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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/22/2009 2:56:04 PM | Seriously now What do you do when you get three requests to meet in a short time, I have been out of the game since I was 17 and don't know how to play. Do you say nothing and meet them all or tell them you are meeting others as well. I am trying the latter at present because Aquarians can't sleep if they lie , I guess all you can really do is try to treat others the way you yourself would like to be treated Does anyone have any advice for me, last time I dated was 1976 and there were no rules then ( if there were, no one could remember them  ) or should I just play it by ear. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/22/2009 4:54:44 PM | i will relate an interesting experience, and a prime example, that happend to me recently. it was our first night in hobart after being at sea for 3 weeks and me and a few of the fellas were at a local hotspot partaking in some serious steam releasing, when i was approached by 2 youngish females who appeared very friendly and interested in me. anyways conversation led on for a while, it seemed we had a mutual friend on my ship, when one of the girls turned to me and said i am thirsty. now i make it a rule that i dont buy girls/guys drinks whilst i am out, as i find most are only interested in you as long as you are pouring the drinks, so i politely said 'well you know where the bar is.' as soon as i said it, all warmth left the girls and they turned and walked away. no more than 30 secs later they were all chatty with another guy who had just entered. sure enough the dumbass spent all night buying them drinks and at about four in the morning, when the girls had obviously had enough to drink, they promptly left with out so much as a word. had i known the guy i probably would of given him a heads up, but some people just need to learn lol
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 3:04:12 AM | personal i dont think its a sexist thing.....
Ppl play games no matter who they are!
if you try and convince someone to do something that they dont automatically want to do your using "mind games"
lies well i dont know anyone who hasnt withheld the truth in some circumstance wether it was to save a friend or family member from hurt or embrassment, there fore it isnt the whole truth = lies
as for the 12yr old comment well that really depends if they are hanging out with young ones now doesnt it. can you really babysit women?
compassion for a woman in distress isnt babysitting its being human and nice.
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 9:04:05 AM |
I guess you know about being foolish?
Sure, of course, I do know about being foolish, but I'm an amateur compared to you. Short bursts are the best I can manage. Whereas, obviously, you're able to sustain it for weeks.
But I don't really mind if you carry on, because cheap laughs are just as good as expensive ones, and you're an excellent source. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 9:50:01 AM | Good Lord! We're in for another installment of Tom and Jerry by the looks of it. Wonderful!
In tonight's episode... Will this thread will become a mecca for mental mind games and lascivious lies? Or will it merely be a colossal waste of mankind's time?
Stay tuned... | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 4:59:39 PM | For what is worth: I never played mind games, always been up front, but when I ask questions to the men, for honesty, they seem to be evading the questions. I'm an educated woman, been through all that b.s. when I was a teen and in my 20's, I was a bit nieve, now more intune to my gut, if they do not respond to the right anwer,when I ask a question, or if they evad the question, then I know they are B. s--ter's. Then I take it with a grain of salt. And, to be honest with you all, I wouldn't know how to play a mind game if my life depended on it. I just trust my gut instint and go from there.
So, that is my ditty for the day. Molly. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:25:55 PM | Yes they do...
So do men..
It's up to you to recognise them.. then up to you to be discerning.
May take a while, may be instant that you recognise them but I believe with practice, you'll be pretty good at it after a while :) | |
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| Do men ever play mind games , lie and waste womens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:42:06 PM |
replace the word women with men and I think we got it.
why replace when u just have to move the "wo"........
no need to complicate something that is quite easily done without any sort of effort!!
a couple of clicks of the keyboard and .... voila!!! | |
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| Do men ever play mind games , lie and waste womens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:59:32 PM | ^^^ Yeah, I see what you mean... but where do we put the 'wo'? At the end? Menwo?
I think we should change the word 'men' by putting a 'hu' in front of it, then change the 'e' for an 'a' and then add 's' to the end... Then change the word 'womens' to 'other human's' using various keystrokes and mouse clickings.
Once all that's sorted out, the answer to the question would be... I dunno, I guess some of 'em might do that. This would, of course, be followed by much discussion of the wisdom of my answer, and much praise over my fixing of the question. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/23/2009 9:43:38 PM | | Hi my name is Tina and I have just been shown your forum letter by a friend that uses this site you are a very clever man and you are right about what you had to say women send so many mixed messages that it can't be easy even if you wanted it to be. You are only being honest and that should be a good thing but you are right women do think that it's all a game. The amount of rubbish that my house mate has had to sift through is exactly that rubbish and the amount of times he has heard just be friends is just a way of saying that the women on these sites are very picky and to be on a dating line that shows that there tactics didnt work in the real world. you can make friends anywhere it is hard to find sumone to spend your time with because most women want to be in control of the games and when they aren't thats when the just be friends line is handy dont give up hope there has to be sum one that thinks like you good luck on your date if that is what it is. Regards Tina (38yrs) | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:08:51 AM |
Regards Tina (38yrs) Ummm...Tina, your profile says you are a 53 year old man, and the photo seems to back that up. You might need to log the forum out of your flat-mate's name and log the forum into your name (I guess that's what happened?) Otherwise your posts as Tina will show on his profile and possibly make his dating life just that little bit more challenging. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:58:46 AM | ^^^ I still hate your guts. But then, I'm in a bad mood tonight so I hate everybody's guts... so don't feel too flattered.
