| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/14/2009 2:59:17 PM | | You're preaching to the choir, Jennielady. After age 30, we basically enter couples' society. If we ourselves are not coupled by then (or become uncoupled), we find we have few prospects. Everyone we run into is married or otherwise attached. That so many men in their 40s expect to date younger women astonishes me, but it's true. Actually, what astonishes me is not that many want to. What astonishes me is how many think they have a RIGHT to have a 20-something girlfriend at 45, and how irate they get when they find women that age aren't into them. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/16/2009 7:45:37 PM | chitownguy40 ,
love your post! Especially, and I quote:
What astonishes me is how many think they have a RIGHT to have a 20-something girlfriend at 45, and how irate they get when they find women that age aren't into them.
Even worse, the equation continues as men get older. I finally had to block older men from writing me, because I was never sure, if the old dude wanted to go out with me, or was hoping for a free sponge bath  .
Maybe if these men would get a reality check, they wouldn't have to complain about being single! | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/21/2009 8:10:27 PM | Take it from me, it is difficult in the 40's, in fact, I have not dated seriously since I reached 40. Besides the fact that I have tanned skin (for which I get a lot of "you are not my type" arguments) and being a single dad does not help either. It is hard to understand though, because at this age one is ready for a commitment. What I've found is that women are more aware of their future and are looking for a "well off" type of guy. That sometimes is a problem, so I do not discuss my finances with anybody unless is already a serious relationship. My say is 'if they don't like me for what I am, I am better off alone' Just a piece of advice for some women out there: do not judge for the appearances.... Sometimes it's very misleading !!
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/22/2009 5:18:00 AM | | sorry but i disagree. i am over 40 and get plenty of dates. the best place to meet other people i think is at clubs or pubs. i would not bother trying newspaper ads - you will probably get nutters responding! and i dont believe men want women in their 20's cause a lot of men like OLDER woman now. believe me they do. all the men i have gone out with have been younger than me. Lots of my friends are married or are in a relationship with younger men. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:10:13 AM |
Quantity is not a problem, it's the quality that's lacking :(
So true. Sadly.  I could be meeting/dating often if quantity were all that I was looking for, since it isn't? I'm not dating at all. Personal preference? Yep. I'd rather go to movies/dinner/etc., alone that sit through one more wretched first/last date combo.  | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/23/2009 10:25:06 AM | It is true that it becomes harder, but what I've found is that are women who do not want to commit. They don't want children at this age and don't want a man with children either. I haven'd dated in years now...... I figured a long time ago that my son really needs me now, and if I have to choose between dating and my son, he'll always win. If somebody wants to be with me, will have to accept the fact that I have a child, living with me 100% of the time and there's no way around that. I'm still hopefull that I will find a good woman to share my life with and have a couple more kids, but if it does not happen, that's the way it was supposed to be I guess.... anyway, good  to you all. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/25/2009 3:04:47 PM | | wow i guess youre really really to fussy i guess youre perfect, and royalty, no wonder youre single, might as well buy yourself a rope and hang yourself....eeeshhhh hope i never meet someone like you.....princessss! | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:02:28 PM | | for men it's easier. we get the first or second round of divorcees that have been through the bad boys and now realize...oh crap...got to find a good man and us good men that have been good now have our pick but we don't like now that they are looking for us. we know the score so it's pretty dam easy. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/1/2009 3:24:01 PM | This thread is to funny, its just more proof that women have it easier when it comes to dating. From what I have read it seems like most women seem to have no issue getting dates where as the man think its harder to get dates.
The Dating game rules are so damn unfair, no wounder i gave up long ago, no point to keep throwing yourself under the bus hoping for a different outcome :( | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:03:25 PM | You might have a point but I believe that if all things are equal the woman will have a easier time getting a date, there is always a more down on his luck guy willing to date anyone.
But I must say it its this hard for me at 37, I guess in three years I should just not even try, seems like no point in it. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 8:41:37 AM | | I agree that it's not hard to find dates, just the kind I want. I either meet guys that are just looking for illicit sex or guys that want to move in - can't seem to find the middle ground. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:39:35 AM | | I have no problems getting a date...I don't have to be on any dating site...I just get ask out no matter where I'm at...by all ages...mostly from 30 year olds...but I don't date a lot...Don't have the time too! | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:48:13 PM | Id be fine in the dating department if I were willing to date 50 -75 year old men.
Being bombarded with kids looking for cougars isn't fun either. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:38:13 PM | Bad boy turned nice guy here & I tell ya it's harder,nice guys do finish last. Need to rethink strategy quickly.....
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:03:29 PM | | It is tough--very aggravating. I AM selective, so the quality issue is definitely at play, but I think demographics are definitely against me as well. Like I said: very aggravating. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:01:33 PM | | me I'm a very positive, outgoing, active, giving person - I even dropped to a size 6 and went to get a masters degree - and yet I still can't even seem to get a second word out of most people. With all the best will and intentions, I'm still trying to figure out why. | |
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| after 40 it is really hard to find a date
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:43:34 PM |
me I'm a very positive, outgoing, active, giving person - I even dropped to a size 6 and went to get a masters degree - and yet I still can't even seem to get a second word out of most people. With all the best will and intentions, I'm still trying to figure out why. Maybe try a new hairdo/wardrobe......also as I believe in astrological matches you should think about looking for scorpio's. | |
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