| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/26/2009 7:47:59 PM | WHAT? " ... perform better in bed ..." ??? No way.
Studies reveal most younger guys and girls are very sexually active and perform better on bed than an older person , and what most women want is SEX that its their main priority . .
On the contrary it is my experience that many women don't even know how to do sex until they hit forty or so. Younger women are often passive and wait for their sex life to be handed to them. The "lie back and think of England" syndrome. All they have learned how to do is "spread 'em." Women with a few years on the clock are more likely to have discovered how to use their bodies to please both themselves and others. Arts such as the prehensile Kegel muscle are NOT acquired at birth; women have to learn how to use the equipment they have and it can take years of practice to get it right.
Some of the most exciting females are those old enough to have gotten past the biological urge to get preggers, so now they figure out that their bodies are fun, not just babymaking machines. Very often too they have learned how satisfying it is to take care of themselves financially instead of looking for a meal ticket every time they meet a man.
They don't have to get fat or ugly. A woman who keeps trim and looks good is a decoration that makes the world a more attractive place long after her twenties are history. There are women who run and maintain hard bodies and they look terrific and they are terrific. Athletes often look fantastic - how old are Serena Williams and Anna Kournikova, anyway? They will look great for many years and are probably incredible in bed.
Unfortunately by the time males get to be 40 their libido has waned a lot and so America is full of women who do not get the sex life they would like to have and which they could do well if they could have it. And the males taught that they must "perform" and be "providers" become type A personalities and get heart attacks and even die while the women are fit and healthy and in shape. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/27/2009 1:32:24 AM | | Im 48 but still have had lots of interest on here. Its true that men do look for younger women or maybe we just think they do. Dont know about you but Ive had occasions where Ive been paranoid that I wont be what they expected. Kept getting hits from much younger men but wouldnt dream of going out with a man under 40 as would feel self conscious. Age really is in the mind most of the time, its more your own insecurity about how you think others perceive/see you then what they may feel. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/27/2009 5:11:16 AM | | Some men older than 40 have grown up and realized that a woman's appearance is not what makes her sexy. She can make the world a better place no matter what she looks like. These posts never cease to amaze me. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:21:07 PM | I have enjoyed some, er, umm, amazing experiences with older women. Yet the fact is that younger women are noticeably less inhibited about the sheer playfulness involved in behavior with others.
I have heard "Oh, I couldn't do that" more from older people than from younger people. You have to wonder, did Hillary do for Bill what Monica did? I think America's "Great Divide" turning point in bedroom behavior was the invention of the pill.
The outcome was that you could do lots of cool things without connecting them with pregnancy. This must have been an eye-opener for people - especially female type people - who lived through that change.
There are many women who formed their values in the years since the pill; others - the older ones - have not forgotten the things their mothers taught them, in the pre-pill era.
BTW I agree with the poster above who recognizes how passé the word "date" is. Really, folks, high school is waaaaaaay over. C'mon! Who "dates" today? Are they the people who go to Branson, Missouri to hear music LOL? | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:07:45 PM | | wow.. you sound like a very bitter, jaded and unhappy person who is not capable of making a good partner.. especially with that attitude. Men could stereotype like you do and say that they look for younger women because women over 30 lose their looks RAPIDLY, and often get FAT.. and perhaps most men would rather wake up to a real dog than that anyway.. at least a real dog loves unconditionally.. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/29/2009 9:31:05 AM | | Don't think it any harder to find a date its more a question of who you would date now , When you get to over 40 most of us have been there , seen the movie , got the t.shirt , etc, so we see the signs alot better than we did before, One good thing about places like this is you can figure out most with out leaving home . | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/29/2009 1:48:30 PM | well, a 40 yr old guy only interested ina 20 yr old gal does not appreciate a seasoned mature woman. If you are one of those, consider yourself lucky that immature men have weeded themselves out for ya | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 9/30/2009 9:05:33 AM | I think what really matters to men about a woman eventually is NOT the way she LOOKS but the way she ACTS. Men mature enough to be worth knowing notice what women DO, not just the way they look.
The old cliché sounds like a joke, but really, I think it is a truth that is underestimated. The way to a man's heart, the old saying goes, is through his stomach. There is probably no man in America that will not respond favorably if a woman places an aromatic plate of fresh-baked cinnamon cookies in front of him. And when was the last time you said to a guy who proposes going out to eat - Why don't you come over to my place instead and let me fix a dinner for you?
Is it sexist to look at these options? I don't think so. Whether you are a female or a male, there's nothing wrong with using your talents well whether or not they are traditionally gender-linked. You'll enjoy using them and you just may make progress towards a goal you have set, so why not?
The woman (or man) who knows how to bake good cookies has the right to apply that skill to pursue the goal she wants. She should not block off that possibility just because somebody may think it is the dreaded gender-stereotypical behavior.
