| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/28/2008 2:09:47 PM | No there are no decent men out there whatsoever.
Just like all women are goldiggers and heartless, godless machines intent on syphoning every last cent from guys.
To the OP, you got to stay positive. I've met some really awful women in my time, but that doesn't mean they are all like that. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/28/2008 2:23:09 PM | Well spoken, H!
Have you ever thought that maybe the reason why it seems all men cheat is because you are getting attracted to the wrong type of man?
I don't think all men cheat. And I come from a long famliy history where the men are bigtime cheaters. I know that it's a CERTAIN TYPE of man that'll cheat. You just have to know how to sniff em out. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/28/2008 2:25:21 PM | [I think any male or female if they think they wont get caught, many might jump at the opportunity]
I was a navy wife for eight years, never once did I ever consider cheating on my ex he cheated on me twice that I know of and god knows how many other chances. I could and would never cheat on anyone. When I was married I can honestly say I would look at guy and say oh he's cute but never did it cross my mind to be with someone else. I have extremly high morals though, maybe not everyone does. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/28/2008 9:32:23 PM | Yes and No
I loved my ex wife very much. Never cheated on her, never abused her. She was my world. I didn't really make any new close friends for the 12 years we were together. She needed me too for a long while. But eventually she found someone she liked better and really wasn't as comitted as she expected me to be. She stabbed me in the back, ripped out my heart and without any discussion, ran off with another man "to be happy". I've met women who after a couple of kids had their husband do the same thing just "to be happy" and other men who's wives did the same thing without remorse or explaination. I've dated on and off, messed around with a few women but not really finding myself fulfilled. I'm not going to be comitted to anyone unless I really feel happy with that person and learn to trust again. The last woman that I was getting serious about did basically the same thing my ex did. The only difference is there was no long term relationship/commitment even though she had been telling me she wasn't looking for anyone else. One of my friends tells me after catching his second wife at a motel 6 cheating on him that women are always looking for the bigger better deal and don't appreciate what they have. Loyalty doesn't seem to meen anything but you can take advantage of your spouses trust. I think this kind of thing happens with a lot of people, not just women. Who has to be faithful when it's perfectly legal and acceptable to cheat on your mate/spouse? That comes down to morals and who has those anymore? My ex left her Christain faith before me so it's whatever people can rationalize is OK these days. I once believed in a monogomous life long relationship, but I'm starting to doubt that's possible due to human nature. And at this point I don't even care if I find a mate tomorrow because I would rather be alone than have my heart ripped out by some woman who just cares about herself and will only want to be with me until something better comes along. What was shaping up to be a really ideal life for me has turned into a nightmare. I used to watch people on Jerry Springer and tell myself those people are stipid, I'm glad I don't have any friends like that. Turned out I was married to a skandalous ho bag and just didn't know it. Now I understand why peole once burned just want to play around with no strings attached. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 12:10:24 AM | All I can say for myself is I would never cheat on a spouse. Some of us guys understand the word commitment. Any relationship is a teamwork effort.
If the sex is bad then that becomes 95% of the relationship problem. If it is good then it is 5% of the relationship problem. Cheating is not just in the sex department. It can occur on an emotional level. Guys are emotional as well but if we show this side then we get hit with a wimp label (a whole other topic)
What communication or miscommunication happened? Is everyone honest in their relationships? Is a committed relationship now at the commodity level in our society? People are adaptable. If the couple are not changing and improving and growing with new experiences then the relationship is satisfying and grows. I think when this growth stops happening in a relationship then it is when the search for greener pastures occurs. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 12:33:25 AM | The old saying the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Until you are on the other side then you can see all the imperfections.
Cheating to some is like that they think they are up gradeing until they get there and find the problems are there they just aren't the same problems. But they never want to take a deep look into them self to see the real problem. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 3:37:49 PM | | I don't think there are. The last two relationships I was in the guy was messing around on me. I don't get it. I am good in bed and want sex frequently and these girls they mess with are NASTY! It is like they are keeping me around for their good girl ( which I am...I am not a slut but I am sexually liberal with the guy I am with, hell I like all kinds of things). It just seems like they love going slumming. I don't get it. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 3:45:07 PM |
I don't think there are. The last two relationships I was in the guy was messing around on me.
So based on your enormously large sample size of *two*, you're going to paint *all* men as cheaters? Get a grip. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 3:54:22 PM | | There are faithful men out there...its just that they are hard to find. Most of them are already taken by the women that treat them like dirt and that leaves us good women with the scumbags of this earth. What is wrong with this picture? | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 4:07:10 PM | | no there are not--no matter how many promises they make--they can not be faithful--I am sick of them as well. I am sick of liars, cheaters and players. Dating at 20 was a hell of a lot more fun. Now men just want sex with no ties at all! I would trade places with my 21 year old child in a minute--at least he has is act together and knows how to treat women. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 4:41:14 PM |
no there are not--no matter how many promises they make--they can not be faithful--I am sick of them as well.
