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Some people do need a lot of time alone. It is something to ponder before starting any serious relationship. I, for one, think I made a mistake marrying, and my wife has suffered for it. I am certainly not the best of men, and make no claims as such. But part of the picture is that I grew up in the country alone, had no siblings, and my parents ended up arguing and finally my father divorced my mother when she was 51. It was virtually imposssible for a woman her age, with no H.S. diploma, or attempt to get a GED, to get much of a job, plus she was a little woman with lots of problems. So I inherited her misery, and took care of her for years, though she was often critical of me. She became quite paranoid about my father, and in those years, in this atmosphere, nobody dared go to a Psychiatrist, because that automatically mean your were "crazy". Well, there were no psychiatrists here early on, and only one later. She couldn't afford one, and wouldn't go to one at all. So I listened for hours on end to her ranting about my sorry father, and how he destroyed her. Actually, I think my father was at the end of his rope, and had to get out. So it was not a marriage made in Heaven. But everybody I guess have bad stories about their young years, in a dysfunctional home. I had nobody to talk to, and learned to be stoic, and made no comments for years about my mother. She lived to be just over 85, and recently died a bitter woman with a massive stroke. Even then, for the short weeks that she lived, she expressed bitterness toward the whole community where we lived for many years. It was a bad experience, and leaves me reluctant to get close to people to this day. So, Yes, with my somewhat abnormal life and no sense of family, I was not a good candidate for marriage.