| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:22:42 AM | | You obviously had chemistry for her, but she didn't for you. All the things you describe as chemistry for yourself, maybe she had just some of those that would add up to being a friend. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:43:28 AM |
Here's the most basic truism...a woman knows in the first 30 seconds if she's NOT going to sleep with a man.
Horsefeathers! | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:16:42 AM | Chemistry, to me..............means when I see that man for the first time, my heart beats a little faster, when he kisses me and I kiss him, open mouthed, my body tingles and I melt inside and want more, it means I dont want to leave you and love talking to you and means Im thinking about you all the time. Chemistry is when I laugh with you and along with you and touch you all the time in a joking and loving way, or the look in my eye. You will certainly know chemistry by the reactions you get back, especially in a kiss, like hands on your back or running through your hair, anything other is pretty much usually a friendly peck, see ya later, hope you stay well, talk soon kind of kiss, cant speak for others, but can speak for me. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:31:27 AM | Libido is governed by testosterone, which women don't have very much of. Half of what they do produce is made in the adrenal gland, which is not exactly stimulated very much on the average cruise ship (I mean, unless it was sinking or something). IOW why do you think they invented scary movies and amusement parks with thrill rides for guys to take gals on dates to? If that and then a few drinks doesn't work then you're likely sunk unless you're willing to hang in there and be persistent for a possibly very long time. Any man knows that to be told by a woman that she thinks of you as a friend she respects is to be told to keep your hands to yourself.
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 3:30:20 PM | Chemistry is not just one person. It is what is felt between both of you. A mutual attraction that draws you more to each other. You can feel it in that first kiss. Sexual desire may lead to a encounter but chemistry will keep you there.
I know when I see a guy that I feel I could possibly have a relationship with. It is a instant "attraction" perhaps a look or a smile. Maybe a twinkle in his eyes. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:43:48 PM | | sooo it seems that unless you look like Brad Pitt, you will never spark the chemistry with a women.....how shallow!!! Even though you get along great, have lots in common, you may be a great catch, lots to offer, if you are deformed in some way then you are SOL??!! I dont know. I wont kiss my friends onm the lips for an extended period of time. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:46:18 PM | | Chemistry is the undeniable 4th of July fireworks that go off during that first kiss. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:55:36 PM | | soI should have slipped her the tongue.... she had picked up her cat so she wouldnt run out the door. I had one hand on the door,was about to leave but I said screw it and went in for the kill lol. I guess I should have put more into it ...... I just wanted it to be a nice soft, respectable kiss to begin with. It was late,we both had to be up early. I respect her, I didnt want to rush things and for a first kiss where we were crossing the boundary of a friend/dating I thought it was more appropiate...guess I was wrong | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 4:57:03 PM | It can't be fully explained and shouldn't if you totally understood it...well it'd lose it's most important element.
IMO chemistry isn't the same as just lust. Difference being lust is totally physical, with chemistry it's just one aspect. (A necessary one, but not the whole enchilada).
I don't think chemistry should ever be fully explained or understood. If it could, it'd lose it's appeal.
Chemistry is to be experienced, enjoyed and is well worth the effort to be kept alive and thriving. (If I could figure that out, I'd definitely quit my day job!!)  | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:03:58 PM |
sooo it seems that unless you look like Brad Pitt, you will never spark the chemistry with a women.....how shallow!!! Even though you get along great, have lots in common, you may be a great catch, lots to offer, if you are deformed in some way then you are SOL??!!
that's twice YOU mentioned looks being a factor on whether a woman would feel chemistry towards you.
wtf?
and, IMO, your tongueless kiss wasn't in the least bit wrong, if the moment didn't warrant a hot passionate full-throttle tonguing.
you can't "will" someone into feeling chemistry for and WITH you. IMO, it CAN be one-sided, too, no matter what a great catch you may be, she obviously must have her reasons for wanting to stay only "activity" friends.
so............either, you need to suck it up and remain "just friends" and stop feeling sorry for yourself (sorry, but it's true) or search elsewhere for the one that will return that chemistry and stop badmouthing those that don't.
believe me, there are plenty of fish in the POF pond......  | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 6:39:04 PM | What's with the Brad Pitt fixation with some men?
There's some movies he's been in I like, some I don't. I don't rent or buy a movie just because he's in it to drool or ahh...or go gaga looking.
Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Mel Gibson...if it's a movie I like, I watch it. Or if I think I may like I watch it, if the movie's not good....I'll switch over and watch TV.
Between just those 3 actors, they've made a ton of movies, some blockbusters, some I still like to watch...also some forgettable groaners.
IMO...in my life, that has zip to do with chemistry.  | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:06:43 PM | ^^^ you mean when Brad looks into the camera with that come-hither look, that he's really NOT looking at only ME???????????????????????????
damn........I thought THAT was chemistry.......................... | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 7:31:37 PM |
soI should have slipped her the tongue.... she had picked up her cat so she wouldnt run out the door. I had one hand on the door,was about to leave but I said screw it and went in for the kill lol.
Oh man ... I'm gonna leave that one alone so I don't get in trouble.
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 8:32:30 PM |
plus I have a scar and a cyst above my right eye which doesnt help my situation.
Bah, humbug!! That's a cop out! Wear a patch and say you're a pirate!
I just met a great guy, we've decided to just date each other, and I'm the one at a disadvantage. Most men won't look at me twice because I walk with a cane, and I have severe arthritis, which sometimes makes walking difficult. But he accepted me for who I am. I could not be happier either. He makes me feel like I'm ok, regardless of my disability.