And I'm sick of misandrists like you.
Don't blame the men of the world for your poor dating choices. There are every bit as many honorable, faithful, loyal men out there as there are women. You just need to take a look at your own actions and realize what it is you're doing to attract the wrong type. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 5:03:15 PM | As far as finding decent men goes OP...yes there are some around!...and believe it or not a great many more than there are cheaters!...but you gotta face the facts, and they are simple and glaring though overlooked by it seems many women! firstly the 'Cheaters' get a hellofalot more practice at telling a woman what she wants to hear, and secondly a decent guy will generally stay in the one relationship so you ain't gonna see so many of us/them here.
And as far as the BS that Eddie Murphy comes out with...this ain't Hollywood this is the real world...pay no heed | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 5:08:44 PM | ALL MEN are not cheaters, dogs, liars, abusers, haters or whatever. . . .
why, oh why, must some folks try and paint all men as bad just because they have happened to date a few less than honorable guys.
OP, there are tons of great guys if you just open your eyes and look around. I can name a bunch of wonderful guys who have posted in this forum alone. Just because they are not a match for you, does not mean they are not great guys.
I am so tired of women painting all guys with the same brush just because they had the unfortunate experience of dating someone who disappointed them. Where is your responsibility for picking the guy who cheats? *shesh*
To all the guys, sorry that you all got painted with the "cheater" brush, yet again. I know there are a ton of you out there who are awesome, faithful and all sorts of wonderful! | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 7:20:05 PM | To all the guys, sorry that you all got painted with the "cheater" brush, yet again. I know there are a ton of you out there who are awesome, faithful and all sorts of wonderful!
I thought I should let you know I've been seeing someone else...  | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 7:25:27 PM |
To all the guys, sorry that you all got painted with the "cheater" brush, yet again. I know there are a ton of you out there who are awesome, faithful and all sorts of wonderful!
I thought I should let you know I've been seeing someone else...
*runs out to get big paint brush and some 'all guys cheat' paint. * 
~tb~ | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 7:30:55 PM | there's piles of 'em/us...but from my experiences and talking with fellow buds of mine, we've concurred that it seems like women don't know how to keep us....
frustrating as hell too... | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 7:50:35 PM | Red-Alert
There are a few good men left I suppose......but I am in the same boat.....I was dating a guy and was completely in love with everything about him....that is until I got an email from someone he was talking to online while we were together. It hurts to know that some men just don't want to be with one woman....they somehow think that the grass is greener on the other side. My advice to you is advice that I have to look at myself and that is......take care of you and keep your eyes focused on what is really important and thats your health-(mental, emotional and physical), someday a decnt guy will come along we hope and we will never have to be in that same position again. Good luck next time. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 11:19:59 PM | Quote{where is your responsibility for picking the guy who cheats}
transparent butterfly; I totally agree with you that there are definitely decent guys out there. The majority are either related to me, gay or married already to ****es that walk all over them. The rest are very hard to find.
Please don't insult us by saying that we make our men cheat on us or that we are purposely looking for cheaters. 'I'm out to find me a cheater today.' The men and women who are cheaters need to take responsiblity for their own actions. I give my best to others and expect the same in return.
Are all men cheaters? Absolutely not. Are all women gold digging sluts? Absolutely not. I don't think anyone really thinks ALL men are cheaters. I know I don't. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 11:45:47 PM | | There are men that have never cheated. They have never had the opportunity. It's hard for some men just to find one woman, let alone more than 1. Is it really that easy for most men to cheat? are those opportunities happening like all the time? For some men maybe, but not in my lifetime it hasn't. I guess I'll never cheat. How unfortunate for me that I've never had the opportunity. | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/29/2008 11:50:04 PM | | Yes it totally is, I have been very fortunate to meet some absolutely wonderful men because of plenty of fish. I consider exceptional, top quality friends!!. There are some truly exceptional men out there just please be patient as I also believe in diving timing. I too hate the cliche's about "just wait he's right around the corner" or" the timing is not right". It totally sucks but i too will wait for when the time is right for me as well. Just please do not focus your life on waiting for mr./miss right or actually right now ( sometimes that does help lol). Find something you enjoy doing for you as you are #1 in your life!!Don't spend countless hours on the computer trying to find the right one just relax about it please!! It will happen, just breathe, relax and enjoy the beauty around you in what ever it is you like to do. Peace/love and carpe diem!! | |
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| is there faithful or decent men out there
Posted: 3/30/2008 12:22:26 AM | | Actually, Yes, there are. I was married to one for 14 yrs. But unfortunately he was a complete control freak. As for men on online dating sites...Seems most are just playas. But, the grass isn't always greener, and His Loss! Don't give up OP, they are out there. | |
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