I've more than a few myself. I was and still am pretty much up for anything that goes and in turn, you can be sure that I'll be sporting a few bruises or cuts and scrapes for my efforts. I don't mind in the least about my scars.
One of my scars is on my lower back from back surgery. If I wouldn't have had it done, I would have been dead in less than 24 hours. My old love signed the papers for surgery as I was not able to. I, for one, am glad that he did.
Afterwards, I will say that I was rather upset about it and the day I arrived home from the hospital in the ambulance, I was met with flowers, love and concern from the whole neighbourhood. My old love scooped me up after a couple of hours, took me upstairs to our bedroom suite and kissed my healing back from top to bottom and made warm, sweet love to me. *soft remembering smile*
To this very day, it no longer bothers me as I know that being alive is far better than the other option and he has my thanks for showing me that a scar is nothing more than a part of who I am and my journey to survive.
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/22/2007 10:30:14 PM | When I was much younger I knew a girl named Star, yes that was her name. She had a lower lip that somehow grew larger than normal. The first time I saw it I stared because I had never seen anything like it before. After about six months, I didn't notice it. She was about 10 years younger than me and a real nice girl, happy as could be. I'm sure that played a large part in it.
I haven't thought about Star for a long time. I hope she's happy.
Scars are not deformities, they are badges of survival. They can also help to weed out the undeserving. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/23/2007 12:56:16 PM | | I think that by the time most of us age, we have our "living life scars" as I refer to them. Child bearing, surgeries. Heck, they make up a critical part of the person I am today! Just shows I have lived and lived to the fullest. I would never, ever knock anyone for having them! | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/23/2007 4:56:56 PM | I used to be quite self-conscious about the one major scar I have (though uncomfortable stares and being asked if I got it in a bar fight in Mexico honestly didn't help that). However, I realized that I can't (and don't want to) wear turtlenecks for the rest of my life, so I got over it. Before it faded, I did wear a necklace to cover it during job interviews.
But being comfortable showing a date? No problem (and again, unless I wear a turtleneck, it's going to be visible anyway). I'll even tell my hilarious "thyroid ultrasound joke and resulting ultrasound technician ethics lecture" story, if you ask nicely. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:37:39 PM | I think once you get to a certain age, it's inevitable that you will have some scars. They have never bothered me. I lived with a man who had a scar from his lower lip down across his chin; dated a guy who had a scar from triple bypass, neither of them bothered me in the least.
My biggest scar is right down the side of my hand, where a horse bit my little finger off and then the surgeon took the rest of the bone out, and once I got past the initial self consciousness back when it happened, I don't really think of it in terms of would someone reject me because of it. If they would, it's says a lot about them and it's their loss, not mine. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 8/1/2008 7:46:19 PM | | I too have some BAD scars that make me uncomfortable the first time a man sees them. I have had some very bad reactions to them. No one would know about them unless they see me without most of my clothes. When I get comfortable enough with a guy to talk about it. I tell him about them. The last thing I need is to have a guy freek on me after I fall for him. I believe though that if the person I am with has a problem with my scars. They are not the person I thought they where. I don't need that kind of person in my heart or my bed. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 8/2/2008 8:03:43 PM | | Hey sam, We all have scars and "imperfections" - that's what makes each of us unique. I don't care if a woman has scars. It really doesn't matter , it wouldn't affect her beauty in my eyes. It's what's inside that counts. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:21:46 PM | scars are character marks of life. You have been there done that, felt either good ro bad from getting them, but doesn;t change the person you are. I feel you will see the person when you get lost in her eyes, the touch of her lips, and feeling of her hands on you. The stretch marks, or stiches scars.. big deal!!!
Who is to say the man you are with doesn't have a few scars of his own to show you? | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 8/10/2008 2:59:44 PM | oi! If I had to worry the rest of my life about the scars I have from my two major surgeries.. I'm not sure I'd ever let a man see me ever again...
They're there.. my kids and I call it my train track, and its not going to go away. I'm just happy that I'm still here to talk about it, let alone be self conscious about them.
I had lapy surgery, so thats four scars, and then was cut right from the left to the right side just above my rib cage, along with the other three or four ( I've lost count) where all the iv's and so forth were.... Those train tracks will be most likely visible for the rest of my life.
I am who I am... and scars will not change who I am inside.
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 8/11/2008 5:08:34 PM | | Scars are like roadmap to your body's history. Like pictures, they tells a part of the story about you. No matter the scar, it says you survived the injury, and physically, you've moved on. Some pride should be taken in that even if you are self-conscious about their appearance. | |
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| Ladies and their scars....What are your thoughts guys?
Posted: 8/12/2008 5:23:12 AM | I have several scars, with all but one the result of heart-related surgery. No man has ever been repulsed by these to my knowledge. Years ago, after my first open heart surgery, a little boy walked past me while I was laying in the sun. He turned to his mom and said, "Hey! That lady has a train track on her chest!" Mommy told him to be quiet and I simply said I wasn't upset with him at all.
As has already been hinted at in previous posts, scars serve as a reminder of how far we have come in life; the various trials, tribulations, and even joys we have experienced. All of which have brought us to this point. | |
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