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Posted: 3/27/2008 12:49:55 PM | | Based on what you have said, I don't know that you are being played. I do think you hooked up with a loser. Things are expensive out there and there is no way that any man can justify kicking in only 200 bucks over one month let alone 6 months. You have two kids already and don't need a third. I'm pretty sure you know all of this already. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 12:51:36 PM | "No, you're not being played. You're being stupid, which is totally different. "
She's being used, is that not part of being played? And there's no need to be totally rude about it. Guh. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 12:57:12 PM | | Ok and you have to ask other people it is very obvious. 1st never allow a man to move in with you after only knowing him for 6 mths and marriage wow.Kick him out and don't be nice about it your 39 yoa stand your ground. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 1:13:32 PM | | sometimes we go in a relationship thinking how its going to be rather than talking about it , its pretty clear to me YOU have previous obligations before he came and you will continue to long after he's gone if it goes in that direction sounds to me someone 's not putting in 110% . Ask yourself this how many guys really care about there X when they have someone that there interested in by they're side. He's not wanting to let go of her and if they hide cell phones , bank statements and other in general you have someone not wanting you to know their business. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 1:14:52 PM | | Hi Op,i know they say love is blind but really you have to come to your senses and realize what is happening here.Surely he should be looking after you and your children. Im afraid this is heading in only one direction so the sooner you leave him and find someone who cares about you the better.I think you must realize you moved in far too soon,i would say leave him asap and look for someone else.best wishes. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 1:20:23 PM | Well considering you are on a dating site then you should not be too stressed about the girlfriend scenario.
On the flip side, if you both commited to one another and the relationship, he should be contributing to the household. You would think someone at your age and with two children would know the what is wrong with this picture. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 1:49:03 PM |
I am starting to feel like a schmuck ...
Starting to? What took you so long? | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:15:26 PM |
am i being played? Darlin' he must be playing with you pretty good to put up with that kinda crap!
I am an awesome woman who has a ton to offer the right man.... i am hot , sexy and i love to have fun, i am generous, loving , etc cannot say enough about my character, u find out I think this ole boy took your profile to heart!!!
Goddess ...don't you think it is time to bannish freeloader man from your garden of eden?! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:32:43 PM | you know i started to look back into all these comments and well lotta you being mentally abusive as well
calling her names isnt gonna help(may make ur day a bit better in ur own head)) but really u think she needs to get put down? get a life! only a inconsiderate person would call another names in a time of crisis for ones heart | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:51:30 PM | Let me see, you only knew him for 6 months and he asked marraige....(red flag). He is now living rent free, bill free,free bed and what comes with it, and hitting his ex up while under your roof. (red flags)
goddess....do you really need advice? Give him a good swift kick in the a** out of your house. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:00:56 PM | | Are you dating my Ex husband???? Sounds like his mo! Run girl run! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:02:54 PM | "No, you're not being played. You're being stupid, which is totally different."
 Absolutely true! What is the matter with you??? Get rid of him...NOW!!! Geesh, some people will do anything to have a guy/girl around.  | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:03:54 PM | Ok, first of all, you have kids, so he needs to accept that your kids are a package deal in the relationship with you. If he cantaccept that, lose the bum.
Second, he's writing to his ex? Regardless of the reason, that shouldnt be happening, if he cant accept that, lose the bum! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:13:15 PM |
am i being played?
what do you think? Do you think he's playing you? It really doesn't matter what we think, does it? | |
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| am i being played?
Posted: 3/27/2008 3:21:56 PM |
You know what happens when you stand in the sun with butter on your head.?
OMG that is too funny....as a bald guy I cringed just thinking of that! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:48:14 PM |
am i being played?
Don't listen to these Negative Nellies, goddess. They are just a bunch of Glass-Half-Empty people.
If the guy has been telling you he doesn't have money and you know he does, I'll bet he's saving it up to buy you something really nice, or buy you guys a nice house or something. He probably doesn't contribute to your kids' costs because he believes you are a strong woman and doesn't want to be the cause of you believing you aren't strong and independent. Obviously, he's a male feminist who believes in equal rights.
Anyway.... if it doesn't work out with this guy for whatever reason, where do you live? I've fallen behind on my boat payments by a bit...
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:48:45 PM |
No, you're not being played. You're being stupid, which is totally different.
I agree! You are aware of the situation, yet you are doing nothing but whining about it!
She's being used, is that not part of being played?
Only if you feel the need to use dramatic words to express something..
He is not even using her, because he is letting him! He is taking advantage of her yes!She is completely aware of the situation that she continues to take part it! She is not a "victim" she is a willing "participant"!
If he was playing her she wouldn't know!
And there's no need to be totally rude about it. Guh.
Being honest with a person may seem rude. But when they realize the truth them selves that offended feeling leaves!
Besides, the comment was "being stupid"! And by all means from her posts that is 100% accurate! It didn't say she was stupid! That would have been a little rude!
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:56:18 PM | Surely your kids are part of the package ?
If not then move on........... | |
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| am i being played?
Posted: 3/27/2008 4:54:27 PM | | Played is an understatement, you are being used. Kick his butt out. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 5:24:58 PM | | Come on lady, you are too old to not know the answer to your own question, lol. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 5:59:00 PM |
I found a letter to his ex girlfriend on his e-mail
I found his bank statement last week by accident
So, are you justing finding this stuff, or are you looking for it? Sounds to me like you are looking for it, and if you're looking for it, you obviously don't trust him.
I am starting to feel like a schmuck and could use advice...
Starting to feel like a schmuck? You should have felt like this as soon as you were searching for clues.
I'm not sure what would make a woman your age have to ask this question.
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Posted: 3/27/2008 7:00:35 PM | sorry, i think you are being played. i think i've been played in another way altogeather and i'm waking up to it big time now. they will let you trust them and belive a whole lot of lies about then and if your like me maybe your trusting and nieve and they just take it further and further once they know they have you (living with and loving them)
put your foot down is my advice but then again, i semi put my foot down a million times and in hind sight iu should have just bitten the bullet and left and set very high standards before considering any reconciliation
good luck! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 7:05:02 PM | hell, I'll offer to marry you if you'll support me and my son, too!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 7:18:27 PM | message 48 Wow what a raw and honest post
^^^
Damn I forgot this stuff...
when you fall really hard for a man...(when I say you I mean me) you get all dumb and chit...and all you really love is the cute little way they flap their gums and their...other flap-able parts. Which just proves men are not the only people ruled by their sex organs.
OP Your man needs rules and he needs them now!
He needs to start pulling his own weight. Give him exactly one week to straighten up his act and he better get a haircut and a real job!
He lives in YOUR home. You might let him know that everyone that lives in your home is family. Family RESPECT one another AND work TOGETHER. Or...they don't live in YOUR house! So what if he has to buy food that your kids will eat. They have to look at his lazy mug every day in THEIR home.
Get tough woman!
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