| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/3/2008 9:03:40 AM | ""And God made the man to sleep and from his rib made him a helper so her would not be alone.So NO,I don't think man was meant to be alone. ""
yep,,this one was bound to rear its ugly head!
so what do you say to those ppl who dont believe spritually as you do? | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/3/2008 9:52:08 AM | | yes i do i believed for years that i was meant to be alone as anyone who wants to be with me has to be patient as i have been alone for a long time. i also feel confident in relationships and tend to end up with people who are not confident and that causes problems most relationships dont get off the ground. when i realise i know i'm comfortable the other person has doubts which causes me to have doubts a little. but yes i do believe some people are meant to be alone. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/3/2008 4:09:05 PM | I am trying to learn to be comfortable alone. I broke up with a boyfriend a week ago, and have decided NOT TO DATE anymore, and to learn to be happy alone. Yes, you have to learn to LIKE YOURSELF. It's not as if I am meditating all by myself. I have the TV and movies from Netflix, and my work, my dog, POF, and then the next day of the same safe, comfortable routine. My problem is that I have never allowed myself to be alone. I have always been married or had a boyfriend (when single). LAWAYS, ALWAYS.... since the age of thirteen... and the oldest in a family of five. So, now , at the age of fifty-four, I am COMMITTTING myself to learning to be alone. I am looking at a bottle of FISH EYE WINE, as I write this. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/3/2008 8:06:39 PM | I think all of this depends on if you believe in "what's meant to be".
We make sense of the world we live in be searching for and CREATING meaning.
Some people come up against something they can't overcome, so they say "it was never meant to be". They're just making sense of their world.
This is all about limiting beliefs, confidence, tenacity, will power, awareness, knowledge, syngergy, help, communication etc... in short, it's about the human condition.
At any point, a person can simply decide to shake off any given limiting belief such as the idea that they need to make sense of their current frustrations by saying "it was [never] meant to be".
Limiting beliefs are often treasured because their alternatives are scary. So fear is the limiting factor. Here is the solution...
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."
For many lonely people, mutual fulfillment and happiness is only a mere paradigm shift away. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:33:11 AM | Its only when you become comfortable at being alone do you attract.
People use that "it wasnt meant to be" nonsense because they dont understand the dynamics that go into inter gender communication.
Then, when they screw it up, they claim it wasnt meant to be.
What nonsense.
Then there are some that never try.
Thats why those kind of people seemed destined to be alone. There are people out there for everyone but they dont put themselves in the best position to meet them.
Life is simple but we make it complicated. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:01:35 AM | The most sacred relationship we could ever have is with ourselves
After all we born and die alone
There is unspoken beauty in the company of our own spirits
The sense of being part of someone or something is beyond status
More a state of being a sense of belonging a knowing
If we indulge ourselves in the fear of being alone
We are prone to be needy insecure and Be alone...
Lord... the mind tricks we play on ourselves when we self pity
When we were blind by unrequited love
Captured by the our own prisons of our own spirits
There are so many more who walk beside us
How can we ever feel alone...
When we face the reflection of our own delicacy in another's soul? | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:57:14 AM | | My aunt is in her 60's and she's never been married nor has kids. She wished she could of met someone who was like her, but doesn't care. She's happy. She plays Blue Grass and loves her time by herself. Don't got to answer to noone and can spend her money on herself. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:18:31 PM | I sometimes think that about me. Even where I'm in a situation where I've dated 5 or 6 people at a time....I felt like I would be better off alone.
Usually the women I'm very attracted to become unreachable for some reason. I was seeing a woman a couple of weeks ago, and I took off for a weekend to visit a lifelong friend and when I came back, she wouldn't give me the time of day.
We got along great, talked for hours, were very comfortable in each other's company and suddenly she doesn't want to give me the time of day. That's a very providencial sign to me that maybe relationships aren't for me. I certainly don't believe the online gig is working for me. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:42:21 PM | Thunder, that'seemingly common, one move doe's it all.
She froze up, cold as ice, when I took time out to devote to my elderly
parent's. [I was fine when she spent day's with her MOM]
I tried to reason with her, found a side of her that would even frighten DRACULA!
COOLLDDD! BLOODED!! [sorry...Drac]
She took up with...oh....6..7..guy's......member of clergy.
Last I heard, she has been alone about the last 10 year's, probably for all the
best for her, she obviously has severe issue's, her Mother.[MOMMA SAID]
[if you can't please her....join her!] Momma, that is. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:35:06 PM | | I never wanted to end up alone but it seems like thats how its going to be.. I watched my Grandmother spend the last 20 years of her life alone and always thought how sad it was and now its happening to me too.... | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:18:24 PM | I do not think anyone was meant to be alone......God saw man.and he said it is not good for him to be alone.......so he put a deep sleep on Adam and create a woman out of one of his ribs........and she was created to walk beside him so...........he would never have to walk alone...
That's what I believe........we are the ones who mess it all up........I am not trying to be religous just expressing my views.........luv U guys..Dixielicious | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:44:12 PM | It's not this hard to figure out. If you think you're meant to be alone, and give up, you will very certainly be alone (unless youre a really lucky SOB). If you don't think you'll be alone, you will at least try to do something about your situation, and you can have a shot at not being alone. If its meant to happen, it'll happen, you just gotta wait for it.
