| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 8:47:36 AM | | if someone considers only giving a cell number out its not the best thing to go on cause many only use a cell even the single ppl....more so try and get them in public places and be affectionate in public and see how they react...if they get parinod or suddenly wanna go somewhere away from everyone its kinda showing there hiding something | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 9:05:11 AM | | QUESTION these people that you say you guys have met and later found out that they were married or had an s.o. were they found on plentyoffish | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 28 | |
| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 9:31:03 AM | wow, all of you cuties sure are fun and wild, this is the best thread going. I'm looking for more posts on this subject.
everyone seems to be bad mouthing the married people that are out there in the dating world, but in all seiousness most are great people, good people but you never hear about them, you only hear about the bad ones.
But if i were out there dating i would date married ladies before i would the single ones, the married ones seem to have alot of good quailities, thats why they are married and the sex is usually good as well, most couples aren't getting much at home anyhow cause their mates are to busy with sports and their friends, so these nice ladies will make sure that you get enough to keep on coming back for more good stuff.
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 11:41:34 AM | LOL I did lafff at some of the post.. interesting subject..OP...
If someone is married and dose not want to be caught..I would have thought they would be well into knowing what to do, and what not to do...
Some I would presume are so experienced in doing that, and groom their mates to be so well. You dont know untill its to late and your well hurt.
Basics to follow.
get 2 numbers home and cell. and call them at random.
go to his home.
when you go on a first date. take a pic of his car and reg no. and send it to a friend when he asks tell him.Should anything happens a friend has got the details.
Ask him straight for home details
ask him to meethis/your friends and or family..
lol put a pair of knickers in his car his bag or his pocket.(if he is single dosant matter.if not he is sh** street lol)
There is many things .. just think about it. you'll think of loads if you want to.
If he is not you will have loads of fun in the mean while..
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mxk883
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Joined: 8/14/2007
Msg: 30 | |
| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 12:18:14 PM | ask him to meethis/your friends and or family..
That is insane..."dates" don't get introduced to friends and family, "girlfriends" do.
Call randomly to check up on him? Go to his home? What if he has young kids and would prefer not to have unknown ladies showing up unannounced? Take pix of his license plate?
My god why not just ask for a DNA sample while you are at it?  | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 12:51:14 PM | Some people lie, and many do not. Being one of those who does not, anyone I dated who pulled some of these "tricks" would be history. And would lose out on exactly the kind of guy they hoped to find.
You can ask someone directly, and that should be sufficient in most cases. If you suspect they're lying, stop seeing them. If you can't trust, then you probably aren't trustworthy yourself. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 1:29:37 PM | Trust your GUT!!!
If your gut tells you that this person is not kosher, then he/she is not.
If you suspect they're lying, stop seeing them.
If one of your friends meets him/her and tells you that they do not have a good feeling about them, TRUST YOUR FRIEND'S GUT too. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 1:53:01 PM | Good Lord.......listen after the 2nd or 3rd date just tell him you'd like to come to his house and cook for him. Yes, even if he allows that it doesnt guarantee he's not married .....but while there...............go to the bathroom......check the medicine cabinet........look around.......usually there are signs that a woman lives there. Hey was that a pink toothbrush? lol Is the bedroom done feminine or masculine(remember your just checking the bedroom, you havent reached the sex stage yet)....check the pantry......unless hes told you hes a gourmet cook its probably pretty bare.
Not all men wear their wedding ring.........but if its summer check for a tan line on the ring finger.......when in the car look for perhaps a tube of lipstick in the little well on the console. Check for the owners card......sometimes kept in the visor.........see if there are two names on it........... Now this would all be too exhausting for me soooooooooooo
YOU COULD SIMPLY ASK......and take what he says on faith.............. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:07:44 PM | | or if u really want to know.....suggest that the two of you go back to his place, and .......watch the show you have been dying to see. His place only!!!! | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:32:51 PM | | THE BEST WAY IS TO TELL THEM "IT'S COOL IF U ARE SEEING SOMEONE OR MARRIED I JUST WANT TO KNOW SO THAT I CAN WATCH MY BACK" THEY USUALLY DO TELL. THEN U SAY OK THANK YOU GOODBYE! | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:02:55 PM | Msg. #13: "But if I suspect that he is being dishonest with me I follow this plan. I phone him with my voice full of concern, and tell him that a woman has left a message on my phone saying that she has found my number and is curious to hear the voice of the woman who is seeing her husband! I didn't answer the call you know ... I just have the message. Of course 'as far as I know' I am not seeing a married man I would never do that! I was just wondering if he knew who it might be, who's wife might have found my number and called my phone - gosh she sounded angry!'
