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| Sexual Desire Lost..
Posted: 7/25/2008 12:15:48 PM | | There is a needle that you gyno can inject into your 'G' spot that enhances desire - it's costly and only lasts 4 months - but it may be the kick start you need. | |
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| Sexual Desire Lost..
Posted: 7/25/2008 12:18:22 PM | Seek a 2nd medical opinion
You can be depressed and not even realize it if it is a mild one.
Not to pry into your relationship, but, perhaps HE should set up the candles, nice dinner etc.
Better yet, get out of where you are, got to a nice spa for couples. Set the mood, get rid of the tension.
Best of luck and all the best. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 12:12:31 PM | I'd consult a doctor.
You might try Slim Seduction, its this product by gnc that they made to be a woman's libido increaser then got all these letters from women who said it made their cellulite disappear and was fabulous for weightloss so they called it in and changed the name to Slim seduction. or at least that is what the spam in my email says.
personally to me the product sounds perfect (which means it has a long list of side effects probably lol) but i have more then enough desire as it is. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 1:07:54 PM | I had to take a look at your profile, as you hadn't mentioned your age. Since naturally decreasing hormones are not apparently your issue, there are a few other factors to consider.
If you are on medications, such as SRRI's or MAO inhibiters, this can lead to a decreased libido. Check with your physician if this is the case, and see if you can be switched to something else.
If you aren't being medically treated for anything, the problem lies in other areas. One, this guy could be the perfect guy for you; except you've fallen out of lust with him. You're at the right point in your relationship where this is possible. It may affect you to the point that even masturbation isn't appealing to you; most likely because of the guilt you feel in not having the hots for him anymore. Are there any other tensions or problems in the relationship? This can definitely decrease your sexual interest. Are your work or school pressures, or other unrelated problems, weighing on your mind?Are there conflicts in your past, such as your childhood, that may affect this as well? Many vicitms of abuse can suppress feelings for years, only to have them manifest in what would normally be a great relationship. My ex wife was abused for years as a child and adolescent; our sex life was wondrously spectacular...the first time she had felt passion she was 34 when we met). But ultimately, those prior conflicts wore her out; she lost any desire for intimacy, and ultimately for even maintaining the relationship. She wouldn't seek counseling, though I tried every way I could think of; and was sympathetic and understanding. But I lost; and ultimately, so did she.
If this is not the case either, seek a sex therapist. There are mental, physical, emotional, and other types of exercises that, if you really want to overcome this, will help. Also, instead of worrying that you won't respond, allow yourself to be open to respond. The pressure of performance alone will kill your interest.
I sincerely hope this is a short-term problem, and one you can overcome; either in this relationship, on your own, or in another. No woman should have to feel the way you do, at any age, for any reason. The one thing you can't do is ignore the problem...trust me, it won't just go away. Be proactive in your search for an answer; and I wish you the best of luck in regaining your passion. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 1:26:05 PM | Hi misskristy. There are many reasons for loss of libido, aand as many who have posted here have said, hormone balance is an important factor, along with emotional and mental wellbeing. Here's my take.
A huge percentage of people have experienced some form of trauma in childhood, ranging from emotional to physical abuse, in many forms. A child who experiences such a trauma is not equipped to know how to deal with it, so suppresses the emotions arising, and creates a mental block that locks them in. The memory is erased from the conscious mind, but exists in the subconscious, and will resurface whenever certain conditions arise in your life. From what you say, it is possible that you have found a relationship that is of great value to you, and perhaps you feel safe and protected with your partner. If this is the case, then it is very possible that an old emotional wound is rising to the surface to be healed. There is a good book on this subject, called *the journey*, by brandon bays isbn 0-7225-3839-1. It is an excellent source of infomation about this subject.
Hormone imbalance too is very common in women today, mostly due to environmental factors, especially dietry, with all the crap that is in the food chain. As some posters have said, your doctor can determine from a blood test what's going on in that department, and provide treatment. However, conventional medicine will likely treat the symptoms, not the cause. This might provide temporary relief, but in the long run, a treatment that gets the body to function correctly, and produce the right balance of hormones from within, is a far more effective. Many men's health problems can arise from hormone imbalance also, prostate problems etc. The body is well capable to bringing its self back into balance with the right kick start. I highly recommend you check out www.bushlore.co.nz products, which do exactly this, and they have a tonic for both men and women, to address hormone balance, detox, and restore normal immune response. It is not expensive, and really works too !!  | |
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