And baking cinnamon cookies is just one of the many things a smart woman can do to attract males if that is what she wants to do. Does she smile at people without waiting for them to smile at her first? Does she give guys her phone number, or just expect them to ask for it? Does she ask them for theirs? What law says women are supposed to be passive and men aggressive? Really, the days of the shrinking violet are sooooooooo over. In this century, women can have desires and openly say what they want and accept that they may or may not get it. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/1/2009 8:11:25 PM | | yep a woman at 40 should go after a man in his fifties unless he's a young kid looking to cougar hunt. other than that, yeah, men would rather date younger. not all but most. sorry and good luck. it is somewhat true men age better than women | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/2/2009 11:02:45 AM | | ^^^^ are you for real??????????? we should go after guys in his 50's what planet are you on????? how on earth do you work that one out ??????????? | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/2/2009 9:30:22 PM | I am 48 years old and young at heart and am an outdoorsy person. My big problem is the guys, ( 45-50) they want younger women. I am not looking to stay home with my slippers and be with 55 + guys that would dare go biking and skiing with me... Maybe I am too young heart for my own good... I am not dead yet and refuse to be a coach potatoe like most person my age. You go compare photos between 48 years old women and 48 years old men. Men looks like they are pregnant and got hit by a truck; they have gave up on their look completely. Meanwhile middle men dish their middle age wife and went for the young one. I am so hurt and bitter but I still believe in love very much. I took care of myself physically and financially and yet I got trade for a newer model.
I AM NO COUGAR | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/3/2009 8:29:49 AM |
The old cliché sounds like a joke, but really, I think it is a truth that is underestimated. The way to a man's heart, the old saying goes, is through his stomach
If it was THAT easy, I would always have fresh smelling, home baked cinnamon buns in my purse :) | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:14:12 PM | | I'm afraid it's over Jennie....sorry I had to be the one to break the bad news to you. You COULD always take up knitting. Or perhaps paper mache, that's always fun. But yeah, post 40 dating...you're sol. What you COULD do is perhaps knock a few years off of your posted age. That might do a world of good. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:23:57 PM | il mostro dei biscotti is right.
I started knitting a few weeks ago, and it is certainly more satisfying than being rejected over and over again :) | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/4/2009 11:58:36 PM | Men are plain and simple so stupid unless they have been civilized and knocked into shape by some woman they half assedly respect. Forget the silly men on these sites and give over your search to the universe. Most of these silly men just want to get their silly rocks off and who the heck would accomodate their wanton urges. But to be fair there are some men in this world who understand that companionship is worthy as a goal and if sex is involved that is indeed a bonus. Do not beat yourself up over these silly creatures who dare to call themselves men. Silly and not worthy of being called men. Now I got my "rocks" off and I wish all of you women some respite from these dunderheads. Bide your time and wait. And if nobody comes your way, you are free of these parasites. Amen. P.S. ...this is not a message for wanting women who will put up with these idiots. This is a message for women who understand that there is indeed a bigger picture happening and if you don't connect now, you will at some point.
Ach, most of these men on this site are so .......excuse me, dumb and yeah...the women too. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:11:27 PM | I don't have prob lems making friends off here. Just hard to find quality people to want to date. So much games or bagage on them so this a good way to filtered them out. Wh a lot our single on here.
I am widower with grown kids.
I feel I am a great catch
I don't play games and very honest upfront and very nice.
Just don't have time for people issues or baggage. I am told for that.
Wish everyone good luck on here and happiness
Michael | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/6/2009 11:42:46 PM | | My sentiments exactly its quality of a date not quantity of date 's which is why there are quiet a few people over 40 still single , why settle for what you know your not going to be happy with , just for the sake of being in a relationship? | |
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| how do you get over your ex after 13 years
Posted: 10/11/2009 5:15:57 PM | | i have no idea why people don't just judge reality for what it is. a woman over 40 for the most part has popped out some other man's children. meaning her body is used to create those children all a man does is stick it in. sorry but that's the reason men age better. so you better stick with the man you have his baby with otherwise as men over 40 we just give you money and can continue to work out and be in good shape. yes i know you women that have children will say...look i've had no problem getting a date. okay reality check if you are a woman and willing to sprend your legs you will not have a problem getting a date. getting a good man...yeah you'll have a problem with. look quit being morons about the subject. it is what it is. why are people arguing about this? it's stupid and everyone knows this but doesn't want to admit it. why? because if guys say the truth and stand up for what they believe in then they wouldn't get contacts from women on this site. seems stupid. | |
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| how do you get over your ex after 13 years
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:18:44 PM | InNCsearching,
are you basically saying, a woman over 40 should give up on finding a good man, but she's good enough to spread her legs for every moron out there?
I hate to admit it, but that's exactly the vibe I've been getting on here. And I never even had children!
The truth hurts, but it's great that there are people out there like you, that say it like it is, so old spinsters like us don't waste our time dreaming of a fairy tale ending.
Thank you :) | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:00:28 AM | | I am 48, Ive had a lot of interest on here (no doubt because I put a glammie pic on) ive only met 3 people so far and two of them werent interested!. Its no big deal though, treat it for what it is, something to wile away the time and the chance for a bit of flirting/chatting. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/14/2009 12:23:39 PM | Great. I'm going to be 39 next summer, and I ain't having any luck now!
But I'm gonna be one of those people that you wont believe they're 40+ .
I'm hoping that it wont be this hard, since more people in their 30's are married. I'm hoping that the pool will grow a bit when I get there. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:47:08 PM | | im 50. i dont have a problem finding a date. i dont often date men my age. no wait...ive never dated anyone my own age. i dont really know for sure because i just started checking ids recently. lying is so common, i dont even know what a guy my age looks like. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/14/2009 1:52:56 PM | | im 50. i dont have a problem finding a date. i dont often date men my age. no wait...ive never dated anyone my own age. i dont really know for sure because i just started checking ids recently. lying is so common, i dont even know what a guy my age looks like. | |
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