A different type of "ex" entirely. I am not sure if you meant 'never stopped' as in talked about her constantly, or 'never stopped' as in whenever he did talk about her it was always with fondness. If he constantly talked about her, like every second sentence in every conversation, then I can understand how that would grate. But if you meant you didn't want him to talk about her at all, or if the fondness always being there was the annoying part, well I think when a partner dies that's pretty much inevitable. The relationship didn't break down and when that is the case you don't so much get over it, as overlay it with newer experiences. I can't and don't want to edit my husband from my life, and whenever I talk about my husband it is always with, and always will be with, fondness.
Naamah, I understand that people dear to you especially a loving spouse would never be erased in your mind and spirit. But this guy, not only talked about her like every minute but also made comparison of how she was better than me, and that she was the best looking, the better singer, the better cook, the better everything. For six (agonising) months I put up with that. In retrospect, I am so glad I don't have him in my life now or I would have ended up with an identity crisis.
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