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| | Do you prefer someone complicated, or someone simple?Page 5 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | I prefer someone who can make up their minds and be decision makers.
Don't have to analyze and agonize for days even months over things that are not that difficult..They make them difficult. .
A complicated person has difficulties DECIDING anything.
They make life very difficult for themselves and others in a lot of cases.
That would make me *nutz*..
I have a nephew who as a child ( and considered to be very brilliant compared to his siblings) that would AGONIZE if given a choice over what to eat or do ect.
The boy would take forever deciding between a peanut butter cup and an almond bar..
Should he go to football camp or baseball camp.
You leave no room for in between in your question so I choose simple.
That does not mean "simple minded" or a non thinker.
Simple is far from boring but somehow I get the idea your question is not about complicated/difficult to analyze, understand, explain, verses simple/easy to understand or deal with. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 7:53:56 AM | win1heart says [depends on the size of her boobs
does not matter what is her personality,
simple or complicated who cares of these things...
if she is sexy enough,
any man is hitting on her!]
So, you're one of the simple ones. Who cares whether you can talk with her, or not - is that what really matters to you? It's just sex, then?  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 7:55:48 AM |
"My life is complicated", is a phrase that one might hear from a complicated person. "My life is simple", is a phrase that one might hear from a not-so-complicated person.
I think the opposite is true. The phrase 'my life is complicated' probably is uttered by someone who is 'simple' in that they can't figure out how to make their life go smoothly, even given the inevitable 'ruts in the road'.
And conversely, one who can say truthfully ,'my life is simple', has, in their complicated (complex) mind, figured out how to live their life in such a manner that it is SIMPLE, which in turn allows their 'complicated, complex' mind to ponder other things. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 8:41:34 AM | Win1heart:
depends on the size of her boobs Classic! 
I would never subject a simple man to my complexities, lol..
Seriously though, I tend to get along better with those who are fairly complex/complicated.. there is so much more to explore and connect on. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 9:52:31 AM | Nipoleon, I agree with your POV. With the right person, things just seem to fall into place, and the way forward somehow seems cleared for you. If it feels like a minefield, you're with the wrong person, IMO.
I also agree with another poster that the person should be capable of (and hopefully enjoy) complex thinking and lively conversations on a variety of topics. In other words, intelligence without the dogma that so often accompanies it. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 10:29:35 AM | This to me is a noise thread! Blah blah blah!! Who's complicated, who's simple, who's...
None of this makes sense at all. The most simple guy/gal who lives in a single room, with minimal trappings in life, has a 9 to 5, that requires the brain power of a snail, has no debts, a little savings.
Now take that life, inject an injury, accident, tornado, family crisis, whatever you want to name and their lives go from walking coma to rubix cube in a heartbeat!
On the other side, someone with 3 divorces, multiple kids, a job that has the tension of the cold war! They can deep down be a great person, with chaos thrust upon them.
No one sets out to live a complicated existance, or have differing sides to their personality.
The versions of this have infinite combinations. Better to me, to just see whether the person your dating, is good for you and you for them. Then let life happen! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 11:16:48 AM |
depends on the size of her boobs
does not matter what is her personality,
simple or complicated who cares of these things...
if she is sexy enough,
any man is hitting on her!
The biggest breasts I have seen on any woman have been on extremely obese women--and no one was hitting on them. If you find 300 pound women sexy because of their large mammary glands, have at it.
"My life is complicated", is a phrase that one might hear from a complicated person. "My life is simple", is a phrase that one might hear from a not-so-complicated person.
Like Naturemaid, I disagree with this conjecture. I know "simple" people whose lives are very complicated with what is popularly called "drama." I am a complex person with convoluted thought processes, yet my life is quite simple--boring by the standards of most, yet no one has ever accused me of being boring.
The greatest minds are able to express complex ideas in simplistic terms... we call this genius....
So complexity of thought and simplicity of expression is what I seek
I had a professor who said that when we write, we need to make simple things seem complex and complex issues seem simple.
