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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 9:21:28 AM |
A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
Sounds like a moron or a sexist pig. Or both. Let's just call him a dumbazz and be done with this one, m'kay?  | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 9:37:03 AM | | its both true and untrue. i find when iam feeling lonely and wanting companionship then it is like every girl i meet is a potential girlfriend, when in reality they are just girls i know of. but for the most part the only potential girlfriends are girls who i get to know that interest me, wither it be a really stimulating conversation, or common interests. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 9:52:58 PM | I'm agreeing with UB on this one. Now, I have to say, that my last long-term relationship (that lasted 7 years, actually), we were friends FIRST and then became attracted to each other and that was all well and good. But, it ended (ME ending it, by the way) because I became honest with myself and realized I WASN'T attracted to him physically after all and that we should've never escalated our friendship to something it shouldn't have been.
So, the next relationship I hope to be in, I'm definitely going to make sure I'm 100% attracted to him FIRST and hopefully, his personality will match the physical attractiveness - then it'll be a perfect match for me.
I also agree that I wouldn't date someone that I wouldn't want to have sex with, either. All good points, Ub! | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 10:11:10 PM | | yes this is true much like women see guys the same way why because hey if they are at least attractive to us then maybe their personality might make them an actual gf | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/1/2008 10:53:23 PM | Well, you used the term, "non-ugly". Which, to me, seem to be "attractive". And so, yes, there's a bit of truth to it.
I'll put on some pretty hefty qualifiers, though.
I wouldn't see a girl that was extremely attractive as a potential date. It just wouldn't happen, usually about two sentences of a conversation is going to tell me she's all beauty and no brain, and thus not worth my time. Depending on how attractive she is, the conversation qualifications would be higher. Again, it might just be me, but the attractiveness to maintenance ratio is a pretty good indicator.
However, if a hot chick is being flirty, that could change everything. Then, the conversational aspects no longer matter, because she's just getting straight to the point, she wants to flirt. If she's hot and she isn't flirting, then the conversation is all I have to go by, and, lacking any other proof, she's probably not someone I'd see dating.
Other things come into play too, like, is she wearing a ring, does she mention a boyfriend/husband/fiance?
There's probably nothing more of a turnoff to men than hearing about a girl's ex-boyfriend in the first meeting with them. Especially if they never even asked. Any girl that is still referring to her ex-boyfriend is given a clear sign she is going to judge you based on him, and no guy wants that. I can't stress that point enough.
I guess what I'm saying is, your guy friend probably has the gist of it right, but there's a lot he's NOT saying that really does come into play, especially if it's more than just looks (ie, a conversation is involved).
Passing someone in the grocery store and seeing them as a potential date is one thing, but many guys aren't just going to go out on a limb and ask for a girl's number like that. Still, they could be thinking that they would date them. Women really have the power in these chance encounters, moreso than they think they do. If you catch a guy making eye contact with you more than once without talking to you it is a pretty fair bet that he's seeing you in the light of which your friend spoke, so make the best of that as you may.
Good luck. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 2:26:21 AM | That's silly. Many guys are players and don't want a gf, just somethin to bump uglies with.
A guy doesn't have to get to know someone to be attracted to them. Thats why Penthouse etc. sells. Playboy wastes it's time with the whole, "turn on, turn off" thing. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 2:26:47 AM | I'd like to think it's not true, but you'd be surprised at who you end up in bed with.
You'd also be surprised at who's a really great lay.
After all, being the #1 draft pick doesn't mean you're going to the Super Bowl. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 2:46:07 AM | Ugly girls are potential girlfriends too.
Potential.
I don't go trying to kiss every female I come across. Everyone needs friends of both genders.
I find the best lovers are the best of friends - so I say its always best to befriend a girl and let whatever happens, happen.
Friends first, lovers later (or not). The girls I've jumped into relationships with that didn't work out were down to not becoming 'friends' before or during. They're the people you usually don't talk to after it falls apart. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 2:47:55 AM | i think it depends on what the person wants. you can't just go around asking blanket questions that "guys" would, or would not do, because you're going to get a whole slew of answers, ranging from typical yes' and no's, to answers meant only for their profile viewers to convince women that they are nice, kind-hearted, and trustworthy.
in reality, it really depends on the person, and the time. i quit dating for like a year. i met people within that year, but i didn't want to date anybody, so i definitely didn't look at them that way. it doesn't mean i didn't find them attractive, it just meant that i had just went back to school and the last thing i needed was another girlfriend. if i was single AND LOOKING for a girlfriend, then yeah... if i met a chick and she happened to be interested in me, and i felt the same, of course i'd pursue it, why not? last time i checked, thats how those things worked. but if you're going around, being overly "friendly" towards random guys while looking for *only* friendships, and you're scratching your head as to why they're hitting on you... most guys don't encounter women who are only looking for friends, pursuing some kind of awkward friendship with them. so its all relative. if you hit on guys, will they think potential girlfriend? if you're attractive and aren't annoying about it, yeah... thats how things work. i just don't understand the point of this question.. no answer on here is going to clarify anything, because every person is different based on so many factors. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:25:40 AM | | Potentially maybe, anything is possible but not always probable. As far as attraction for me it comes first. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:59:17 AM | 'A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
I always thought you get to know someone first, and then maybe become attracted to them...'
yes it is true, but I think it is more vulgar than that, that every girl a guy approaches is for the purposes of getting laid
physical attraction comes first, I can't see it any other way, male or female | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 11:07:46 AM | "one mans trash is another mans treasure"
Is a saying my dad would tell me all the time. I solely believe in this from material things to relationship. What I might think is a 2 or 3 another man may think as a perfect 10. | |
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| every girl is a potential gf?
Posted: 4/2/2008 11:32:01 AM |
A guy told me today that single guys see every non-ugly girl they meet as a potential date/gf, is that true?
If by non-ugly he means hot, then yes. | |
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