I thought I cleared this whole thread up earlier anyway, only to have Tina the she-male come on board and totally mess with my head.
There's nothing further to see here... move along people. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/24/2009 6:00:56 AM |
Game players need not apply , not into mind games , time wasters move on , liars beware etc . .....These terms are usually written by people whom have been hurt in the past. Sure given that some people do play another by lying, most of these terms are used with bitterness because the recipient of this callous behaviour was blinded by love and failed to 'see' what was going on around them.  | |
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Naamah
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/24/2009 5:34:16 PM |
t also means that they are sub-consciously looking to get fvcked over again and again because they are emotionally addicted to abuse and need that confirmation how right they were to complain.
You make a good point. Most games require more than one player, and if someone constantly feels at the mercy of the mind games of others, and views every relationship dynamic as some game to be won or lost, then they too are playing, and perpetuating the perceived game through their own participation in it.
Or maybe it's just that some people are trying to play mind games with substandard equipment.
Is the sky blue?.
At different times I've seen the sky pale and vivid, in pinks, oranges, purples, and tinged with green, and many shades of grey through to almost black. I've seen it sparkle. I've seen it get all showy and flash rainbow bling around. I've seen it eerie, threatening, magnificent, promising, breath-taking, still, and manic. I've seen it be one thing to the right, and entirely different to the left. Yeah I've seen it blue...but I am glad I've seen what else it can do. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/24/2009 6:23:21 PM | Myxomatosis, bit like halitosis for couples, be careful when using mixed semaphores, people might get the wrong message.
Mind game 1. Honey, do these jeans make my arse look big? (say something nice to me because don't forget it's all about me. Even if you have to lie)
Mind game 2. Honey, you look great in that dress tonight & sexy too. (yeah & I want to bend you over with that big arse facing skyward & ........)
How about those women that go from one destructive and abusive relationship to another - everybody can see the pattern, except they themselves. I've seen this so many times. Trying to warn someone who has entered a relationship with a known player usually ends up with total denial & accusations of jealousy.
to me it also means that they are sub-consciously looking to get fvcked over again and again because they are emotionally addicted to abuse I don't think I'd take it that far. But I've known a few folk that like to live life in the drama lane.
In the 30 years or so that my mum left my dad, every guy that's she's gone out with has been a carbon copy of my father, big, loud, larger than life brash, fun, masculine... you know a "real man" the type that "knows how to treat a lady". I think she (my mum) had taken out an AVO on everyone one at some stage.
I remember my mum & I having a big conversation on the topic of bad partner choices. I could spot the players (her suitors) instantly, whereas she had no idea, they just seemed charming. I think what it is, is when the charm is directed at you, your perception of what is genuine or not becomes clouded.
Are men more prone to be players. Yep, I'd say so, simply by default. Men are the one's traditionally & it's still the case mostly today, that have to woo the women, to turn on the charm, to display their plumage, to impress.
Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ? what a stupid question
Remember, it it seems too good to be true then it probably is. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/25/2009 3:58:20 PM | It’s still a man’s world out here? Since feminism reared it’s ugly head in the 70’s the I think a portion of the male gender has become confused about what women are about. Done some reading about suffragettes and their struggles in the dawning years of the twentieth century. They had a point, made it, and changed forever (and for the better) relationships between the sexes and governments in developed societies. To a woman these ladies seem to have recognised and understood that the things that both bind and separate the genders are the natural order of things and made no attempt to alter that status quo. I recall a leading suffragette light of the day (who’s name now escapes me) in her advancing years commuting for the first time over the newly completed Sydney Harbour Bridge. She commented (with words to this effect) ‘that there is no woman or group of women on earth who could ever have conceived or executed this construction‘. She wasn’t deriding women or complimenting men. She was (I think) stating the obvious with complete common sense (that rarest of all human commodities).
Since the beginning of time women have wielded their influence and magic over men. This is as it should be, for a myriad of reasons beyond the scope of this thread. Women talk and discuss and debate seemingly endlessly and effortlessly, and to us males often with little focus. As a gender and in generality are they playing mind games, lying or wasting men’s time? I think not, at least not when the motivations are explored. Be mindful that on dating sites such as this it is just as easy to cast a wide net as drop a line or two into a polluted ocean.