Chemistry? Oh, yeah, it's there. No butterflies or fireworks, but rather a feeling of being able to just relax, unwind, and feeling comfortable. I felt it the first time we hugged, and again the first time we kissed - which was a closed mouth kiss - and going back for that second one - heh - what can I say - It was really good.
If there was any chemistry between this girl and you, you'd have known it. She's a friend. Chemistry is not something that can be forced. Cast your net back in. Someone is waiting on you.
No longer 
Babs | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 10:56:15 PM | Chemistry is attraction personified.........
Attraction is the foreplay to chemistry, and chemistry is the salute to a serious relationship.
If I have to explain it....you just will not understand.......this goes for women......Harley's.......and some awesome activities that just make your heart beat faster, your mind race, and your soul say........ahhhhhhh!!!!
Just my opinion........   | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 3/31/2008 11:54:11 PM | You're not listening, massageguy72 .
You're making excuses.
One person may feel the chemistry,
but it takes two to Tango. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/6/2008 7:43:15 PM | | when you find someone really attractive to you physically, mentally, etc. and there's a certain flirty banter, those endorphins just kick in and there's no mistaking them. sometimes, it happens on a first meet, sometimes, the third. if it hasn't happened by 4 or 5 dates, it probably won't. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/9/2008 6:43:33 PM | | well ya I get it, what I guess I dont get is if there was no chemistry and she thinks of me as a friend, then why would she kiss me at the end of the night if she thinks of me as a friend?? Oh well...NEXT!!!!! | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:09:31 PM |
I respect her, I didnt want to rush things and for a first kiss where we were crossing the boundary of a friend/dating I thought it was more appropiate...guess I was wrong
Dead Wrong....first of all...you should pay more attention to body language....if you're laughing, joking and have lots in common....look into her eyes to look for that attraction....
...second...it's VERY possible that she was feeling something for you...but got disappointed after your "respectable" kiss....if you feel that attraction....the most repectable thing to do is grab her...pin her up against the wall and give her the deepest most passionate kiss possible.....
.....take this into your next date....if you respect a woman...you'll realize that they are sexual creatures that need to be "taken" by their man....PERIOD....if the attraction is there...she wants it more than you do....so you gotta step up and give her the most respect possible....you'll be glad you did.... | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/12/2008 7:55:39 AM | It's my belief that all the fuss some women make about wanting chemistry and sparks is hedonistic. It's the kind of thing that happens when something by itself has just gotten too common and you want more. Meeting men is common. Meeting men you are attracted to is also fairly common. Do you see where I'm going? It then becomes like a bored consumer who wants more of the bells and whistles...which can translate into wanting more chemistry and sparks...aka...raw emotions and incredible feelings. And if you don't provide them...
Men have made themselves far too available (ie. too common) and women demanding chemistry is one consequence of that. Some of them are like spoiled children wanting the latest shiny toy.
This is one good reason to chill out and be yourself. And let HER connect with that. Why set a precedent. You aren't a home box office/entertainment/chemistry on demand. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:43:55 AM | I never get why people kiss if there's no chemistry. Are they trying to see if there's chemistry? Don't people know before they kiss? I thought chemistry is what made people want to kiss. Answers please.
OP: try again and next time, not with a closed mouth. If she doesn't respond, then she's probably not feeling it. I think most people can't stand to kiss if they're not attracted and the chemistry isn't there. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/13/2008 12:25:59 PM | | Sometimes you do need to kiss a person to see if there is a spark... you can have a great time with someone but still wonder if it goes beyond friendship... I have kissed a man before that laid a gentle kiss that didn't involve tongue and let me tell you I melted... I couldn't wait for him to kiss me again... so don't beat yourself up for the lack of tongue, personally I prefer on a first date that they don't... | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:39:02 PM | Roughly defined... Chemistry is physical attraction... It's more about sexual attraction than meaningful relationship attraction... Typically the person you find you have chemistry is for the short run... You have wonderful sex but no substance to carry on a relationship...
Has anyone ever had chemistry with someone that they were able to build a long lasting relationship with? | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/15/2008 9:05:51 AM | | Dark Tranquility...I couldnt agree more. That is what it seems like nowadays. What more do these women want. I mean not to brag, but I am a good catch,I think. I Dont drink(much) dont do drugs, never cheated, not abusive, I have a good paying job, own a condo,good with kids, good sense of haha, like to give massages, play the guitar, romantic, I can cook and im a decent looking guy. Still they want more. Oh well I am happy being single and I will till I find a girl that deserves all that. Nowadays its tough and when you find someone with many important qualities you hang on to them. | |
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| Chemistry...explain please
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:09:05 PM | Why is it that so many more women understand 'chemistry' than men? Maybe that is why so many men feel let down and don't understand why when women don't want a second date.
It has nothing to do with lusting after someone's looks or hot body.
It is not an accounting process of working out that someone is a 'good catch' - it either happens or it doesn't.
It's that feeling that you are absolutely comfortable with someone but at the same time just thinking about them gives you butterflies and you're excited about seeing them. You can talk to them and want to touch them. Well I can't explain it either!
The last time it happened to me I was 45 and just the fact that he was going to pick me up reduced me to feeling like a 16 year old all over again.
Massageguy72 - you sound like a nice man with a lot going for you - when the chemistry hits you, you'll know it and so will she. And you won't even have to wonder whether to kiss or not. In the mean time, have fun  | |
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