| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/2/2008 1:18:02 AM | Well geezzz isn't anyone going to ''offer'' to help her?
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:12:03 AM | | I would be honest. If I am lied to, it changes my opinion of the liar. I would not be disappointed if my "loved one" is not experienced in bed. It does not bother me one bit. I think there is more in a relationship than sex. Like spending time together, going out, and dealing with me! LOL! And for the record, I am not a virgin. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:15:11 AM | | yes you should telll them because then he will know how preccious a gift he is receiving and he will be gentle if he has a heart | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:19:19 AM | you should be honest...that guy is not worth your trouble.
One would think he would be happier you haven't had 20 partners in the past year...there seems to be a double edge sword or something going on here (possibly...i might just be overanalyzing haha). | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:07:11 PM | | wow! Good to hear u are a virgin at this age, Believe me is very hard to find someone of ur age group still a virgin, Wish am a male virgin poor me lol. If my words will count, I will like u to keep ur virginity for the right man ( ur hubby). | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:11:51 PM | Yes. Absolutely be honest. If a guy mocks you or dumps you for that, then he isn't worth your time AT ALL.
To be safe, tell the guy really early on. That way, if he freaks out and splits, at least you hadn't invested all that much (hopefully). | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:25:12 PM | hmmm....tough one
Being a virgin at that age and making it public is going to attract a WHOLE bunch of guys looking for a conquest. They're going to do & say everything they can to get a shot at what is essential a "One in a Million chance".
Then I'd take your time when having sex with a man. Tell him up front that you want to "wait a few months" before having sex, but still be intimate with him. This will weed out players looking for a good time. Playa's have limited patience. Make sure the dude is around for more than just booty call too. A man's character is defined by how he controls his impulses.
Once you've found a male that has the patience to wait, then tell him..that bring up that you are inexperienced & tell him. Chances are, if he's around for months NOT getting any he actually cares for you & he's patient. You'll need someone that is patient and understands your situation (not some dude in a rush). Chances are, he'll be understanding (and prolly thrilled too).
Good luck, go slow & pay careful attention. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 4:19:56 PM | OP, I am in the same boat as you, except that I am 26 rather then 28. I am sorry to hear you had such a rotten experience with that last guy. Obviously he did you a favor by screening himself out as a jerk before you did anything with him. Dunno about you, but the thing I *don't* wanna feel when I do find someone is used. Personally, that scares me more senseless then pain or blood or just how damn awkward the whole mess really is.
Should you be honest? Yes. Because the guy is gonna be able to figure out that this is all new to you pretty darn quick. I went through a struggle over this when my birthday rolled around and talked to a lot of my guy friends about it and they all agreed that they would be able to tell a girl was a virgin pretty darn fast. At least if you are honest you aren't going to have someone stop, look at you funny, and ask you what the heck is wrong.
Some of the guys on here did make another valid point a lot of my gaming buddies did. Be careful how and when you tell a guy, as well as how 'public' you make your 'status'. There are guys who do try to 'collect' this. It is disgusting but it does happen. There are also those wonderful (not the sarcasm, people!) frogs who will try to pressure you into something you aren't ready for yet using everything from "You are too old to be a virgin" to "What childhood trauma did you suffer to make you this way?"
Which brings me to my next point... There are really mixed signals for women about sexuality in our modern world. On one hand, guys really don't want you to have more experience then they do. (Or rather, they don't want to know the details of that if you do) yet they end up thinking something is wrong with you (anything from lack of desirability to psychological scarring to religious fanaticism) if you are a virgin. There are any number of reasons why a woman may have chosen to be this way. The fact that people come at us with reasons made up for us is irritating.
At any rate, I wanted to close this with two last points. The first, is that you should not be ashamed of being the way you are, right here, right now. I sensed from your OP that you kinda want to get it out of the way and that you find it a hinderance of some sort. If you really feel that way, so be it, but don't let the ideas and expectations of other people push you to that if its not what you honestly want. Second, I want to tell you to stay true to yourself. That does not have to mean being a virgin. What that means is that no matter what man you are with at any point in your life, he may come or go. But you will Always be with You, no matter what. In any decission you make, try to make sure you decide on things that you can live with. Because you are the only person from whom you can never walk away. I wish you the best of luck. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 4:56:09 PM | | You don't owe anybody an explanation of your sexual history unless you want to talk about it. There will be plenty of things about your bf's sexual escapades he won't tell you, and you may not want to know. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 5:04:02 PM | | Yes you should be honest with your next bf. As for the last one, if he couldn't accept that fact, then he wasn't worth you anyways. I was almost 24 when I lost my virginity, and I don't regret it one bit. When the time is right for you, you will know it.. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/3/2008 5:07:40 PM | I don't think that being a virgin at 28 is a bad thing! (I was a bit younger then you when I los mine), and have defnatly made up for lost time since then.
Any way, back to the point, I think you should be honest with him, if he can't handle that then it is his problem! As for the ex who thought you where a joke for being a virgin! What does he want, you to have been to bed with every man available? If he can't see it as a sighn that you perhaps are faithfull in a relationship and don't jump into bed with any and anything then he is the one at fault, not you!
