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Posted: 4/19/2008 9:39:09 AM |
She replied that we should chat on MSN, where she could send me some photos.
I get this all the time, i say no as well . Mainly because the only reason for someone not to have a pic up who is looking to actively date is because they are hiding from a wife/girlfriend/another woman theyre already talking too....i get "wow youre shallow" when i refuse... i ignore that too. :) | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:38:42 AM |
I think a woman with no pic will probably only get replies from desperate dudes and creepy guys.
Personally i think the reverse is true.
I have photos on my profile that my daughter took for me. and some i have taken myself using my phone. (becuase i prefer to keep my photos up to date and "real")
In my personal experience, and my very humble opinion.
I have had messages and IM's from men( some with no photo )with some very "near the mark" and overstepping the line, messages. for what is basically a first contact
message.
When i ask to see a photo i get every lame excuse under the sun. including "give me your mail address and i will email it to you", i'm afraid i am disinclined to give out my mail address to someone i have never spoken to before and have no idea what they look like.
I then politely ask what drew them to my profile.
Always "the photos" is the reply. so i'm at a disadvantage.
I'm then asked where i live, what i do for a living, and i say..... "it's all on my profile" proving that they really haven't bothered.
if i then say i'm not interested i get a string of abuse.
As for the smiling in photos........
What if, you're a naturally smiley person? which i am. i'm afraid i don't have a scowl face. vanity i guess, i would rather have laughter lines at the age of almost 52 than frown lines all over my face.
Would also like to add, that because of some of the messages i get, from men who refuse to show a photo, i have had to edit my profile, which makes me seem like a right stroppy old bag! which i'm not!
There is only some much smut a normal decent human being can take, and hopefully genuine men looking for a partner will se that in the rest of my profile.
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:53:41 AM |
When i ask to see a photo i get every lame excuse under the sun. including "give me your mail address and i will email it to you", i'm afraid i am disinclined to give out my mail address to someone i have never spoken to before and have no idea what they look like. I then politely ask what drew them to my profile.
Always "the photos" is the reply. so i'm at a disadvantage. I'm then asked where i live, what i do for a living, and i say..... "it's all on my profile" proving that they really haven't bothered.
^^^^^^^^^^That happens to me and my friends on here alllllllllll the time and the men wonder why we get stroppy sometimes lol x | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 12:57:05 PM | | I'll talk to anyone -photos or not...though i'd probably talk to someone more if they have a photo(that was long time ago on here)...saying that i'm only here for the forums so i answer to faced and non-faced people---sometimes two faced..:-) | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:07:01 PM | my opening line to a man with no profile is as follows....
hi...married or ugly?
I usually get the truth.....9 times out of ten married or gf | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 9:25:01 PM |
I then politely ask what drew them to my profile.
Always "the photos" is the reply. so i'm at a disadvantage.
Come on...you gotta click on a photo to view the profile, so yeah, unless u click search and read a snippit of a profile, a photo is generally the main seller...imo | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 9:41:02 PM |
a photo is generally the main seller...imo
very true, n in ur case it looks like ur sellin mini chedders wiv ur main pic lol.
Its a very original idea 2. Unfortnatly i jus tried doin the same thing with salt n vineger crisps n my eyes been stinging 4 the last hour  | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 9:58:13 PM |  funny i was trying the same just now with prawn****ail,doesnt half smart a bit. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2008 10:25:18 PM | | The standard female reply with No Photo on their profile is "Im really nice and and stop being so shallow".. And thats just from the polite ones lol | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:43:26 AM | I get people that message me and obviously havnt read my profile,which i sometimes find annoying so dont really bother spending the time to message them back as they havnt been bothered to spend the time to read a profile.I think pics are more important to men but shouldnt it really be an intrest in the person and not the pictures.
Ive come across profiles with no pics but what they have written has intrested me enough to write to them. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:57:43 AM | The photos I have on my profile are not that brilliant, but at least they are there.
It took me a while to put them up because I dont have a digital camera or scanner.
I always think they have something to hide, if there are no photos on the profile. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:59:48 AM | | You look gorgous anyways Maggs x | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 2:06:10 AM | All my pics have been taken with either a webcam.. OR my mobile phone..
I am the first person to say there not great quality as i have a digi camera but for some reason i cant get it to work properly LOL..
Maybe I'm shallow, but i do say that if i recieve a mail WITHOUT a pic, i wont reply. But thats my choice... You see me.. why cant i see you..  | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 2:34:50 AM | | I have my pics on my profile hidden as i dont want the whole world to see,if someone doesn't want to contact me just because they dont see a pic then thats up to them. You never know what you are missing. Well thats my two pence worth. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 2:43:48 AM | I'm never really sure what the problem is about having your photos on a profile.
You don't see people walking down the road with a bag over their head because they are concerned that someone will know what they look like.