I do not think that simple people can make themselves seem complex, though I have seen them try. I have, though, seen complex people have that "simplicity of expression" very often.
simplicity is genius. An over complicated person is often a sign of someone who cannot make up their mind or changes their mind constantly. Not a good thing in my book.
Not being able to make up one's mind has nothing to do with a "complicated" mind! However, I find that complex people often have varying views on a subject, it is not the inability to make up his/her mind, but being able to understand or consider an issue from various angles. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 12:21:54 PM | Just a thought on something another poster said about "being able to understand or consider an issue from various angles."
Now is it a complicated or simple mind, that is open or closed? My question is when you are able to see both sides of an issue or "various angles", don't most believe better decisions come with an open mind, than someone who lacks the ability to see the others viewpoint?
I mean we see dozens of threads where someone's hang ups, beliefs or rules, disallows the viewpoint or beliefs, of the very person they are trying to date or have a relationship with. Seems strange to me, when you say "I want to date you, but your beliefs and thoughts are totally wrong, so you should forget them and embrace mine"
Hahahaha!! That isn't complicated versus simple, that's my way or the highway! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 1:58:39 PM |
Just a thought on something another poster said about "being able to understand or consider an issue from various angles."
Now is it a complicated or simple mind, that is open or closed? My question is when you are able to see both sides of an issue or "various angles", don't most believe better decisions come with an open mind, than someone who lacks the ability to see the others viewpoint?
I mean we see dozens of threads where someone's hang ups, beliefs or rules, disallows the viewpoint or beliefs, of the very person they are trying to date or have a relationship with. Seems strange to me, when you say "I want to date you, but your beliefs and thoughts are totally wrong, so you should forget them and embrace mine"
Hahahaha!! That isn't complicated versus simple, that's my way or the highway!
Ah, but you are referring to examples which are very often colored by emotion, and when we depend mostly on emotion in decision making, we run the risk of not being logical.
For example, I would not date--even less partner with--someone who is a Christian fundamentalist, and that is not having a closed mind or emotionalism but making a decision based on experience. In my experience with fundies, we are incompatible because they think that I am a Satan worshiping idolator, and they consistently want to convert me and tell me that I am going to hell. Of course, the question is open as to whether a true fundie would want to date me!
In a closer examination of this specific example, I was in the Christian church for a very long time; I know the belief system and the history of that belief system. A fundamentalist Christian knows little about anything beyond their beliefs--again, I say this based on experience.
It occurs to me, though, that no one has defined a "simple" mind--what criteria establishes a person as "simple." My criteria could be different from that of other people. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 2:12:46 PM | This thread is becoming complicated.
Took a simple question and complicated it all up.
My answer?
I'm not into complicated .. appreciate simple.
To answer the "why?"... Because I'm retired, living simply-peacefully, and I love it! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 2:13:52 PM | Sorry Gwendoyln, But I think you just did!! Define a simple mind that is!
Anyone willing to accept a "man in the sky" belief, to the exception of anything else is simple! They can ignore facts the size of elaphants, and go right on down the road.
But then again what do I know? I'm just a simple druid! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 2:28:05 PM |
My answer?
I'm not into complicated .. appreciate simple.
To answer the "why?"... Because I'm retired, living simply-peacefully, and I love it!
Again, no one has defined a "simple" person. For a very long time, "simple" meant a person who was below average intelligence. To me, it can be someone of average intelligence but one who accepts the status quo without questioning it. They buy into what cultural institutions tell them--i.e. religion or the government. They do not even stop to consider that MAYBE the cultural mores and beliefs of other people and cultures are not as valid as their own.
I cannot remember all the times that simple people told me that I "think too much." Thinking too much entails questioning issues or "things" that many people don't question. It is also seeing connections that other people can't see.
On the other hand, "simple" is also being so gullible that one buys into every conspiracy theory or other outlandish proposal that comes along.