When I reflect on life the most exciting, invigorating and stimulating times I have had have been with ladies who rather relentlessly explored and questioned my thoughts, motivations and purpose. In time they garnered my respect and ultimately there was little that could be (or was wanted to be) hidden from them. I have had more than a reasonably successful life in many and varied ways. This success was not a product of my intellect, drive, courage or whatever other lovely adjectives I may wish to assign myself. It was as much (and in many ways more) a product of the lovely adjectives I do assign to them.
You sometimes silly boys (wherever they reside in here and not necessarily in this thread) seem to me to be often missing the point. If a gal pays you the compliment of wanting to play mind games with you surely you should recognise (in the majority of cases) that at least she’s interested. Do gals lie? Of course they do, and more often than many may think, simply as a defence against perceived hurt, criticism or threat. What! Guys don’t lie? Well we all know the answer to that don‘t we? And that includes the one‘s where the sunshine always shines from. Do gals waste men’s time? Sure.…. and why not? You may well waste an evening and a little money on a gal who never wants see you again and then say with some bravado to your mates the next day ’she was a waste of time’. Numb knutts, got news for you. It was you who was the waste of time. You wanted the cot, she wanted more, and buddy you just didn’t shape up.
Good on you girls. I think most of you do it splendidly. You will forever remain as mysterious to me as the cosmos. This is as it should be and I for one don’t want to change a single solitary thing. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/25/2009 7:29:03 PM | [quote} They had a point, made it, and changed forever (and for the better) relationships between the sexes and governments in developed societies. To a woman these ladies seem to have recognised and understood that the things that both bind and separate the genders are the natural order of things and made no attempt to alter that status
Yes it is very interesting that modern day feminists (I often venture to say faminazis) site the Pankhursts etc without referring to the full body of text. These women were not after changing gender specific roles to the point where women were men. They fought (or should I say they Ghandi'ed) more to allieviate the attrocious inequities that to them were screamingly obvious ie. How do you men expect to better yourselves when society vilifies, subordinates etc 51% of the population, your first love, the primary nurturers during your most important formative years. It's a testatment to women from abusive relationships that they have in general still loved and tried their best by their sons.
Women talk and discuss and debate seemingly endlessly and effortlessly, and to us males often with little focus.
Bollocks. Maybe, no definately we are the masters of Lateral and you Logical (sweeping generalisations here) and there are sound reasons for this. When kid is pre verbal, screaming, something seriously wrong....the time it takes for a logical 'doctor'man could mean death for the kid. We look, we quickly intuite, the kid survives to live another day cos whilst he looked like he had been bitten by a deadly snake or having a heartattack, face going purple so viral meningitus...nope he has in fact just put a clothespeg on the end of his foreskin....and I can cure that one!!!!!! Sheesh you men as little boys are SOOO DUMB.
>Good on you girls. I think most of you do it splendidly. You will forever remain as mysterious to me as the cosmos. This is as it should be and I for one don’t want to change a single solitary thing.
To repeat myself....BOLLOCKS But I am a complete sucker for the old fashioned civalric man and have often thought considering women battle with swinging hormones (that eff with your brain regardless of intelligent insight..and sometimes I wished I could be stupid and just act on the feelings and be a complete psycho ****) that the old fashioned mans view "she's just being a woman, tolerate, ignore and accept innocent blame until she is more rational again" makes for a much easier time during marriage. Much the same as I did when his boss peeved him, there was no recourse, his manhood had been damaged (all because he had to do an extra shift) felt agro and was trying to do the I"m a man and WILL control what I can i.e. family and house. So I sent him fishing...I made him fish a lot. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:08:22 PM | | One of the greatest joys of my life is seeing the way my sons relate to women, still not perfect, but a lot of respect. The rest is up to their wives to straighten out. They were raised in a violent household and I thank god I got out before too much damage was done. On the other hand, my daughters put up with far too much shite and for that I blame myself, oh well can't win em all. | |
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| Do women ever play mind games , lie and waste mens time ?
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:26:00 PM | I hear you Aphrodite and know the problems. Am rapt that my middle son who is very handsome (eldest is different lol) and had girls knocking on the door, giving him numbers on the bus etc....chose a girl whom he has known for years, is best friends with and whilst she is by no means a stunner...I think she is one awesome young lady and he so far has only looked like his da not behaved like him. My eldest son is another matter and it took having to move him out before he woke up to his own behaviour. Tis so hard being a young teen with a 6 foot body (two years later and we have work still but a great kid with insight if not all the skills yet). Takes hard work as a mum of teenboys though...just when they really need their dads. Eldest girl gave me such heartache for a while. Chose a bad bad boy. Now three years later, with mum refusing to shut up about bad bad boy (sod the PC accepting bit) she is back home, dating a lovely young man (his mum is relieved about my daughter too). So don't shut up, don't accept, don't lie, don't let them repeat patterns unless they are consciously aware of what they are doing. Hmm wonder if that is playing games. Are there good and bad games? Is it sometimes acceptable, preferable or imperative to play a game for the good of someone else? | |
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