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Posted: 7/21/2008 3:40:46 PM | Yes there are,, but as a man, prior to marriage,, I was an exotic male dancer,, I can't tell you how many times I was offered a good time from a married woman.. Then when I was married, now widowed,, I used to go out on Friday nights to hang with my construction crew,, again,, hit on by married women,,, Then after my wife passes away,, I was starting to learn what the dating world was like all over again,, (and how it has changed) again married women,, hitting on a single guy,,
I just thought I would point that out before,, to much crap is passed over to men,, and yes men do cheat,, but so do women,,, | |
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Posted: 7/21/2008 3:54:35 PM | Stray, verb - move away aimlessly from the right course or place.
I agree, there’s a level responsibility on the other side for the one being cheated on. I’ve experienced both sides of this mirror, and I feel commination was what was lost initially. I’m not sure under the same circumstances, it could or would have been any different, without suffering the lost respect, intimacy, and love. That is, I’m now on the other side, and can reflect and learn from past mistakes.
In my case, we were both guilty of letting life get in the way. I felt she didn’t love me anymore, and she didn’t have or take the time to understand. Without grandstanding here, I was a great partner and Husband. I just expected a little too much in return, and I strayed. She strayed because I strayed. She had an affair, I had an affair and it was over. What did I learn?
1. To not put such great expectation on being loved back. Sometimes, they are loving you all they can.
2. To not allow that vital pillow talk to slack wane. Keep communications open and fun.
3. And most importantly, keep LOVE alive..she’s the most important thing in your life, fight to keep her.
Stray, noun - Will be faithful if shown a new home. Is loyal, well bred, house broken, and just needs to be loved and petted. Me | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 6:16:00 AM | red,
i think that is something that each person decides.the old adage we are who we want to be comes to mind. i to have ended my two marriages because of this. we seem to blame ourselves , and i think thats human nature also. my first wife said it was because i worked all the time and didnt give her the required time she needed , what she didnt understand was she had so much free time because she didnt have to work because i did work so long and hard so she could stay home with our children as she wanted to.she did what she did because she chose to , she could have comunicated with me but chose not to , her second and third marriages ended the same way i'm told. my second marriage did because i chose someone who was the same , my bad choice , she was never happy , always looking for greener pastures . i am a firm beleiver in true love still , and i think if you are someones true love , soulmate etc that would never cross the mind , but as i said i have never cheated , not even on a girlfriend in high school , because i am loyal and that who i am. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 10:49:13 AM | what a ridiculous question, yes there are many faithful men.
there should be no reason for you to try getting it on with someone else without telling your present girlfriend | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:24:24 PM | | Well, I could write a book on how many men out there are not faithful. I would never go looking for a married man, nothing good could ever come from it. However they sure seem to find me..........WTF? I guess I can appreciate their honestyl.......lol | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:38:49 PM | | Wow, blueyesrsmiling..... I definately like the way your mind works. Of course it is a people problem. It is the old "grass looks greener on the other side of the fence" What too many people do is imagine that a life long, long term relationship will be all good and no bad. When things get rocky, they want to exit stage left. But what they don't see is that everyone is struggling with their own issues, weaknesses and fears. But that does not say that each and every one of us does not have strengths, hope and wonderful potential. You are right on the mark in saying that we should look at ourselves first if a problem persists in our lives. Whether it is unfaithful partners, or constant struggles financially or conflict in our families; we are the only ones who can resolve an issue and we can only make the world change by changing ourselves. Kudos to you for your thoughtful and forthright response. My hat is off to you. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:51:24 PM | Dear red-alert ....
The Man you need, is already with you! His love will never fail you, Nor leave you!
All you have to do is stay positive,Stay in touch and have faith my dear!
Remember something, Even when your alone, You are not, Your already with the one who loves you the most, JESUS!
Good things come to great people! So continue to work on the bridge, Because when your all done, You'll be atop....While everyone is "Looking up to you"
And then, your special ways will descend down to them, You'll have the experience to teach other about your love, And your success!
Best Wishes,
Mr. Look | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 9:04:01 PM | I don't think it's just a "guy" thing (although more women do complain about it), I think it's a person thing. There are a lot of hurtful peoples that just don't care about other people feeling.
I have met some very hurtful and cold hearted people. After a while you actually begin to feel sorry for them. Time will catch up with them and one day, after they've messed over all those around them, they will find themselves very lonely. Sure they may have tons of friends, but they will have no on there that honestly loves them for themselves, when they just need to be held, or just be with. They'll end up with someone just like them that uses them for what they can get or for their looks. When the looks fade or the money disappears, so will their "perfect" partner. I say karma is a b!tch. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:20:59 PM | I've never cheated-I usually find it's the other way around-who knows? All you can do is keep trying or give up and die alone-don't let failure from keeping you from the potential of true love!! | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:38:30 PM | | Yes, there are decent men out there. I think I have never been cheated on, and would bet on all my previous boyfriends, except one. They are out there. I don't know why I only get that type, or how to screen for it exactly, but it's very important for me. I won't date anyone who admits to cheating on someone in the past, and I do talk about that really early on in dating. I am attracted to people with strong values and voice their opinions strongly on issues like this. I also tend to go for geeks so these are not guys that have had lots of women throwing themselves on them, so maybe that helps - once they start dating me seriously, they don't have the time and energy to get other women anyway. I tend to hold out for guy who are visibly smitten too, and not go for the ones that will date someone until someone better comes along, so look for those "he's really really into you" signs. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:48:04 PM | wat you say is quite right and true,,,,,,, but you girlscan and do just the same , i no, ive been there, and yes it hurts just the same,.lol | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 10/2/2008 3:51:02 PM | ARE there ?
