| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/29/2008 8:42:14 AM | True Love? To me it is someone who can see inside my head and know what I am thinking .....Sought of like being on the same wave length. True Love is like an arrow in the heart that he removes and the pain is unbearable. It's NOT true love if the recipient doesn't feel the same way or give you the respect that you deserve. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/29/2008 9:01:15 AM | | like everything else in life there is no absoloute definition to this question it all matters on the person and hoiw they feel | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/29/2008 9:17:33 AM | I know I love someone when:
I can't sleep without them holding me at night
My heart hurts when I'm not with them
I panic at the thought of losing them
I think about raising children with them
I care if his family and friends like me
I want to see him succeed, even if it takes him from me (a study abroad program in Zimbabwe, Peace Corps, etc.)
I don't want anyone else and have no desire to cheat.
Things like that. I'm engaged to someone I met on Match and feel this way about him. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:01:49 AM | forgot i wrote this 11/11/05...love and true love as i believed it then...(sorry it's long)
What is love?
Is it the light that shines when two people see the divine
in each other?
Is it the sense of peace in your heart and soul
that you never want to let go of?
Is it the feeling that sends you reeling
with thoughts of a sexy meeting?
Is it release from fear and really being all here
to feel the divine within you?
Is it seeing another, could be your father, sister, mother or brother,
and know you really are family?
Is it wondering when you'll see each other again
with a sort of yearning that takes hold?
If you are ill with a cold,
is it wrapped up in bed with chicken soup
and someone stroking your forehead?
Is it hearing a hummingbird
fluttering so fast you can hardly see it,
hovering near you, with its magical greeting?
Is it falling on the floor laughing so hard
you really are gonna split your sides
and never forget this feeling?
What is true love?
Is it that instant spark that just ignites
with so much light?
Is it passion beyond all reason
that's there, any season?
Is it seeing that shine in the eyes so bright
and really lights up the night?
Is it a sudden knowing this one is special
and means you'll keep growing?
Is it sleeping like a baby in the arms of your love
letting your dreams mingle together?
Is it feeling a sense of so much contentment
beyond all resentment?
Is it feeling the beat of your heart so strong and true
when they come into view?
Is it hugging another, truly a brother
who's come to rescue you?
Is it all of these things and so much more?
things you've never felt before?
Who knows for sure?
But something in me believes it exists
and is really the path to lasting happiness.
And maybe it hasn't appeared just yet in my life I've traveled so far,
but there's more to come, all the unknown and the fun
when one is open to reach for a star
that has suddenly shone when you're alone,
and something deep down says, pay attention!
This is not just a passing infatuation. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:06:42 AM | To me true love is a bit like a combination of all the different types of love you experience in a lifetime.. all rolled up into one glorious package... e.g.. Familial Love(unconditional), Platonic Love, and Romantic Love...
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 9:28:49 AM | Humans expect and demand from others what we are most unwilling to give: unconditional love.
Well put, margo...
True love is that feeling one realizes didn't exist until the next true love shows up, which, in turn, falls short of the next true love that is found in the produce department, which also is perfect until.... ad infinitum.... er, ad nauseum.... | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 9:51:31 AM | Experiencing true love is like a drop of water after years of drought blah blah blah..
When you put your special persons feelings,comfort,and well being above your own I guess that's true love.
But I KNOW love is Infatuation and after you get that crap outta the way it
becomes a sense of security which is often built by trust, comfortability, and excitement.Well not so much excitement after awhile.  | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 10:19:16 AM | | Truly loving someone means giving them the ability to destroy you and trusting them not to. Think about that seriously, it can apply to every "love" relationship you have. Whether it is with a parent, a child, a friend or a lover. Giving 100% of yourself is love, getting 100% from someone else is being loved back. Love with reckless abandon, the only things you regret in life are the things you didn't do or say. I really believe you can never love too much, even if it is given to the wrong person or misguided love, heartaches come and go, people come and go, the only thing that can go wrong is if you lose yourself in the process of loving someone else. If you can keep yourself and who you are in tact at all times then you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by loving as much and as deeply as you can. Sometimes that love won't be returned because the other person is just not capable of loving you the way you love them and that is the time when you have to love yourself more than you love them and walk away, love doesn't die it only changes. That may only sound like a bunch of cliches, but they are cliches for a reason, they are true. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 10:41:03 AM | Of the definitions I read in this thread mykytyzn does the best in my mind to define true love.
I used to facilitate grief groups and found myself envious of those who grieved the most intensely because I felt they had just lost, as far as this world is concerned, the object of TRUE LOVE. This was something I urgently desired, but hadn't found yet.
I think the description in the Bible which most clearly describes true love for me is Ephesians 5:25, which tells husbands to love their wives as Christ did the Church, which he GAVE HIMSELF FOR.
I have not experienced this yet, but am very willing and desirous of giving all of myself to a lady, who will give herself in exchange to me! I don't mean that either will change unless they want to, but I like the post which talked about giving to another because we want to, and not reserving, or resenting that giving in any way. I do believe true Christians are most able to do this, because only God is perfect in love and can help humans come as close as possible to this example. At least that is the way I now see it. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 10:49:56 AM | True love to me is the willingness to set your partner free, if that is what they desire.