That plan would backfire with me. I would say, "Not sure...do you make a habit of dating married men?" and then say "next". And since I wasn't the married man, I would tend to think you are seeing someone besides me....playing the field....then say "next".
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:16:31 PM | To the people saying tricks are not required..well...lucky you for never running into a married person who lies very well.
I do however agree with one thing....if you wait a while before having sex, "the marrieds" will move on to someone else, and you avoid getting hurt. Just my opinion. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:31:04 PM | How about just calling him at his home number early in the evening during the week, without blocking yours. Seems to me any single guy would be willing to give out his home number. If all you have is a cell# that should be a red flag.
I don't think this would be a red flag. I have a home phone number but haven't used or even had a phone hooked up to it for 2 years. I use it for faxing or a back up when the internet is down. You can call it but it will never ring. Beside I know many people that have gotten rid of theirs home phones and some that talk about it because they use their cell phones all of the time. So not having a home phone could mean they are just smart and saving money not a red flag
I have to agree with post 31 in here, no sense in me repeating it, because he has said it all. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:21:59 PM | If your around, why not just meet him at his house. Tons of men, especially professional, meet with women while telling spouses they are playing golf which is in the a.m. Saturdays and Sundays. Women can say they are shopping with friends. Also, don't call his cell phone; demand to get his home address or phone number or say that you want to come over in the near future.
Your plan is not so good; keep trying. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:39:01 PM |
How about just calling him at his home number early in the evening during the week, without blocking yours. Seems to me any single guy would be willing to give out his home number. If all you have is a cell# that should be a red flag.
This isn't true ALL the time - I don't have a home phone because through my provider where I'm at it's cheaper to NOT have a home phone and just use my cellphone.
I'd see it as a pink flag at most, be cautionary, but don't let it break the deal. | |
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mac390
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Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 41 | |
| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:28:31 PM | instinct....... you have to trust your instinct....never lets us down but only if we listen to it !!!!!!  | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:05:09 AM | No trick will do. Your best bet is to just find honest men here in POF. That would be those who admit to being separated as opposed to divorced. You know from the get-go they aren't lying.
Ok, I guess this was a self-serving suggestion... | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:17:46 AM | Forget tricks. They will make you tricky, not wise.
Better to move a little slower in getting to know someone and just pay attention along the way. Time reveals a persons character -- but many are not willing to invest it. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:25:28 PM | | If someone on here has "prefer not to say" in the Marital Status column, that sends up instant red flags to me. I stay away. | |
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qaz111
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Joined: 5/16/2008
Msg: 45 | |
| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:37:41 AM | Here's a question. What personality traits make you more likely to fall for a married guy. If it looks too good it likely is. The married guys will never stop looking, think of a lower primate (less evolved?) like a male gorilla, he's always looking for more females to add to his family.
Here's another question. Take 2 guys, one a dedicated family guy, coaches little league, honest, god job. And the other - lying, player, never wanting to settle down, never cares about their SO's feelings. Now assuming a 50:50 sex ratio in the population. What did the second guy do to earn the right to have a relationship. What did the second girl do to deserve to be left with a loser. What if...... Hey, does anybody know who I can call to become a Mormon???
And as for wearing a ring, personally I have seen a few de-gloving injuries from rings. If you don't have a glove on - it's bad to de-glove. I would never wear a ring. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:41:10 AM | | I am single and I only have a cell phone. I dont see the point of having a home phone anymore. Does that mean I am "secretly married" LAWL | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:31:36 AM | | If you have to play tricks and games...what does that make you? I agree with galon and the others that say "ask" and "trust your instincts" and "go slow". You'll know soon enough. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:48:00 AM | I don't have a land line phone either. I use my cell. I think asking is good and how long divorced or widdowed. If some one is seperated they are still married in my book. They can call when they get divorced.
I am probably an older poster in this group but for me they aren't really worth dateing
unless they have been single or widdowed two years. You would probably just wind up being an interium relationship. | |
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| Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:55:41 AM | | I had forgotten this one but property information is public record. you can go to the court house, look up the adress and see who's name is on the property. | |
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