So, I apparently think too much, but my life is simple--I own a modest house, I teach, I don't go to bars or clubs, and I don't socialize a lot. Many people would say that is boring, but I find what THEY do boring! Sitting before a TV, conversations consisting of he did that and she did this, talking about sports, recounting the plots of movies . . . I would rather contemplate on more esoteric things.
Anyone willing to accept a "man in the sky" belief, to the exception of anything else is simple! They can ignore facts the size of elaphants, and go right on down the road.
I agree with that, but I will take it one step further: fundies won't even consider ideas because they fear that the opposition might make sense! And I am talking about fundies in any situation, not just religion.
When I was in the Christian church, the pastor told the congregation that we shouldn't read ANYTHING that challenged the Bible or established beliefs because it could weaken our faith. He was right: education is a dangerous tool. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 2:55:36 PM |
The greatest minds are able to express complex ideas in simplistic terms... we call this genius....
So complexity of thought and simplicity of expression is what I seek
here you go,
simple ideas
about Women:
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do not fight against global warming!
global warming means more "hot women"
proof: the temperute on Venus is much warmer.
about Men:
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women expect men would be fighting for them, like the god of war, Mars.
the reality is Mars is a sweet caramel chocolate,
with nuts inside | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 3:07:25 PM | A very wise person can also be quite simple, Gwen.
They have no need for "thinking too much" or endless discussions.
They are content in their wisdom and live in peace with their knowledge.
It takes seeking to get there.. (can even take many dips in the complicated pool)..
but once there, they can dwell in simplicity and 'complicated' is seen as not needed to dip into again. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 3:10:26 PM | ^^ For some reason, that reminded me of this Zen story:
A university professor went to visit a famous Zen master. While the master quietly served tea, the professor talked about Zen. The master poured the visitor's cup to the brim, and then kept pouring. The professor watched the overflowing cup until he could no longer restrain himself. "It's overfull! No more will go in!" the professor blurted. "You are like this cup," the master replied, "How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup." http://users.rider.edu/~suler/zenstory/emptycup.html | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 3:12:18 PM | If you speak slowly in a sonorous voice you can sound wise while reading the back of a cereal box.
Edit: I have been told that I am complicated by women and by the last women. So where's my prize?
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Posted: 10/30/2011 3:29:13 PM |
A very wise person can also be quite simple, Gwen.
They have no need for "thinking too much" or endless discussions.
They are content in their wisdom and live in peace with their knowledge.
It takes seeking to get there.. (can even take many dips in the complicated pool)..
but once there, they can dwell in simplicity and 'complicated' is seen as not needed to dip into again.
When we say "complex" vs. "simple," are we speaking of wisdom or knowledge? I have heard people with low IQs speak wisely and I have heard PhDs spout nonsense.
It is not a matter of a "need" to think "too much" and it is not a matter of endless discussion. There is a time to speak and there is a time to be silent. When people have told me that I think "too much," they never gave me a manual on how to think less.
If I do not ask questions, I won't find answers. The "wise" person who does not ask "why" is stagnant and content with what little knowledge that he/she has--and all of us have but little knoweldge. One question leads to another. I never want to reach a point where I do not feel the need or desire to refrain from dipping into the pool. In my opinion, if a person reaches a state where he/she ceases to seek answers and no longer asks questions, that is the height of hubris and/or laziness.
NO one has THE answers, not the quiet sage nor the person with the highest IQ or the most education. It is all subjective.
The "wise" person who is "content" in his/her knowledge is not wise.
If you speak slowly in a sonorous voice you can sound wise while reading the back of a cereal box.
If you can't convince 'em with the facts, dazzle them with the BS--or speak in an authoritative, sonorous, voice! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 3:52:26 PM | Some of the wisest observations or input are gems from precocious children. They don't try to be 'wise'; they just oftentimes see things a lot more clearly than the convolutions we adults use to reach our mental and emotional conclusions.
I have the great good fortune of having one such grandson, and I listen closely. Not all he says is 'wise', but enough is to put him near the head of the class of those who have offered me their perspectives on life. | |
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