As a rule of thumb (for me) I am not happy to chat to someone who doesn't have their photograph on display. I've heard loads of excuses
*my job makes it difficult*
*i don't have a current photo*
*i can't upload one*
Even if someone wants to show me their photo on one of the Messanger services, Im not keen.
Up front is best and then expectations cannot get raised. I am here to be seen in all my glory (or gorey; edit where applicable lol!) and expect the same of any person in contact with me ! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 2:46:46 AM |
You don't see people walking down the road with a bag over their head because they are concerned that someone will know what they look like.
Hmmm maybe they should though... I saw some right scaries in Dartford yesterday!!
I'm with HB, i have the filter on my profile that doesn't allow people with no pics to contact me because like her i have had the same excuses given time after time...
I have let a few people have my MSN previously and they have sent me their pics and i have run and hid (hahaha well ok not literally), but as this is a dating site first and foremost when it comes to the dating side of things a pic on here, for me, is a must! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 2:49:54 AM | I find people look just at the pic and read nothing of the profile.
I don't have any problem displaying pics of me... in fact you can find me all over the internet!
I choose to only display natural photos of me to people I feel some connection with because I have issues with photographs and the only ones I'm in on my own were professionally taken. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 2:51:50 AM | I agree Foxy ...
there have been a few occasions when I've bit the bullet and chatted for a while with a *no photo* bod and they have emailed me one, only to find out I do not find them physically attractive. Then there comes their message "well what do you think?" and it's so blinkin hard not to hurt their feelings.
It's not worth it; get your picture up! No point if you are genuinely interested in dating. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 3:11:27 AM | Honeybee......... you really do look like Alice out of The vicar of Dibley...... and she's lovely, as are you too
I don't chat with anyone without a picture, I like to see whom I'm chatting with, and it's always the same excuses 'I can't get it to upload', 'I don't have a digital camera' blah blah blah...... I just don't believe them, cos if I can do it anyone can  | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 3:23:26 AM | There is an option to hide your profile pics and only show them to those you want to see them.
So, IMHO no pic = something to hide or an excuse to get you on MSN so they can wave John Thomas at you.
No thanks. As it says on my profile, no pics? Don't expect a reply. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 6:59:05 AM | I have a couple of friends on here who have no pics up, for different reasons.
I would never consider dating someone who hadn't posted a pic though. Shallow or not, it is an important part of attraction as we've had thousands of years as a species to get used to that.
Trying to push against nature isn't a step forward, its a step back. The reason the internet is killing lonely hearts ads is that there is the possibility of a visual medium.
As for the earlier excuse quoted about not posted pics because of work. B*ll*x. I work in a very small industry where reputation is everything. The first thing anyone does when you see a name you don't recognise is to "google" them. Therefore while I'm happy to have my picture up, but I'm damn well not going to attach my real name to it! That's solely second date information! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 7:17:59 AM | | I want to see their eyes, the windows to the soul and all I ever get on here is tit shots from above, most annoying. I dunno wanna talk to yer tits love ta. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 7:25:40 AM |
I want to see their eyes, the windows to the soul and all I ever get on here is tit shots from above, most annoying. I dunno wanna talk to yer tits love ta.
It appears to be part of the sign on instructions for the women (it doesn't appear if you state "Male" as your gender).
Please attach a picture to your profile:
Option 1: You must take a picture using your phone, arm out stretched, slightly forward of the body and about 6 inches above you head, focused on the cleavage.
Option 2: Stand in front of a full length mirror, ideally in a public toilet or, if not possible your own toilet, and take a picture of yourself with your phone, but ensure that the flash masks any chance of actually recognising you for the prospective date. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 8:16:14 AM | What's even more laughable than the staged photo's [see above post by Mancdave for EG:] is What I term the Where's Wally pix IE: There will be about 15 people in the photograph and no indication whatsoever as to which of these people it is your supposed to be looking at. W.T.F. or similarly still under the Where's Wally banner comes the dark room shots that look like negatives.Then of course you have the standing 40 feet away shot, where the subject is wearing the same colour dress as the rug they are lying on totally camouflaging themselves !
I agree with the vast majority of posters , there's no reason I can see that would prevent somebody attaching a photograph of themselves to their profile. As has been pointed out you can opt to keep your pic hidden should you so wish and just send it when sending a message. I don't believe any of the flannel excuses people come up with. If you don't show a picture then people will draw their own conclusions , that's what people do and its usually a negative one i would suggest. I assume they have something to hide EG: they are in a relationship/ married or have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp . Even if it turned out they were none of the aforementioned and in fact were very good looking, I still wouldn't entertain her as for me its all about honesty and being open. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 8:39:11 AM |
The results? I have been on here just over a week and i have recieved in total 4 messages.
4 messages isn't so bad. If I didn't have people messaging me for meet info I'd probably get less than that and I have a pic!
C'est las vie | |
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