Good luck with everything! | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/5/2008 6:09:47 AM | | Be honest... there are guys out there who happen to still be virgins, and there are guys who do like that in females. For one thing, better than knowing she has had multiple partners. If a guy is such a loser that he's gonna dump you because you're a virgin, that is a HUGE loss on his part, not yours. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/5/2008 11:45:33 AM | | honesty is always a good policy. if your last bf really had a problem with you being a virgin then youre better off | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/5/2008 3:53:13 PM | | Honestly there's no problem with being a virgin. I would actually find that attractive that you haven't jumped into bed with every guy you dated. If any guy has a problem with that then he's no good anyway. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/5/2008 9:28:18 PM | I don't have a "problem" with it. I would find it awkward and wonder why she was a virigin, especially if she wasn't religious. If she was religious it would make more sense to me. If she wasn't, then I would be thinking that she has followed a different path for some reason and if I didn't know what that reason was it would bother me. When people stray outside the norm, there is a reason and it depends on that reason. Also, wouldn't it be bad and awkward for a long time and also trying to explain what is normal in that situation? I don't think it's bad that she is a virgin, and she seems very cool, if I were her guy I would want a good reason for it though. Best wishes to the OP.  | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:12:53 AM | | I was in the same boat myself recently as the OP. Just a few months ago. The guy was surprised but not unwilling although he broke my heart tonight and dumped me rather unexpectedly so in the end the relationship wasn't worth it but at least I never have to tell someone I'm a virgin again. Which is probably the one bright side to being hurt right now. Yes you may get hurt. I wasn't expecting to but I did. Yet there are men who aren't going to turn you away because of your virginity and ones who won't date you because of it probably have some other issues going on. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:54:38 AM | I've noticed this among my guy friends as well. There was a hot little blonde that was passing herself around the group a year and a half ago that nobody wanted to uncork. I couldn't figure it out.
I was actually totally up for it, but a night of too much alcohol kind of ruined my shot with her. In fact, to be totally honest, I think that was the only thing I reallly wanted from her.
But for some reason, I guess everybody else felt like it was some burden or responsibility they didn't want to be bothered with. | |
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| meeting men that are virgins at 38 and 51 and 53
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:35:08 PM | | If there are men there must be woman virgins of all ages because I have already talked to 3 virgins one younger than I 38 and otheres wre51 and 53 . All 3 had never been married . Should I date a man that is an older virgin in his 50s? next question : what should I do when a man has bad odor? my email is dandgwh@srt.com if any one wants to comment or privately send me an email telling me how to deal with both problems . I have been sexually active most my life and love sex but I dont know if I can be with a virgin. also what do I SAY or should I buy deodorant for him and leave it in car maybe not say anything any suggestions . I like thedates but we are planning todate more and I cant stand his strong bad odor . He has to take more showers or wash his BO jacket also . How do I deal with this problem . thanks | |
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| meeting men that are virgins at 38 and 51 and 53
Posted: 4/17/2008 2:49:26 AM | Ok, wait, what was the friggin' question? I forgot after I read "Virgin", much less the age.
Uhhhhhhh..........I can only help you with your "Virgin" problem, like every man on this site currently of legal age.
Hope you weren't wanting serious answers, none of us men are thinking anything but ONE thing right now anyway.................."I can marry that gal if I try hard enough".
Yeah, that is EXACTLY what I was thinking..........sure it was. Oh the Humanity!
If nothing else, you got a helluva career in porn. Maybe not though.........
Any who, as usual, if you Lie, or by omission Lie, you get lied to, or get the boot.
If you tell the truth, they can either step up to the plate, or off the field.
Your choice, no one said life was easy, in fact, it sucks. No rulebooks or manuals come with it, it is always up to you.
You do what is right, no matter how hard it is, always. Otherwise, you are simply another POS in a world full of them. | |
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| meeting men that are virgins at 38 and 51 and 53
Posted: 4/17/2008 3:20:19 AM | | Okay, he left you because virgins tend to latch onto the man that de-flowers them. He may have thought it better to hurt you a little now than to hurt you a lot later. I've been there and dome the same thing. | |
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| meeting men that are virgins at 38 and 51 and 53
Posted: 4/17/2008 5:21:29 PM |
Do you think I should be honest with the next bf? What would you do if you were me? Do you REALLY want to start any relationship being ashamed of who you are? How can a relationship really last if you don't have the capacity to be honest?
BTW, my best friend met her husband after she turned 29. Been married 6 years. Couldn't be happier. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/17/2008 5:41:24 PM | Why on earth would you be ashamed of being a virgin????
I met my husband when he was 28, he was a virgin and I love him even more for it. I am VERY experienced and he loved that in me. No judgement either way.
Take your time and be honest. The right person is out there for you. So far, you just haven't found him yet. | |
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:54:20 PM | a older woman that is a virgin is scary
I have meet women that are 50 years old and virgins. That is right - - -
and their concept about love is a bit strange - - - and scary.
I mean if she has protected herself so well for so long, and never was tempted enough to try it or go for it - - - that her sexual desires were not strong enough - - - - - -
How is she going to be when married, - - - - - does she have the desires and passions that a man would want and enjoy or - - would she be all tied up emotionally and not able to - - -
Now I do not think that 28 is old.
I do respect the man that was simply going to take and use you and not have a long term relationship with you to not take you - - - you deserve a better than that for the first time - - -
and I have meet a few like this - - - find out that you are not the easy woman that he expected so did not spoil you.
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| 28 year old virgin...
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:55:43 PM | Well geezzz isn't anyone going to ''offer'' to help her?
I would but what chance does and old man like me have - - - experienced, knowledgeable - - skilled - - - -  javascript:smilie(' ')
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Jim P. | |
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