Of course, if you don't believe in fate, then the whole discussion is moot. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:35:25 PM | I don't believe that PEOPLE ARE MEANT TO BE ALONE, but in todays world of dating ,it has become almost impossible to find people that have any quality, honesty, principals, standards and the sheer ability to give of themselves. We have become a very me me society. Ofcourse I know there are exceptions...I'm one of them LOL.......but they are far and few to be found. I have done a lot of dating off this site and others. Keep in mind if you are not a bar fly and don't know a lot of people ,online dating is your only recourse. After all the dating I am at the point of giving up. I have been alone for many years and I enjoy my own company. I really crack myself up at times!! So now I am at the point where if I end up alone..Then that is fine too. I also feel that I have a healthy attitude regarding being alone. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 4:05:49 PM | you know why people think there ment to be alone, people believe that you have to pay taxes before living. You know in this merry county we have to pay a bugger load in taxes and can in some cases barely live and to have a family its basically impossible!
So when some say "Do you think some people are meant to be alone?" yes they are not because there ment to be because we are suckers pay to much crap to people that do nothing and sit there and get paid for it. hell give me there job any day!!!
I think we bother to much about the pennies i know women are looking for the alpha male crap but for god sake its about being happy not this stereo type of who the hell has the most what ever crap! i am happy to be single. any one who says i want to be alone is lying and the ones that are saying they are alone are not when you have seen all the angles really being alone is how you make it and the destiny of being alone stop looking and start living oh and be your self!! | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 4:27:36 PM | I must admit, I do know some people that are better off alone. They are way too selfish and set in their ways to share their lives with another person.
I enjoy my alone time, but I also enjoy the company of someone I love. I know I don't want to spend my life alone. It takes a certain type of unselfish person or persons to make a relationship work. Takes being able to give and to compromise. To put another person's needs before your own.
Guess it just depends on the individual, and how much they are willing to give of themself. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 4:30:39 PM | | Yes, I think so. I enjoy being alone A LOT. My big fear is to meet someone- get emotionally involved and then get dumped. Can't handle that again. I want a man's company, but I am truly afraid of a relationship. I cried too many years. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 4:43:03 PM | No, and it's all in perspective. We aren't meant to be anything. I don't believe there's a single person on this earth who would willingly go alone, knowing they had the option not to. So, it's all a matter of reorganizing how you want to see things. The person that asks if people are meant to be along probably believes some people truly are.
Not true.
Hey if you're lonely, and you want company, do something about it. For every arsehole you find, there's more people who aren't. People who aren't arseholes, I mean. There's more of them. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 6:50:55 PM | I think there are people on this and other web sites who have been on them for years.
They do not want to make a committment, they plan to be alone for the rest of their
lives. However, they also have periodic social and sexual needs, and look to use
others on the websites to meet these needs. They never intend to enter into a serious
or committed relationship. This is one of the reasons to try and really get to know
someone well before you make an emotional leap. Some people may be entirely unable
or unwilling to have a significant relationship with anyone else. They periodically find
someone trusting and naive who thinks of them as a partner in a real relationship, but
they are not. Eventually, the person seeking an honest and serious partner realizes
they need to move on because the other person has nothing to give. It's sad for both
parties. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:25:58 PM | | Everyone is alone and will continue to be alone unless or until they meet a special someone. Being alone does not bother me in the slightest, but I am sure I could think of some great together things to do with Drew Barrymore and Jennifer Lopez. | |
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| I think there are people on this and other web sites who have been on them for years.
Posted: 3/5/2008 4:24:02 AM | I personally believe what is stated above "MSG 196" is very wise and true, Good references for everyone who are serious on the dating field.
People are all driven by different ulterior motives in creating a life pattern that works for their own needs. I have no objection that everyone is entitled to serve their own needs in a honest and open way when it comes to associate with another Human being.
But the fact is... A great deal of people are unable to consider for anyone else apart from themselves. And they will do whatever it takes to have those needs met (just plain survival I suppose).
Very rarely will someone say to you : I just need someone on few occasional nights without paying for a escort service... would that be OK for you? 
We tend to see someone playing alone with the scripts... even believe they want all the things that you want... until their short term need is fulfilled. Suddenly their true face staring right you when you caught their tail... OMG!
Good news is: the amount of Mental, Emotional and Physical + Spiritual (if any... ) Dis-coordination & Chaos exists with those of people...It's impossible for them keep the fox tails in for long (Gravity..lol...)
Be sensible is vital in getting to know and meeting new people in our lives, ask your questions and look carefully for clues, use our instincts and trust what feels true and warm to our hearts. There is nothing worse than to be in false company... I'd much rather the luxury of self respect and be alone!
P.S To those who had been hurt before... forget about those tushy-holes... they are just really Sad creatures leading meaningless lives. We are blessed with the ability to Love... but those people don't know how to receive and give Love... How sad can it be? | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:08:18 AM | I do believe some people are meant to be alone or rather on their own, not necessarily for the rest of their lives. I also believe there are couples that shouldn't be together.
Sooner or later we all sleep alone. | |
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| Do you think some people are meant to be alone?
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:30:10 AM | | We were meant to enjoy our solitude, but we were not meant to isolate ourselves from the world. I believe there is someone out there for everyone, love is worth the risk, even if it takes a thousand, true love is really not as easy as it looks. and as we go through relationships, we can spot what we won't put up with pretty quick. So a lot of people perfer being alone then having to deal with the drama and issues. | |
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