No matter how painful it is for you. It is being unselfish, wanting their happiness and knowing when it is time to let go. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 10:55:58 AM | Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 11:57:26 AM | What is true love is?
True love is that which a woman feels for her child
From the moment it pops out the shute and she sees its tiny face “she knows What is true love is?”
Whether it is healthy and complete or sick or deformed “she knows What is true love is?”
She will sacrifice all for her child, even death, with no hesitation or regret. Why? Because “she knows What is true love is?”
As her child grows and does or says things that tear her heart out she forgives. Why? Because “she knows What is true love is?”
When the child is grown and leaves to begin their own family she cries but lets them go. Why? Because “she knows What is true love is?”
And when she sees her first grandchild, holds it in her arms she knows love never dies. Why? Because “she knows What is true love is?”
I don’t know if all men experience this type of love for a child, I know I have and have had it for a partner.
Is it possible to have this special type of love with a life partner? Yes, I believe so but it takes time and effort by both. I have experienced it once, and if the sun comes up and the crick don’t rise I hope to again. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 11:58:56 AM | | This one is easy.....one you love somebody unconditional, and you have their best interests in your heart always. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 12:34:44 PM | I am not trying to "convert" anyone to any kind of religion and I don't ready respond to any meassges or blogs on these sites-why? Because most times people alrady have their minds made-up on certain situations or viewpoints. But whenI saw this meassge or questionare I couldn't resist!
Here it goes-from my experience inwhich I have put myself through alot of unhealty relationships and from my day to day experience and what I hear and see what people put themselves through;I have discovered the meaning of real and true love is from the "bible"! -Don't run away now/smile. In most parts this society "thinks" yes "thinks" it knows love but just look around you and make your own conclusion. We[society] are "making up our own definition of love "and thats when things go hay-wire! -To say the least. For example....... love is non-judgemental,but look at the world and the media and how it attacks and approaches people....think about this people-when you "judge" someone you automaticly stop loving ,caring or understanding that person-get it? This is just one of the meanings of love that is in the bible.You don't be leive me-just check out the chater 1 Corinthians and look for the meaning of Love!/Lenny | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 12:40:31 PM | ...you got it!!!! You are on the right track...hummm whom ever meets you are going or is a lucky MaN/smile!!!!/Lenny
-"God is a comedian playing to an audience [too] afraid to laught." -Voltaire[1694-1778] | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 3/30/2008 12:46:22 PM | True love cannot be defined, nor should it be.
I would rather it be limitless and without words to define what it should or should not be. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 1:25:04 PM | ...you got it!!!! You are on the right track...hummm whom ever meets you are going or is a lucky MaN/smile!!!!/Lenny
Thank you for the compliment Lenny, I could say the same for you.
It's 1 Corinthians. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 5/6/2009 12:42:23 PM | | I think John Beckwith from Wedding Crashers said it well..."True love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another." | |
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Posted: 5/6/2009 1:05:58 PM | I just received a proof of true love.....
True love is putting yourself on 2nd row to safeguard your loved one.
Sacrifice your feelings or desires in order to keep your loved one out of danger. or trouble.
This in ONE example of true love.
I am happy I was truly loved. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2009 1:07:43 PM | | I think I've gotten a taste of it, and it's very nice. Involves self-sacfifice. But you get to take sometimes too. It's very nice. | |
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| how would you define true love?
Posted: 5/6/2009 3:49:20 PM | It depends on what you mean by love. ("It depends on what 'is' is." (Bill Clinton).)
Commonly, when that question is asked it refers to the noun 'love'. That is, the state of being in love. There are many good definitions already posted, here. Those boil down to a state of caring more about another person's welfare, than one cares about one's own. That's an unconditional state, because no 'condition' causes it and no condition can destroy it.
However, those who said there's no definition are also correct. Emotions defy definition. Feelings come from within us, without logic. Words used to render definitions are descriptive and logical and never truly define an emotion. We respond emotionally, without logical reasons. We can apply logic afterwards. We feel an emotion and then explanation goes to the cause, which refers to some action. But initially emotions arise without being evoked by logic.
That leads to what we really want to know about 'loving' relationships.
In romantic relationships, what we seek isn't the noun, but the verb. We want to 'be loved'. Being loved is conditional. We usually won't continue loving another, if we aren't being loved, ourselves. We never 'fall out of love' with someone with whom we were 'in love'. (Remember no conditions are involved.)
We do stop 'loving' though. If we aren't being loved, we ultimately stop actively loving the other person.
Now that we've sort of defined our terms, let's focus on the verb 'loving'.
Ask yourself what it is that makes you feel loved. How are you treated that makes you feel loved? Then find out what you do that make that other person feel loved. (They probably won't be the same elements; the same criteria. However, the elements may be similar among the genders.) Keep in mind, we're not defining, we're only identifying actions that evoke the emotion of love.
And, there's the trick. We're never going to truly define 'true love'. If we find out what makes the other person feel loved and let them know what makes us feel loved and provide that in exchange for them providing for us, we will be in a loving relationship. We will have learned to love. ("The greatest thing you will ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.")
It's been my observation and experience that in a loving relationship, sometime after the habit of loving has been entrenched, we find ourselves "suddenly in love". It's then that we also realize that defining that most wonderful of all human emotions isn't necessary, but learning how to evoke that emotion and enjoying that emotion in a loving exchange is. | |
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