Remember : " is " is for singular. For example " is there a faithful man out there ? "
As for your question : NO , they all expired Jan. 1/2000.
Sorry.
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 10/2/2008 3:56:05 PM | | There is alot of decient fathful men out there.....I personally never cheeted on my wife...or ex wife now. even going through a divorce i never touched another woman. I did not feel it was proper untill the divorce was 100% complete | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 10/2/2008 4:07:39 PM | | Just another one to say that I never cheated. Not during 20 years of marriage nor during the three years of separation. Could have, just didn't. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 4:27:49 PM | | IT's bullshit being attracted to bad guys, I am not attracted to bad guys. The bad guys lie and say they are good church going, hard working and they realy care about us an dthey lie, they say they are nice they act lik ethey are nice until you catch them or their true personalities come through, so women aren't attracted to bad boys we are attracted to attractiv men and I guess most attractive men think they are worth worshipping regardless of who they ar eon the inside which is not true, personality is equally as important a attraction. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 4:28:20 PM | | its not just men.i sowed my oats,got married when i was 30,figured time to stop being with different women.was always taught that marriage with the one you love was holy.boy did i ever get played.seems like many women now days,right along with the men,think they can cheat,say they are sorry,and everything is supposed to be alright,just like it never happened.you forgive,and damn if it doesn't happen again!you can do what ever you want,if a person is flawed,and has to have others,that is who they are,you cannot change the way a person is,only they can change,if thats what they really want.character comes from within.me,not being the type that will fight over that crap,i figure unless the other one was making passes and disrespecting me,it takes two to tango.make a fool out of myself over a cheat and liar,never.time to move on.if you get 5-7 years out of your partner before that starts to happen,consider yourself blessed.people tend to only see what has happened to them,this is a human condition,both sexes are guilty of this.but,i will not get crazy like a lot of men and women do,if a person cheats on you,they never really loved you,they love themselves.i will bet that while they were doing the cheating,the thoughyt of the other was barley there!!! | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 10/2/2008 4:54:34 PM | Well I would put this in "reality thinking" :
If you do the math on the cheating issue, it can not possible only be the men...the women has to be involved in take half the blame...sooooo...wouldnt that make it 50 /50?...impossible for it not to be? I believe that the women do it to but are less likely to brag about it to thoer girl friend like us guys....;)
Anyone who can do the math and prove that it isnt 50 / 50 for both parties...please i would love to hear from you. Please dont tell me it all us guys sleeping with each other...lol | |
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Posted: 10/4/2008 6:27:37 AM | I never Looked at another woman .. till years after my wife passed in '98... 
She was all I ever wanted of a woman..!! . . 
After 2 years of greiving .. and 2 years of recovery, I'm  Eager
to find the one that She requested me to find... and make her Proud..!! | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 10/4/2008 11:54:12 AM | | This annoys me. I have been 100% faithful to any woman I have ever been with and I have almost always been cheated on. Its a 2 way street. Men arnt the only ones. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 10/4/2008 1:14:11 PM |
If you do the math on the cheating issue, it can not possible only be the men...the women has to be involved in take half the blame...sooooo...wouldnt that make it 50 /50?...impossible for it not to be? I believe that the women do it to but are less likely to brag about it to thoer girl friend like us guys....;)
Anyone who can do the math and prove that it isnt 50 / 50 for both parties...please i would love to hear from you. Please dont tell me it all us guys sleeping with each other...lol
I would have to disagree with the math,,even though what you suggest ,makes sense..
true life situation,, After my wife passed away,, "Not right after before everyone jumps on that" I met this woman,, we hit it off,, and I am now a widow,, She give me her cell phone number,, we go out for a few months,, I have never been to her house,, she say because of her children,,I have no issues with that.. so we hang out at my house on many occasions,,then one day,, I get this phone call,, it's a guy,, I didn't recognize the name,, I asked if I worked for him in the past,, he said no politely,, then said you know my wife, Oh really what her name,, he told me ,, I was speechless,, i said buddy ,, she told me she was single,, then I said i would gladly meet him for a drink and tell my side of the story,, it replied nicely,, no need to,, but I have to ask you one question,, did you have sex with her,, I said yes I did,, and I am so sorry I didn't know,, he then said,, not your problem she has done this before,,..... you may be wondering how did he find out,, I left this woman a message on her cell phone,,,
so no it's just not just men,, and no its not always two people knowing they are in a cheating situation..,, one may be a lier as well as a cheat.. so some women are unfaithful as well as some men,,
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Posted: 10/4/2008 9:18:09 PM | | i saw something on tv once about male female relashionships.there is actually something like a 7 year itch,at least if this study is correct.it showed couples touching,bonding,and then after a periodof time,things cooled and eyes wondered.i do not remember the show,60 mins or some other,but was amazed at this study.if anyone heard of this,i would love to get my memory refreshed.but if what they say is so,we have to teach ourselvesto make that extra effort.we become used to our partner,it all gets to be routine,according to this theory.my marrage didn't make it that long including total time,we always did it,but she had problemsand did it more than i did.i cannot go by that,but the point is,after a period of time,we have to try harder!i would love to hear from people that were married for life.i know they have much to teach us.PS,redcorn,put a shirt on! | |
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